Beidiao Workplace Illustrated Book

Chapter 331 Winter 2022 (2)

In 2022, how is your life in BJ?

At this time, I was sitting in a hotel in Nanning. It has been a week since I traveled from BJ to Guangxi last Thursday.

During this week, I went to Guilin, a city I wanted to visit but had never been to before.The mountains and rivers there are really beautiful, which makes people forget to return.But the only fly in the ointment is that with such a beautiful scenery, there is no one around you who can enjoy the scenery with you.

During this week, all my friends and colleagues in BJ were recruited without exception.I tried to help them buy some ibuprofen and other medicines in Nanning and Guilin and mail them there for emergency treatment, but I searched many pharmacies to no avail.

Fortunately, many of my friends endured it for four or five days, and then their fever subsided and they got better.They advised me one after another, you should stay in Guangxi, otherwise you will be recruited when you return to BJ.

Today, three years later, we have finally ushered in the era of national military exemption. This time it seems that each of us needs to experience it for ourselves, and then build a new Great Wall and go back to before 2020.

Because the business trip these days is indeed a bit of a rush, a bit up and down, so I have a lot of emotion in my heart. 2022 has passed in this way. My life in this year, especially in the second half of the year, the change of work and the repetition of service chaos have broken many of my plans at the beginning of the year and the first half of the year.In the second half of the year, to be honest, I didn't live the life I wanted at the beginning, but it just got there in a daze.

I have always hated the two words "lying flat" and "putting down badly". I think they describe people who are mediocre.But when you experience many things in person, you often know that this is involuntary, not our self-satisfaction and mediocrity.

During this year, I changed three jobs. In April, I switched from a small Internet education technology company to an Internet electronic signature company.I thought that changing industries would stimulate my new fighting spirit and potential in the workplace, so that I could learn a lot of new things and skills.But things didn’t work out as I wished, and I couldn’t do the job that required a certain technical background and the ability to deliver, deploy, and implement.After four months, I couldn't accept the company's request for a salary cut, so I resolutely chose to leave the company, then returned to my original circle, and worked as a pre-sales manager in a well-known Internet education technology company again.

Returning to the educational informatization circle that I have been engaged in for many years, I can get work and products at my fingertips, but I have not had much pleasure in the past half a year or so.Because these things are too familiar, too familiar, without the slightest sense of freshness and accomplishment.Even if I close my eyes, I can know the approximate life cycle of this product, this solution, and this business line.

As a friend once said, anyone who has worked in Xunfei Education BG for several years and comes out of it, you can overlook the entire education information industry.

A few days ago, I went to visit a customer with a salesperson. We drove from GL city at ten o'clock in the morning, and traveled for nearly three hours. It took me nearly three hours to return to downtown GL. When I returned to the hotel after dinner, it was already past 11 o’clock at night. I was on the road for the whole day. I didn’t have much sense of accomplishment in this job. I can't help but feel a little wasted.

Over the years, due to work reasons, I have been living such a life of wandering. I have been to 34 provinces in 30 provinces in China, and I have visited and read the capital cities of each province without exception. I felt it.So far, I have visited more than 110 prefecture-level cities.Perhaps in the eyes of others, how beautiful this is. You can see the mountains and rivers of the motherland, and envy this life that can earn money and travel.

We try to look decent, we try to prove that we are special.Three or four years ago, I also envied this kind of life, so I lived this kind of life.And to this day, I am extremely tired of this kind of life.We are all people who live in besieged cities, from one besieged city to another, bowing for five buckets of rice, compromising with reality, saying things that are not sincere, and doing things that go against our will.

I talked a lot with the salesman on the way to visit customers. This salesman had started his own business before, had successes, and also failed.But the dream and spark of entrepreneurship in his heart has not been extinguished because of this. Given time, when the time is right, he will still take the road of entrepreneurship again, because he is unwilling to be mediocre, and he is unwilling to live such a step-by-step job that can be seen at a glance.

