Married can split room

Chapter 178 What happens if we don’t get married?

Chen Youzhou's status in the family may not be as good as that of a cat. When he thinks of the cat, he suddenly thinks of Fa Gao. He has been gone for many years.

The days are passing by day by day, and Chen Youzhou cherishes the time now. As for his family status, he actually asked for it.

Men have low family status, which just reflects the love and affection for other family members. Because they care, they bow their knees.

It was late at night.

Chen Youzhou and Tao Fushu talked about what Chen Fucha told him during the day that he didn't want to go to the State Administration, and wanted to give up the only place to other people.

"How did you tell her?" Tao Fushu asked. If her daughter asked her, she would resolutely let her daughter seize the opportunity. Many things are not a question of giving or not, but a question of her own strength.

A truly capable person may be buried for a few years due to opportunities, but one day he will shine. In this era, talents will not be buried.

"I asked her to cherish opportunities." Chen Youzhou said, "She is still young and doesn't understand the importance of opportunities. She will understand when she gets older."

"I think so too, but a child is a child after all, and it's normal for her to have her own ideas." Tao Fushu stretched, "Fu Cha is fairly obedient, but Qian Qian is even more worrying. Now we have another I want one."

Tao Fushu's belly is already somewhat visible. Fortunately, she has given birth once, so she has experience.

But there are still many things that worry her, the more lively and intelligent children are, the more worrying they are.

"There's still me here." Chen Youzhou volunteered, "From now on, your responsibility will be to educate your children, and I will be responsible for earning money to support the family."

The family life that many women long for is one in which the woman is responsible for looking beautiful and the man is responsible for making money and supporting the family.

But men are different. What men pursue is nothing more than returning home late at night, their wives cooking meals, and their children being obedient and cute.

However, with the exaggeration of capitalism, the prevalence of consumerism, money worship and hedonism have distorted many female values ​​​​that are already easily assimilated.

A woman who dreams of having enough food and clothing at home and relying on a man working hard outside is simply unfounded.

The family model like Chen Youzhou and Tao Fushu is the best, sweet and stable.

Although Chen Youzhou wanted to do something big from time to time, he always chose to keep to himself under Tao Fushu's advice. Her knowledge surpassed his, and she could always take a longer-term view than Chen Youzhou.

Tao Fushu allowed Chen Youzhou to forge ahead, but not now.

A man with a successful career cannot afford to lose, because his family needs him. This is why many rich people are unwilling to live in an ignoble existence after going bankrupt, and instead choose to jump off the building.

What Tao Fushu told Chen Youzhou was that when the children all got married and started a business, it would be time for him to show off his talents and have a twilight dream.

At this stage, Chen Youzhou must not confine his thoughts and ambitions. This is what married people are like. Even if they have no choice but to think about their family, they will always swallow their anger.

Family and career are definitely in conflict.

Especially when you are young, when you have nothing, you must work as hard as anyone else. Wait until you have the ability to be independent, then you can choose the person you like.

In this model, the family is stable and harmonious in all aspects.

Tao Fushu's contribution to the family is far greater than that of Chen Youzhou. Fortunately, her career is more traditional and she can spend more time and energy on caring for her husband and raising children.

Chen Youzhou almost didn't worry about anything he needed to add to his home or buy any daily necessities. Tao Fushu was a particularly virtuous person.

been married for so long.

Only then did Chen Youzhou realize how naive his requirements for finding a partner were when he was young. The first was good looks, the second was long legs, and the third was good at acting like a baby. Such girls were only suitable for dating, not for living at all.

The ones who are truly suitable for life are girls like Tao Fushu who have a very legitimate career, a cheerful and lively personality, stable emotions, and put their family first.

The premise is that when she was in her prime, she was young and beautiful and her eyes were full of shit.

"Thank you for your hard work, good husband." Tao Fushu coquettishly coquettishly put her head on his shoulder, "Can I ask you a question?"

"What's the problem?" Chen Youzhou was confused.

"Many people say that marriage is a besieged city. People inside want to get out, and people outside want to come in. Regardless of whether you get married or not, you will regret it. Do you regret getting married?" Tao Fushu took a precaution, "Discussing ideals does not mean that I Any little thoughts."

