Film and Television Variety Show: The Jade Girl's Love Affair

"Your plane ticket is for tonight. Are you eager to go home and see your children?"

Zhang Ruoyun chuckled softly.

"I guess so, but it wasn't like this before."

Before my wife and I had children, after filming wrapped up, we would go to each other's cities instead of necessarily returning to Beijing. We would go wherever the other was.

But after having a child, we'll both be more inclined to go back to Beijing together to reunite.

Having steered the conversation to this point, Lu Yu then posed a new question.

"So getting married and having children is a completely different life for you two. After becoming parents, what do you feel is the biggest difference between your life and your previous life?"

When Zhang Ruoyun reflected on his life over the past few years, he thought of his parents.

"There will be an unprecedented sense of anticipation. Maybe at twenty I would still be confused about what kind of life I would lead in the future, but at thirty I can roughly see what kind of life I want to live."

But I have no way of knowing what gender my child will be when they are born, what they will look like when they grow up, or what kind of life I want to live in the future.

Their lives are all unknown, so I'm very curious about the children's lives.

Of course, to put it another way, it means a stronger sense of responsibility, because I want to be a good father and set a good example for them.

When the conversation reached this point, Lu Yu brought up Zhang Ruoyun's latest TV series, "Minglong Shaonian".

"From the synopsis, it seems this TV series will also explore parent-child relationships?"

"Yes, I can't reveal too much right now, but it talks about the impact of different types of parents on their children."

However, before I became a father, my imagination about the relationship between parents and children was rather shallow.

"So, after becoming a father, I was able to better immerse myself in the role during filming."

If it weren't for the interview, Zhang Ruoyun would have liked to tell his wife directly that he discovered his father was even more of a jerk after becoming a father.

"So what is the current state of your relationship with your father?"

This topic made Zhang Ruoyun smile.

"Respect each other, but don't interfere in each other's lives."

This answer was quite subtle. Lu Yu naturally didn't delve deeper into the topic, but instead shifted the focus to Tang Yu.

"I see that you two had your child in your third year of marriage. Was that planned?"

"Actually, at first, Yu Yu planned to have children after she turned thirty. We didn't plan to have children when we got married."

At that time, I just wanted to get married in the tenth year of our acquaintance and become a legitimate couple.

But then the pandemic hit, didn't it? Yu Yu felt that her work had decreased a lot, and she felt like she had nothing to do while staying at home every day, so she said, "Why don't we have a baby this year?"

I was quite shocked at the time, because I was worried it would affect her career, but we eventually reached an agreement.

When the two got to this point in their conversation, Lu Yu asked a question out of curiosity.

"From the beginning of your relationship, it seems like you two never thought about hiding it? But actually, in the entertainment industry, it seems like many people keep their relationships underground."

Perhaps it was for your career, or perhaps you didn't want too much attention. What were your thoughts at the time?

This question made Zhang Ruoyun suddenly smile.

"To be honest, when Yu Yu and I first started dating, my wife was a child star with some fame, but she wasn't really a big star in the entertainment industry."

So when we were dating, nobody filmed us, and we didn't need to hide it at all. Nobody cared about us, and even if we posted about it online, it wouldn't make a ripple.

This answer made Lu Yu laugh as well.

"So you just let things take their course after that?"

"Yes, people in the industry know that we are a couple. Paparazzi occasionally take pictures of us, but nobody online cares."

Once Yu Yu and I become famous, if we suddenly pretend that we are just friends, and we have to hide when we go out, and we can't even go shopping together, Yu Yu and I will feel a little disgusted.

There's nothing shameful about being in a relationship, so we neither denied it nor made it public.

During that award ceremony, she just wanted to give me a hug because Yu Yu wanted to share all her happy moments with me, and she wouldn't let it go just because it was inconvenient in front of the camera.

"We've always lived like this. If they take pictures, they take pictures; it's not like we're doing anything illegal."

The couple has always had this casual attitude towards life. After Zhang Ruoyun finished speaking, Lu Yu asked another question.

"Weren't you worried at all that it would affect your career? Because in this industry, male celebrities' fans are always a bit special."

Zhang Ruoyun thought about his wife's male fans and other related matters.

Actually, the people who were hurt the most by the announcement of his relationship were not his own fans, but his wife's fans.

"You can't have your cake and eat it too. I can't have both. I can't sell a single persona to make fans like me, and then secretly date in private. I think that's meaningless."

I am an actor, and I hope to act in the works I like. I want to become famous because only famous actors have the right to choose their works.

To become a popular actor, the most important thing is to improve my acting skills; the single persona won't help me deliver good performances.

At this point in the conversation, Lu Yu asked a question.

Of the roles you've played so far, who do you think is most similar to your personality?

