Coquettish Rebirth

To be honest, the relationship between parents and children is not only in China where there is a spiritual generation gap between parents and children, it is basically the same all over the world.After Chinese children grow up to their teens, they start to like the things they started to play with, but their parents don’t understand. Then in the eyes of young people, their parents are uneducated and don’t understand anything, and they are still old-fashioned. messed up guy.For example, they want to play on the computer, but the parents can't even turn on the computer, and they can't even speak basic English. Can the child and the parents speak the same language?When meeting parents, for example, after they accidentally heard about online shopping, they want their children to open the webpage for them to look at online shopping items, and the children meet parents who don’t understand at all, of course, they are easy to get impatient.

This kind of thing is not a patent of China, and it is common in foreign countries, even in the United States!How do you say the same in the United States?In his previous life, Jia Hongjian often watched all kinds of news from the United States on the Internet, not only the text news on the website, but he also often watched video news.He is good at English, but he saw a program similar to the entertainment news of the Integrity TV, and there was a story-a few high school students posted on social networking sites such as "Must Die" and "Twitter". When they were in their own mood, it turned out that their parents also learned to surf the Internet, and then left them a message.

For example, a handsome guy who feels good about himself posted on the Internet that he and his friends went to an auto show, and then the handsome guy asked his friend to take a photo of him sitting in a luxury car with his mobile phone, and then sent it to on the website.Said that he would definitely buy such a car in the future.Then, when the girls in the same class wanted to reply one after another, the old lady of this handsome guy was the first to reply-"Baby, it's good that you have such a wish. Mom is proud of you and loves you! But you have to work harder in the future That's fine, by the way, come back early at night, home made your favorite fried chicken wings, don't let mom worry..."

The aura suddenly weakened, okay?Girls will immediately think that this handsome guy is a "mommy baby", like a child who can't grow up, surrounded by his mother all day long, okay?Would this little handsome guy feel that he was going to die of disappointment?Then I will definitely send my mother a reply-"Mom, don't leave a message in my space" or something like that!

If this kind of scene is put in China, it is similar-for example, a college freshman has never gone out to surf the Internet all night before.After all, he used to live at home, and there was a computer at home, and the parents were stricter, not letting him stay overnight.As a result, after college.The roommate in the same dormitory took him to stay overnight on weekends.Then he hesitated a little.But still agreed.With apprehension and excitement, the guy posted a Weibo, saying that he was going to stay overnight soon!As a result, at this time.His mother sent a reply - "Son, pay attention to your health all night, don't get too sleepy, buy things in advance when you go, so as not to be hungry in the middle of the night. Don't smoke like others, smoking is not good for your health. Don't eat too many snacks , not nutritious. Don’t drink cola, it’s not good for your health, drink more water..."

If my mother called to say this kind of thing, then this little brother might still agree to it when he heard it.But if my mother replied on a public social networking site, then everyone can see, how can this little brother mess around?After his mother replied at that time, even the boys in the dormitory would take this reply as a joke, okay?A guy just went out all night, but my mother was still so worried, hahaha, this buddy is really a good baby for my mother!

Looking at these two examples, we know that many times parents care about their children, especially after the children grow up, it is sometimes a "shame" or something that people don't want to see, because it will It seems that I haven't grown up yet, as if I'm still a little baby beside Mommy!

Undoubtedly, in the eyes of parents, children are always babies who have not grown up. Even in the United States, adult children may be considered by their parents as adults who can live their own lives, but teenage children In the eyes of their parents, they are still those little babies who need their care and love!But although the love of parents is great, can they not talk about the method?According to traditional Chinese moral concepts, it doesn't matter whether the opponent's method is good or not, what matters is the opponent's motivation!If the other party loves oneself, then even if there are problems with the other party's actions, they need to be tolerated and forgiven, not to mention that the parents who show love here are still parents who have the grace of childbearing!So obviously in society, if a child shows impatience with the love and care of his parents, most people will definitely say that the child is immature.He would say that if a child is mature, he should accept the love of his parents with a smile!

