How to raise a random guy's wife

"It's a child's task..." Kobayashi Sora looked at Kobayashi Megumi for help.

Megumi Kobayashi replied, "A child's task is to grow up healthy and happy."

"Is that all?" Xiaolin Lan pressed. "Lanlan is growing up even if she does nothing."

"But Lanlan needs to make an effort to be healthy and happy," Kobayashi Megumi added. "To be healthy, you need to play outdoors, eat and sleep on time, and to be happy..."

Xiaolin Ran answered quickly, "I want to play with my mom and dad!"

Kobayashi Megumi smiled gently, "Mom and Dad also like to play with Lanlan."

Kobayashi Sora watched this scene with satisfaction, having helped his daughter gain a basic understanding of money in another way.

Use a different approach than the education he received.

This gave him a special sense of accomplishment.

I have not forgotten the education I received, nor have I been limited by the education I received.

He doesn't think that the education he received was bad.

During the process of taking out and repaying loans, Kobayashi Sora gained a lot of new insights into money, and her ability to make and manage money also grew significantly in a very short period of time.

Even Kobayashi Sora could not think of a more effective method than this.

At the same time, he does not endorse this educational approach.

After all, he has a unique personality; this approach suits him, but it may not suit everyone.

Not all children realize how much they owe after taking out a loan, and not all children can withstand the pressure to learn how to make money quickly and in large amounts after realizing they owe a huge sum, or even take out more loans for this purpose.

As the child of Kobayashi Sora and Kobayashi Megumi, Kobayashi Ran possesses Kobayashi Sora's rational thinking and Kobayashi Megumi's emotional thinking. Combined with her own personality, Kobayashi Ran's goal tends to be to achieve her objectives happily, and she will also decisively give up when she anticipates that she will be unhappy.

So she would walk into a children's clothing store to buy clothes for herself, and would turn away without hesitation after feeling embarrassed.

Ran Kobayashi would rather give up her initial goal than be ridiculed and have an unhappy experience.

After the shop assistant called out to her, Ran Kobayashi realized that the other person didn't mean to make fun of her, and had a feeling that the rest of the shopping experience would be good, so she came back and chatted happily with the shop assistant.

Therefore, when faced with the same financial issues, Kobayashi Sora adopted a different educational approach than she had received.

Kobayashi Sora spoke up, "Lanlan, would you like to buy some clothes? The shop assistant has been waiting for us for a long time."

Shop assistant: "?" Oh, so that's what I was waiting for.

She was so engrossed in looking at the clothes that she almost forgot about selling them.

As a sales clerk in a children's clothing store, she has seen all kinds of parents and children. Most of the time, she is either in a state of coping with the work requirements or observing from the sidelines with indifference.

This is the first time I've ever been so captivated by a happy family that I even forgot about work.

A well-behaved and sensible child, a gentle and beautiful wife, a patient and handsome husband... How wonderful!

"Hmm..." Xiaolin Lan looked at the money in her hand, "Lanlan wants to buy it, but doesn't want to pay."

Kobayashi Sora blinked in confusion, "Why?"

Ran didn't know how to express her thoughts. "This is something Ran found with great difficulty... Ran is about to cry..." She could only vaguely describe her experience, "Don't give it to anyone else..."

“That’s right, this is the money Lanlan lost and found. Lanlan almost cried over it. This money has become different from other money.” Xiaolin Hui quickly understood her daughter’s thoughts. “How about this, Lanlan and Mom exchange them?”

"exchange?"

“This money represents precious and meaningful memories for Lanlan, and Mommy wants to keep it.” Kobayashi Megumi took out the same amount of money from her bag. “Lanlan, can you and Mommy exchange? This is for you, and yours is for me, okay?”

"May I?"

“Sure,” Kobayashi Megumi nodded. “Lanlan’s little clothes and the stones she found were all collected by her mother.”

“This money is the same!” Xiaolin Lan happily completed the exchange with her mother, handed the money to the shop assistant, and said, “I want to buy this dress, here’s the money.”

The clerk took the money and gave Kobayashi Ran her change, saying, "Thank you for your patronage!"

"Thank you, sister~" Xiaolin Lan waved goodbye to the shop assistant.

Kobayashi Sora and Kobayashi Megumi exchanged a glance. After Kobayashi Megumi left with her daughter, Kobayashi Sora topped up her membership card with some money to thank the staff for their patient service.

When they caught up with Kobayashi Megumi and Kobayashi Ran, Kobayashi Ran, who had just been immersed in the joy of buying new clothes, was now looking curiously in one direction.

Kobayashi Sora followed her gaze and spotted Sagara Mayu and Hashima Izumi acting rather suspiciously.

What are they doing?

"Why are they arguing?" Hashima Izumi was puzzled. Kasumigaoka Utaha and Eriri, who were just holding hands, suddenly started arguing in front of the shop window.

“This must be it,” Mayu Sagara speculated, “that kind of inexplicable argument that's unique to young couples.”

"Uh..." Boshima Izumi was completely bewildered. "While this kind of atmosphere is appropriate, how do you describe this inexplicable argument... there has to be a reason, right?"

“Any reason will do, just make up any excuse,” Mayu Sagara explained. “Most of them are attitude problems.”

"An attitude problem?"

"For example, one person thinks the clothes in the shop window look nice, while the other doesn't, and their opinions differ."

"Isn't this normal?"

“This is where the real issue comes in. It started as a small thing, but as the conversation went on, doubts about the other person’s aesthetic sense began to surface, escalating the conflict.” Mayu Sagara gestured upwards. “Words spoken aloud turn doubt into questioning, questioning into disrespect, and disrespect into an attitude problem—you’re arguing with me over such a small thing, do you not want to make things right?”

