People in the Ming Dynasty are lawless

Chapter 695: Those women who are not destined to be princesses but have princess syndrome are very hateful

After Chen Han's advice, Zhu Youwei immediately felt that everything in front of her eyes became clear. There were many things that she couldn't figure out before, but now she could figure them out.

Because she had always wanted to expand the women's college, not just next to the Daming Engineering College. Everyone just gathered together to chat, talk about everything, and then read some poetry, books and etiquette.

Similarly, all women should be able to come to the Women's College of Daming Engineering College to study, learn to read and understand.

However, what they didn't expect was that the female students in the women's college next to Daming Engineering College felt that this statement was a little impossible after hearing Zhu Youwei's statement. Although they couldn't explain it at the time, they just felt that this matter was not that simple.

At that time, Zhu Youwei felt a little unconvinced after hearing these words, thinking that as the daughter of a prince, couldn't she do something like this? Could it be that she didn't even have this much decisiveness and ability?

But later on, she felt that this matter was indeed difficult. She originally thought that as long as she talked to her husband, her husband would support her and would definitely give her a better execution plan.

However, she didn't expect that after hearing her idea, her husband also thought it was a bit naive, and even felt that what she said was unrealistic.

Originally, she wanted to debate with her husband, but she didn't expect that after her husband finished speaking, she felt that what her husband said was indeed right. Such a plan was impossible to achieve and would only cause a joke even if it was forced to be implemented.

At first she thought that her husband might want her, as a woman, to spend her whole life as a wife and mother. Now that she has a son, he wants her to stay at home and take care of him for the rest of his life so that he can feel more at ease outside without any worries.

But after listening to her husband's analysis, she felt that she really thought too much sometimes and it was not because of this reason at all.

It turns out that all this is because the current economic foundation of the Ming Dynasty simply cannot allow these women to make so many demands one by one.

Because the Ming Dynasty had not yet reached a point where women could independently earn money with their skills.

If even the economic foundation cannot be guaranteed, then where does the status of women come from?

Is it just because she wants to be independent in personality and economic foundation and rely on men? This kind of independence is really ridiculous, because it is not only not independence, but also a very selfish behavior.

Through this conversation with Zhu Youwei, Chen Han could actually understand where modern men's complaints about some women come from.

My wife, so she doesn’t have that kind of idea. In fact, her idea is quite advanced. After all, not every woman can think about this problem independently like her.

Of course, this may be because she was born in the royal family and did not need to worry about the daily necessities of life, so she had more time to read the books she liked, which could better arm her mind, so she could think of more.

But one thing must be admitted, even some women with similar conditions as her do not have the same idea as her.

However, many modern women are shouting that they want to be independent, they all feel that they are misunderstood by some men, and they all think they are very capable.

But once they start doing things, these people immediately reveal their very disgusting side.

That is, they never talk about their responsibilities, never think about what obligations they should fulfill, and there are many women who only think about demanding rights.

Some of them even have slogans, that is, they think that since they are women, shouldn't men be the ones to earn money to support the family? Shouldn't men get more money to justify their status as men? Should we women do the same work as men?

When they say this, they actually don't think about one problem at all. Since you think men should earn more, since you think men must serve you, then you should understand that since I am outside making money to support the family, I must be nice to me when I come back, and I must keep the family in order.

But these women don’t think so. They think that you have to make money outside to support the family, and then take care of all the housework at home when you come back, so that you can be considered a good man.

As for me, I have to be a delicate pig girl and never get involved in women's affairs.

It is under the influence of this distorted value system that many women feel that they are born princesses. Even if they are not destined to be princesses, they have princess syndrome.

Under the influence of some self-media and public opinion, these women even think that they are right to think so, because we are naturally more advantageous than you men in the competitive market. After all, there are many more men than women, so we are in high demand in the marriage market.

But they never think about the fact that this phenomenon occurs not because of the real situation, but because capital wants you to know these things.

After all, if capital wants to harvest a man's wallet, it must accurately find some of her ideas. But men are more rational and their demands for material things are not that high.

It is difficult for capital to reap men.

But it is too easy for capital to harvest women. Women are naturally more emotional and they are more likely to pay money for emotional value. So a nice bag, a compliment from others, the envy of others, a nice hairstyle, and nice nails can make them feel beautiful all day long.

Therefore, under the sugar-coated bullets of capital, the thoughts and values ​​of many women began to be distorted, and they no longer thought about how to strive to realize their personal values.

But they are always immersed in chicken soup and sugar-coated bullets, always thinking that as long as they are women, there will be countless men wanting to pursue them.

They don't even have to worry about not being able to get married. Even if they are already in their thirties, even if they are old and decrepit, they still believe that there will always be someone to take them over.

Wrapped in this information cocoon, they will never be exposed to truly sharp judgments.

They can't even stand any negative comments about them. Once they hear such comments, the man is a subordinate. Under the packaging of this system, they always feel that they are superior. No matter what stage they are in, they feel that they should be tolerated by everyone.

