I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

"Brother, when I was in school, my teacher slapped me in front of the whole class. Is this normal?"

A highly praised comment flashed by.

Lin Feng was stunned: "A slap in the face?

Of course that's not normal.

When teachers educate students, if you really make a mistake, they will slap your palm. I think this is normal.

But I think slapping someone in the face is an insult to their personality.

Especially in many cases, you cannot guarantee that the teacher is fair, he may just be venting his emotions.

For example, your wife gets angry in the morning, or you have an argument with a stranger on the way to work.

Then you can't guarantee that he won't take his anger out on students at school.

Teacher,
To put it bluntly, it's just a job.

The purpose behind this job is great, but people are just people.

We all have our own emotions, and there are times when we can’t control them.

But no matter what, slapping someone in the face is definitely wrong.

And it happened in front of the whole class, his self-esteem was directly rubbed to the ground.

So no matter what the reason is, you shouldn’t slap someone in the face!”

. . . . . .

On the barrage

"Don't hit people in the face, okay? Except for parents, who dares to hit their own children in the face?"

"My son's teacher dared to do that. He received ten slaps in the face just because he didn't write two words correctly (laughing to death)."

"You're still in the mood to laugh, bro (grin)."

"What should I do? I went to the teacher and he didn't admit it (covering his face)."

"Adjust the school surveillance. There are surveillance cameras in every class now."

"What a coincidence, the surveillance camera just happened to be broken that day (spreading hands)."

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"Brother, the teacher slapped me three times in front of the whole class. I told my dad and his first reaction was to scold me. He asked me if I hadn't done anything, would the teacher have hit me? I was very hurt.

Although this happened many years ago, my father is usually very nice to me and I am quite happy.

But every time I think about it, I still feel hurt.”

Slap in the face?

He called three more times?
Dad doesn't do anything.

The public screen exploded instantly.

"What daddy is this?"

"If it were my daughter, I would have fought with the teacher."

"At worst I can transfer to another school, but I must make the teacher apologize in front of the whole class."

. . . . . .

Lin Feng took a puff of his cigarette, shook his head at the public screen and said, “You guys are just looking for trouble, just keep adding fuel to the fire.

younger sister,

Ignore them and listen to me.

Things from childhood, so many years have passed.
You can't use today's cognition and perspective to look at your father's past behavior.
This is not fair.

be honest,

Nowadays, if a child is slapped by a teacher in school, the parents will basically defend the child.

But if this happened more than ten years ago, parents at that time would take the initiative to tell the teacher that if their children were disobedient in school, they would be beaten.

All parents were like that at that time.

This is a perception formed in the context of the times.

It’s just like what we call repressive education and encouraging education now.

Tell the truth,

There was no encouraging education in the past, it was all suppressive education.

Don’t say that your teacher hits you, your parents will also hit you when you get home.

It's all suppression, no encouragement.

Not only you get beaten, everyone gets beaten.

This is how it all came about.

Encouragement-based education has only been available in recent years.

So what do you think of encouragement-based education?
Of course it’s good.

Because he follows human nature, everyone is an independent individual.

But does that mean you can say that all parents in the past were wrong and bad?

It is definitely wrong to hit people.

Wrong is wrong.

But you can't say parents are bad.

Because they didn't mean to hit you.

That was the cognition in the context of an era.

Stick education.

It is determined by the overall environment.

It was difficult to get enough food at that time, so how could we have time to think about human nature or children's education? As long as we didn't starve to death, it was enough.

If children don't listen, they will be beaten. Everyone does this.

Your parents are just ordinary people among the masses, how high can you expect them to have high thoughts?"

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

What the hell!

suddenly see the light.

"It's a perception formed in the context of the times. What you said is really good, brother."

"It was a wake-up call. It seems that all parents at that time were like that."

"When I made mistakes in school, the first thing my parents said to the teacher was to ask the teacher to hit me hard (laughing and crying)."

"I was even worse off. I was beaten by my teacher at school, and then my parents continued to beat me when I got home (grin)."

"That's really miserable (dog head)."

