The short video shows the ancient times, and the emperors cried with envy!

Chapter 861: The Patriarchal Brain of Men, Dad Still Loves Me, Liu Adou: We Are Both Wanderers in the World

The next moment, a sound suddenly rang out from the sky, causing everyone in the heavens to look curiously.

[Women are obsessed with finding a good man, while men are obsessed with finding a good father]

[Women mistake men’s dominance, control, possession, and selfishness for men’s love]

[Men mistake their father’s dictatorship, despotism, indifference, and selfishness for his love]

Everyone was stunned when they heard this.

Wait, are these two the same concept?

Why should we talk about the relationship between women and men and the relationship between men and their fathers together?

They were puzzled but greatly shocked.

Also, is there something wrong with the words used?

It's okay to be autocratic, every dynasty has a deep understanding of this. As the person in charge of the family, it is not uncommon for the father to be autocratic.

Moreover, just because the father is autocratic, it does not mean that the father does not love his son.

But how can this be called fatherly love when he is cold and selfish? He even used the word "sexual fantasy"!
Then, what Tianmu continued to say poured more fuel on everyone's heads.

[Of course, it is difficult to satisfy this kind of fantasy in real life, so we use film and television works as a plot to satisfy everyone's fantasy]

[Today, I will talk about the patriarchal mind of men through some scenes of reconciliation between father and son in film and television works]

[This is also a psychological syndrome, also known as: Dad still loves me, Dad loves me again]

[Refers to the psychological problems that children suffer from during their growth due to the lack of a father or a father-like relationship or an abusive, unhealthy relationship]

[This can lead to children having difficulty trusting others as adults, while at the same time having a strong attachment to them]

[Here it refers to the psychological admiration and yearning for the father, and the desire for the father's love and recognition, which is commonly known as the Oedipus complex]

Every single one of the fathers in the universe felt a pang in their hearts.

This, this means that if the father-son relationship is not handled properly, it can easily lead to mental illness?

It goes without saying that there is an abusive relationship, but what is a lack of relationship? Isn't it the mother's primary responsibility to take care of the child?

Besides, sometimes when you are away fighting or doing business, it is inevitable that you won’t see each other for a long time, right?

And what about unhealthy relationships? What kind of relationships are considered unhealthy?

Whether he is a father who truly loves his son or hopes that his son will bring honor to the family and inherit the family business, he is now staring at the sky, fearing that he will miss even a little and cause his son to have psychological problems without his knowledge.

What if my son becomes a waste because of this?
At the same time, many sons of heaven were also puzzled.

Isn't it natural and common to idolize your father and crave his approval?

Has this become a disease in later generations?

The ancients, who had no understanding of psychological issues, had the first reaction after hearing what was said in the video that this was a disease in later generations.

The sky video continues:

[The father of the male protagonist of "Sisters Who Make Waves", Xu Zhengtai, committed a crime before the male protagonist was born and spent six years in prison, and his mother committed suicide by jumping off a building due to postpartum depression]

[The male protagonist hates his father because of this incident and because his father does not support his dream of racing. The relationship between father and son becomes rigid and bad.]

[In "The Wandering Earth 1", Liu Qi hates and resents his father because Liu Peiqiang cruelly euthanized his mother and was absent during his growth]

[In "Beauty's Rival in Palace", Sun Baiyang hated his father Sun Qinghua for being too busy with his work in the palace and not being able to come back to see his mother for the last time, causing his mother to die with hatred]

[For this reason, he would rather live in a brothel than go home]

[In "A Sun", the father Ah Wen turns a blind eye to his younger son Ah He, who is a troublemaker and has poor academic performance, as if he does not have this son] [The eldest son Ah Hao, who is preparing for the medical school entrance examination, is regarded as his pride and sustenance]

"How can a father act like this? He can't even set a good example for his son."

When Kangxi heard the first example, he couldn't help but frown. Just listen to what this so-called father did.

It’s okay for Sun Qinghua and that Awen. After all, it is natural for court officials to be busy with palace work. Although it is regrettable that they couldn’t come back to see their wives for the last time, it is not incomprehensible.

As for Awen, his youngest son has poor character and poor academic performance. It is normal for him to be disappointed in such an incompetent son.

If he had a son like this, he would be so angry that he wouldn't want to admit that this was his son.

But the two fathers in front looked really terrible.

A man committed a crime and went to jail, which caused his wife to commit suicide. Not only did he fail to set a good example for his children, but he also caused the children to be without parental care for six years.

It’s no wonder that such a young child feels wronged when his parents are not around.

And what about Liu Peiqiang? What happened to him that made him want to euthanize his wife?
If the son knew about this, how could the relationship between father and son not become bad?
However, Kangxi felt that it was understandable that the son and father had a bad relationship after what had happened, but filial piety was the most important virtue, so how could he hate his father?

But when he thought of the beginning of the video, Tianmu mentioned that these were related to mental illness, Kangxi silently swallowed all the words back.

"Have these fathers ever thought about the feelings of us sons?"

When Liu Adou looked at the previous examples, he could still find them entertaining.

But when I saw that Ah He was not liked by his father because he was not as good as his brother, the knot that had been buried in my heart for a long time was suddenly touched.

Liu Adou's face showed a touching expression of "we are all wanderers in this world together".

He was also disliked by his father because he did not have great talent.

When he was still a baby, he was captured by the enemy army. General Zhao Yun almost died in the enemy army in order to save him. When he came back, his father threw him to the ground while he was still in his cradle.

Fortunately, he was lucky enough not to be killed by the fall.

When he grew up, his father always felt that he was not talented enough and could not handle big responsibilities.

Every time his father checked on his academic performance or asked him to do something, he was not satisfied.

If he had an older brother named Ah Hao, his father would have had no choice. Otherwise, he and Ah He would probably have suffered the same fate.

……

[The father-son relationship in these plots highlights a common feature]

[When a man is still a boy, the father is absent from the boy's growth process, and the boy is the victim of patriarchy at this time]

[Because of the absence of the father, the mother is the long-term caregiver of the boy, the boy will tend to favor the mother and will not feel unfair about the patriarchal disaster suffered by the mother]

[At this time, the conflict between father and son will be further intensified]

[But are these plots meant to pave the way for the boy to kill his father mentally and see clearly the oppression and exploitation of the patriarchal system? ]

[Quite the opposite]

Many people in the world can't help but feel sad when they see the victims of patriarchy.

Too many people have suffered some degree of injustice from their fathers while growing up.

But when they heard the word "patricide", this overly treasonous word made their eyelids twitch.

Even if it is spiritual patricide, it is still too sensitive for people of all dynasties who value ethical principles.

However, before they could react, the words "just the opposite" hit them on the head.

(End of this chapter)