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Chapter 11 Deprivation of the Mother's Right to Educate her Son

The next night, Pan Shengnan received a series of calls from his parents. He didn't dare to delay for a while after his evening self-study, so he took a taxi and rushed to his parents' house.

She is the head teacher of the graduating class, and she really doesn't have any free time on weekdays. Even if she apologized countless times on the phone, she was scolded bloody when she entered the door.

Shang Yan saw his grandpa and grandma scolding his mother, then went to his grandpa's house to do his homework alone, and closed the door, but Pan Shengnan's cheeks were still flushed, and his own prestige in front of his son was just like that. A little lower, if things go on like this, the child will only become more and more difficult to manage, I'm afraid she can't manage it anymore, and all she feels is exhaustion from the bottom of her heart.

Pan Shengnan and Song Jiahui pent up their anger for several days, all of which were directed at the eldest daughter: "You haven't seen anyone these days, do you know how we got here? It's like holding a big stone in my heart. "

"Why are you always the last one!" Pan Shengnan said feebly, "It's you who didn't let me come, saying that you're fine, so don't let me feel bad. Old account?"

Song Jiahui didn't want to say it, but when she saw her daughter, she couldn't help but get red eyes: "I just feel wronged. I have paid so much, and I still serve you at this age. When Shang Yan was young, he often got pneumonia. In order not to delay You work, and your dad and I divide and cooperate every day. We register in one night, and take the child to the hospital in the dark. When we catch up with the hospital, I will roll around in the ward for nothing. See if I can give the child to you. It's almost 1 meters tall, so it's fine if you don't fall well, but you still fall all over!"

"Dad, Mom, Shang Yan was raised by the two of you. I am grateful from the bottom of my heart." Pan Shengnan comforted his parents for a while, and then they gradually calmed down.

Pan Guanlin said to his eldest daughter: "I can probably understand Shang Xuehai's anger. They handed over the child to us and let us take care of it, but in the end we couldn't study and learn, and we couldn't be polite, so we went on like this. Call you here today, I just want to talk about the education of business dialect.”

Pan Shengnan said: "I know the problem of business dialect, and it can't be changed in a short while. This needs to be discussed in the long run."

Pan Guanlin said: "I can't discuss it in the long run. He will pass the high school entrance examination soon, and the time is too late. From today on, your mother and I will be fully responsible for the education of Shangyan. You should stop following blindly."

Pan Shengnan thought he heard it wrong: "Leave me alone, I'm his real mother! I don't care who cares?"

"You still care? If you don't care, this child will be ruined!" Song Jiahui said, "Shangyan, this child was brought up by me and your father. He was so good before. He knew more than 2000 characters and ancient poems in kindergarten. How many poems can I recite, and the addition and subtraction within 100 can be calculated with my eyes closed. Now I have failed in my studies, and my temper is like a child who is left alone, lawless and uneducated."

Pan Shengnan said: "Shangyan's puberty reaction is more obvious than that of ordinary children. We should communicate with him well and it will be fine. You don't want me to intervene in the education of Shangyan, I don't agree!"

"You have to agree if you don't agree!" Pan Guanlin slammed the table, "I have taught countless adolescent students, and I have never seen a son like yours who can't speak, can't scold, can only be coaxed, and can only be used to it. Child. When he comes to society in the future, who will coax him and pamper him? If you raise a child like this, you will become a useless person!"

Pan Shengnan was amused: "Dad, who in our family is most used to business talk? The first one is you, and the second one is my mother. When I was young, I reasoned with him. If the voice was louder, you would scold me." It is said that children are too young, and some truths will be understood when they grow up! Have you forgotten?"

Pan Guanlin's face darkened: "Why, you are also blaming me and your mother for not taking good care of the child? We raised you, put you in college, trained you to be the backbone of your work, and then raised your child for you. Your husband doesn't care. It's nothing more than acknowledgment, but you also come to blame your parents, is there any reason?"

"Dad, I didn't mean that! I was just afraid that you and my mother would feel uncomfortable. Besides, how could a child deprive his mother of the right to education if he made a mistake? Is this unreasonable?"

"We are more anxious. Shang Yan is tired of studying now, which is very dangerous. In less than a year, it is time to walk on the single-plank bridge for the first time in his life. He should not be strong, he should be fine, he is a child who does not understand anything, But we adults can't just let it go!"

Pan Shengnan said: "Then he needs his mother to educate him more?"

Pan Guanlin said: "His own mother was educated by us, what are you worried about?"

"Are you still educating?" Song Jiahui said to the eldest daughter, "It's your problem that the child has become what it is today. If you listen to me and your father from the beginning, you and Xihong will be in business. They are equally excellent. There are specializations in art, and human energy is limited. If you artificially divide him into several directions, the child will definitely get tired of learning."

"Why are you here again?" Pan Shengnan's head hurt even more, "Every time he brought out the interest class to criticize me. How many times have I said that he likes the drum set and basketball now. Who doesn’t have any hobbies among the kids nowadays, like we did at that time, reading books by rote, it’s not an era anymore.”

