Love in a mental hospital

Chapter 172 Anger Value

From 4:30 to 5:30, it’s dinner time in Jinghai.

{Jinghai} There is only one kind of chair in the cafeteria, but the colors are brown, yellow, and green; there are two kinds of tables, long tables and round tables, both of which are beautiful wooden tables.

There are also two ways to eat, one is a white plate, the other is a bowl.

Five people, Gege, Xie Xiya, Wang Yi, Mei Yangyang, and Wang Jiajia, were sitting at the round table, using bowls and six dishes to eat together;

Two groups of four people sit at a long table, each with a plate, and each eats his or her own food.

The sound of Gege talking loudly could be heard in half of the restaurant.

"Xiya's class is all girls. Some female classmates are just like in Japanese animations. They use their skirts as fans and their safety pants can be seen!"

If he is recruited by Haicheng International High School to become a psychology teacher, he might be able to have close contact with female high school students.

Unfortunately, once entering the {Sea of ​​Tranquility}, the mental hospital is as deep as the sea.

"Let me ask~" Chen Ke's tone also became relaxed and cheerful.

Gu Ran and Chen Ke were about to look over when Su Qing said, "Let's talk after get off work. After dinner, we have to talk to Xie Xiya and Gege's parents."

In fact, it doesn't matter who it is, and the result will not affect his decision. He just wants to know and has the ability to know, so he tries.

However, she was moved, and He Qingyan knew her very well.

"Xiaoxiao said she had time and asked us if we wanted to buy a tent." As he spoke, Chen Ke laughed.

"I'm only responsible for listening." Zhuang Jing smiled.

"Where is Xiaoxiao?" she asked Chen Ke, "Are you going on a business trip over the weekend?"

Gu Ran was looking forward to it.

"You must choose a camping site carefully," He Qingyan said more actively. "It is best to have a spacious place with few people. You can pick the wood by yourself, dig the ingredients by yourself, pick the fruits by yourself, and catch the fish by yourself."

"I'm in charge of fishing," Gu Ran said.

At about seven o'clock, Xie Xiya and Gege's parents came.

"Do you think there's a lot of pressure at work?" Gu Ran whispered to the three of them.

This time, Gu Ran, He Qingyan, and Chen Ke laughed.

He didn't have the opportunity to do so at work, so he hoped to 'carefully watch' them during non-working days to find out who 'she' was.

The other three laughed.

After dinner, the patient can watch TV for a while or take a walk in Jinghai, while the second group of four prepares materials in the office.

All three laughed.

"Where are we going to play this week?" He Qingyan asked.

The card Zhu Hong gave her allowed her to stay in a hotel worth RMB 100,000 a night. She would definitely not go there, but she thought she could go for a camping trip worth RMB 100,000 a night.

This was business, and the two of them quickly took back their thoughts that had drifted to Saturday and Sunday.

She paused and changed her words: "I may go camping more often in the future, but considering that my salary will be paid on the 10th, I won't buy it for now."

"There are usually tents in camping sites." Su Qing said, "We don't often camp -"

"Xiao Qingqing is moved." Gu Ran said.

"Dean Zhuang Jing!" The two sets of parents had obviously different attitudes toward Zhuang Jing, and they were very polite.

"How about this?" He Qingyan has also found a suitable campsite.

What's more, you can't take Amelia Su with you to the hotel, but you can let Amelia Su run away when you go to the camping ground.

"Camping, for people who are busy at work, is an oasis in the desert, which can make the dry soul moist again." He said.

Not only that, Zhuang Jing also came to the scene.

"Ah -" Gu Ran sighed in despair.

"Are you busy?" Su Qing picked up the soup bowl and looked at him and asked.

Su Qing rolled her eyes at him.

"Salary will be paid on the 10th." Su Qing said.

"It makes sense." Gu Ran came back from his fantasy of becoming a psychology teacher, "Didn't you say we would go to the amusement park together last time?"

"What do Su Qing think?" Chen Ke asked.

Amelia Su ignored her at all.