The salesman said to me: Mr. Liu, we feel that the post-90s generation is under a lot of pressure. We have to raise children, work, and realize our dreams. We are under too much pressure to find a balance between work and family life. The options are many, but so are the constraints.

I didn't take it seriously after hearing this: Don't say that we are under a lot of pressure after 90, every generation has the pressure of every generation, is there no pressure after 80? Were people in the 70s, 60s, 50s not stressed?
After hearing this, the salesman nodded in approval: Yes, there was no choice in that era. There are many choices in this era, but many choices are not what I want.

I completely understand the feeling of sales: you have started your own business, been a boss, and experienced the ups and downs of life.This is like the eagle once flew in the blue sky, overlooking the magnificence of mountains and rivers, its ambition will never allow it to stop in a small valley.But people’s choices are often involuntary. You have to make a transition in this small valley now. If it’s a dragon, you have to coil up, or if it’s a tiger, you have to lie down. Now you just need to wait for an opportunity.

The salesman clapped his hands and praised: Yes, I am just waiting for an opportunity. When my child is older and my family has more savings, I can let go of my hands and feet and work hard.

After chatting with the salesman, I couldn't help but think to myself, all the empathy is actually a personal experience in the past, so why am I not him now?During the past six months, I often asked myself, why?Why did you choose this job, a job where you don't like frequent business trips?This industry that I have long been tired of?But in retrospect now, the actual situation at the time, the reality was forced to that point, and I had to choose this way.

We laugh at the choices made by the predecessors, just like Li Hongzhang and other important officials in the late Qing Dynasty who signed the "Treaty of Shimonoseki" and "Treaty of Xin Chou".But if we go back to that era, sit on that chair, and shoulder that burden, I am afraid the end will be the same.People's choices are often limited, limited to the environment you were in at that time, and the pros and cons at that time were weighed, and then you will make a more suitable choice, at least at the time.If Li Hongzhang and others did not sign those treaties, they would face the destruction of the country and genocide.

So you don't have to worry about why you made such a choice in the first place, and you don't have to regret a certain choice you made, let alone think that it would have been better if you had chosen that way at the beginning.But the choice you made after careful consideration at the beginning was the choice that was most suitable for you at the beginning. Even now, it seems that that choice is not very good, and it did not meet your wishes.But it doesn't matter, you can choose again now, you can recharge your energy, and you can transition to precipitation.Then wait for the opportunity, you have to spend your time and energy on the next new choice.

Because people have to look forward and move forward.Because if you don't have a better choice than the present, stay with the status quo.

There are only a dozen days left in the year of 2022, and the choices you can make for work, family, life, and dreams in this year have almost disappeared.But in this year, how meaningful and valuable are your choices to your life this year and even your life or dreams in the next few years? You have to think carefully about whether those choices have made you live your life. You have to reflect on the life you want to live.

Do you want to continue to maintain the status quo in the new year, or linger on and get by.Or let go of layers of baggage, let go of those so-called pressures, constraints, fetters, go to Nirvana and rebirth, go soaring to the sky, and let yourself live a little more freely, you have to weigh and consider carefully.It's really difficult to choose between giving and receiving.The important criteria to measure the choice of direction are your inner dreams and love. No matter which choice you choose, there is no right or wrong, only whether you love it or not, and whether it is what you want in your heart.

After all, the new 2023 is coming soon, do you want to repeat the same old path?It is still a lesson learned from the past, to walk a road that I want to walk but have not walked.To spend a year, desperately spend a year of time, energy, and throw away those possessions that are now at your fingertips, to change the life that I have lived enough for a few years or even a dozen years.Push yourself to see what kind of person you can be, how much potential you have, and what kind of life you deserve.

In 2023, set a goal for yourself, make a plan, and live a good life for yourself.

Liu Haifeng

Friday, August 2022, 12
Yu Nanning

(End of this chapter)