Film and Television Variety Show: The Jade Girl's Love Affair

Instead of trying to be a perfect husband or father all the time, because that's unrealistic; human nature is to have personal freedom.

We play many roles in life, but we must always preserve our own inner world.

At this point in the couple's conversation, Lu Yu asked a question out of interest.

"So, do you ever get tired of your roles at some point? Is it that being a mother isn't always joyful, and being a father can be frustrating at times?"

This made the couple laugh. Zhang Ruoyun shook their clasped hands and then asked, "Why don't you answer first?"

Tang Yu nodded, then smiled and asked Lu Yu a question.

"In your career as a host, I'm sure there are definitely some guests you don't like, but you still insist on interviewing them for the sake of your job, right?"

Lu Yu nodded with a smile at these words, and Tang Yu continued speaking.

"Yun and I are normal people. We have things we like and things we dislike, and we also have moments when we feel tired."

So during the later stages of pregnancy, you're bound to feel uncomfortable. At that time, I only had one thought: give birth as soon as possible, because being pregnant is so troublesome. I believe most pregnant mothers have experienced this feeling.

Is it because you hate children? Of course not. It's because pregnancy is inherently a difficult thing, and it has nothing to do with whether you love children or not.

Therefore, in the process of raising children, although they are innocent and cute, they do not know what danger is or what is wrong. You must guide them in this process.

So being a mother is obviously not always a happy experience. Sometimes you'll criticize her, sometimes you'll find taking care of the children boring, and sometimes you'll find them incredibly adorable.

It's like a job. I may love music, but if you expect me to play the violin 24 hours a day, I might as well be killed.

Upon hearing this, Lu Yu on the other end of the line laughed out loud, while Zhang Ruoyun nodded in agreement.

"It's the same with raising a child. When you first bring a baby home, you get anxious and care a lot about him when you hear him cry."

As he grew older, he started crying loudly for a toy, and would lie on the ground and cry if he wasn't given one.

At that time, I ignored them completely and turned to do my own thing. I couldn't spoil the child!

Zhang Ruoyun's words made Tang Yu, who was standing next to him, laugh out loud, and Lu Yu asked with interest.

"Are you two the type of parents who are strict fathers and kind mothers?"

Tang Yu and Zhang Ruoyun shook their heads together.

“Yun and I are actually very busy with work and don’t have time to spend with our child at home every day. So, for us, how we treat our child depends on how long we can stay at home these days.”

After Tang Yu finished speaking, Zhang Ruoyun smiled and spoke up.

"If we only have three days or less, my husband and I will happily play games and go out to play with our child."

I rarely reprimand children unless they do something very dangerous and they need to be taught a lesson.

"If it's more than three days, we'll be stricter with them in their daily behavior, and they'll feel like they have a strict father and mother."

That's a rather novel way of putting it.

"So your educational philosophies are completely aligned? That's why there are no conflicts."

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"It seems that we are completely in agreement, because neither of us has many requirements."

As long as they are healthy and safe, that's fine. If I were to add one more requirement, it would be that they be as lively and cheerful as possible.

After Tang Yu finished speaking, Zhang Ruoyun added to the comments.

"My husband and I think that cheerful and outgoing people are happier in life."

Of course, if someone is naturally introverted, there's nothing that can be done, so this is just an expectation, not a requirement.

"So you haven't planned for your child's future, such as whether or not to learn a musical instrument, or whether or not to study abroad?"

Zhang Ruoyun burst out laughing after hearing this.

"When it comes to learning musical instruments, if a child likes it, they can learn it; if they don't, that's fine too. A child who becomes a singer may not necessarily become a singer, and a child who becomes an actor may not necessarily become an actor."

I don't know what they'll like in the future, so let's just let things take their course.

This piqued Lu Yu's curiosity, and she asked Tang Yu about it.

"You have so many musical instruments at home, hasn't your child shown any interest in them?"

Tang Yu burst out laughing.

“I can’t tell yet. Maybe I’ll be able to observe them when they’re a year or two older, but usually they just like to play with their toys.”

As they continued their conversation, they arrived at a restaurant.

After the group sat down in the private room and ordered their food, Lu Yu asked another question.

"For women, having children can very likely affect their careers. Did you consider this back then?"

"Of course I've considered it; in fact, even marriage can be affected."

Being a celebrity means every aspect of your life is magnified; even a joke you make on a show can be scrutinized.

