People in the Ming Dynasty are lawless

Chapter 696: Old Zhu's health is getting worse

This may be the real difference. It is equivalent to the fact that Chen Han and Zhu Youwei at this time have never believed in the so-called correct things. In their lives, they have always felt that anyone who says that what I say is correct must be nonsense and must not conform to the facts. Both of them have this dialectical method of argumentation.

It is precisely because the two people can reach an agreement on this basis that no matter what problems they encounter now, they can discuss them together, and there will never be a situation where Chen Han says, "I am a modern person, and I am six hundred years ahead of you in knowledge, so I definitely know more than you people from the Ming Dynasty."

Zhu Youwei would not rely on the fact that she grew up in the palace. That is to say, the knowledge I have gained and the things I have seen are more than those ordinary people living at the bottom of society in modern times.

The two of them are more like the kind of people who tolerate each other, learn from each other, and give each other a greater sense of beauty. They will never require the other party to obey what they know just because they know a certain aspect better than the other person.

This way of getting along is normal, or it is a way that makes everyone feel particularly happy. It allows you to communicate with you in a relaxed manner in any situation. This is what Chen Han pursues.

Zhu Youwei was indeed able to give him this feeling, and in many cases she could immediately and accurately know what her husband really needed, and knew how to give him more help under such circumstances, instead of asking him to explain to her more details about the Ming Dynasty in many aspects.

This is how those two people get along, and in many cases they form a mutually complementary relationship.

Under such conditions, two people can get along with each other and solve many problems in the shortest time possible. This is what both people want.

It is precisely because of this that the way the two of them get along now is envied by many people, even the servants living around them cannot do it.

From this we can draw a very sharp conclusion, that is, in fact not many people can get a lot of information about the rhythm of growth in a subtle way.

Because most people can't do it. I want to be polite. I want the other party to understand what I mean. Similarly, even if the other party doesn't understand, I won't get angry.

This is because human nature is to hope that others can understand themselves, and they do not need to understand others because people are selfish creatures.

Therefore, more often than not, we emphasize our own feelings rather than the feelings of others. This is why many people say that being able to understand the feelings of others is a strong talent.

Why do so many people now criticize those born in the 00s for not knowing how to understand other people’s feelings?
At the same time, why do we also criticize them for sometimes not understanding the ways of the world?
This is just like the post-00s criticizing those older than them and emphasizing the ways of the world.

Because young people always think that social etiquette is what is called flattery.

The ways of the world are what we call scheming and taking shortcuts.

But they simply don't understand what is meant by flattery and taking shortcuts in the ways of the world. Why would they specifically use these two words to criticize him?
This shows that both modern and ancient people have already discovered this problem, and they all feel that these so-called human relationships are not what the general public wants to see at all.

These are simply the dregs of human nature, and these things should be isolated, criticized, and discarded.

However, these things are often regarded by them as the core of human relationships and social practices. This is the real phenomenon of misalignment in vocabulary understanding.

What does the concept of human relations and worldly wisdom indicate? It indicates that ancient China has been upholding a very important ethical foundation for 5,000 years.

That is, we hope to construct a surreal state in which you respect me, I respect you, you understand me, and I also want to understand you.

However, later practice discovered that the reason why this surreal state is called surreal is because it cannot be achieved. It is because people have different views on many things due to their living environment, degree of knowledge understanding, and degree of construction, and they cannot agree with each other.

Therefore, the ways of the world are reflected. Since it is impossible to achieve this super-restricted state, let's take a middle way, which is a compromise solution.

That is, I don’t understand you, but I won’t say it out loud, I won’t attack you, and I won’t comment on you based on my so-called higher official position than you, my status as an older elder, or my class status that is slightly higher than yours.

What I mean is that I respect your ideas, and I don't think your ideas are wrong. The reason I can't understand is not because my ideas are right, but because I can't resonate with you. It's not because I look down on you, but because our living environments are different. I don't look down on you for your poor family, and you shouldn't look down on me for growing up in a closed environment.

What I mean is that even if I don’t understand you, I won’t embarrass you. Even if I don’t understand you, or if what you said may be wrong, I won’t embarrass you because I think your growing environment has given you this kind of cognition, and it’s not your fault.

This is the ethical basis for warmth.

This is not so-called flattery, nor is it so-called studying hard and begging for skills, but the basic human warmth. Why do we Chinese seem to be so hardworking and why can we understand it more closely according to your situation? It is because we Chinese have a kind of warmth that is difficult for Westerners to understand.

This kind of warmth has always been what Chen Han understood, the so-called human relations. Even if I don’t understand what you say, even if I think what you say is wrong, I can’t arbitrarily think that it is wrong, because the degree of cognition is different, and the cognitive bias is different. So this is not your personal mistake, it may be that your environment leads to this wrong cognition.

It is precisely because of this that whether it is Chen Han or his understanding of the ways of the world, it has always been like this. They have always hoped that everyone can understand each other, rather than thinking that my cognition is higher than yours, so I will adopt an arrogant attitude to look down on you.