Hahahahaha.

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Raymond Lam: “Of course,
Just because I say this doesn't mean he is right.

Repressive education is wrong.

It is also wrong to support teachers beating children.

I can understand that you are hurt psychologically.

I just think that you shouldn't use today's thinking to judge your father's behavior from more than ten years ago.

It is unfair in itself to not consider the historical context.

Let me make this clear to you first, and then I will continue.

Otherwise I’m afraid you’ll be misled by the comments in the barrage.

Now that this is clear,
I continued.

It's just people.

They all have a common problem.

Even though others are so good to you, you still have to find fault with them.

Can you understand?

You just said that your father still loves you very much and your family is quite happy, but every time you think about the time when your teacher slapped you in elementary school and your father didn’t help you, you feel sad.

Essentially,
You have the same problem as the girl who just came on the microphone.

The relationship between parents and children is actually the same as marriage.

No one is perfect.

Everyone has his own shortcomings.

You can't expect a father to be perfect.

Or a marriage he is perfect for.

There is always this missing part.

But this shortcoming does not prevent him from being a good person overall.

You should look more at the good things about your father.

In fact, you are already very happy.

Father still loves you and treats you well.

In reality, how many fathers slander their children, do not support their children, suppress their children, and even drain their children?

That's a bad father.

And sister,

Is there a possibility?

I mean, maybe.

Think about it carefully. When you were slapped by your teacher, your father did not support you.

Is there a possibility that he is also helpless?
Let me give you an example.

Is it possible that he was helpless and compromising due to his own lack of ability?

Because at that time in the past, many families were very poor.

Some parents don't dare to offend the teacher.

It's not that they are so scared.

But if you offend the teacher, then the teacher will make things difficult for you at school, and you will be the one who suffers.

So parents may compromise in this regard.

But he won't tell you.

Because at that time, it was impossible for a father to tell these things to his children.

Think about it yourself, is this possible?

Because you said your father actually loves you very much and treats you very well. I don’t believe that such a father would not feel distressed after knowing that his daughter was slapped in the face by others.

He must be heartbroken too.

But he had no choice.

If you offend your teacher, you will be the one who suffers in school in the end.

You mean like transferring to another school now?
It's not realistic either.

Because transferring schools costs a lot of money, and ordinary families at that time really didn't have the financial means to do so.

There may not be any other schools near your home.

So your dad had no choice but to compromise.

All I can say to you is, be a good boy in school.

He had no choice.
He was also helpless.

Why do we often say that after becoming parents, we are able to reconcile with our parents?
right here.

It doesn’t necessarily mean that what parents did in the past was right, and now they suddenly realize their mistakes.

no.

In most cases, when you become a parent and your child encounters the same problem,
You will find that

You also retreated.

Cowardly.

It turns out that you are not as brave as your parents should be in protecting you as you thought when you were a child.

After you became a parent, when faced with the same problem, you chose the same approach as your parents.

why?
Because there is a gap between reality and ideal.

It may be due to the lack of family finances, or it may be that the general environment does not allow it. In short, you are timid and you have weighed the pros and cons.

In the end you find yourself helpless and you can only compromise.

Do you understand what I mean?

It doesn’t mean that you made the same choice as your parents, because this choice is the right one.

no.

It's helplessness, it's a compromise.

It is only when you face this problem alone that you realize how difficult it is to make a choice.

You will also reconcile with your parents.

right here."

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

What the hell!

"Brother is awesome."

“That’s an angle I’ve never heard.”

"It's helplessness, it's a compromise..."

"Thanks, big brother. I suddenly understand my father a little bit (fist)."

"It turns out that I only wanted my father to support me, but I never thought about putting myself in his shoes (crying to death)."

"I have changed places, but only between the father and the child. I have thought about what I would do if I were the father, but I have never considered my family's actual financial ability and conditions, or the price I would have to pay for doing so."

"I think I can make peace with the past..."

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Lin Feng: "Who wouldn't want to hold their head up high?

If you had one million at home at that time.

Don't even mention one million.
About three hundred thousand.