Chen Youzhou is such a smart person. After all these years, how could he not understand Tao Fushu?
Although she said she didn't mean anything, if his answer was regret, she would definitely be unhappy. This is human nature.

"I don't regret it at all." Chen Youzhou raised his head and looked at the ceiling, as if he had returned to his youth. He opened the door of the shared house in despair, preparing to sleep one night and leave the dark city of Jiangdu.

He spoke, "If I hadn't gotten married, I could imagine my future life. Before the age of 30, I would be full of energy and find an interesting movie to help me sleep every day."

Tao Fushu rolled her eyes at him and said, "Be more serious."

"I'm very serious. It's true that men are animals that think in the lower body. Maybe my soul will be very clean and pure, but it will still be influenced by animal instincts, and no one can escape."

"Then what?" Tao Fushu asked.

"That's after I turned 30. If I hadn't gotten married, I would definitely be in my hometown. I would stay in my house every day and not want to go out. I would play games and read anime or novels. My life would be good or bad." Chen Youzhou could predict a lot. "The most anxious thing is your parents. They ask you to go out to find a date every day, and ask someone to find you a blind date for you to meet."

Tao Fushu smiled, "It's hard to meet the right one. Blind dates can only be a makeshift."

"But the fate of most people is like this. The person you meet on a blind date may not be worse than the one you met. The main thing is that the kind of person you are will determine the kind of person you meet. If you don't work hard, the matchmaker will introduce you to you. Most of them are married and have two children.”

"I would rather be single than go on a blind date." Tao Fushu was determined, "What happens next?"

"Later?" Chen Youzhou pinched the face of the person in his arms, "In order not to disappoint my parents, I basically went on every blind date. , chatted a few words with each other, and finally added WeChat, each paid half of the meal money and left."

Tao Fushu felt very interesting listening to it. He blinked his bright eyes and just listened to him telling a story, "Keep going."

"When I get home, my parents ask me how we were talking. I don't care. No matter what the other person is like, since my parents want me to start a family, then I will do it. I just treat it as completing the task. But every time I take the initiative to send a message to my blind date, she always It was just a matter of indifference, so I gradually didn’t want to post it anymore.”

"We won't beg her." Tao Fushu said angrily, "The next one will be better."

"That's what I said, but my parents still ask how the conversation went every day. I said she ignored me, but my parents said that I am a boy and I should take the initiative, otherwise there would be no story."

"I laughed so hard." Tao Fushu couldn't help but shook his head, "It's so funny."

"It went on like this until I was 35 years old. I had been on blind dates dozens of times, if not hundreds. My parents no longer urged me to find a partner, and people around me no longer introduced me to a partner. I had a lot of time, and a little money on hand, and bought a car. Traveling in an RV.”

"So cool?" Tao Fushu was shocked.

"Unmarried life begins at the age of 35. At this time, you are strong, have money in your hands, don't have any burdens, and your parents are looking away. You can go wherever you want."

Tao Fushu fell into thinking. It was fine when they were not married, but when they were about 30 years old, they were almost fixed and always dominated by their children.

Thinking about it now, getting married or not getting married really brings its own pain, but Tao Fushu is a person who can figure out the underlying logic. People can't just play casually for the rest of their lives, right?
"What happened next?" she was curious.

"People get tired of playing. When you are about 40 years old, almost all the people who should get married are married, and you can't find anyone if you want to drink. You talk about freedom, but your friends talk about milk powder and diapers. You will find that... The people around you don’t fit in, and at this time, you find that the circle is different.”

"There are so many unmarried people living alone." Tao Fushu said, "Then find people who live alone and do meaningful things together."

"It's hard to cultivate interest and find a group of people anymore, but this stage is carefree. You can eat, drink, sleep when you want, and do whatever you want. It's the happiest period of time, until one day , parents left."

"What will happen?" Tao Fushu became nervous.

"The most regretful time comes when you take your parents away. At this time, you are not too young, because you were used to being chic when you were young, and you can stay up all night as you want. If something goes wrong, I can only lie in bed with no one to talk to."

"How miserable!"

