I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 217: Coquettish men have the best life
Boy: "Although I don't earn much now, I can definitely provide for my wife and children."

Raymond Lam: "Even the salary will help to support the family, right?"

Boy: "What do you mean by subsidy? I gave it all to her. She doesn't even need to ask for it. I gave it all to her on my own initiative."

Lin Feng slammed the table and said, "Look at this, what kind of attitude do you need? 70 yuan for the betrothal gift, a five-story villa, and all the wages have to be handed over. There is nothing wrong with this, buddy."

Boy: "I don't think there's anything wrong with it either, but she just doesn't understand me. I saw a lot of people on the public screen saying there's something wrong with me. What's wrong with me? I feel so fucking frustrated."

As he said this, the boy started crying.

Lin Feng pointed at the public screen and said: "You little fairies, look at the children, I tell you,

Men,

What do you want in marriage?
Most men don’t ask their partners to make a lot of money in life. What do they want?
What he wants is the warmth and admiration you give him at home.

No matter how hard or tiring the work he did outside was, he felt that it was his responsibility.

This is what he wanted when he got home.

warmth,

A sense of worship.

Have you noticed that almost every married man has this experience?

After work, he parks his car in the basement and doesn't go upstairs.

Then he stays in the car for half an hour or an hour, which is his independent space.

Because when you are in a company, you have to make your boss happy, your employees happy, your investors happy, and your customers happy.

When I get home, I have to make my wife and children happy, and my parents happy.

After marriage, a man has to play various social roles, but the only one he is not qualified to play is himself.

So every married man will have this experience: when you park your car in the basement, he won’t go in, and then he lights a cigarette in the car and smokes for half an hour.

Why doesn't he go back home?

Because outside the car is family and work, inside the car is your own time.

After returning home, he faced his wife's misunderstanding, nagging, and even all kinds of blame.

Then who would want to go home?

So sometimes I wonder, when you get home, the person next to you says to you, "Hey, husband, you're off work, you've worked hard, are you hungry? I'll cook you a bowl of noodles."

That is what touches a man's heart!
You said I was out working all day and when I got home you got mad at me because I didn't wash the dishes.
I was out socializing and was late, and you sent me messages like crazy, and asked me if I was on the way.

Which man can stand this thing of yours?"

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the man burst into tears.

"Brother, you understand me. You really understand me, woooo."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“Are all men really like this (not understanding)?”

"Let me put it this way. Home is not a place to rest, it is a job. At work, I am an employee, and when I get home, I am a boyfriend/husband/father. It's just a matter of moving from one job to another. The real place to rest is under a tree, in a parking lot, or next to a trash can (smile)."

"It could also be the hallway or bathroom at home."

"Really, when I sit next to the trash can, sometimes I can't tell whether it's me inside or outside."

“Only during that brief moment do I truly feel like it’s my own time.”

"In reality, most men spend their lives surrounded by their wives accusing them of being useless."

What the hell!

Defensive!
"Haha, women are so exhausted. They have to work, take care of the family, and coax their husbands (grin)."

"No, no, no sister, you just talk a little bit, you won't suffer any loss, you won't be tired after a long time, it will come naturally, you can try it, it works."

"Haha, I can't make this money, just earn it yourself."

"Are you hungry? I'll cook you a bowl of noodles. This is the core of what makes a boy impress me. If he doesn't peel the mango, I'll let him eat the mango skin and the mango core (smile)."

“Haha, then you’re awesome (eye roll).”

“So the demands of the two sexes are different.”

"But isn't life about mutuality? If you both only care about yourself and are unwilling to do more for each other, you will get divorced sooner or later."

"It's really not easy to meet someone who can understand you among all the people in the world."

"I also have a job, but it's easier than my husband's, and I get off work earlier. Every time my husband comes home, I throw my arms around him. We've been together for eight years, and he still loves me so much that he rushes home to be with me after work."

"envious!"

"Start teaching the class, sister."

"What kind of work is this? Don't people always say that they will hug their husbands after get off work?"

"And he flapped his arms (grin)."

"So cute, who can not love (dog head)?"

“Hahahaha it’s out of screen.”

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "But buddy, I understand you, but your wife's situation may be different from others."

Boy: “Why is it different?”

Lin Feng: "Let me ask first, your wife is unemployed now and is taking care of the children at home full-time, right?"

"Correct."

Raymond Lam: "Are you alone? Do you have elderly people to help you or a nanny at home?"

Boy: "There is no babysitter. My parents have their own things to do and are not here."

Raymond Lam: “So, buddy, the child is only 7 months old, and your wife is taking care of the child at home alone, she may be suffering from postpartum depression.

No kidding, I had several in a row tonight.

Brother Shui went to make some midnight snacks. He is not here, otherwise I would ask him to give you some basic knowledge.

It is normal for women to have mood swings during the breastfeeding period, including the pregnancy period.

I think you need to communicate with your wife correctly and express your current uncomfortable experience to her accurately.
You said I am also a human being, not an animal, and then you always command me. I feel very uncomfortable now, so I go to express it to you.

