As a result, it is possible to achieve success.

Well, for example, our little girl Xiaohuo, in order for her to enter the society safely, Heiyang and I tried our best to take all the unstable factors into consideration and teach her everything we could teach him.

Even so, when I think about Xiaohuo entering society on his own in the future, I still feel worried and concerned!"

"certainly……"

Hongli paused, and explained to Xiaohuo a little embarrassedly: "Mom doesn't mean to regard you as a burden.

Not to mention that this is our responsibility in the first place, in fact, when we are with our family, we can spend more time with you and teach you more knowledge while Xiaohuo is still young, we also enjoy it!

So Xiaohuo, don't think too much about it, and don't feel embarrassed or guilty. "

"Oh, hey, hey."

Xiao Huo smiled shyly and said, "I know, I know, Xiao Huo didn't think too much about it at all!"

"Yeah, I'm glad I didn't think too much about it."

After a pause, Hongli said jokingly, "But having said that, the tacit understanding between us mother and daughter is still a little lacking!

If it were your father, I wouldn't have to worry about him thinking too much, because I know he would definitely understand what I mean."

"Ah this..."

Xiao Huo clenched his fists and said with determination: "Xiao Huo will work hard to improve the tacit understanding between me and my mother, and strive to be as good as my father!"

"Haha, that's not necessary."

Hong Li laughed and said, "It is always the parents who guess what their children are thinking. How can we let children act according to their parents' moods?

When talking to your own parents, do you have to guess what they are thinking? That would be too tiring!

As long as you know that you truly respect your parents and have filial piety in your heart, that is enough.

Well, it's just like how I talk to your father, grandparents, and grandparents, isn't it what I just said?"

"Oh haha."

Xiaohuo had a thoughtful expression.

"From what you said, you really know a lot!"

Yao Qingkong looked at Hongli with a smile, nodded happily, and expressed emotion: "Yes, from now on, the life of Zisheng and I will enter a new stage.

To nurture the next generation, teach them to become talented, watch them grow up and become outstanding, we must also be extremely careful and cautious so as not to lead the children in the wrong direction.

Thinking about it, it's a bit stressful. I feel like I haven't learned how to be a good person yet, but I have to teach a blank slate how to behave. "

Yao Qingkong sighed softly, shook his head and laughed, "But it's okay, it's pressure but also motivation, the rest of my life will be full of purpose and meaning again!"

"Come on, then."

Hongli gave her blessings, but she also had her own ideas about the child's upbringing.

“In fact, in my opinion, children don’t have to become outstanding.

As long as they can live happily, healthily and safely, and not bring trouble to others, that's enough.

In this regard, Heiyang and I actually have the same opinion. After all, we were not the outstanding children that our parents expected. Hehe.

Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. Our parents understood us at the beginning, and now we have become parents, so we naturally have to understand our children.”

"Besides, if we push the child too hard and even make him smile, wouldn't that be a loss?"

Speaking of this, Hong Li suddenly looked a little dazed. She naturally thought of Hei Yang's past, those days that sounded so distressing to her, and suddenly she had new feelings in her heart.

"Parents want their children to be successful. When they are busy running around, they realize that what they want most is for their children to be safe and sound.

Isn’t the original intention of wanting them to become excellent to make their lives better?

Of course, we can have expectations, which will become a driving force to push children forward. However, when expectations become a suffocating burden on children, making them worry and fear punishment if they do something a little bit wrong, then I think it has deviated from the essence. "

"But then again..."

Hongli showed dead fish eyes, and a look of helpless struggle flashed in her eyes as she thought of some not so beautiful memories.

"It's not just for the sake of happiness that we should indulge our children blindly.

For example, the days when Heiyang and I were pulled out of bed every morning to exercise..."

Hongli had a sad look on her face. That was a past that she was grateful for but at the same time she never wanted to go back to.

Not only does he exercise on time every morning and evening regardless of rain or shine, but his parents also conduct random checks every once in a while and compare the performance between him and Heiyang.

It is said that if anyone falls behind the other party continuously, he will be punished terribly.

To this day, Hongli still doesn’t know what the so-called horrible punishment is.

For this she still has to thank her current husband, Heiyang, and not the hateful King Juan.

The two of us have tacit understanding and maintain almost the same level. Today you win a game and tomorrow I win a game. The day after tomorrow you are better than me in arm wrestling and the day after tomorrow I run faster than you.

The competition between the two directors was so intense and tense, with neither side winning or losing, that their parents could hardly tell the difference. This was why none of them had suffered the legendary horrific punishment for more than a decade.

Speaking of that situation, if one person doesn't trust the other, and thinks that the other person might take advantage of their laziness to work hard.

In the end, it will definitely turn into a situation where both of them suffer!

So it seems that the unbreakable relationship of trust between her and Heiyang was cultivated from that time?

Now that I think about it, my parents were really far-sighted at the time!

However, because there is a minimum standard, the Black Sun and Red Glass cannot be displayed too obviously.

If they really treat their parents as fools, their parents will definitely beat them into fools!

Thinking of her parents' "cruel" methods, Hongli subconsciously shrank her neck.

Yao Qingkong, on the other hand, was a little stunned by what Hong Li said and couldn't help but fall into deep thought.

"Xiao Li, you are right, thank you for your reminder."

Yao Qingkong breathed a sigh of relief, looked at her newborn child with emotion, and said softly, "As long as the ability is sufficient, we should be a little tighter in terms of virtue.

Make one or two true bosom friends, grow up happily, meet someone you like and have your own family..."