"I feel like I have been working for five days." He Qingyan sighed, "But it is precisely because of Saturday and Sunday that people can endure Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday, so we now plan the weekend carefully arrangement, no problem.”

"Today is only Monday." Chen Ke couldn't help laughing.

"Can you call me Xiao Qingqing?" He Qingyan said with a smile, "That's my exclusive nickname, isn't it, Xiao Qingqing?"

"Okay." Chen Ke responded.

"Busy, not busy, just stressed."

"Don't we have the card given by Zhu Hong?" He Qingyan said, "Go to the camping ground to set up a tent and cook your own food? It's not expensive, won't embarrass little Qingqing, and is fun, allowing little Qingqing to run away happily."

Chen Ke felt the deepest feeling. Teacher Zhuang Jing was watching. She was even worried that she would go out of tune when speaking and could not speak Mandarin.

But you can't say anything, that's even worse.

In the conference room, everyone was seated.

"Xiya, Tiantian, can you tell me how you feel about going to school today?" Su Qing said.

". Same as before." Xie Xiya said.

"As for me," Gege said, "Leave the cultural classes to Xu Tian and I'll take the interest classes. Anyway, I had a lot of fun."

Mother Xie seemed to have something to say. After hesitating for a moment, she didn't rush to speak.

"Xiya, in your opinion, how is Tiantian today?" Su Qing asked again.

"It's good to be serious in class and play with classmates after class." Xie Xiya replied.

"Tiantian, in your opinion, how is Xiya today?"

"It seems normal, but it's actually not normal!" Gege said. "If I didn't know that Xiya was sick, I might not feel anything. But when I found out that Xiya was sick, I realized something was wrong."

"What about it?"

"For example, horse riding is divided into three groups and starts running at the same time. Points are given based on rankings. Everyone rushes to be in the same group as Xiya, thinking that she will definitely come first. How stressful is it? Xiya has never ridden a horse this summer. ;
"After being divided into groups, people in the same group as Xiya felt that they were sure to win. Even if they didn't win, at least the first place would be in their own group, and they would have much less pressure - these people just want to make it easier for themselves, no matter what Should we relax, or should we go into battle lightly and achieve better results;

"The competition officially started. Xiya was a little behind, running in third place. In my opinion, she was already very good, because the other two girls spent their summer vacation at the racecourse, riding horses all day long, and Xiya was in the same group. The fourth and fifth people began to urge Xiya, with accusations in their tone;
"Those who are further behind, those who can't even talk to Xiya because they are too far away, don't have to run hard, but look at Xiya with anxiety, blame, and suspicion.

"Xiya came first. During the celebration, some people were slightly dissatisfied. I got angry when I heard that, as if Xiya owed them something."

Gege is very concerned about Xie Xiya.

Su Qing looked at Xie Xiya's parents and asked them, "What do you think?"

She did not pay attention to their wealth and age, but spoke as equals.

"These people are a bit too much." Father Xie frowned, very magnanimous.

"But pressure is also motivation," Xie's mother said. "Compared to those who entrust their hopes to others, Xiya will be better."

"In order to become better, does it matter?" Su Qing asked her.

"It's just the past few years."

"As a psychiatrist," Chen Ke said, "I have seen too many examples of people who work hard today and happily chat with their families when they go home, but choose to commit suicide the next day."

"Xiya won't be able to bear this pressure."

"What if you can't bear it?" He Qingyan was curious, "Do you stop recognizing her as your daughter?"

Mother Xie was a little angry, but she was not angry at He Qingyan, but looked at Zhuang Jing.

"Kafka believed that reading is an ax that cuts into the frozen sea in our hearts," Zhuang Jing said. "This sentence means that reading must be read into the heart and touched before it can be considered real reading - the same is true for psychological counseling. in this way."

"No matter what, Xiya is our daughter." Father Xie said.

"Then we have a proposal," Su Qing said, "We want Xiya to live here for a long time. Of course, her studies will not be neglected. You can ask a tutor to teach her."

"Okay." Father Xie nodded directly.

"Besides, we feel that it is necessary for you and Xiya to separate for some time."