At the same time, you should also care about your wife's mental health. I think you must pay attention to it.

why?
Because you are dealing with a seven-month-old child.

If your wife doesn't have an outlet for her emotions in your home, she will definitely vent her emotions on you.

There's nothing I can do, buddy.

So what do you think we should do? She has no one to talk to, and we can’t just let her digest it on her own.

If you hold it in for a long time, it will cause problems.”

Boy: "But she was on the phone with her mother before, everything was fine, nothing happened."

Lin Feng: "Yes, her mother was her outlet before, so she wouldn't lose her temper with you. Then tell me why she doesn't talk to her mother on the phone now?"

Boy: "It's about the gift."

Lin Feng: "Look, essentially your wife is still on your side. Now she stopped calling her mother because of the gift money issue. She is already very aggrieved. Who else can she vent to if not you?
You can't vent your anger on your children.

He is only 7 months old and can’t understand. ”

The boy was silent.

Lin Feng: "One more thing, buddy, have you ever taken care of a child by yourself?"

The boy nodded.

Raymond Lam: "So I say you really have to experience it yourself to understand, taking care of your child at home, really buddy, you even have to hold the child when you go to the toilet, for fear that if you miss a glance, the child will fall off the bed or sofa.

Why?

A seven-month-old baby can already roll over and crawl.

Maybe when you are halfway in the toilet, half of your child's body is already outside the bed.

I dare not leave the child alone in bed.

You can only eat cold food and leftovers.

why?
Because you can’t cook for yourself.

You can't leave.

You said you left the child alone in the bedroom and went to the kitchen to cook?
Impossible bro.

So when you are raising a child alone, you can only eat bread, biscuits, or leftovers.

There were also children crying and making a fuss.

You said that a baby a few months old would not be able to tell where he feels uncomfortable.

Sometimes I cry for half an hour or an hour.

You don’t know whether he is hungry, thirsty, or feeling uncomfortable or sick.

I tell you, people really break down in that situation.”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"I'm a man. I've taken care of children. It's three times more tiring than working. Really! You can slack off and be lazy at work, but you can't take care of children. If you're not careful, you'll fall or bump into things. You'll be constantly tense and it's really tiring."

"When my son was two months old, I went out to earn money while my husband worked as a full-time dad for two years. I discovered that my husband was not only depressed, but also had schizophrenia. I was so scared that I quit my job immediately and took care of the baby myself. He went out to earn money, and I discovered that he worked very hard. He might have been bored from taking care of the baby for two years (smile)."

"Really, a man can't take care of a baby for two years. I think my husband would have schizophrenia if he took care of the baby for two months. I went to do the postpartum recovery for two hours. Before I got home, I heard the eldest child crying because of him. I asked him and found out that he said he wanted to sleep for a while, but the second child wouldn't let him sleep and insisted that he carry him. After finally rocking the second child to sleep, the eldest child made a loud noise and woke the second child up. I was really upset (laughing to death)."

"Haha, the fact is whoever takes care of the child will get depressed, regardless of whether it's the father or mother, or the parents-in-law."

"Really? Whoever takes care of the child will go crazy."

"I hate it most when a man tells his wife how tiring and difficult it is to raise a child, while at the same time saying that it wasn't easy for my mother to raise me (smile)."

"Precise, one shot hit (the dog's head)."

"So, if the other person doesn't understand you, just throw the child into his arms, let him experience it, and go out and eat and drink for a day."

This can be!
Ha ha ha ha......

Lin Feng: "Dude, your wife is just tortured by the children, do you understand?
Why do I always say that love is mutual, you want her to understand you, she wants you to understand her,
If neither of them is brave enough to accept the fact that the other has collapsed, and both expect the other to love them first, then both of them are just competing with each other and are selfish. "

Boy: "Too tired, brother."

Raymond Lam: "Which man has it easy? We are all tired, bro."

"I really can't take it anymore, woooo."

The boy started crying once.

Raymond Lam: "Cry if you want to, buddy. Then go home. Your wife has been tortured by the kids all day and may not even have a hot meal. Go to the gate of the community and pack her some fried rice."

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the boy suddenly stopped crying.

"Brother, I'll go back now and make her something delicious."

Lin Feng: "That's right, we are men, why should we complain to our wives? We may suffer a little, but we men can handle it. As for how to break the ice after we get home?

The military advisor will give you two more words: pretend to be drunk! "

Boy: "Brother, I'm good at this. I'll buy two bottles of wine and drink them first before going upstairs."

Lin Feng laughed and scolded: "You are good at shit, the point is not to be drunk, but to pretend, pretend to be pitiful, do you understand?

Don’t fucking drink two bottles, just drink half a bottle at most.

After finishing half a bottle, you go home with the hot midnight snack.

When you get home, hold your wife's hand, don't say anything, and just cry.

Your wife was already very angry, and when she saw you crying like that, she was stunned.

After being confused, I started to feel sorry for you.

Oh, husband, what's wrong with you?
Why did you drink so much?