"Xiao Li..."

Yao Qingkong looked up at Hong Li again and praised her, "As expected, you are a senior mother with nearly two years of experience. You know much more about this than I do."

"Ah this..."

Hong Li scratched her head embarrassedly and laughed, "Do you really think so?

Haha, actually I was just saying it randomly, it may not be correct, so don’t take it all seriously. Hehe.”

"You don't have to be so modest. I really learned a lot from your words."

Yao Qingkong showed an expression of relief.

"To be honest, ever since I knew I was pregnant, I have been worried that I might not be able to teach her well enough, or that I don't have enough experience. I was afraid that something unexpected might happen to her during her growth, and I was extremely nervous.

Now that you, Hongli, have said these words, I feel more at ease. I can lower my expectations of her, which is actually giving up some of my expectations as a parent..."

“It doesn’t mean to lower your standards.”

Hong Li couldn't help but corrected: "It's about finding out what the child really wants!

If the child wants to become an outstanding person in the future and needs supervision from his parents, he should not be indulged or spoiled, and his education should not be perfunctory.

Just like Xiaohuo, we hope she can live a peaceful life like us, but she also yearns to be a better person.

So we can play when we want to play, but we also have strict requirements on education.”

"Well, Xiaoli, you are right!"

Yao Qingkong nodded repeatedly with admiration on his face and reached out to gently stroke the child's face.

"This way, there will be less unnecessary worry, but at the same time, I am still worried that my child will be influenced by others, such as making bad friends and being led astray by them.

In fact, when I was a child, I followed some senior brothers and sisters to play tricks secretly, and I always passed the sect's alchemy examination by cheating.

He had wasted nearly half a year, and his abilities had not improved but had regressed, yet he still thought that the results he had obtained through cheating were his own, and he was self-satisfied and blindly arrogant.

Until one day, they heard that their senior brothers and sisters had taken an extremely strict assessment, and in that assessment, their little tricks were discovered, and they were given serious warnings, and many of their fellow brothers and sisters felt ashamed for them.

Not long after, I heard that our class would also need to take an assessment of that scale, and I finally panicked.

"Even if I don't cheat, my own ability shouldn't be too bad."

That’s what I thought at the time, because I didn’t dare to play tricks anymore. I was so confused when I looked at the exam room, and I was so confused. ”

At this point, Yao Qingkong couldn't help but laugh out loud, then shook his head and said, "The final result is predictable. I was dumbfounded when the scores came out. I have always been ignorant of myself and finally tasted the bitter fruit...

Fortunately, my master pointed out my mistakes and brought me back to the right path, so I didn’t make the same mistakes again.”

"Ha, you can't do that now."

Hongli raised her eyebrows and showed a smug expression.

“When I was in school, I was always number one.

The teacher praised me and said that among all the students he taught, there was only one who did better than me. "

After a pause, Hongli looked at Xiaohuo and Yao Qingkong's curious faces and smiled embarrassedly.

"What a coincidence! The guy who does better than me is called Heiyang, hehe."

"Wow!"

Xiao Huo was shocked: "What a coincidence! That person has the same name as Dad. It's such a coincidence!"

Yao Qingkong: “???”

Hongli: "You caught fish but you didn't. Ahem... phew..."

Hongli covered her mouth halfway through her words, avoiding the tragedy of hunting herself.

Hongli is completely different from Yao Qingkong. Yao Qingkong’s brain was completely frozen by Xiaohuo’s words.

Hongli glanced at Xiaohuo with dead eyes.

"You stupid girl, are you pretending to be stupid in front of your mother?"

"Hey hey hey."

Xiao Huo couldn't help but laugh out loud, and said embarrassedly: "Because when mom mentions dad, her eyes and expression are always different, so I can't help but think, hehehe..."

“He he he.”

Hongli showed her half-moon eyes, imitated Xiaohuo's laughter without any emotion, and threatened half-jokingly and half-seriously: "Little girl, cherish the present time!

You are still young now, so I am reluctant to beat you. When you grow up, I will beat you until your head is covered with lumps."

"Ah this!"

Xiaohuo's expression froze, and he immediately put on a pitiful and cute look.

"Oh no, no, Xiaohuo is so well-behaved and cute, mommy will definitely not bear to do that!"

"Hehe, that's not necessarily true."

Hong Li curled her lips: "Your mother is also so cute, but I was still coughed by Hei Yang..."

Hong Li was halfway through her words when she glanced at Yao Qingkong, whose eyes suddenly lit up. She immediately shut her mouth in vigilance. What a guy, he actually eavesdropped on their family affairs, right?

"Ah this..."

Yao Qingkong looked at Hong Li's vigilant eyes and knew that he had been discovered. He smiled awkwardly and quickly changed the subject.

"Haha, Xiaoli and Xiaoyang, you two were really outstanding when you were little, hahaha."

"Well, we must have been excellent when we were young. Could it be that we are as good as you?"

Hongli looked at Yao Qingkong with a sullen face.

Yao Qingkong: "..."

This can't be turned into a fight with her, right?

"Hey, hey, why are you so proud? We were cultivating knowledge at that time, so it was naturally profound and mysterious. You only had ordinary worldly knowledge at that time!"

Yao Qingkong retorted with an unhappy look on his face: "There is no comparison at all!"

"Ah, are you serious about competing in cultivation?"

Hong Li was stunned, and looked at Yao Qingkong with a strange look: "It took me more than a year to go from Qi training to Yuanying. How many years did it take you to reach Yuanying?"

Yao Qingkong: "..."