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Chapter 38 is the closest sister
The next day, Chang Yuan and Pan Xihong came to Duxingang Campus, a subsidiary of Muyu Education Group where Pan Xinyi works, with smiles in their arms.Pan Xinyi led them to her teacher's office.Director Wang is their very well-known autism rehabilitation expert here, and she patiently introduced Chang Yuan's "[-] whys" one by one.

"Autism is a result of genetic factors, the interaction of genetic factors and environmental factors, such as brain injury, viral infection during pregnancy, especially when children are exposed to adverse environments during the critical period of brain development, which can also lead to onset increase in possibility.

Autism usually starts before the age of three, and most of the children with autism develop gradually after birth, and more than half of the children with autism develop regressively after one to two years of normal development.So your daughter Xiaoxiao should be the latter, so you didn't find it in various screenings after giving birth and in daily life. "

Chang Yuan asked eagerly: "Doctor, we are the family of Teacher Pan Xinyi Pan, and you are her teacher who entered the industry. Just tell us the truth, will our child recover?"

Pan Xinyi said to Chang Yuan: "Brother-in-law, don't worry, Teacher Wang is my mentor and one of the most authoritative experts in our school. Xiaoxiao will definitely get the best treatment."

Chang Yuan said: "I definitely want to give my daughter the best treatment, even if I go abroad, as long as the child's disease can be cured, I will spare no effort. I just want to have a definite answer, how can this disease be cured? Can’t be cured? I want you to tell me the truth.”

Director Wang looked at Pan Xihong, saw that the other party didn't say a word, and there were no similar problems, so he knew in his heart that this mother should have known a lot before, and this father might have just cared about his daughter's illness.

She thought for a while, and decided to answer truthfully: "If the prognosis of children with autism is poor, it is generally incurable. This disease requires long-term treatment, and the condition can be improved mainly through later training. This requires parents to have enough patience with their children." up.

Generally, after active treatment, even if the child's autism cannot be truly cured, the child's cognitive level and social adaptability will be improved, and the business will reach a normal social level.Moreover, the sooner this disease is discovered and intervened, the better. If you discovered it in a relatively timely manner, you should believe that there will be good results. "

Chang Yuan's mood began to become unstable: "Then you mean that this disease is basically incurable. It can only be said that after intervention, the child does not look like a fool, but it is still not normal. And this disease Once you get it, it will be inherited, and it will also affect your marriage and future generations in the future?"

Director Wang said: "Smiling dad, you can't use this word on your children. You are also a teacher who teaches and educates people. You must not say this, let alone to your children. Parents' attitude towards children, even if they are autistic children, They're also aware."

Chang Yuan remained silent, as if lost in his own thoughts.Director Wang said: "Let me make an unreasonable analogy. You see, we have a completely different language and cognition from kittens and puppies, but why can we still communicate? They can even fully understand human instructions. That's because These fur kids are very sensitive to human’s emotional reaction, human happiness and irritability can affect their mood, diet and even health, let alone children?”

Chang Yuan was still struggling: "Director, can this disease be cured?"

Director Wang said to Chang Yuan earnestly: "The growth of the child is related to the patient's own situation and the acquired training. If it is not treated, it will be difficult for the moderately severe child to communicate with other people, and the patient's communication ability is very poor. , It is also difficult to integrate into normal society, and it is difficult to have normal working ability.

Children with mild autism can go to school and work if their intelligence level is normal.But his communication skills will be slightly worse than normal people, and sometimes the communication will show some gaps. "

"I'm not saying no treatment, I've said it many, many times, I can treat the child at any cost!" Chang Yuan repeatedly emphasized, "Even if I go through ninety-nine and eighty-one difficulties, I can handle it. I just want to Ask if it’s okay, is there any possibility of a complete recovery, I hope you can answer it positively?”

Director Wang said: "I can only say that over the past decade or so, many of the children in our school are living very well and happily."

Chang Yuan said: "What is the standard of happiness? Can I also pass 985 and 211?"

Director Wang said: "Xiaoxiao Dad, you are too excited now, but I can understand your mood. Many fathers who come to school for the first time are like you. Otherwise, you should calm down first, and I will bring you a little smile." Mom goes to the school to transfer to see what the specific courses are, let her learn about it first, and make a mental preparation for the child's treatment."

Chang Yuan said, "I'll go with you!"

Director Wang was so stubborn that he stopped him and said, "Dad Xiaoxiao, I don't think you are suitable right now. You can continue to consult with Xinyi first. I think you don't seem to know as much about your daughter's condition as Xiaoxiao's mother. If you have some questions, you Get to know Xinyi better."