"What do you mean?" Mother Xie asked.

"That is to say, remove the caregivers and do not contact them unless necessary." Su Qing explained.

"No contact?" Xie's mother repeated, "I don't understand the reason for doing this?" "The reason why Xie Xiya got sick and suffered from pleasing syndrome is exactly your reason," Gu Ran said, "That is, the native The family environment is not good.”

"Is it wrong to hope that our children will be outstanding and not be afraid of pressure?" Mother Xie asked.

"Yes, but children also have the right - at least occasionally - to say 'no', what do you think?" Gu Ran asked back.

Su Qing continued: "Next, we plan to carry out rehabilitation training for Xiya so that she can get rid of her pleasing syndrome and be able to speak out her opinions bravely when she doesn't like it - her opinions may not always be right, and she may not be able to say them. Exiting is another matter.”

"What exactly is a pleaser syndrome?" Father Xie couldn't help but ask, "How did Xiya get this disease?"

"Strictly speaking, it is a type of obsessive-compulsive disorder. You always put the needs of others first, never say 'no' to others, always strive for the recognition of everyone around you, and try hard to get everyone except yourself. Everyone is happy." Su Qing explained.

Chen Ke further explained: "According to our diagnosis, Xiya will get this disease because of her family - she would rather feel uncomfortable than bear the pressure and negative emotions from her family."

"Family?" Mother Xie asked.

Chen Ke said: "If we guessed correctly, when Xiya was very young, as long as she didn't perform well enough, you would blame her and even refuse to be intimate with her;

"Mr. Xie, you may have felt sorry for Xiya during this process, but you never let her rest and acquiesced in Ms. Xie's behavior.

"In order not to make you angry anymore, but also to gain the love of your parents, Xiya forced herself to work hard."

He Qingyan took over the topic and continued: "Since childhood, you have been educating people like this. If you are not good, you will not give sweets. Your daughter will naturally develop the habit of trying to satisfy the people around her and avoid negative emotions from those around her. 'habit."

She speaks much more nakedly than Su Qing or Chen Ke.

Especially the saying 'If you're not good, you won't be given sweets', when used between parents and children, the knife is as sharp as a knife.

Mother Xie looked at He Qingyan.

He Qingyan smiled: "My father is He Haicheng."

Father Xie's expression was obviously moved, and his facial muscles couldn't help but beat.

Mother Xie took a deep breath.

She asked Xie Xiya softly: "Xiya, is this true?"

Xie Xiya said nothing.

"This is the default." He Qingyan explained.

"Let Xiya live here for a while," Zhuang Jing said, "Whether it's a pleaser or not, the problem of always wearing school uniforms must be solved."

Given her status as a step, Xie Xiya's parents hesitated and agreed to Su Qing's proposal, allowing Xie Xiya to be hospitalized for a long time, and the two of them could not contact her unless necessary.

"Tiantian's situation," Su Qing looked at Xu Tian's parents, "we think we need to continue to observe. If the dual personality does not affect learning, there is no rush to find out the main personality."

"What do you mean?" Xu's mother asked.

"According to our judgment," said Chen Ke, an expert in hypnotherapy, "if Tiantian remains in her current state, there is a chance that Tiantian will recover on her own - study seriously when studying, and play happily when playing. The two personalities are indistinguishable from each other."

"Compared with hypnosis to eliminate the personality, this natural therapy is safer and avoids the mistake of eliminating the main personality." Su Qing said.

"How long will it take?" Xu's mother asked again.

"As little as six weeks, as long as two or three years."

"Two or three years?"

"It takes a lifetime to heal the shadow of childhood. Of course, you are Xu Tian's guardians and have the right to transfer her to another hospital and let psychiatrists from other hospitals eliminate her personality and provide rapid treatment, but we will not do this." Su Qing said .

"You mean," Xu's father asked, "Tiantian's problem is the same as Xie Xiya's, and it is also the cause of our parents?"

"Yes." Su Qing nodded.

"It's not such a coincidence." Father Xu retorted subconsciously.