Is business not doing well?

Does it hurt?

You lie down first, I'll get you a hot towel and make you some sobering soup.

At this time you hold her.

Just talk about my wife. I know it’s not easy for you to take care of the children at home alone. You don’t dare to go to the toilet, there is no hot food, you feel uncomfortable, and you have no one to talk to.

I'm sorry, honey. I didn't take good care of you.

Your wife will definitely cry when she hears you say that.

If she doesn’t cry, I will eat this phone.”

The boy's eyes lit up when he heard this: "Then I'll start complaining now. I'll tell you how difficult it is for me."

Lin Feng: "Tell your sister about your suffering, why are you still wasting words at this time, turn around and see if the child is asleep, if the child is asleep, just pick up your wife by the waist,
Throw it on the sofa.

Dude,

remember.

There is no need to talk nonsense at this time, just do it. "

Well. . .

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"You're done"

What the hell!

"Is this something a passing fan like me can listen to (Bread Dog)?"

Hahahaha.

"Let me ask you, does it really work for a man to pretend to be drunk and pathetic?"

“Come on, boys who can cry are really cute, okay (dog head).”

"He! Is! A! Green! Tea! Boy! But he's really cute, hahahaha."

"My family is the same, a crybaby (laughing to death)."

"I really like what to do when a boy cries. A whole person is controlled."

"Me too, sisters, do you have a solution?"

"You cried before him, so you took the initiative (dog head)."

"Or give him a choice: Do you want to cry for two minutes and then apologize to me? Or do you want to calm down here and express your feelings to me in writing tomorrow? Hmm? Puppy (scratch his chin)."

"Help! How can this be so cute? (I love it so much)."

"Hey, brothers, have you learned it?"

"I've learned half of it."

What do you mean?
"I haven't learned how to act pitiful, but I can do it (dog head)!"

puff~
Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Raymond Lam: "Brother, remember, men who know how to act like a spoiled child have the best luck in marriage.

In reality, many men, due to the influence of traditional culture, always think that men should be the dominant party.

You shouldn't bow your head.
You shouldn't admit your mistakes.

You shouldn't act like a spoiled brat.
You should not expose your weaknesses.

I think this is a very cheap and unmanly behavior.

But in fact, in relationships, only men who are willing to admit defeat can manage a family well.

For example, when two people are arguing and getting heated, you suddenly become aware of the emotion and the hurt in the words.

You suddenly changed your expression and said: Wife, I was wrong, what you said just now was right, come on, I will treat you to something delicious.

You said your wife burst out laughing soon.

The problem may be solved.

Also, when you are chatting with your wife, don't be so serious, don't be condescending, and don't teach.

It is appropriate to say, "Honey, I miss you," or "Honey, please give me a hug."

This gentler and more intimate approach can enhance your relationship.
There is another thing you have noticed, in a good marriage, the quality of their relationship can be seen through the way they address each other.

For example, when things are sweet, the words saved on it would be "my dearest baby in the universe", but after a quarrel, it would be changed to two words: idiot.

Isn't it interesting to smile like this?

Finally, as men, life is stressful and sometimes you feel tired. Many people think that men don’t shed tears easily and should not expose their weakness and depression.
But you have to know that home is the safest and warmest place. If you really love her and believe in her,
You can expose your weakness in front of her.

You can tell her, honey, I’m so stressed out lately and I’m so tired, give me a hug, honey, let me lean on you.

Instead of saying that you are tired and don't go home, you park your car on the roadside in the middle of the night and sit in the car to connect to me.
Tell me you’re under a lot of pressure and you can’t take it anymore.

She's crying like a woman again.

I'm not your fucking wife. What's the point of you complaining and crying to me?

You drive home now.

Listen to me,
I brought a little midnight snack and started crying as soon as I walked in the door."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Men who act like spoiled brats have the best luck, hahaha."

"My boyfriend has learned this trick a long time ago, it works (sunglasses)."

"Really, my husband loves to act like a spoiled child. He says he's hungry and he has a toothache (dying of laughter)."

"My husband is the same. I always obey him when he acts like a spoiled child. Haha."

"My wife, kiss me."

"I'm going to give it a try. If I don't come to the room tomorrow, everyone remember to help me raise money for medical expenses tomorrow (please)."

"Go ahead. At most you'll have to stay in the ICU for a few days."

"Ha ha ha ha."

"What a joke! Just laugh if you have a wife."

Uh. .

"We are just netizens. You have crossed the line (smile)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Boy: "What if she ignores me?"

Raymond Lam: "You just run to her and cry, put her arms around your waist, hug her and cry.
She turns her face away, you turn her around,

If she doesn't move towards you again, bite her neck.

If she doesn't smile, I'll eat this computer too."

Boy: "Bad military advisor."

Lin Feng: "What's wrong?"

Boy: "My wife said she has something to tell you."

? ?
Lin Feng: "You are not on the side of the road, is your wife home?"

Boy: "Yeah, but my wife is also in the live broadcast room."

???

You fucking...

(End of this chapter)