"Actually, I really like Fan Xian. Maybe it's because he hasn't finished filming yet, so I can't forget him."

Upon hearing this, Lu Yu laughed.

"Which of your roles does your wife prefer?"

"She wrote a song for Fan Xian not because I invited her, but because she was touched by the soul of this character, which is why that song came about."

After listening, Lu Yu suddenly became even more curious about a certain question.

"You two have always been seen as a loving couple in the public eye."

But for you two personally, have you ever encountered a relationship crisis? Having come this far, what do you think is the secret to maintaining your relationship?

Zhang Ruoyun thought of something funny.

"I once asked my wife, 'We've made it this far because we love each other deeply.' My wife said, 'It's because we both have mouths.'"

Some people in romantic relationships might like to guess what the other is thinking. When they feel wronged in the relationship, they might try to get the other person to be there for them or apologize through verbal hints, without ever making things clear.

But actually, my wife once said, "There's no such thing as true empathy in this world. When one person is suffering from a fever, another person can never truly bear the physical pain of their loved one."

"So we've known each other for over ten years, and we always speak our minds."

I need you, I miss you, or I'm not satisfied with what you did, and I hope you value me more... These are all things that can be communicated and expressed.

Instead of suffering many grievances and then saying, "I'm very disappointed in you."

Lu Yu nodded in agreement after listening.

"It seems that your biggest secret to getting to where you are today is your excellent communication skills, which is why you've never had a relationship crisis?"

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This question made Zhang Ruoyun think.

"Theoretically, no, but if you ask me if I've ever been afraid of losing this relationship at any point? I definitely have."

Both Yu Yu's and my parents are divorced and remarried, but our situations are very different. Yu Yu's stepfather is a particularly humorous and understanding person.

He made that family much better, and they lived happily together. He was a very wise man.

"So Yuyu is a person with a happy life and a perfect family, while I was insecure at that time, afraid that Yuyu's parents would look down on my family, because some parents would be very concerned about the man's family."

But my wife can sense all my insecurities. Sometimes she understands even before I say it directly.

So that year she took me directly to her home to visit my parents, sister, and brother. I never expected them to be so warm and friendly towards me, which made all my unease disappear.

“I’m not the kind of person who’s bursting with confidence, so external emotional feedback is very important to me. Later, I started to have long-term contact with Yu Yu’s family, and they all cared for me like family.”

I always thought they were just a hospitable family, which is why they were so caring and enthusiastic towards me back then, but I later found out that wasn't the case.

No matter how hospitable they are, the parents-in-law will always be picky about their son-in-law and may even conduct some evaluation. But Yu Yu did something that prevented me from going through this stage at all.

After Zhang Ruoyun finished speaking at length, Lu Yu asked him some questions with great interest.

"Ms. Tang Yu, what did you do at that time? Your smile just now was so sweet. Even I, sitting across from you, could feel that you were in a happy mood."

Zhang Ruoyun took a sip of water and then continued speaking.

"Before I visited my parents, Yu Yu held a family meeting and gathered everyone together to discuss my problem."

She emphasized to her family that they could dislike her or have opinions about her, but they should be warm and caring when they first met her, because criticism and scrutiny would make her sad. She hoped that the people she loved could respect each other.

If there are any complaints, we can discuss them privately, but it's essential that I'm happy that day. She said I'm a very soft-hearted person, and my family should trust her judgment and show at least basic respect, because that's also a way of respecting her.

Lu Yu looked shocked.

“I was actually a little surprised, because Ms. Tang Yu’s image sometimes makes me feel that you are the one who is better at handling family relationships.”

Zhang Ruoyun knew that this was the impression people had of him, because his wife sometimes wrote songs that were really sharp-tongued and she always stood up to him head-on.

"No, that's not it. She is indeed quite serious about her work."

But she is the best family member and the best lover in the world, because she said that work must be done with the utmost care, so arguments are the norm, because there will always be times when opinions differ.

But why should family members agree? Respect each other's lifestyles, be tolerant and understanding of each other. Even if family members don't do everything perfectly, what does it matter?

She is the best family member in the world. Being her relative or friend is a blessing, and of course, being her lover is the happiest thing in my life.

Lu Yu exclaimed in amazement and clapped her hands in delight.

"I think I must interview Ms. Tang Yu at least once in my life. She must be a very interesting person."

Zhang Ruoyun nodded and smiled.

"Maybe after she watches this episode of my show, you two will meet again next time."

At this point, Lu Yu continued with the topic she had just been discussing.

"Regarding the family matter, you said you only learned about this family meeting later. When was that?"

"My brother-in-law told me this a year before we got married, the year he proposed."

He said his sister had threatened him, saying that if he dared to do anything disrespectful, she would punish him severely.

Lu Yu burst out laughing.