Eight years have passed, he's still going strong, but his girlfriend is having a mental breakdo

My name is Feng Xiaojing. Three years ago, I was a confident and stylish clothing store owner.

The small shop doesn't make much money, but it's respectable, the income is stable, and we live with dignity and confidence.

This small shop was opened with my savings from ten years of working in Dongguan. I'm living the life I always dreamed of: I married an honest man in a small town, opened a shop, and became an elegant shop owner.

Everything changed three years ago. A friend took me to her studio. Hidden in a residential building, it had no sign, no shelves, just a few people chatting and drinking tea around a table—it looked more like a book club or healing salon than a sales event.

When I first arrived, no one talked to me about money or the quality of liquor; they only talked about life, fate, and "women should have their own careers."

We hit it off really well. From then on, my friend often took me out. Every time I went, someone would remember my preferences, pour me tea, hand me tissues, and listen to me complain about my life at home and the pressures at the shop.

To my surprise, these friends are incredibly understanding of me, and our values ​​are remarkably aligned. Everyone thinks that a woman as outstanding as me—beautiful, elegant, owning her own shop, and financially independent—is really making a mistake marrying her current husband.

My husband only knows how to work and work overtime every day, then he just collapses on the sofa when he gets home. He has no idea how hard I work, and he can't even help me when something happens at the store. I have to shoulder everything by myself...

What's the difference between having a husband like this and not having one? I'm starting to regret my hasty decision to get married.

I think it's because my experience in Dongguan made me so insecure that I rushed into marriage, ultimately marrying the wrong person.

I'm increasingly hating going home and increasingly preferring going to my friend's studio. Here, I feel taken seriously, treated like "one of my own." The care I receive here is even more than the care my husband gives me at home.

My friend is right. True family isn't about who you live under the same roof with, but about who understands you better and knows you better!

For a woman, what we lack most isn't necessarily money, but rather understanding and being needed. I felt understood and needed at my friend's studio.

Here, I met a group of like-minded people whose level of knowledge and experience far surpasses that of my husband.

[Through talking with them, I realized that I've worked hard all my life because life has wronged me; the reason I'm so tired is because I missed the right opportunity; as long as I seize this chance, I can turn things around and even help a group of my sisters turn things around too.]

I regret that I only met them now. If I had met them sooner, my life would definitely be different.

A friend told me that there are only two best opportunities to start a business: one is when you're eighteen, and the other is now. It's never too late to begin.

This is so inspiring. Only by being around inspiring people can I become inspiring myself.

These friends are all liquor distributors. After we got to know each other, they started introducing their business to me. As I learned more, I realized how easy it is for smart people to make money.

[The barrier to entry in their line of work is very low. You only need to pay 5,000 yuan to become a basic agent. It doesn't affect my current job; I just treat it as a side hustle.]

I joined without much hesitation and became a preliminary agent. As a friend said, the hardest part of starting a business is always taking the first step. Once you take that first step and overcome your own limitations, you're halfway to success.

If someone tries to stop you, they are sabotaging you and becoming a stumbling block on your road to success. You must be willing to overcome them.

After I paid 5,000 yuan, my friend urged me to pay another 20,000 yuan to upgrade. He said that now is the golden age of the industry, and the position is crucial. If I don't get on board now, I'll have to go through several more levels later.

A friend brought me a profit and loss statement, outlining the benefits of moving up one level in the hierarchy.

I was initially unmoved, but the words from several friends—"Sister, you've been through so much," and "From now on, we're family"—warmed my heart and made me even more unwilling to let a small disagreement create a rift.

After becoming an agent, I got busy working alongside my friends. Training sessions, morning meetings, evening meetings, debriefings, sharing sessions—one after another. My phone's photo album was full of team photos, photos of award ceremonies, and photos of us in luxury cars.

Later, when I realized it, I was no longer their customer, but had become what others called a "business partner who would soon earn millions a year."

After my husband found out what I had done, he realized something was wrong and advised me to calm down, not to invest all my savings, and especially not to borrow money recklessly to stockpile goods.

[My husband's reaction was exactly what my friends had predicted. Back at the studio, they said that if my husband objected, it meant he looked down on me and was afraid I was better than him.]

"Sis, a man like that is just holding you back. If you actually succeed, he'll be the first one who can't stand it." My friend's words completely woke me up.

My friends are right. In this life, you might only have one chance to turn your life around. Once you miss it, it's gone forever. Anyone who doesn't support my business of making dark tea is blocking my path to wealth; anyone who pours cold water on my efforts is a source of negative energy in my life.

My family may not genuinely want the best for me. If I don't take precautions and resist, they'll only keep me at bay. Especially with a spineless husband like mine—he's incompetent his whole life, yet he still tries to control me.

Many of my sisters are in similar situations to me. They all bravely took the step of divorce. Only by cutting off all escape routes can you fully dedicate yourself to your career.

With the support of my sisters, I resolutely divorced my husband who was holding me back. I must stay away from negative people and spend more time with positive sisters to succeed.

People's magnetic fields influence each other.

After the divorce, with no one nagging me anymore, I could completely dedicate all my energy to this project.

I put on a suit, cut my hair short to shoulder length, and became a powerful woman.

I sold my clothing store and the mortgaged apartment I received in the divorce settlement. Almost all the money I got went into stockpiling inventory, upgrading equipment, and traveling extensively with my team for training.

When I ran out of money, I borrowed from online lenders and maxed out my credit cards, using every penny I could get. My relatives and friends didn't understand my business. When they asked for money, I only dared to say it was for "opening a new store and doing a side business that required working capital," and I dared not tell them that I was an agent for Maotai-flavor liquor.

I was holding my breath, only thinking that one day I would succeed, and be able to loudly proclaim my experiences over the past few days, making everyone look at me with newfound respect, and making my ex-husband regret his actions.