Therefore, every decision I make is carefully considered; it's not an unplanned marriage or pregnancy, but a decision made after weighing the pros and cons.

This answer greatly interested Lu Yu.

"In your view, getting married and having children is more important than what you've lost, right?"

Tang Yu thought for a moment and then shook her head.

"In fact, every choice we make in life is not necessarily the best decision at that moment, but no one can predict the future, so the decisions I make for myself are ones I will never regret."

Every decision has its gains and losses, and I will bear all the consequences of this decision, even if it means failure.

"So what I gain and what I lose is a question that has accompanied me throughout my life, but if you are always thinking about this, you will not be happy."

For me, the most important thing is to live in the present and cherish the people around me.

I can't worry about what will happen ten years from now, I can't even worry about what will happen tomorrow. What I need is to enjoy every moment of the present.

After saying this, Zhang Ruoyun poured everyone a cup of tea and laughed.

"Yu Yu is a person who can take things in stride. She rarely suffers from internal conflicts and always thinks about how to solve problems when she encounters difficulties."

Therefore, her sleep quality is quite good because not many things can make her anxious.

In her more than 30 years of life, the worst sleep quality she had was during the last month of her pregnancy, because she was really tired.

That was also the time when I felt most powerless, because I couldn't take her pain away from me.

At this point in the conversation, Lu Yu asked a question out of interest.

"The information I've gathered is that when your child was born, they stayed in an incubator. Were you parents very anxious back then?"

Tang Yu and Zhang Ruoyun both shook their heads with a smile.

"The baby's test results were very good at the time. It was just that because the baby was premature, he had to be observed in an incubator. We were both very relieved."

After Tang Yu finished speaking, Zhang Ruoyun smiled and spoke up.

"On the contrary, after being discharged from the hospital, we, as new parents, were a bit overwhelmed, but fortunately we had a nanny at home, and she quickly got the hang of things."

Actually, newborns are very well-behaved during their first month and rarely cry. It's only as they grow older that their tempers seem to worsen.

Tang Yu was amused by Zhang Ruoyun's words.

They seemed so happy taking care of her back then, and now their complaints are quite genuine.

"Will hormones affect you during your postpartum period? Many mothers seem to experience significant mood swings right after giving birth."

This question made Tang Yu chuckle.

"If I were to take care of the children myself, feeding them at night and washing their clothes during the day, I think I would also break down."

Actually, when I was in postpartum confinement, the baby was taken care of by a postpartum nanny. I spent my days lying in bed reading novels, playing games, and watching videos. When I got tired, I would rest and sleep.

My daily worries are about not being able to finish the postpartum meals and that they're too bland; I crave something with stronger flavors.

After he finished speaking, Zhang Ruoyun started to complain from the side.

"Back then, my mother-in-law stewed a lot of soup, and I was responsible for drinking most of it."

Because she couldn't finish the drink, but was afraid of her mother-in-law nagging, she handed this arduous task over to me.

At this point, the restaurant staff began to bring out the dishes the group had ordered, and everyone started eating and chatting.

"Between acting and singing, which do you think you are best at?"

Tang Yu spoke without hesitation.

"Of course it's singing. I think my talent lies more in music. As an actor, I can only say that I'm doing pretty well."

This raised questions for Lu Yu.

"But looking back on your acting career over the years, you seem to focus more on the role of an actor?"

"This might sound a bit like Versailles, but for me, life is only interesting when it's challenging."

Being an actor gives me inspiration and allows me to experience the joys and sorrows of different characters, which in turn inspires my music composition.

"Another reason is that, precisely because I am not so good at acting, every time I portray a new character, it feels like I am experiencing a new challenge."

It's like beating levels in a video game; the more levels you beat, the more accomplished you feel.

Things that are too easily obtained have a much lower threshold for happiness, which is why I enjoy challenges.

This answer prompted Lu Yu to ask further questions.

"So you're the kind of person who likes to step out of your comfort zone?"

"Indeed, I really enjoy a thrilling and exciting life. A monotonous life would be a bit scary for me, but life is inherently boring, so I like to do extreme sports to find some fun in life and pass the time."

At this point in the conversation, Lu Yu asked a thought-provoking question.

"Pursuing a thrilling and exciting life can sometimes lead you astray, because many exciting things in this world are actually abysses of depravity."

I imagine you achieved fame at a young age, and there must have been many glamorous temptations around you. Are there any particularly memorable events from those years?

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