On the way to the classroom, we have to pass the school playground.Pan Xihong expressed her doubts: "Director Wang, I have a problem that has been bothering me for a long time. I have been worried about the improper way of raising my child, which led to Xiaoxiao's problem. I just heard from you that when children's brains develop Exposure to a bad environment will increase the chance of getting sick, and I feel very uncomfortable, and I am really worried that my own problems will harm my children."

Director Wang said as he walked: "Let me tell you a research report. There are many video materials showing that when the baby smiles and looks up at the mother's face, the mother is depressed and listless, completely oblivious to the child's concern for her." Calling, continue to immerse yourself in the spiritual world and continue to be depressed, the smile on the baby's face will gradually disappear, and gradually form a serious face, and then gradually the baby will become depressed, as if it is a response to the mother's depression.

The emotional interaction between baby and mother, if often depressive vibes, becomes a parenting style.The infant's self-development is then entangled in the depressive style.Conversely, if the mother-infant interaction is consistently happy, the infant's subsequent self-development will usually be proactive. "

Pan Xihong's eyes were moist: "Maybe I really didn't do well!"

Director Wang said: "All mothers have the experience of being a mother for the first time. As long as they keep learning and reflecting, they can always become a good mother."

Pan Xihong asked: "How can I be a good mother?"

The director said: "Actually, in the infant stage, a child does not need a good enough mother, such as a mother with a high social status, a mother with an outstanding appearance, or a mother with financial ability. The child only needs an unconditional mother." A mother who loved him. Not just toddlers, it applies to parents with children of any age."

In a blink of an eye, Director Wang brought Pan Xihong to the teaching building.Pan Xihong saw that the children here were trained one-on-one when they first arrived.She saw a little girl who was older than her daughter, she should be about three or four years old, she was very beautiful, but when she was doing volleyball training, she took a good picture, but she suddenly lost her temper and lay on the ground Crying, throwing things, and screaming.

Looking at the child, Pan Xihong seemed to see her own daughter. Recently, she often cried without warning, was irritable, stopped communicating with anyone, and was completely immersed in her own world.

Director Wang took her to another classroom. This was also a three or four-year-old girl who was doing handstand walking with the help of the teacher.Director Wang said: "When this child first arrived, he was just like the one you just saw. He couldn't follow instructions, let alone control his emotions. But after a week of training here, he can already quietly listen to the teacher's instructions.

By the second week, the stereotyped behavior has eased, and it is not necessarily necessary to sort the colors according to her rules, and you can try to accept different ways of sorting the color palettes.After half a year of training, she can now normally learn the expressions of nouns and quantifiers. When she sees other children crying or sad, she will also show frowning and unhappy expressions, and she can have simple empathy. "

As he said that, Director Wang asked the child to do what he had just said to Pan Xihong with the help of the teacher. Pan Xihong seemed to see hope.She asked Director Wang again: "I see that many children's training in the teaching building is about physical fitness. Does this have anything to do with mental development?"

Director Wang said: "Of course the relationship is very important. Athletic ability and hands-on ability are the foundation of a person's survival in society. There are high scores and low abilities for geniuses, let alone us children with autism. Our most important training Instead of letting them learn how many characters to recognize, how many additions and subtractions, how many ancient poems they can recite, and what kind of difficult problems they can understand, our fundamental task is to train them to take care of themselves in life and some necessary social skills.

The most important point is to take them to explore the world together, let the children be interested in the world, and gradually they will fall in love with life, no matter what their mental intelligence develops in the future, they can take care of themselves in life, psychological Parents can spend this life happily in their own way, so parents can rest assured? "

In the past, if anyone looked forward to Xiaoxiao's future like Pan Xihong, she would definitely be furious, but at this moment, she hopes that God will show mercy, and she is willing to give everything for Xiaoxiao to have such a life.

Pan Xihong nodded: "Director Wang, the sooner the training, the better. We will bring the children here tomorrow. What do you think we need to do?"

Director Wang said: "Because the child is relatively young, a family member is still needed to accompany the training here. I know that you are a dual-income family, so you can arrange your own time."

Pan Xihong said: "I accompany the children to do training, and the children are closer to me."

Director Wang nodded: "The people who come to accompany the children to do training are basically mothers, and most of the mothers have quit their jobs to do this full-time for the better recovery of their children."

Xiaoxiao's rehabilitation training officially started at Pan Xinyi's professional school for children with autism. The whole family attaches great importance to and is nervous about it.Even Shang Yan, the young master who didn't help the oil pot when it was down, started to care about the little sister of the second aunt's family.

He asked his grandma: "Xiaoxiao looks much cuter than those little dolls in other people's homes. I think she will get better. If she is really different from other children in the future, don't worry, I will always protect her .”

Song Jiahui said: "Then you should study hard and become a capable man in the future. You will be successful in your career. You need money, money, and status. Only in this way can you have the ability to smile, otherwise, grandma will really die!"

