sleepless tonight

Chapter 388 Let Me Think About It

"You want to take Xiaole back, where are you going? Isn't this your home, where do you want to go?" I looked at Tong Wangjun, and I didn't expect that this would be the result of telling her the truth, and she would take the child away again.

"Go back to my hometown, go back to my house." Tong Wangjun said, "You are really not suitable for raising children, and I don't feel relieved to leave them to you."

"Xiao Le has signed up here and has already gone to school. Now you take her back to your house. What are you going to do there? Do you want to transfer her to another school? A Ke's transfer character has become like this, and she has become so rebellious. You It’s not that I didn’t see it, but now that Xiao Le is going to transfer to another school, the environment will change. A person’s personality, can you not be so foolish?” After hearing Tong Wangjun’s words, I felt very uncomfortable.

"Before Xiao Le got poisoned from eating, and when I went to the hospital, I was afraid that you would worry, so I didn't tell you. You blamed me for hiding it from you. Now that something happened to Xiao Le, I honestly told you what happened. , You are like this again, what do you want from me, no matter what I do, it seems to be wrong."

"It's not that everything you do is wrong, you just don't pay attention." Tong Wangjun said, "It's not entirely because of this that I went back. My father is sick, and I want to go back and take care of him."

"How happy, what's wrong with your dad?" It turned out that there was another reason, and I felt a little more comfortable, and I also understood Tong Wangjun a little bit.

"I drank too much, my stomach was perforated, I was admitted to the hospital, and I also had some other problems, alcoholic liver, duodenal ulcers, etc. Anyway, the whole body is full of problems, and there is no one place that is good. "Tong Wangjun said with anger, helplessness, and worry, "I told him not to drink alcohol, but he has to drink every meal, and he drinks a lot."

"Then you really should go back and take a look." I nodded, "It's the weekend in two days, I have time, and I'll drive you back when the time comes."

"No need, how can you help me when you go back? On the contrary, it may be more troublesome for the family to entertain you. I just go back by myself." Tong Wangjun shook his head.

When I was young, I thought that when I grow up, I can decide things by myself, I will be much freer, and there will be fewer troubles, but when I grow up, I realize that when I was young, I was the most carefree.

If you have your parents to take care of things for you, the pressure on you is very small. Even if you feel a little bit unfree, you can still be carefree on the whole. There is no rice at home, and your parents will find a way. If it is not enough, parents will be more anxious than you.

When I grew up, I acted as a parent, and all the pressure came to me.

There are old ones to take care of above, and young ones to take care of below.

Marriage, house, childbirth, child sickness, old man's sickness, old man's death, child's schooling, etc., all things have to be resolved, many things are unpleasant, you don't want to face them, but you have to face them.

I took some money to Tong Wangjun: "You can take the money back. If it is not enough, call me and I will transfer some back to you. The old man is old, his health is poor, and he often drinks alcohol. It is normal to get sick, okay. conditioning."

"I will return the money to you." Tong Wangjun told me.

"Don't talk to me like that, I've told you many times, my money is your money." I was a little angry, Tong Wangjun always said that, "Xiao Le won't go back with you, Sign up here, go to school, and then go back with you, re-enroll, go to school again, not to mention another expense, the key is now that your father is sick and you have to take care of the old and the young , where is the time?"

Tong Wangjun was silent for a while, then looked up at me: "Chen Jin, do you really not remember anything about the past?"

"What are you talking about?" I don't know what Tong Wangjun is talking about.

"When we got married, it was agreed at that time. If we have two children, one of them can take my surname and the household registration will be in my family." Tong Wangjun said, "My parents also know about this."

I don't have the slightest impression, but Tong Wangjun should not lie about this matter. What she said is probably the truth, but I feel a little nervous in my heart.

There are some traditionalisms in my thinking, or a bit of machismo. I think that after giving birth, I should take the man's surname, and the household registration falls with the man.

It is said that men and women are equal, but in fact this is not the case at all. Men and women have different physiological structures, different views on certain things, and even more different roles in society. There is no way to talk about equality. It's just a slogan.

The development of society is progressing and moving forward according to the trend of history. To take a sentence often said in history books, it is the inevitability of history. The development of ancient society from a matrilineal society to the present and becoming a patriarchal society has already explained the problem.

Men definitely occupy a dominant position in society and play a greater role than women. Otherwise, a matriarchal society would not become a patriarchal society.

Survival of the fittest, thousands of years, tens of thousands of years, tens of thousands of years, history has already experienced countless times of washing, in today's society, the status of women has improved, of course there is a reason for the rise in the value of women, but more of it is politics need.

Chinese women are really very happy. They don’t need to change their surnames with men after getting married like in European and American countries, and they don’t have to guard against the risk of being violated from time to time like Brother Asan, and they need to prepare a generous dowry when they marry. , If you can't prepare, you will be looked down upon when you come to your husband's house to work as a cow and a horse, and it is normal to be beaten twice in three days.

When Chinese women get married, they naturally put all the pressure on the man, the house, the bride price, the car, and as for the dowry, it depends entirely on the woman’s mood. You can’t say anything about the dowry. If you give it to you, you have to be grateful and say that she is reasonable.

After getting married, women still hold the power of property in their hands. They don't want to be housewives. They want to be women in the new era, but they don't want to work. Because women still have to work, it means that men are not capable.

As a result, the man earns money from work, but he has to do housework when he gets home, and he has to serve women like a servant.

For many people, getting married is not so much marrying a daughter-in-law as marrying a princess.

If a man complains a little bit, he will be labeled as a scumbag, not a gentleman, and a dick.

Chinese men are really tired.

"The child's household registration will be transferred to Wuchang in the future. Isn't it better to go to school in Wuchang? The city of your hometown is also a small city. What's the advantage of transferring the household registration there? The educational resources are not developed enough, and you can't live in Wuchang. Stay there forever." I said this just to find a reason to reject Tong Wangjun.

Tong Wangjun does not have the problems that most women have, but she said that she wants to transfer Chen Le's household registration to her hometown, change Chen Le's surname, and follow her surname, I am still very disgusted.

But it's not easy for me to reject her directly. Tong Wangjun has suffered a lot, and she has only one daughter in her family. I can understand her thinking. What makes me more sad now is my psychological barrier.

"Xiao Le will not go to elementary school for three years. It is not impossible to transfer her household registration from my family to Wuchang when she is in elementary school." Tong Wangjun said, "My parents are getting old, and they only have me as a daughter. Now I Dad is sick, and my mother’s health is not very good. She called me last time and said that she can’t even walk now. Her bronchitis has never recovered. Let Xiao Le and my surname be considered a circle for them sorry."

"One of the two children takes my surname, and the household registration is transferred to my hometown. I don't think it's too much. When I was pregnant earlier, I thought that when the child was born, I would put his household registration in my place and let him follow me. surname, but now that the child is gone, I don't know when I will have another child, so I want to take this opportunity to tell Xiao Le to bring her back."

I understand what Tong Wangjun meant. She wanted to leave one for the family and give his parents a thought. This idea is beyond reproach, so I remained silent: "Let me think about it."

I took a pack of cigarettes and a lighter, went downstairs, and smoked alone in the pavilion of the community.

(End of this chapter)