Bo Island goes out to sea: "...It's a very small matter."

"Because you care about the other person, you're constantly thinking about the future together. Even a small thing can make you think about many things in the future," Mayu Sagara summarized. "The smaller the thing, the bigger the conflict."

Chapter 926 Seeing the Big Picture in Small Things

"Oh, oh!" Poshima Izumi seemed to understand a little, and a look of sudden realization appeared on his face. "Any small thing is no small thing when you think about spending the rest of your life with the other person."

Who cares whether a stranger likes cilantro or what their aesthetic sense is like?

Since we don't have much interaction in our lives, why should we care about each other?

But it's different between couples.

“On the one hand, there are many expectations for the future, and on the other hand, they are not married, so their relationship lacks a strong connection.” Mayu Sagara analyzed in depth, “In the end, this manifests as the magnification of small problems and excessively high demands on attitudes.”

If you're this impatient with me now, will you be even more impatient after we get married?

If you're already so controlling now, will you be controlling even more after we get married?

If you're not willing to change for me now, will you become even worse after we get married?

If you argue with me over such a small thing now, won't we be constantly arguing after we get married?

Such problems are constantly emerging.

Such thinking, once it begins, will not stop, but will intensify in the argument until one side compromises first.

Or end the relationship.

"It feels so scary..." Just thinking about going to sea from Bo Island gave her a headache. "Wait, something's not right." She suddenly realized something. "If that's the case, this is a manifestation of a lack of control and security. The stronger the desire for control, the more insecure they are, and the more serious the problem will be. So... what's going on with Sora and Megumi?"

Kobayashi Sora was arguably the most controlling person I met during my trip to Bo Island. After spending time with her, I gradually came to understand that her controlling nature stemmed from a severe lack of security.

So he should be the person most likely to have this problem.

However, in my memory of going out to sea from Hashima Island, it seems that Kobayashi Sora and Kobayashi Megumi never argued.

I didn't feel anything before; I just thought the two of them had a good relationship.

Looking back now, it's completely counterintuitive.

“This requires analyzing the character’s personality.” When it comes to analyzing characters, Mayu Sagara is no longer sleepy. “Compared to his controlling nature, Sora has another very obvious characteristic that few people realize, but it is an extremely important part of his personality.”

"What is it?"

“Self-awareness,” Mayu Sagara replied. “We often feel that he is omnipotent, as if no problem can stump him, but is that really the case?”

"Hmm..." Bo Island asked rhetorically, "Isn't that right?"

“Of course not, there are many things he can’t do,” Mayu Sagara pointed out, “but he won’t do them.”

"I won't do things I can't do..." Bo Shima murmured, "So I'll succeed at everything I do?"

“It sounds simple, right?” Mayu Sagara shook her finger. “But in reality, it requires a clear understanding of one’s own abilities and the resources at one’s disposal. Many people can’t even do that.

One's own personality flaws, one's own inadequacies, one's own habitual problems... these are things that are difficult for oneself to discover, let alone admit.

However, in order to satisfy her desire for control to the greatest extent, Kobayashi Sora began to face her own shortcomings from a very young age and tried her best to make the most of her limited abilities.

It's really hard for Mayu Sagara to imagine what kind of education Kobayashi Sora received to learn this ability.

I must ask him when I have time.

“He will move firmly toward his goal, but he clearly understands that coercion and bribery are wrong. He will not rationalize his behavior; right is right, and wrong is wrong,” Mayu Sagara summarized. “So when others point out his problems, he will not argue for himself. He knows what he is doing: I am going to use coercion and bribery.”

Bo Island thought for a moment, "But for his own goals, even if he knows that what he is doing is wrong, even if others point it out, he will not change."

“That’s right. In order to achieve her own goals, Sora will not change her methods.” Sagara Mayu blinked. “So she has never tried to change his methods; what she has changed is his goals.”

"You can do it like that?" Bo Island was a little confused, but also felt a sense of sudden enlightenment.

On the one hand, I was amazed by the ingenuity of this method, but on the other hand, I didn't know exactly how to do it.

"First of all, Hui has a very good personality. She rarely has conflicts with people, and even when she is in a bad mood, she expresses it in a very subtle way."

Hashima nodded. Based on her experience with Kobayashi Megumi, Sagara Mayu was right, and even better.

"Secondly, compared to the appearance of things, Hui is more concerned with the essence of the problem. When encountering situations like the one mentioned above, Hui will not get bogged down in the specific issues, but will think about specific countermeasures after seeing through the essence."

Following Mayu Sagara's idea, the trip to Hashima Island was "a way to avoid the initial arguments and conflicts."

“But the differences still exist, and that brings us to the end.” Mayu Sagara revealed the answer: “In the end, it comes down to Megumi’s personal charm. Sora is attracted to her, and all his actions are geared towards Megumi. Megumi, on the other hand, realizes Sora’s purpose and knows that his efforts are for being with her, so she doesn’t care about superficial issues.”

This is a mutual process.

Kobayashi Sora is willing to change herself for the future, and Kobayashi Megumi is also willing to accept him as he is now for the future.

Conversely, Kobayashi Megumi will make changes for their shared future, and Kobayashi Sora will adapt to the new her for their shared future.

Like any other couple, they went through a process of compromise and acceptance.

The only difference was that one of them was focused on the goal, while the other saw through the essence of things. So the process didn't become a specific problem at all, but rather manifested as changes in lifestyle and habits.

Kobayashi Sora's presence gradually diminished, and her behavior became increasingly mild.

Megumi Kobayashi has become the best person for people to confide in when they encounter troubles, and can help them solve many problems.