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Chapter 85

Chapter 9, Section 8 Wounds that never fade?

Words spoken are like water poured out, once hurting someone, it will never be undone. ? ?

Hunter is 15 years old this year. He seems to be a very good boy, but he has a bad temper and gets angry at every turn, so he often conflicts with others.One day his parents gave him a bag of nails and said to him: "Whenever you lose your temper, nail a nail to the fence in the backyard." Although Hunter was a little puzzled, he still took the bag and followed his father's words. do it. ?
In the first month, Hunter nailed more than a dozen nails every day; in the second month, the number of nails he nailed decreased, and he only nailed less than ten nails a day... Slowly, Hunter nailed There were fewer and fewer nails—he found it easier to keep his temper under control than to drive those nails down.Finally one day, Hunter will no longer lose his patience and lose his temper.He told his father about it, and his father asked him that from now on, whenever he could control his temper, he would pull out a nail.Time passed day by day, and finally, Hunter told his father that he finally pulled out all the nails. ?
The father was very happy, took him by the hand, came to the backyard fence, and said to him gently: "You are doing well, my boy. But look at the holes in those fences-these fences will never be closed." Return to the way it was before. What you said when you were angry are like those nails, leaving permanent wounds in the other person's heart. These wounds are like small holes driven by nails, and they will never heal."?
Mind walk?

The little boy in the story has been troubled by his irritable temper.In fact, anger is also one of the most basic and primitive emotions of human beings. It is an emotional experience produced by the gradual accumulation of inner tension due to the failure of wishes to be realized and repeatedly blocked.Once a person is in an angry mood, he will always say some hurtful words. ?
Control your anger, don't let it hurt others and yourself. ?
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