Change until the world gives way to you

Chapter 21 A Good Image Knocks on the Door to Success (4)
Mrs. Edith Allard had been sensitive and shy about people and things since she was a child. Her body had always been too fat, and her face made her look much fatter than she really was.Edith had a very prim mother who thought it a foolish thing to make clothes beautiful.She always said to Edith: "The loose clothes are easy to wear, and the narrow clothes are easy to be torn." And the mother always helped Edith dress according to this sentence.So Edith never played outside with the other kids, not even in gym class.She was very shy and felt that she was "different" from everyone else and totally unattractive.

When she grew up, Edith married a man several years older than her, but she didn't change.Her husband and his family are very nice and full of self-confidence.Edith tried her best to be like them, but she couldn't.Everything they did to brighten Edith just made her withdraw even more into her shell.Edith became nervous and avoided all her friends, so badly that she was afraid to hear the doorbell ring.Edith knew she was a failure and was afraid her husband would find out, so whenever they were in public, she pretended to be happy, often going too far.Edith would be sad about this for days afterwards.Finally, unhappy to the point that she felt that there was no reason to live any longer, Edith began to contemplate suicide.

Later, what changed the life of this unhappy woman?Just a casual remark.A casual sentence changed Edith's whole life and made her a completely different person.

One day, her mother-in-law was talking about how she raised her children, and she said, "No matter what happens, I always ask them to be what they are."

"Stay true!" That's it!At that moment, Edith realized that the reason she was so distressed was because she had been trying to fit herself into a mold that didn't suit her.

Edith later recalled: "In one night I changed completely. I started to stay true to myself. I tried to study my own personality, my own strengths, try my best to learn about colors and clothing knowledge, and try to suit me. to dress in the same way. To take the initiative to make friends, and I joined a club—a small one at first—and they freaked me out by putting me in events. But every time I spoke, I added A little courage. All the joy I have today, I never thought possible. In raising my own children, I have always taught them what I have learned from painful experience: 'No matter what happens So, always stay true to yourself.'”

Do you want Zhu Yuanzhang to go to the firm?You will say: What are you kidding?In fact, this is also the case, his character determines his rebellion in troubled times, and determines his inevitability to enter politics!As Holland said, a person's character determines the direction of his career.And Zhu Yuanzhang's character of daring to be the first and determined to achieve great achievements created the Ming Dynasty and himself.

Therefore, you must believe that heroes will not be useless, as long as you find your own personality, keep your true colors, and make it your highlight, you can do it!
sit down and look at yourself

Of course, we may not be able to express ourselves in the right way at the right time and in the right place. It is very likely that we have entered the maze that we have not yet awakened to. At this time, you need to think about the most Where did my real self go.

A boy who loved playing the piano since he was a child was sitting on a stage that belonged to him and was performing. There were thousands of spectators in the audience. They all listened with bated breath and gave warm applause to the boy's performance.

The boy was once very proud, because he felt that his talent and performance had surpassed those of his predecessors.In the past, when he greeted the audience, he always had the image of a humble gentleman, but later, the moth of his talent eroded his body, and he began to be arrogant. Whenever the audience applauded him, the expression on his face was obviously dismissive. .

One day, he passed by his former residence, which was an old-style house. After he became famous, he thought it was very dirty, so he simply gave it to an old man who used to be a janitor.

The old man came to greet him, but he said a few perfunctory words, feeling that his image was extremely low, and talking to him, it seemed that he did not have a noble image, so he made an excuse and wanted to leave this wrong place.

The last sentence of the old man reminded him: child, I watched your performance, it was very exciting, but I think your face is hideous, are you sick?

Is my face hateful? This is simply a fantasy. Boys don't listen to the old man at all.

At another opportunity, he overheard the audience's conversation. The content of their conversation was roughly similar to that of the old man: Why did this kid look so ugly?
The boy suddenly realized that he collected the photos of his performance, and he saw his distorted face, a kind of aloofness, a kind of helplessness that wanted to get rid of the world but was still humble.

This boy named Jules Jeansan had a strange idea at night. He wanted to sit under the stage and watch his performance.

This is simply unbelievable. In Paris, France in 1878, this 18-year-old boy suddenly announced his withdrawal from the showbiz. The whole country was in an uproar, but he was still persistent and disappeared.

