Save the Bachelor of Heaven

Chapter 4740 4743 [Self-suggestion therapy]

While Xiang Nan was supervising the construction, Li Wan, Yingchun and Tanchun also began to replace Wang Xifeng's housekeeper.

Li Wan is irresistible about the butler.

She has been widowed for many years and her heart is as dry as a tree. Apart from her son Jia Lan, she can also make her worry, she is not interested in other things. He doesn't speak without doing his own business, and shook his head and didn't know when he asked.

Yingchun is not enthusiastic about the butler.

She is cowardly and dull by nature. She neither wants to cause trouble nor trouble for the door. So when Xiang Nan suggested that she come to the housekeeper, she wanted to refuse.

"I can't do it, I can't control it, so I'd better leave it to my third sister." Yingchun said, "She has had an idea since she was a child and will definitely manage her family well."

After hearing what she said, Tanchun did not refuse, but instead was eager to try it out, no one else but me.

When Mu Jia and Mrs. Wang saw her say this, they were a little pondered.

Seeing this, Xiang Nan said, "Second sister, you need to practice more because you can't do it. In our family, we have ancestors and wives to support you, and with the help of my sister-in-law and the third sister, you can practice.

Even if you don’t take good care of it for a while, it’s nothing big. Just practice more. Who can run after birth? It’s not all a little bit.

If you are afraid of our housekeeper, what should you do if you marry someone in the future? At that time, you will be the only one of the housekeepers. Do you also say that you can't control it? At that time, who can you push power to? ”

After hearing Xiang Nan say this, Yingchun was stunned.

"Yes, Baoyu is right. You should practice more." Jia Mu nodded, "You will get married in two years, and it's time to try to be a housekeeper.

Practice your own hands at home. It doesn’t matter whether you do things well or not, you have gained experience. If you get married and don’t know how to housekeeper, you will lose the old man. ”

"Yes, you can learn even if you don't know. Your sister-in-law Lian was not good at first. After years of experience, you can see how much you can get." Mrs. Wang also nodded.

"The opportunity is rare, just follow it and learn." Mrs. Xing also advised.

Yingchun refused, so he had to agree.

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Next, Li Wan, Yingchun and Tanchun began to housekeepers.

All the affairs of the inner house are left to the three of them.

For example, when old friends and relatives are married, funerals, promotions and depositions, people should be sent to greet and see off the house, and they should not be neglected.

There are two or three hundred nannies, wet nurses, mothers, maids, and little maids in the inner house of Jia's house, and everyone has their own affairs.

Although Xiang Nan's parchment made these servants dare not make big mistakes, there were loopholes in any system, so people still needed to check for the omissions and fill in the gaps.

Fortunately, there are basically always rules for the affairs of wealthy families.

For example, what kind of gifts to give for marriage, how much funeral ceremony to give for funerals, how many gifts to give for promotion, and how to deal with demotion, there are corresponding rules, and Xiao Gui Cao can just follow it, and there will basically be no big trouble.

The difficulty is to deal with the nanny, mother-in-law, maids and others in the inner house.

As the saying goes, there are a hundred people, all kinds of people. Some of them are smart, some are foolish, some are honest, some are cunning, some are diligent, and some are lazy... It is not easy to curse them all. thing. Fortunately, Li Wan, Yingchun and Tanchun are three, one of them is short-sighted, two of them are long-sighted, and three cobblers are better than Zhuge Liang. In addition, Lin Daiyu, Xue Baochai and others also followed the counselors, so they didn't make any big mistakes after taking care of them for a few days.

"How are the second sister and third sister butler these days?" Xiang Nan asked with concern.

"Fortunately, everyone discussed anything, but nothing went wrong." Tanchun nodded and said.

"Yes, the third sister acts frankly and decisively, and is really a good butler." Yingchun was a little envious.

"Where are you, second sister?" Xiang Nan asked when he saw this.

"If you have your eldest sister-in-law and third sister, I will just be a guest." Yingchun waved his hand and said.

"How can you do it? You need to train yourself." Xiang Nan waved his hand and said, "Can you still bring your eldest sister-in-law and third sister in two years to get married?

Let’s do this, the third sister, give the second sister a specific thing, for example, let her take care of wedding and funeral matters first. "Xiang Nan said, "You will rotate again in two months so that each of them can get exercise. ”

"Okay, second brother." Tanchun nodded.

"Brother Bao, I..." Yingchun still lacked confidence.

"Good sister, don't worry, no one will run away when he is born. Everyone can learn little by little." Xiang Nan smiled, "I believe that you can do it second sister, you should give yourself more confidence.

No mistakes, one song, one content, one in 6, one book, one bar, one reading!

You see, you are no worse than others. You are just two eyes and one mouth. You are not stupid or stupid. Of course, you can do what others can do. Tell yourself that you are the best, absolutely not wrong. ”

"Yes, Miss, Master Bao Er is right. Since the old lady and his wife trust you so much and are willing to delegate power to give you a chance to housekeeper, why should you refuse?" Yingchun's maid Si Qi stepped forward and said.

"That's right, Siqi, help the second sister." Xiang Nan said, "Who are there any traitorous slaves who dare to let go of it, and who are there any traitors who are not obeyed? Just reply to the old lady and wife, take away her silver rice and beat her up. At worst, I would be rushed out of the house.

You have to know that you are the second lady of the dignified prince’s mansion. Apart from the royal princesses, there is no more noble woman in the world than you. What are you afraid of? ”

"That's right, second sister, second brother is so right." Tanchun advised Yingchun, "We are the ladies of the Prince's Mansion. Others should be afraid of us, why should we be afraid of others."

"But, I still have no idea." Yingchun said hesitantly.

"This is also simple. I will teach my second sister a way to ensure it works." Xiang Nan smiled, "You say it to each other ten times every morning, noon and evening, 'I am the second lady of the Prince's Mansion, I am the most noble in the world. Woman, I have nothing to be afraid of. '"

"What's the point?" Everyone laughed when they heard this.

"This is called 'self-suggestion', which is a psychological treatment method." Xiang Nan explained, "Human psychology is very subtle, which can make people prosper and burst out with unprecedented abilities; it may also make people feel depressed. I can’t even do basic food and water. My second sister has no lack of mind and ability, and lacks self-confidence. As long as my confidence comes, I won’t be afraid of any problems.”

He knew that Yingchun was introverted and cowardly, and his mother died shortly after she was born. My father Jia She couldn't say that she was as if she was worn out and sneered at her, but she didn't care.

The stepmother Mrs. Xing, her brother Jia Lian, and her sister-in-law Wang Xifeng were not very intimate with her. In this long-term neglected environment, Yingchun's personality naturally becomes more introverted and cowardly.

There is a term in psychology called "acquired helplessness", which means that because of the many setbacks and rejections encountered, I give up my efforts, choose to lie down, and accept it.

Xiang Nan is a master of psychology and is still very good at how to adjust.

He pushed Yingchun out of the housekeeper to let her get out of her comfort zone, start working hard, and start learning. Step by step, after achieving results, people will become better and better.

After hearing Xiang Nan say this, everyone nodded and agreed.