But who stipulated that parents who love their children can be unreasonable, stupid, simple and rude without paying attention to form?Although this kind of stuff is taken for granted in the eyes of many people, in Jia Hongjian's view, this is obviously not a smart way-yes, the child is brought up by his parents, and is poured into him by his parents. However, because parents care about and love their children, they should pay attention to ways and means to love their children. They should not let their love for their children become a "shame" that children dare not show to others!

To use an analogy, a man loves a woman so much that he can even die for this woman.But if this woman goes out to play with colleagues and friends, or to go to karaoke dinner or something, and the man calls every hour, asking when the woman will come back and who is going with her, then This woman will also feel super shameless!I also feel that I have no freedom at all, why it seems that after falling in love with this man or getting married, I can't go out to play with my friends?Can't play with the opposite sex, can't you play with the same sex?Don't you have any trust at all?

For this kind of thing, no matter how much a man cares about it, he must pay attention to the method.According to Jia Hongjian's practice, women are usually allowed to play, but from time to time, they send sweet text messages, such as "Oh, I miss you so much" and "Oh, do you miss me?" It's a nasty way to let a woman know that even if she goes out, Jia Hongjian still has her in his heart, and Jia Hongjian can't do without her!It was not Jia Hongjian who was urging her to go home!Then, seeing that the girl was playing late, Jia Hongjian, as a boyfriend, could make a phone call and ask her when the show was over, and he would pick her up when the time came.This shows that he doesn't urge the girl to go home, he is generous and generous, and he also has a boyfriend's sense of responsibility, and wants to protect the girl on the road.Even at the end when Jia Hongjian went to pick up his sister, he saw her friends, and greeted them very gracefully, just like facing his own friends, without any expression of dissatisfaction, and even Will take the initiative to build a good relationship with these people.In this way, in the eyes of my sister and her friends, Jia Hongjian is the kind of lover who can be brought out by a decent and generous man!Then the girl will feel that she has face, and she will feel that she loves Jia Hongjian even more!

So if parents adopt a more flexible way and method to love their children, won't it cause the children to lose face in the eyes of classmates and friends?Will you show yourself as if you are the super cool and open-minded parents in the child's family?Will he become a signboard for children to show off outside?Think about it, if the parents are adopting an idea similar to that of Jia Hongjian at this time, thinking about what they can do to make their children happy and to make their children face, then the child will not only have face in the future, will it be the child's classmates and friends? Friends can't help but compare themselves with their own parents?Then will they envy the child and say "Your parents are so nice"?Does this mean that the child is proud of his parents?Are you more willing to "play together" with your parents, or to communicate with them?Then, in this case, do the parents have a better understanding of the child's friends, who the child associates with, what the child is doing recently, and what the child likes and dislikes?And after establishing an idol-like identity or an identity that can be shown off in the child's heart, can the parents control the child better?For example, when a child is addicted to online games, are parents more able to persuade the child?

In fact, many things, from childhood to adulthood, from how to be a subordinate to how to be a leader to how to educate children, are all the same as pursuing girls. You have to stand on the other side's point of view and think with your "heart" What the other party needs, you have to consider how the other party will feel face-saving, and how to make the other party feel comfortable!Maybe some people think that it is necessary for parents to pay so much for their children?Speaking of Ye Jing, Ye Jing has paid a lot to Jia Hongjian, so when Ye Jing and Luo Lizi were not at odds, she had to humble herself and take the initiative to buy gifts for Luo Lizi for Jia Hongjian Repair relationship?Since you love each other, then think from the perspective of the other party, how to make the other party happier, how to make the other party more comfortable, not how to make the other party more sad!

Since the parents have worked so hard to drag the child for a lifetime, why can't they pay a little bit of careful thought and think about how to make the child proud of themselves?Why can't you use such a little trick to make the relationship between yourself and your child closer?

So the more he thought about it, the more Jia Hongjian felt that the parent-child relationship magazine he thought about before would really be a hit! (To be continued..)