Pan Guanlin said to his wife: "Why are you telling Xiaoyan this? Don't put such pressure on the child. If he has this kind of heart, he is already very good."

Shang Yan said: "Grandma, you can't be so skillful. If Xiaoxiao really needs special care in the future, it is definitely not a problem that money and rights can solve. She needs more love and companionship, and relatives who will never dislike her. What is the use of money? Buy a 24k big gold cage to lock up the little sister?"

Song Jiahui said: "You child, why don't you speak like that again?"

Pan Guanlin said: "What Xiaoyan said is not wrong at all. What Xiaoxiao needs most in the future is relatives, warmth, love and not being disgusted. You should quickly put away your way of thinking!"

Song Jiahui argued: "Where did I go wrong? If the conditions are not good, which family can accommodate Xiaoxiao? Shangyan can only have enough money and status, and the other half of the family will not bully Xiaoxiao, because she deters Xiaoxiao. Don’t dare to take the husband’s position as the head of the family!”

Pan Xihong said angrily: "Xiaoxiao will get better. Even if she never becomes an abnormal child, I will always be with her. When I die of old age, I will leave enough property for the child to let her Those who continue to take care of her will not neglect her because of money. Don't define my daughter as someone's burden now. She is not a burden, and she will be fine."

"Xihong, mom didn't mean that, don't worry too much!"

When a child in the family suffers from such an illness, the topic at home will suddenly become sad.Pan Xinyi encouraged everyone in a timely manner and told everyone about the successful cases she learned about.Only at this time, the faces of several generations of the Pan family will resurface with hopeful expressions, and they will become more dependent on Pan Xinyi.

Especially Pan Xihong, she has completely moved to her parents with Xiaoxiao, she learns from Pan Xinyi whenever she has time, and takes out her notebook to record at any time, and Pan Xinyi is also very patient, doing her best to help Xiaoxiao at home train.

She will guide Xiaoxiao to speak in a way, even if no one knows what the child wants to express, she will persevere.At home, I will also play the game of dividing beads with Xiaoxiao, and teach children to walk in a straight line, shoot a ball and skip rope
These seemingly simple things are actually quite difficult for a child who is closed in his own world.Pan Xinyi showed enough professionalism and patience to Xiaoxiao in Pan's house. When she was training her child to defecate independently, she was beaten all over by the child more than once, and even Song Jiahui and Pan Xihong couldn't stand it anymore.

Half a month has passed. Xiaoxiao has made significant progress in the treatment of Pan Xinyi in the special training school and after returning home. For example, her eyes will respond when she hears voices, and the movement ability of her calves and hands is also improving. It was this small progress that gave the entire Pan family infinite hope.

Because of the big age difference in the past, Pan Shengnan may not have had so much interaction and understanding with this little cousin, and the relationship between them is not as deep as that between Pan Xihong and Pan Xinyi, but because of Xiaoxiao, she also has a deep love for this little girl. full of gratitude.

At the end of the year, the bonus and double salary were paid, and Pan Shengnan bought Pan Xinyi a gold bracelet that is more popular at the moment.This kind of gift is suitable for all ages, just depending on the age and style, but even if there are more new styles in a few years, the old ones will not be outdated, and even if they are not worn, the value will not be discounted due to time issues.

Pan Xinyi resolutely refused: "Sister, don't you just treat me as an outsider? I'm an outside teacher, and I've helped the children more, so I still need you to give me gifts?"

Pan Shengnan said to Pan Xinyi: "I went to work earlier, and after my income increased to almost the same level, I bought gold bracelets, earrings and necklaces for your second sister. She didn't make any money and I even gave her beautiful clothes when she was just working. Buy it. Why did I buy a bracelet for my little sister and it turned into a gift?"

Pan Guanlin and Song Jiahui have always been full of praise for the eldest daughter's ability to do things. This girl has almost never dissatisfied them since she was a child.These days, they only think about Xiaoxiao's things, and they are grateful to Pan Xinyi in their hearts, but they can't estimate these things at all. The eldest daughter really put things into their hearts.

"Xinyi, it's almost Chinese New Year. Think of it as New Year's Eve to buy you new clothes and turn them into gold bracelets. If your eldest sister can buy it for your second sister, she can naturally buy it for you. Your second sister can want it, but you don't. It can be seen that you are an outsider."

Pan Xinyi has never had such expensive jewelry since she was a child. How can a girl refuse something golden and shiny?

"Then thank you, elder sister, uncle, and aunt." Pan Xinyi thought for a while and said, "Take it as the dowry you saved for me. Wish me all my wishes come true, and lovers will be married."

Pan Shengnan looked at Pan Xinyi, and when he heard these words, he suddenly remembered something and thought about it.

(End of this chapter)