The boy began to study something called a video camera. He used the achievements of his predecessors and his own imagination, plus his mechanical talent since he was a child, to create the world's first video camera in 1908.

An astonishing news shocked the French art scene. A 30-year-old pianist Jules Jeansang came out of the world again. The actions and faces that should be there, so as to give the audience a more touching and real self.

In his later acting career, because he could not change the rigidity of his facial expression, he withdrew from the art world again. This time, his withdrawal was a complete decision, a kind of calmness that looked down on himself. reverie.

Sitting under the stage and looking at myself is also the idea of ​​the queen Faye Wong. She said: How much I want to sit under the stage and see how nervous my expression is, how much I want to give the audience a true self.

How many people have such a dream?Each of us is on a high stage. We can perform or show everyone ugly, but a few of us think about the audience in the audience.

Sometimes, what we inadvertently lose may be our precious expressions, and these expressions just confirm a true self.

Only when we can see ourselves off stage, can we focus on our own image to have a certain degree of objectivity. In fact, you on the stage are always easy to ignore your own reality amidst the flowers and applause, and slowly lose sight of yourself. The good side of ourselves is lost, so we need to examine ourselves frequently.

If you look in pain, you will find your lonely self; if you look at leisure, you will find your empty self; if you look at it while striving, you will find your ignorant self;Only through examination can we discover our own changes, and we can constantly change ourselves and develop towards a better side.

New clothes are always attractive, because the colorful unknown world can always touch our curious heart.Only by giving ourselves a new set of beautiful clothes and changing our image can we create conditions for ourselves and make ourselves better able to adapt to the world.

Keep these six points in mind and it will always remind you of the image you need to change:

(1) Calm

Don't show your emotions casually.

Don't tell everyone about your difficulties and encounters.

Before asking someone else's opinion, think for yourself, but don't speak first.

Don't nag your grievances at every opportunity.

Important decisions should be discussed with others as much as possible, and it is best to release them every other day.

Don't be flustered in speech, nor in walking.

(2) Careful

For things that happen around you, always think about their cause and effect.

For implementation problems that are not in place, it is necessary to discover their fundamental crux.

There should be suggestions for improvement or optimization of the usual way of doing things.

Whatever you do, you must develop the habit of being orderly and orderly.

Often look for a few defects or disadvantages that others cannot see.

I have to make up for the deficiencies anytime, anywhere.

(3) Courage

Don't often use words and phrases that lack self-confidence, and don't often go back on your word, easily overturning what has been decided.

Don't lose your mind when everyone is arguing.

When the overall atmosphere is low, you should be optimistic and sunny.

Do everything with your heart because someone is watching you.

When things don't go well, take a breath, look for a breakthrough again, and even end cleanly.

(4) generosity

Don't deliberately turn potential partners into opponents.

Don't worry about other people's small mistakes and mistakes.

Be generous in money, learn the three ways of giving (financial giving, law giving, fearless giving) and avoid the arrogance of power and the prejudice of knowledge.Any results and achievements should be shared with others.

When someone has to sacrifice or dedicate, walk ahead.

(5) Integrity

Don't talk about things you can't do, and try to do it if you say it.

Don't hang up false slogans or catchphrases.

In response to the "dishonesty" problem raised by customers, come up with ways to improve it.Stop all "immoral" means.

Playing tricks is a bad thing!
Calculate the integrity cost of the product or service, that is the brand cost.

(6) Responsible

When reviewing any negligence, start to reflect on yourself or your own people.

After the matter is over, review the fault first, and then list the credit.

Acknowledging mistakes starts from the higher level, and showing merit starts from the lower level.

To start a plan, first define the rights and responsibilities clearly and assign them properly.

Be clear about people or organizations that are "scared".

The company should bear the losses caused by the courage to take responsibility.

If you do these six things, don't be afraid that you will show your hideous face due to the corrosion of time, because this is enough to maintain your most authentic appearance.

Obama's world may be a lifetime change, but in fact, the human world is also a lifetime change. We change our appearance, change our mentality, and change our thoughts. Only with the courage like Obama can we have enough strength to break the reality. Some images, to complete a new leap.

(End of this chapter)