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Lin Zhilan didn't urge her. After a while, Han Mei slowly spoke up: "I'm afraid I won't run well and will waste money."

Lin Zhilan suddenly understood.

Psychologist Sigmund Freud once proposed a concept called moral self-torture.

Simply put, some people are willing to suffer in order to gain a sense of moral victory.

Many parents are like this, and Wang Xiuzhi is clearly one of them.

Wang Xiuzhi had bought a nice piece of fabric to make clothes for her child, and it was right for the child to cherish it. But she insisted on adding, "I've never worn such expensive clothes in my life."

Han Mei would naturally feel guilty.

Wang Xiuzhi did this not intentionally; it was a habit she developed during a difficult time, and there was also a hidden reason: moral self-torture.

This is a form of low-handed exploitation, attacking the child by making them feel guilty, in order to manipulate and control the child.

Obviously, this is useful.

No matter how disobedient or argumentative Han Mei and Liang Ping were, they never refused to go to work in the fields whenever Wang Xiuzhi asked them to.

Because they also understand that their parents work very hard.

Wang Xiuzhi may think this is a good thing, but in this situation, the child's act of being sensible out of guilt is only due to the heavy psychological burden.

Over time, children raised under a guilt-ridden educational system will be afraid to be happy.

Even if you achieve something and make money after growing up, you may still feel unworthy of it.

She would feel that she was not entitled to be happy or to enjoy life, because subconsciously she would feel that it was a betrayal of her parents.

Han Mei's mother bought her these shoes, and her father brings her to the playground to practice every day after work.

Liang Ping even envied her.

In fact, Han Mei didn't want any of these things.

It felt like carrying a heavy debt, a weight on my heart.

She was afraid that if she didn't run it well, she would waste money and her father's energy.

She was even more afraid of what her mother would say if she didn't run well.

Lin Zhilan patted her shoulder, "You ran so hard today not for your parents, but for yourself, understand?"

Han Mei looked up at her. "So you could go to sports school for me?"

"right."

Han Mei bit her lip, her eyes filled with stubbornness and confusion. "But why doesn't Jiang Chengzhou want to go to the sports school? Why don't you try to persuade him?"

Lin Zhilan was stunned for a moment.

I realize that what I said to Jiang Chengzhou at home this afternoon may have been overheard by this child.

She sighed and pulled Han Mei to sit down on the steps to the side.

"I don't know if you'll understand what I'm saying," Lin Zhilan said earnestly, "Let me ask you first, what kind of person do you want to become in the future?"

Han Mei swallowed hard; she didn't know.

Lin Zhilan brushed her bangs aside. "It's okay if you don't know. What kind of person do you think you'll become?"

Han Mei's first thought was of her mother.

Their hometown was poor, and girls there got married early.

A girl as old as Han Mei is already talking about these things.

The girls in the village all envied her because she had a father who was a leader in the army, and they were sure she would marry well in the future.

Han Mei had no idea what the future held.

Maybe when she reaches the age and fails to get into high school, her mother will introduce her to a soldier, and then she'll get married, have children, and repeat her mother's life.

Han Mei suddenly shuddered; she didn't want to, she was afraid.

Lin Zhilan pointed to Jiang Chengzhou next to her, "He's about your age, but his maternal grandparents left him a house in the capital, and his grandfather also saved up some money for him. Even if he does nothing, he can live off his entire life."

Lin Zhilan frowned slightly. "Han Mei, do you have any of these?"

Han Mei remained silent and shook her head.

Lin Zhilan added, "Let's not talk about these external material conditions. Jiang Chengzhou's grades are not bad, and he has a clear goal now. Do you have one?"

Han Mei lowered her head even further.

"Look up." Lin Zhilan lifted her head by her chin and said solemnly, "But you have a talent for sprinting. Maybe you can change your destiny through today's performance."

"When you have nothing, complaining is useless, and blaming others is even more pointless. Right now, you can only hold onto whatever you have. Once you step out into the world, you'll find that the world you see now is too small."

"Only when you have enough will you have choices, understand?" Lin Zhilan said, looking at her.

Han Mei has very few opportunities.

Lin Zhilan didn't mean to hurt her, but that was just the truth.

Jiang Chengzhou can casually say "It's okay to lose," and Han Mei can certainly say the same thing.

However, the costs of these two are different.

Just like Jiang Chengzhou said, this is just a game.

For Han Mei, however, this was an opportunity.

Han Mei's eyes were slightly red. Lin Zhilan smiled and patted her head, "Why are you crying? How much did you pay for these shoes?"

"Nine dollars and eighty cents...and five industrial coupons."

"A lot, isn't there?"

Han Mei nodded.

Lin Zhilan said, "I've inquired about it. The sports school provides meals and accommodation, and tuition is free. They also give you a subsidy of five yuan per month. If you are selected to train with the provincial team, you can get a subsidy of ten yuan per month."

Actually, it wasn't Lin Zhilan who inquired about it; she only heard it from Gao Zhiqiang that morning.

Han Mei's eyes lit up; five yuan was a huge sum of money for him.

Ten yuan...

You can buy the shoes she's wearing and save two cents.

"Do you still want to apply to a sports school?" Lin Zhilan asked.

Han Mei nodded emphatically.

Lin Zhilan smiled helplessly. She should have mentioned the benefits of the sports school earlier, so she wouldn't have had to waste so much breath.

"The race is about to start, go and get ready. Remember, not for your parents, not for these shoes, but for yourself as you run."

Han Mei stood up, took a couple of steps, then turned back to look at her. "What if I don't perform well and the sports school doesn't accept me?"

Lin Zhilan was taken aback, then laughed, "There are 360 ​​professions, and every profession can produce an expert. If one path is blocked, find another. One cannot suffocate oneself."

"Can I find the next path?"

Han Mei asked, but without waiting for Lin Zhilan's answer, she went straight to the starting point to prepare.

Han Mei herself knew that finding the next path would be difficult.

Commander Han and Wang Xiuzhi remained seated in the stands, refusing to join the students in the crowd.

They also saw Lin Zhilan go to see Han Mei.

Wang Xiuzhi breathed a sigh of relief.

Commander Han asked, "What's wrong?"

Wang Xiuzhi stared at that direction and said, "With Doctor Lin taking care of it, it's definitely going to be a sure thing."

Commander Han gave his wife a strange look.

I don't know where she got such confidence from.

Little did he know that Wang Xiuzhi had spent some time in the military region and had heard many stories about Lin Zhilan.

Wang Xiuzhi is traditional at heart and has a deep-rooted concept of authority.

Previously, Commander Han was the authority figure in her mind.

She listened to everything Commander Han said.

Although Wang Xiuzhi both respected and feared Lin Zhilan, it was precisely because she also regarded Lin Zhilan as an authority figure.