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Chapter 81 4 Don't use money as a means of reward and punishment for children

No.17 Chapter 4 Don’t use money as a means of reward and punishment for children

Now, many parents will use money as a means of rewarding and punishing their children. For example, if you get 100 points in the test, you will be rewarded with 50 yuan; if you get 95 points in the test, you will be rewarded with 30 yuan; A wish of the child will be fulfilled according to the number of points in the test, and pocket money will be deducted if the standard is not met.If the child meets the standard, the parents will be very happy to pay for it, and even take the child to eat out extra; Punishment strategies are no longer sensitive, and academic performance will not improve.

We cannot say that this method of reward and punishment by parents has no effect, and money has a certain motivating effect on children.However, for children who study well, even if the parents do not give money, it will not have much impact on the children.For a child who is not very good at learning, although he wants to get more rewards, learning is not something that can be changed overnight. Even if the child works very hard, he may not be able to meet the requirements of his parents, and he will inevitably be discouraged , or in order to get rewards, some children may also use methods such as modifying scores to deceive their parents.

Therefore, using money as a means of reward and punishment for children should be differentiated. It should not only be based on learning or grades, but also consider the age characteristics of children and their growth patterns.For younger children, money may be an effective motivator, but as they grow up, parents should no longer use money as the main reward and punishment method, but should focus on cultivating their ideals, aspirations, attention their character education.

In addition, whether children learn well or not depends on learning methods. In the long run, parents should focus on cultivating children's correct learning methods, rather than pure monetary encouragement.Even when using money as a secondary motivator, pay attention to how your child spends it.

In fact, in the process of children's education, there is no fixed standard for the method of reward and punishment. Every child has a unique personality. Parents should study the child's performance and psychological state, and create an educational method suitable for the child. good effect.

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