Beidiao Workplace Illustrated Book

Chapter 330 Winter 2022 (1)
What have you experienced in the past three years? What about 2023?

In February 2020, my colleagues and I were on a business trip in Chengdu.When I returned to BJ from Chengdu, a girl suddenly called me and asked me to wear a mask and protect myself.I vaguely felt something. A week later, Wuhan was on fire, and China's Anti-Japanese War completely started.

This battle lasted nearly 3 years.

In the past 3 years, the colleague who was on a business trip with me at the beginning, we have already changed different companies and jobs, we have fought side by side for many days and nights, we have worked on tens of millions of projects together, in 3 years In the past, we only met two sides, and now, we have less and less contact with each other.

BJ is such a city. When we were colleagues, we would have many intersections, but we had to leave the same company, and we had to fall apart.

And the girl who called me at the beginning, we don't have any contact information.

In the past three years, I have changed several jobs, and the colleagues and friends around me have also left wave after wave. There are very few people who can stay with me and continue to accompany me.As I grow older, three years ago, at the age of 27, I lived a carefree life like a child. I was busy with work and business trips all over the country, and I was even able to quit my job naked and travel far away alone.At that time, I didn't have any pressure in my heart, because I didn't have too many desires for life, and my material and spiritual pursuits were very simple and easily satisfied, so I lived happily.

And now, three years later, I will be exactly 30 years old. If I use the age calculation method in my hometown, I will be 31 years old.After going around for three years, I feel more and more that the city of BJ has lost the temperature I loved at the beginning. Maybe I have become cold, so I prefer to find a place for my escape and compromise. Excuse.

In the past three years, we have always looked forward to a better tomorrow and an early end, but what awaits us is repeated repetitions, various troubles in travel, disruption of the normal social order, and unhappiness in the heart. The sense of security has increased again and again, because we want to find a pure land and return to before 2020 overnight.

I want to ask you, what have you experienced in the past three years?
Have you harvested a love from love to marriage?Three years ago, if you were in a relationship, is that person still by your side now?If I'm still by your side, it's time to get married.If you are in love with each other, you are not too young, and you have been in a relationship for three years and you are still not married, then you may have some problems to some extent.You should think about it, in the next 2023, do you want to continue this relationship? Should you part ways and go your own way, or get married and stay with you for the rest of your life?
The older you get, the lonelier you are.A few days ago, I had dinner with some friends, one of whom was female, 40 years old, single.My friend is very good. With more than ten years of hard work, I have a house and a car in BJ. He is a workaholic with an independent personality and three views.After a few glasses of wine, he told his blind date history one by one. There was a man ten years older than him, bald, a government official, and divorced.How to show off her real estate, car property, and personal connections in front of her.In the end, directly control her thoughts, let her resign to be a housewife or take a more leisurely public office.The friend refused on the spot and sneered at the 50-year-old man.

She finally cursed: Damn, I can accept someone who is ten years older than me, and I can accept someone who is divorced and widowed, but I can't accept you wanting to control my life.

A few words from a friend resonated with another friend, who was a single mother: When I was in college, a tutor from our school chased me. He was also divorced and ten years older than me. I showed how many houses he owned, how much he paid for a month, how much he paid for an hour of class, and how he would support me in the future.I just laughed.Damn, you have mountains of gold and silver, what does it have to do with my mother?
I thought about it after hearing it, maybe those men’s words are just their usual tricks to pick up girls, maybe in their view, it’s their way of expression and masculinity that they sincerely pursue themselves, but the words come from different people’s mouths , the taste changed.

The awesomeness you boasted back then, the routines you used to pursue girls, the detours you took in your relationship back then, what’s more, your past efforts or efforts, past expectations and companionship.Now, it has become a joke of others after they are full of wine and food.People who tell jokes are ridiculous, but I think people who tell jokes are also ridiculous, and people who listen to jokes are actually even more ridiculous.

Some people sitting together is a joke in itself.

I drank the wine in my glass and went to the toilet. The water in the toilet rippled and a face flickered.

After peeing, you can see yourself clearly.

Have you achieved self-fulfillment at work?A few days ago, a colleague from my previous company was laid off. He was the last one among our group of employees.A year ago, we all knew that this company was dying, and there was no hope in sight. Everyone was looking for a way out, and only that colleague stayed. The standard is based on the value of employees, so when a company is struggling to make ends meet, layoffs will be merciless.

Thinking about the past three years, my job and my workplace have been worse year after year. I have changed from a listed company to a small company, and then from a small company to a large company. I have tried in all walks of life. I have always wanted to find a job. , can keep me busy and give me a sense of accomplishment and belonging in my work, but after three years, I still haven’t found a job that can fill me with fighting spirit, and I still feel that I have no value in my work sense, no sense of accomplishment.

