A good mother is better than a good teacher

Chapter 1 Preface
People often say "seeing the mother, knowing the son", which is not without reason.A foreign educational institution has also shown through research that more than 90% of a child's quality is determined by the mother!In other words, the quality of the mother and the way of education will directly determine the future of the child, and even the whole life!
As the mother of a child, you are bound to have a special bond with your child.The first person a child meets in the world is his mother; the first word he can say is "Mom"; when he is sick, he is most attached to his mother; when he sleeps at night, he looks for his mother; when he comes home from school, the first question he asks The question is: "Where is my mother?" The child has been a person since elementary school, and the first role model is still the mother.Compared with fathers, boys are more attached to and closer to their mothers, and children have more factors of inheriting their mothers.Therefore, mother is the child's first teacher, and a good mother is better than a good teacher.

One day, in the Japanese class of a certain university in the United States, an old lady in her 50s suddenly appeared.At first, everyone was not surprised, because everyone has the right to do something that makes him happy.But after a short time, the young people discovered that the old lady did not come here to fill the emptiness after retirement.Every morning, she always comes to the classroom first, reviews her homework, and reads carefully with the teacher.She also sweats when the teacher asks questions.Her notes are neat and tidy, and young people have borrowed her notes for reference.Before each exam, the old lady nervously reviewed and filled in the gaps.One day, an old professor said to the young people: "Parents must be self-disciplined to educate their children well. You can ask this respectable lady, she must have a group of well-educated children." Sure enough, the old lady's name was Zhu Mulan, and her daughter was Chao Xiaolan, the first Chinese-American female minister.

If at this moment, we ask all mothers in the world this question: What kind of life do you want your children to have?Without exception, all mothers will answer "Happy, rich, happy, knowledgeable, cultivated, successful in career..." Even some mothers will be more specific: "I want my child to be a star", "I want my child My child is in politics", "I want my child to become a great scientist"... But in order to turn these beautiful wishes into reality, as the mother of the child, what should we do for the child?

As mothers of our children, we must set a good example for our children.Only a mother who is excellent in all aspects can raise an excellent child.The family is the most basic unit of life and education for children, and the mother is the teacher in this educational unit. Every word, deed, and action may become a source of imitation for the child.Numerous examples prove that children's initial behavior habits are learned from their mothers.Therefore, in the face of disobedient children, mothers must pay special attention to the great influence of role models on children, and set good examples for children at all times.

As the earliest enlightener and educator of children, mothers also have the most profound influence on children's education.If a mother wants to successfully educate her children, she must set an example and be a role model for her children.In family education, mothers often tell their children that they should do this and not do that to regulate their children's words and deeds, but such empty preaching often has little effect.Children will see every word, deed, and action of their mother, and they will imitate their mother as an example. This is out of their natural admiration for their mother.Therefore, in daily life, mothers should be cautious in their words and deeds, and teach by example. Any bad words and deeds must first prevent it from happening to themselves.A mother is a child's lifelong teacher.Wise parents will lead by example and set an example to guide disobedient children and set a good example for their children.

In addition, mothers should give their children the right love, not doting.Doting is the biggest misunderstanding that mothers make in educating their children.As a parent, you must think about it, is your beloved child willing to accept it?How to love children, children will be happy?What children need is the true love of their parents, not utilitarian love, nor unprincipled doting, let alone obedient doting.Love with utilitarianism will only make children feel more pressure; unprincipled doting will only lead children astray; doting with obedience and obedience will not necessarily make children appreciate it!If you love children, make sure your children are happy.Parents learn to love, children are happy!

Ms. Bing Xin once said: "Sometimes, maternal love is not healthy, but harms the children. For example, the appearance of 'Little Emperor' is because of unhealthy maternal love. 'Little Emperor' is an only child, and he enjoys everything by himself. Therefore, It is good to cultivate children's good qualities of being selfless from an early age, and to enjoy things with other children." Of course, Ms. Bing Xin hopes that children will get the true love of their parents.Because only by planting the seeds of true love in the hearts of children is the real hope of mankind.The seeds of true love are the education of true love.Therefore, when you are about to sow seeds in your children's hearts, please be sure to ask yourself: Is this seed real?In the process of loving children, mothers must be able to consciously control their emotions and restrain those useless passions and impulses.The so-called "deep love and deep responsibility" means that the strict requirements are out of deep love.Therefore, parents should not be dominated by blind love. There must be "love" in "strictness" and "strictness" in "love".In short, parents must love their children with strict requirements, and they must not spoil and appease their children, accommodate them excessively, or pamper them.

In fact, there are many ways for mothers to educate their children, and the more exciting content is in this book. Reading this book can make you suddenly enlightened and light a bright light on your way of teaching your children.

As mothers, we share the same name—Mom.But at the same time, we also have the same responsibility - to be a good mother and give our children a bright future!

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