Song Jiahui said: "Then you used to enroll your child in so many classes? Lego classes, swimming classes, calligraphy classes, Chinese chess, recitation classes, art classes, Sanda classes, you can't wait to skip rope and spend money to enroll your children in a class." , Burn the money, right? What did you learn in the end? You failed the grade, you were disobedient, and you ran away from home!"

Pan Guanlin also complained: "Not only wasting time, energy, and money, but thinking that getting in touch with these cram schools too early is bad for the teachers, and these people coax the children in different ways every day in order to make money, so that Shangyan doesn't take the teachers seriously at all. , lack of the most basic reverence for teachers.”

Pan Shengnan took the trouble to explain: "Those are the hobbies that children have to experience first when they are young, so that they can choose the hobbies they really like. It's all happened many years ago, and you always let Shangyan hear these words that completely deny me. , he doesn't take me seriously anymore. Now let me stop him, can he still listen to me? "

Pan Guanlin said: "Don't look at you as a teacher, your education method is not good! You don't have to argue with me, let's talk about the facts. Your father and I have educated countless children. You and Xihong are under our education method. Only then did he become a talent. Shangyan completely followed our tone, and it must not be worse. It was because of your words that the child became what he is today. From today on, you have canceled all things that have nothing to do with learning Shangyan. Your mother and I will take care of all his homework. I will definitely educate another 985 university in our family, otherwise I will die in peace."

"In the past, I just heard that the old man deprived the right of children's mother's education, but I didn't expect it to happen to me. This, this is unscientific!"

"At the beginning, you only listened to your parents' words to get what you are today. There is no harm in listening to your parents' words. Your parents are doing it for your own good!"

"But this kind of education method is unscientific. Your educational views are outdated and can't keep up with the current pace!"

Pan Guanlin was angry, and said to his eldest daughter regardless: "I don't know if I can keep up with the rhythm. But I know that if this continues, you and Shang Xuehai will get divorced. I will sue you, Pan Shengnan, I don't know." What do you think in your heart, if Shang Xuehai really did something to you, tell me, I will never forgive her lightly. But if you want to get a divorce because he doesn't come home all the year round, you should quickly get rid of this idea No matter how many generations of our old Pan's family, there is no divorce."

Pan Shengnan was wandering alone in the community. Shang Xuehai and his parents blamed her for the child's current situation. Both sides couldn't make sense, and the adolescent son upstairs was waiting to go home with her to start a fight.At this moment, she is like a fully drawn bow, and she doesn't know when the string will break.

Pan Shengnan sat on the bench, recalling his childhood.She came to the town to go to school when she was in the first grade of junior high school, and it was the first time she saw the piano in the town, and she was very fascinated by it.Especially the melody leaking from the fingertips of the beautiful female music teacher, the picture is so beautiful that she will never forget it for the rest of her life.She wanted to learn piano very much at that time, but her parents had no money to train her, and her father felt that learning such a useless thing would delay her study.

The music teacher saw her pull out the window to peek at other students learning the piano when she was in get out of class, and knew that she really liked it, so she asked her to come and learn with everyone after school without charging tuition fees.

But this matter was known by her parents, who forced her to give up her dream of playing the piano and use this time to study the questions.Therefore, she has enrolled in a lot of interest classes for Shangyan since she was a child. On the one hand, it is to explore the child's specialties, and on the other hand, it is to fill in the lack of a certain aspect at home. The child loses at the starting line.

There were not a few classmates and colleagues who became pregnant in those two years.Their generation is exactly the generation of parents who began to pay attention to quality education after the reform and opening up.

At that time, the economic status, living environment and educational awareness of ordinary people have been greatly improved.Ever since I knew that I was pregnant with a little life, I started to cultivate various interests, from buying radiation-proof clothes to prenatal education, early childhood education, and language enlightenment. I was afraid that my child would not keep up with the pace of education and lose out on the starting line.

But at that time, according to the parents' education concept, such a young child only needs to eat enough, wear warm clothes, ensure safety, and go to kindergarten, elementary school, and middle school normally, and finally enter a prestigious university is the end point.For this reason, her parents often interfered with her in parenting.Now the responsibility for the child's weariness of learning is even pushed on her.

When Shang Yan saw his mother came back, he hurriedly put away his cell phone, pad, guitar, and comics.Then close the door and wait for the other party to knock on the door to scold yourself.

But after waiting for a long time, he found that there was no sound outside the door.He was a little curious, and tiptoedly opened the door a little, and saw that the living room was not even turned on, and it was pitch black and nothing could be seen.Shang Yan frowned tightly, and simply opened the door to go outside, but after searching around, he found his mother lying in the bedroom, already asleep.

Shang Yan looked at his mother's tired sleeping face. He stood beside the bed for a long time, and then quietly pulled off the lifetime cover and put it on her.

(End of this chapter)