Modern social etiquette and eloquence

Chapter 1 Preface
Confucius said: "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand up." Chinese people have always believed that "ritual" is an important virtue to conduct oneself in the world.From a naturalistic point of view, etiquette is an important symbol that distinguishes humans from animals.

With the development of the market economy, people seem to have forgotten all the traditional virtues that Chinese people were proud of and passed down from generation to generation while pursuing commercial profits and material enjoyment.One of the most common words people say is: "Courtesy (personality)? How much is it worth?" Look, it has reached the point of dismissiveness.

Ji Xianlin, a well-known contemporary Chinese scholar and professor of Peking University, wrote in his article "On Manners": "Right now, if not [-] percent of the people, the vast majority of people complain that the society is not polite. This is completely It is based on facts. Many years ago, when I was still considered flexible in my legs and feet, I often took the bus when I went out. Almost every time I saw people arguing on the bus, or even violent people. The causes were trivial, You touched me, I stepped on your foot, and so on. Just imagine, who can not touch someone on a crowded bus? Is such a thing worth fighting?" "A few years ago, I I saw a TV film, which was shot by a famous Italian photographer, and the theme was to introduce the situation in Beijing. Of course, the places of interest and historical sites in Beijing are all inclusive, but suddenly my eyes lit up—a big fat man with big shirtless arms Riding a bicycle with both hands in the shape of Taijiquan, speeding on the wide road in front of Tiananmen Square, the image is brutal and rude. Such an image is rare, but it has not escaped the eyes of a foreigner. I believe , this TV film will be shown all over the world. Isn't it clear what influence it will have on the hearts of foreigners..."

The impolite behavior mentioned in Mr. Ji’s article may seem trivial to other people, but these trivial things may cause us headaches and puzzles—why someone treats me differently? Cold", why a certain company is unwilling to cooperate with me, and why the manager is always dissatisfied with me.

Now that China has joined the WTO, Chinese people have more and more opportunities to communicate with foreign guests and businessmen and go abroad.Etiquette has also become one of the most important conditions for success in dealing with people.Xunzi said: "If people are rude, they will not live, if they are rude, they will not succeed, if they are rude, they will not be peaceful." This is a profound interpretation of etiquette.

Knowing etiquette can strengthen self-cultivation;

With etiquette, you can shape your image;
Speaking of etiquette, everything can go smoothly.

In order to facilitate people, especially young people who are in the workplace and shopping malls today, and more young people who go abroad to learn Chinese traditional, modern and world-wide etiquette knowledge, we specially compiled the book "Modern Social Etiquette and Eloquence", and hope readers After in-depth reading, you can "treat people with courtesy, act with courtesy, and travel around the world with courtesy."

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