In comparison, even though his wife lived in the Ming Dynasty, the ideas at that time were actually more advanced, because his wife never thought that a woman must rely on a man for support.

Zhu Youwei has always emphasized to him that even though she is now a royal woman, she does not want to be bound by the royal identity. However, her husband is in the royal family and does not need to worry about food, clothing, housing, transportation, and transportation like ordinary people, which is a convenience brought to her by the royal family.

Therefore, she neither rejected the convenience of being a royal family nor would she give it up. She was very clear that she had earned all her current income through her own efforts. Because she did not need to take care of the daily necessities, she saved time to gradually read and learn to read, which was enough for her to understand the truth.

This is something that ordinary women cannot possess, so she has always wanted to establish a women's college, mainly to help women in the world understand the truth.

She has seen that some women are too dependent on men, and at the same time, they complain because men cannot earn so much money all at once to support their families.

The profound idea is very simple. The reason for wanting those women to understand things is that since you are marrying an ordinary man, you cannot ask your man to make money as quickly as high-ranking officials and nobles. You should work hard with him.

Either you live in poverty with him and stay with him for the rest of your life.

Or you can fight for the life you want in the future. People's struggle cannot be asked only from others, but must come from self-practice.

This was his thought after the injury, so Chen Han always felt that his wife was a very sensible person. She knew very well where her strengths and weaknesses lay.

This is why Chen Han always felt that his wife was someone with whom he could struggle together, and that his wife could help him in many ways and could even counsel him on more psychological levels.

The two people also have common language. For example, Chen Han is very supportive of his wife when it comes to establishing women's colleges. However, when his wife talks about popularizing women's colleges, Chen Han raises objections.

Because the way two people get along with each other is definitely not one party's unconditional and unlimited tolerance, but having their own ideas.

This is also why the two people can get along so harmoniously, because both of them are very active in cooperating with each other while also maintaining their independent personalities.

If a couple wants to achieve true harmony, it does not mean that one party tolerates the other party without limits, but that the two can cooperate fully where they can, and can tolerate each other's different opinions when they disagree.

This is the basis of harmonious relationship between husband and wife.

This is the case with Chen Han and Zhu Youwei. Both of them are people who are very rich on the spiritual level and are definitely not mediocre and vulgar people.

It is precisely because of this that the two people can reach a consensus on many issues and can also face various difficulties together.

Just like now Chen Han directly pointed out that his wife’s overly optimistic attitude in the process of building the women’s college shows that Chen Han is definitely not blindly confirming that everything his wife says is right.

After the two finished talking about business, Chen Han held his wife's hand and said affectionately: "My wife, your greatest strength is that you listen to opinions."

Zhu Youwei also held her husband's hand. Even though there were servants around, she didn't think too much about it because the two of them were deeply in love at this time. The harmonious way they got along with each other also made the servants around admire and envy them.

After all, there were very few men in the Ming Dynasty who respected their wives' ideas so much.

Even those male servants have been under the influence of Chen Han and Zhu Youwei for such a long time, but they can be submissive when serving others, but once they return to their own little nest and face their wives and children, they all hope to act like masters.

This kind of compensation effect has happened to many servants. Because of this, many servants are very envious of the harmonious relationship between Chen Han and Zhu Youwei.

But even though they saw how Chen Han and Zhu Youwei got along with each other, they found it very difficult when they actually tried to do it. Not everyone is so tolerant, and not everyone is as spiritually rich as Chen Han and Zhu Youwei.

Zhu Youwei was a little surprised after hearing what Chen Han said: "Husband, shouldn't a wife understand her husband? Shouldn't a wife listen to her husband's opinions and then make corrections? I think this is normal."

Chen Han held her hand and said, “Many people think it’s normal, but for ordinary couples, it would feel a little awkward.

"It's because some women always think that they have a hard time doing housework. It would be fine if you didn't praise me, but you actually raised objections. Since you have objections, you can just do it yourself. That's how they think."

The reason why Chen Han felt that his wife's character was very rare was that she had a clear understanding of the division of responsibilities.

Just like the relationship between ruler and subject, father and son, the essence of which was actually to make everyone understand what their responsibilities are, but it was later misinterpreted by many people as a measure of oppression.

My wife knows very well what role she should play. That is, she will not interrupt when I am not allowed to speak, and she will never keep silent when she should speak.

This thing actually looks easy, but it is very difficult to do. After all, human nature is not willing to accept critical opinions from others.

On the contrary, they particularly like to hear words of praise. This is why many leaders like others to flatter them. Even if they know that others are flattering them, they really enjoy the feeling of being praised.

But in this small family of theirs, the lifestyle of the two of them determines that they will not do such blindly confident things. For example, Zhu Youwei will not think that what he says must be right. He will think from Chen Han's perspective...

(End of this chapter)