"I went to the dentist and asked the people around me. What a coincidence, they all came to see their teeth. Two or three of them were the same as me. They had eaten too much sugar." Of course, He Qingyan's teeth were fine.

Xu's father knew what she meant sarcastically, and although he was annoyed, he didn't get angry.

"I'm sorry," he apologized instead, "I'm so excited. We fully agree with the doctors' views and are willing to cooperate."

After finalizing the general direction, Su Qing started to talk about the details.

She gave Xie Xiya and Gege each a form.

"What is this?" Gege was curious.

"Anger meter." Su Qing said.

"Oh, I know. When it's full, you can enlarge your moves, right?"

"You are now making big moves." Gu Ran said.

"What?" He was puzzled.

"Is it our disease?" Xie Xiya was curious.

Her mood seemed much lighter, as if her grumpy father had left home to work again.

If the father has a bad temper and does not care about the family, forget it, because he is afraid that the father will have a bad temper and give all the money he earns to the family. This is the case for Xie Xiya and Gege. Although they are controlled by their parents, their parents sincerely wish them well.

"If you have emotions in the future, just fill in the form. There are scales on it. Fill it out according to your emotions." Su Qing said.

100 full value.

10: upset;
20: dissatisfaction;
30: Anxiety;
40: bored;
50: Angry;
60: annoyed;
70: Anger;
80: Furious;
90: hysteria;
100: Smoking with rage.

"So angry that you're smoking?" Gege laughed, "Xiya, according to them, our heads are smoking right now!"

"It was Gu Ran's idea to be so angry that he was heartbroken." Su Qing said.

"'Heartbroken', 'Smoking with anger'. Dr. Gu's Chinese is really good." Xie Xiya said.

"Pfft!" He Qingyan couldn't hold back and laughed directly.

Su Qing, Chen Ke, and even Zhuang Jing all laughed.

"What are you laughing at?" Gege was curious and puzzled.

"Back then," Gu Ran said slowly and vigorously, "I was the representative of the Chinese class."

"Because I didn't do well in Chinese, I became the representative of the Chinese class." Su Qing explained.

Xie Xiya was stunned for a moment.

"Ah ha ha ha ha!" Ge Ge burst into laughter, "You scumbag, I got full marks in Chinese! Ha ha ha ha!"

The 'ah' and 'wow' before 'ha' were clearly heard - while she was expressing happiness, she also expressed ridicule towards Gu Ran.

"I think," Gu Ran's tone was still slow and without any momentum, "people meet to illuminate each other, not to throw fire bottles at each other."

"I like throwing fire bottles when I play Peace Elite!" Gege laughed even harder.

Xu's father and Xu's mother couldn't help but look at each other.

Father Xie and Mother Xie were both amused by the child's laughter.

After Gege laughed out of her lungs of oxygen, Su Qing smiled and said: "Xiya, Tiantian, you have to remember that even if there is only 1 point, it means you are in mood.

"You must not ignore your emotions. When you reach 50 or 60 points, no matter who the other party is, you must be brave enough to say 'no'.

"Of course, this is difficult for you now, but we will help you. Don't be impatient. You can't reach a thousand miles without taking small steps. Let's take our time."

This concludes the meeting.

As the luxury car drove down Spring Mountain, Xie's father was silent for a long time and said to Xie's mother, "I feel so heartbroken. It really makes my hair stand on end."

Mother Xie closed her eyes and said nothing.

She finally remembered that she was very outstanding and excellent when she was young, but she was not outstanding in everything.

Perhaps, she was not as good at educating her children as she thought.

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"Private Diary": September 2, Monday, night, Jinghai

Why isn't today Friday? I really want to go camping.

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"Doctor's Diary":
If you are not excellent, you won’t be given sweets, that’s fine, but you can’t go too far, and you can’t do everything.

When necessary, I think parents should show unconditional support and care for their children.

Children's minds are relatively immature, so it's okay to listen to their parents' opinions, but parents must give their children the right to express their own opinions.

I need to remember these two points.

(Zhuang Jing’s comment: Remember, is it to educate your children in the future?)
(End of this chapter)