If your family had 30 yuan at that time, your father would never have let you suffer this.

Slap my daughter in the face?
Oh shit,

You have to go to school and ask your teacher to apologize in person. At worst, you can transfer to another school. But do you have the financial means to endure this?
This is the same as how people are bullied by their bosses at work today.

Some people may say that if you are not happy at work, then you should not do it.

Yes, you are single and you can just not do it.

But I have a family to support, I can’t do that.

Those stupid colleagues still say behind my back that I am timid and cowardly.
What can be done?

There's a mortgage at home that requires money.

Normally, it costs money for children to take extra classes during the summer vacation.

Tuition fees still need to be paid when school starts in September.

My wife also needs to buy new clothes and cosmetics.

Your boss will say a few words to you at this time, saying that you are single and you are awesome, you dare to quit.

I fucking want to quit my job, but I don’t dare.

With so many things to spend money on and a whole family waiting for me to support them, I had no choice but to compromise.

If the boss wants to scold you, go ahead, as long as he doesn't fire me.

But in the eyes of others, you are considered spineless and you dare not resist.

Then you need the capital to resist.

Unless you're in the same situation as me, you'll understand.

So we should look down at all living beings.

Don't take it for granted and think about what you would do if it were you.

Just now there was a comment that said it well,
You can't just substitute your identity, you also have to substitute the other person's family and economic background.

Tell me the truth, who doesn’t want to hold their head high and lead a good life?

Is there anyone who is inherently lowly?
It's because of your living environment that you are forced to bow your head.

Don't pretend.

Everyone has to bow to power sometimes.

You have,
I have too,
There are.

Why do I dare to scold mistresses and those people with distorted values ​​in the live broadcast room?

You all applauded and said that the scolding was great.

The host has very positive values.

What are you doing?

It's not because my pockets are full and I have no shortage of money.

If I didn’t have some assets in real life, to be honest, would I dare to call her a mistress?
They are my parents who provide me with food and clothing, they are my father.

Who am I scolding?

If the mistress can buy me a sports car, I will let him scold me.

I have to earn this money even if I have to kneel down.

Otherwise, I won’t be able to pay the rent next month.

Do you understand?

In the face of reality,

What are three views and five senses?

Everyone has to keep their heads down."

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Is anyone inherently lowly? It's just the living environment that forces you to bow your head (grin)."

"The mistress bought me a sports car, and she can scold me (crying to death)."

“Big brother is so real (thumbs up).”

"I took a taxi that day and asked the driver casually, 'What is life?' The driver slowly said, 'I didn't like driving before.'"

"I heard a sentence that day. We will eventually compromise, bow to reality, and understand that pride is worthless."

What the hell!

Heartbroken.

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Raymond Lam: “Look, some people say that reality is too painful.

Then let me tell you a heartbreaking fact.

Why, after so many years, are you still feeling resentful about your father's attitude back then?

You said you felt bad.

Then ask yourself, what really makes you sad is that your father did not support you, or that your teacher slapped you in the face in front of the whole class?

It must be that the teacher slapped you in the face and embarrassed you, and that's why you feel uncomfortable.

Then maybe it's your father's inaction.

But what is the essence?
What makes you most uncomfortable and unforgettable are those slaps in the face.

The essence is the teacher who really hurts you.

But you don't hate your teacher, instead you hate your father.

Ridiculous or not?
You said your father lacked courage and did not support you back then.

Since you are so brave and you are an adult now, why don't you just go to the teacher's house,
Tell the teacher that you slapped me three times in front of the whole class. Do you know how much hurt this incident caused me?

You were young at that time, so you couldn't understand it.

But you're grown up now.

Why don't you just confront the person who hurt you?

Basically, you don't have the courage.

If you don't fight for your own interests, you are a coward.

Why do we have to ask our father to be perfect? ​​"

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

shit
Hit the nail on the head.

"Brother, look beyond the phenomenon to the essence. The teacher who beat her is the original sin, not her father."

"Brother is so clear-headed (thumbs-up)." (End of this chapter)