The reason why many post-00s want to criticize these things is that they simply understand the ways of the world, that is, flattery. In fact, that is not the case. Flattery is just the dregs of the ways of the world.

Why did we invent the word "flattering" to describe it, instead of saying that the person is very knowledgeable about the ways of the world? In fact, the ancients had already described the error of this word a long time ago, but modern people can still understand that he is knowledgeable about the ways of the world. This is not the fault of the ancients, but the fault of modern people's understanding.

Just like Chen Han and Zhu Youwei, they are not so-called flattering each other. They understand each other, and understand that Chen Han comes from modern society, so their thinking must be more advanced than that of ancient times, and what they see will be more profound, and even more sharp.

Sometimes Chen Han could not understand many phenomena in the Ming Dynasty. He even felt that many phenomena in the Ming Dynasty were bad and useless. However, Zhu Youwei did not simply belittle it, nor did she blindly agree with what her husband knew and saw. This was because she felt that her husband might be from six hundred years later, and some of his cognitions were different from now, which led to this cognitive bias.

It is precisely because of this that their lifestyle can be more harmonious, more beautiful and more harmonious.

Chen Han also understood Zhu Youwei in this way. He also knew that even though his wife had lived with him for so many years, her thoughts were sometimes rather stubborn. This was because of the education he received, everything he knew, and everything he had seen.

After the two finished talking about these, they immediately turned to a sadder topic, which was about the old man's current physical condition.

Although Chen Han is not a doctor, when he sees the old man's current physical condition, Chen Han sometimes feels a sense of helplessness and loss.

Because he knew very well that the Hongwu Emperor in history would die in the 31st year of Hongwu, he saved the prince by his own means. For the sake of the old man's health, he even proposed the cabinet system, hoping to let the old man have a rest and prevent the old man's health from deteriorating.

He actually did it. The old man now accepted his opinion and felt that Chen Han was right. Many of Chen Han's criticisms were correct. He thought that he couldn't work so hard and couldn't keep his body in a high-load state all the time, so he stopped.

But even so, Chen Han found that the old man's health was getting worse and worse. Through his observations over the years, he found that the old man's health had not improved much even after these years of rest.

This also forced Chen Han to admit that sometimes a person's physical fitness will not improve all of a sudden after they stop to rest, and may even get worse. This is because some people's bodies need constant exercise to maintain a better condition.

Maybe the old man is such a person. No matter whether he stops or not, his physical condition has always been the same. Even if he stops or rests, he cannot truly prolong his life.

Sometimes, it is even possible that it is precisely because you stopped that your body functions are suddenly unable to adapt to the inertia and become worse.

So sometimes when Chen Han saw that the old man was not in a very good physical or mental state, he always blamed himself, even though the old man had been persuading him that your help in saving the Crown Prince was the greatest contribution to the Ming Dynasty.

But even so, Chen Han sometimes really feels that he has not done well enough, and even feels a little guilty.

Under such circumstances, he always felt that he should do better and that he should have more responsibility and accountability, after all, he came from the modern era.

But he found that the more he did, the worse the old man's health became. At that time, he finally understood what it meant that sometimes you really can't do anything about a thing.

Precisely because of this, he has been in a state of great self-blame, especially after visiting the old man today, he realized that many of his perceptions of the old man were biased.

It turns out that the old man is really destined to be a hard-working person. Maybe he really can't stop, because once he stops, his physical condition will become very bad.

Human skills are a very strange thing. You say it is completely physical, but sometimes it involves the physiological level. You say it is physiological, but sometimes the physical function stops all of a sudden. Your brain disease is still active, but the involved body is no longer able to function.

So humans really are a particularly magical species. Sometimes they make you feel very magical, and sometimes they make you feel very fragile.

When Chen Han was sighing about these things, he always felt that his view on human life became more and more profound after coming to the Ming Dynasty.

He would not have this feeling in modern times because he had not experienced too much, or even seen too many separations and deaths happening around him, but things were different after he came to the Ming Dynasty.

Not only has he experienced many births and deaths, he has also taken the lives of many people with his own hands.

At that moment, Chen Han finally understood the saying that life is truly a very precious thing. Its creation and its disappearance both represent a kind of extinction at the soul level.

Chen Han didn't understand this sentence before, and always thought that life and death were determined by fate, and wealth and honor were determined by heaven, but after coming to the Ming Dynasty, he realized that sometimes it was not that life and death were determined by fate, and wealth and honor were determined by heaven, but that life and death were not determined by fate, and wealth and honor were determined by the game of imperial power.

The more people live in modern times, the more they cannot understand what kind of living style people in ancient times had. When watching TV dramas, many people always think that the lifestyle of ancient people is the same as that of most ordinary people, who also have to eat, drink, defecate and urinate.

Since we are all ordinary people, since we are all human beings, there is no way to avoid being swept away by the tide of the times.

Just like people nowadays, when they encounter a hot opportunity, many people suddenly explode.

But when Chen Han came to the Ming Dynasty, he found that this statement was sometimes really incapable of summarizing the lives of people living in ancient times...

(End of this chapter)