Is it a job?Is it because of the general environment caused by the three-year chaos?In fact, in the final analysis, I still can't do it, I can't do it, my passion for work and the company when I just graduated has been exhausted, my love for work, and even more love for life, has been beaten by wind, frost and rain in the past three years. Snow devastated exhausted.

I used to think how good I was as a pre-sales manager. I felt that my comprehensive ability was better than others, and I thought I was young and frivolous.A few days ago, I posted an article I wrote two years ago on the Internet, writing about my work history and my various experiences in Xunfei, and a large number of netizens commented on it, two of which pierced my heart, one Yes: There is arrogance between the lines.One is: After reading the work resume, I feel that my ability is average, but I feel that I am great.

Two years ago, the article I wrote was so arrogant, like a great man berating Fang Qiu.Since I have worked in three listed companies, and I have led tens of millions of projects, I feel how powerful I am. However, three years later, a few months ago, when I went to interview companies, when I I switched to the industry I wanted to work in but found that I had many shortcomings. When I passed the first and retests with high expectations, but finally failed to get the off as I wished, I realized at that moment that I had always overestimated myself. Own.

For a long time, because I wrote novels and songs, my colleagues and friends around me always praised me, and I always felt that I was different and wanted to stand out.But the fact is that other people's expectations and judgments of you are often lower than your actual ability. It is others who overestimate my value and ability, so I have been living in an unrealistic dream.Today, three years later, I have hit the wall in many places, I have suffered several setbacks, I am still unsatisfactory in my work, I still haven't found the sense of accomplishment I longed for, and I still haven't realized myself.

Today, three years later, I re-examined my ability to work, began to recognize myself, and began to think.

Should I continue to work step by step like this?What does this job mean to me?Is it to make money, or to realize self-worth?
Has your original dream come true now? In June 2015, I graduated from university and came to BJ. What was my dream at that time?It is to study music and arrange music. My dream is to become a singer, or a professional music producer who composes and composes music.Then, from a singer to a media, the media includes a lot, as an actor, as a choreographer, as a director, or as a screenwriter, a writer, I hope that my thoughts and literary talents can have an artistic carrier, which can make more More people can see it, or there is a stage big enough to let me show my soul to the fullest.

From 2015 to 2019, in these four years, I wrote a few songs and posted them on the Internet, and I also wrote a few novels, but they were all my own stories. Writing songs, singing, and writing novels seemed to have come true Dream, but in the past four years, I have actually made more money, and I have indeed made some money in the past four years. With this money, I have achieved the satisfaction and compliance of the material basis, but compared with being rich and expensive, My so-called standard is just to solve the problem of food and clothing.I can think about lust only when I have enough food and clothing, but I didn’t think about lust, but I thought, has my dream of coming to BJ come true?How should the so-called degree of realization be measured? Is there a standard?
In fact, I have standards in my heart, and it is precisely the standards that have become clearer and clearer. Therefore, in the past three years of the epidemic, I have made many attempts to meet the standards in my heart.But in the past three years, every attempt I made ended in failure. I hit a bad nose, and I hit the south wall many times.

Even if there are many gullies and ravines on the way to realize my dream, I will go over mountains and ridges.

In the past three years, I have seen many people of the same age have realized their dreams, and some of them have started their own businesses and made some achievements.Some returned to their hometowns from big cities and started their own businesses.Some rely on the rise of short videos to find a stage to bloom.

The city outside is very big, and you will only find out after going around that the best place to realize your dreams may be your hometown.

In the past three years, many people have left the big cities and returned to their hometowns. In fact, in the final analysis, they are tired of working outside, tired of the neon lights of the city and the seemingly endless wandering.When I was young, I was exhausted. After I was in my 30s, I thought about how to live a better life. Only by managing my life well and managing myself well is my biggest dream.

2022 is coming to the end of the year. Looking back on the past year alone, if you reap a love or marriage, this year will not be wasted.If you have achieved achievements and gains at work or earned enough money, you will not waste this year.If some of my dreams and wishes are realized, this year will not be in vain.How many of these three things have you harvested this year?As long as you harvest one of them, your work will not be in vain this year.

But for me this year, I figured out a truth and figured out a lot of things.Thinking from three years ago to the present, and from now to the future, I may have experienced many things in these three years, but looking back, they are all insignificant.Because no matter what it is, it is a stepping stone on your way to grow and become better. Some truths may be figured out overnight, some decisions may take ten days and a half months, and some dreams may take ten or eight years.

Didn't the three years come all the same?Aren't we still alive and well? In 2023, no matter what, what else will our lives go through?If you can figure out a few things, that's enough!
Liu Haifeng

Sunday, March 2022, 11
Yu BJ
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