mortal train conductor

Chapter 316 Cherish Combat Friendship and Be Cautious with the Opposite Sex

Although it is said that same sex repels, opposite sex attracts is an eternal law.But Liu Qun has always advocated that there must be a sense of proportion and distance between male and female colleagues on the train. They must know how to maintain a moderate distance, and know how to be responsible for themselves, people around them, and family members. If you get too close, not only is it useless, but it will burn each other.

The famous writer Rousseau once said: The development of heterosexual friendship is like parallel lines, infinitely close, but never touched.

Distance produces beauty. This distance refers not only to the spatial distance between people, but also to the privacy and freedom when people communicate with each other. Not to interfere with each other too much, not to care about each other too much, this is often The key to maintaining a good relationship between men and women in the workplace, especially the interaction between superior and subordinate colleagues of the opposite sex.

Life is like a ruler, there must be degrees.Liu Qun has always adhered to an iron law, that is, the communication between male and female colleagues must have principles and a bottom line, just like the "red line" system mentioned in safety work, which must not be touched. It is a high-voltage line and a lifeline. , Once touched, it will cause electric shock, ranging from injury to death.

In middle age, Liu Qun has already experienced many things. He knows what things should be taken seriously, what things should be let go, and what things should never be touched. Knowing these things will avoid some risks. Escort for your own life, but also for the well-being of your family.

Once the bottom line in the relationship between men and women is touched, it is easy to deteriorate, and if you are not careful, you will go overboard.

Of course, if both parties are single, it’s okay to upgrade the fighting friendship at work to love, and after working together on the train for a long time, the two people who have been in love for a long time will understand each other better, understand each other’s work and difficulties, Lay a good emotional foundation for the next step of getting along.

But for men and women like Liu Qun and Zhang Lan who each have their own families, they must keep a considerable distance from each other, and they cannot easily destroy the principles and bottom line of friendship, otherwise they will not only lose the friendship, but also destroy each other's families, which is very unworthy of.

Regarding the topic of whether there is real friendship between men and women, Liu Qun thinks that there is.

But there must be a precondition, that is, both parties must abide by the bottom line of friendship, and neither can go overboard.There must be a certain sense of boundaries, instead of being unscrupulous after getting more and more familiar with each other. When a man and a woman get too close, if they don’t abide by the bottom line, they will involuntarily participate in each other’s personal space, which is very easy. If you cross the boundary, you will become dependent, and you will break away from the scope of the normal friendship relationship between male and female friends.

Liu Qun is well aware that he and the deputy driver Zhang Lan abide by the basic bottom line and principles. Although Zhang Lan is a little too dependent on him in work, Liu Qun does not think it is a bad thing. After all, in the workplace Still predominantly gay.

Furthermore, the distinction between the chief and deputy captains will limit the talents and management level of the deputy chiefs to a certain extent, and if the chief captain ignores these differences, he will definitely require the deputy chief and himself to exercise equivalent functions and management. , is actually unrealistic.

Liu Qun believes that men should do more. If the relationship with the deputy driver is too clear, it will appear to be unmanly.

Zhang Lan is actually very smart. Although he feels a little hazy about the relationship between men and women, he still relies on Liu Qun at work, and even confides to Liu Qun when he encounters unhappiness in family life. However, Liu Qun has a good sense of proportion in the communication between colleagues, and can always set up a high wall in front of the bottom line and principles of their communication, which cannot be surpassed.

In fact, Liu Qun didn't quite agree with Zhang Lan telling him about the unhappiness at home.After all, it is a family matter, such topics as quarreling with her husband, not getting her husband's understanding, etc., Liu Qun can avoid it if he can, but if he can't, he will change the topic after listening to a few sentences, and guide Zhang Lan Talked about something else.

Zhang Lan is a smart woman. Seeing Liu Qun like this, she gradually stopped pouring out her thoughts to Liu Qun.Because Liu Qun knows that if he is a listener from a psychological point of view, he will make the person who confides feel like he has found a confidant. This feeling is very common among lovers, but between male and female colleagues, it is really It is not necessary and should not exist.

Work belongs to work, and life belongs to life. These are two different concepts. In fact, Liu Qun is very particular about the distinction between colleagues and friends.He believes that colleagues are colleagues, and friends are not the same concept.

The most important thing is the friendship between male and female colleagues. It is manifested in the tacit cooperation at work, smooth communication, working side by side, and getting along happily. But in life, we must keep a distance and be close.
In life, Liu Qun will take some appropriate words and deeds. On the one hand, he will hint at the level difference and close relationship between him and Zhang Lan, and on the other hand, he will fine-tune the external environment, such as disharmonious social places, so that he can live in a more comfortable environment. Interact in psychological and spatial environments.

In daily life, Liu Qun also knows how to avoid suspicion when getting along with female colleagues in the team.

Originally on the train, there were a lot of intersections between superiors, subordinates, and colleagues at work, and many jobs inevitably had to communicate with Zhang Lan and the female train conductor alone.

Although it is natural and understandable for colleagues to discuss research together for work, but to grasp the heat and occasion, Liu Qun generally chooses to conduct research in public places as much as possible, and also avoids chatting and talking. If you have something, avoid leaving people in the mouth, the gain outweighs the loss.

For individual communication, Liu Qun never had a long talk with lesbians in the soft sleeper box, but tried his best to use some occasions when he was not busy at work, for example, after the train released the passengers, he would talk about some work with Zhang Lan on the platform things on the train, and when the trains are changing shifts.

Liu Qun believes that if he does not avoid suspicion, it is very likely that others will mistakenly think that he and a certain female colleague have some privacy and things that should not be done emotionally.

Liu Qun has always been a person who pays attention to both substance and form. In essence, he keeps a distance from his female colleagues and maintains a good relationship between colleagues and superiors; Only the work cooperates like fingers, seamless, and incomparable tacit understanding, but they are clear-cut and non-interfering in their respective lives and emotions.

This is because the passenger section itself has a lot of lesbians, and most of them are young and beautiful. As the leader of the male grassroots team, he manages a group of young and middle-aged women. .

If you don't pay attention to the influence yourself, then it is very likely that you will attract rumors and slander from others, and things that don't happen will eventually become big things if they are passed on.

(End of this chapter)