Calm: Be a calm woman

Chapter 32 Postscript: Temporary helplessness does not affect the excitement of life
There are many things in life that we cannot escape, for example, water must be framed by containers, willows must withstand the baptism of wind and rain, etc.As the master of all things, while enjoying more gifts of life, he must also accept more hardships.

As a child, I was naughty and played games with my friends in the attic of a long-abandoned old log cabin in northern Missouri.I jumped off the window rail.At that time, because I wore a ring on the index finger of my left hand, my finger was caught by an iron nail, and my finger was broken immediately.I was terrified, I thought I was going to die.Soon, however, my fingers were healed and I forgot about it.

A few years ago, in an office building in downtown New York, I saw a worker with no hands.When I asked him if he was bothered by missing a hand, he replied, "No, I don't even realize it except when I'm threading a needle."

In fact, people's ability to bear is very strong.Sometimes we feel like we're on the verge of breaking down, but the truth is, we can go on for a long time, and even accept worse than we are now.In Amsterdam, the capital of the Netherlands, there is an old church built in the 15th century. On the ruins, there is a line of words carved: "It is so, nothing else." Today, I often think of this sentence.In the long river of history, many unsatisfactory things have happened.However, they can only be one way and nothing else.Even so, we still have the opportunity to choose: to sink into endless worries and regrets that completely destroy our lives; to accept and gradually adapt to these misfortunes as inevitable facts.For the status quo that cannot be changed, the philosopher William James once advised people: "Happily accept the fact that it is like this. Only by accepting whatever happened, can it be possible to overcome the next misfortune."

On the wall of Buckingham's palace, George V once left this sentence: "I will not cry for the disappearance of the moon, nor will I regret what I have done." In this regard, the philosopher Schopenhauer also had the same opinion. Solution: "The most important thing in the journey of life is to have the ability to accept."

We always don't want to accept it calmly, and worry about the gains and losses of life, but this kind of life is too tiring.What makes people feel uneasy is not the real substances, but the heart in the chest.If the heart is calm and safe, you will not be obsessed with success or failure: when you are surrounded by thousands of people, enjoy it; when people go to the empty building, you will also enjoy that moment of tranquility.isn't it?Instead of mourning the helplessness of the past, we might as well enjoy the splendor of the present.When you are calm enough, you will know the beauty of life.Your life will also be as gorgeous as summer flowers in summer, and as beautiful as autumn leaves in autumn.

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