"It's not too bad. It's the end of the year, and every household has put up lights and colorful decorations to welcome the New Year. When you hear that the grandson of Lao Wangtou next door is born, you realize that Lao Wangtou, who you looked down upon when you were young, is now letting you You are extremely envious."

Just hearing these joys and sorrows makes people feel painful. Tao Fushu hugged Chen Youzhou tightly.

"Do you still want to talk?" Chen Youzhou asked.

"Speak." Tao Fushu dared to dare.

"A few years later, your health got better. When you saw the colorful flowers and green willows in the outside world, you wanted to go out for a walk, but your weak body simply did not allow you to travel far. At this time, you envied Lao Wangtou who had a grandson even more. At this age , you also understand the meaning of life."

"What is it?"

"Experience, people live to experience the flowering and fruiting of all things, and to feel the difference in nature. At this time, you find that you have never experienced the feeling of being cared about by others, and there is no one cared about in your heart, just like a floating reed. Once you blow it, it pours.”

"As for the pursuit of life, I don't think it is necessary to follow a fixed template. If you are not married, you will have the idea of ​​​​not getting married, and if you are married, you will have the idea of ​​​​getting married. This is your typical view of unmarried people after getting married."

Tao Fushu is a kind person. She is much more tolerant than Chen Youzhou. "If everyone doesn't get married, does getting married become an alien? Why don't many outstanding people get married? I think people think differently. It’s good to be different, and it’s precisely because people are different that the world is so colorful.”

This is an unimaginable insight for a man of science. Tao Fushu is really good, she seems to be extremely tolerant to everyone.

"What's this called?" Chen Youzhou asked.

"Diversity."

Oh, how different the world is!
"..."

Chen Youzhou thinks that another greater benefit of getting married is that he can have someone to talk to, talk about life and ideals, which is very good.

Humans are still social animals, and they still need to communicate more, especially after they grow up and have a fixed circle.

"Teacher Tao, what if you don't get married?" Chen Youzhou became curious.

Men and women are different in every aspect of their physical structure.

Chen Youzhou's unmarried life consists of games, novels, travel, barbecues and beer. At least he doesn't understand the unmarried life of a woman.

"Let me think about it." Tao Fushu blinked and began to think about what she was like when she was young. "Then I will start from the age of 30. By this time, I must have been the work supervisor. But without family reasons, seeing other When a female teacher is picked up after work and posts sweet messages on her WeChat friends, I will get particularly jealous and vent my dissatisfaction with life on the students, so the students give me the nickname Tao Tiger."

"Pfft." Chen Youzhou laughed like crazy. He smiled and remembered a female teacher who taught English in junior high school. She had a straight face and a bad temper all day long. "I seem to have a substitute female teacher."

"When I was 30 to 35 years old, my parents and people around me introduced me to many people, but they always seemed to be much worse than the Chen Youzhou I liked when I was young. I thought, I'd rather wait and see."

"Why did you mention me all of a sudden." Chen Youzhou smiled, "Not everyone is as good as me. If you miss it, it will be a lifetime."

"Anyway, I just feel that the people I meet at 30 are much worse than the people I met at 20. Maybe it has something to do with my mentality at the time. As I kept putting it off, others thought I had too high standards, so no one cared about me."

"What happened next?" Chen Youzhou was also curious.

"Without family factors, I put all my energy into teaching and educating people. Even though the students didn't like me and thought I was strict, their grades rose quickly and I lived a very fulfilling life."

"Looking at it this way, it's still a good career."

"But no matter how much you like a profession, there will always be a day when you are tired and slack. When you reach 40 years old, it seems that you can't cheer up for anything. Only when you see a handsome boy and think of the people in the past will your soul be awakened. But once Thinking that I am already over 40, I can only regret that I did not catch the man I liked when I was young."

"It's true!" Chen Youzhou laughed to death, "Keep talking."

"At the age of 50, there are still a few years left to retire. I have been gritting my teeth and persisting. Apart from work, there is work. The most painful thing is to be idle. Once I am idle, my heart is empty and I have no spiritual support."

"Can you do other things in your free time?"

"I didn't expect that you men can play games, read novels, and watch anime for the rest of your life, but for us women, it's impossible."

"..."

(End of this chapter)