I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Raymond Lam: “It’s normal for two people to have some arguments after getting married.

So what your wife wants now is that she just wants to move out. As a husband, you just need to go along with her.

I'll rent it out for half a year.
Maybe after living here for half a year, she feels that living with her parents-in-law makes housework much easier.
She wanted to go back.

Let’s talk about it then.

But now people may be holding back on this anger, so I personally advise you two to be a little more cautious.
They had just gotten married and they were truly in love with each other, otherwise they wouldn't have been able to get to where they are today.
Therefore, it is better not to have a big misunderstanding about the other party because of these small conflicts and immediately get a divorce or something else.

Which marriage doesn’t need to be managed?

How can there be two people who are perfect for each other?

In the final analysis, you have no principled issues now, and there is no cheating or domestic violence.
The same thing happened with that lady. She didn't say anything too excessive, nor was she a demon or anything like that.

Whether it is the bride price or anything else she is talking about now, it is all on her. If you really have difficulties in the future, your wife may not be a cold-hearted person.

After all, your wife grew up in a single-parent family, so it's normal for her to feel insecure.

In the end, it's just that your personalities need some time to adjust to each other, so why would you divorce now?"

Man: "There are many small problems between us. For example, I am the one who does all the cleaning at home, and I never ask her to do anything."

Lin Feng waved his hand: "Don't say anything, buddy, it's just mopping the floor and cleaning, it just happens to be your major.

You are a firefighter, aren't you? To be honest, you may not need firefighting skills at home.

But you said to do some housework, then aren't we able to do that?

After all, isn’t that what we do in the team? "

Man: “Uh…that’s true.”

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On the barrage

"Firefighters don't have to use them when putting out fires at home, but they are perfect for mopping the floor (laughing and crying)."

"Yes, with the dog's head in hand."

"Hahahaha perfect summary, it has to be big brother hahaha."

. . . . .

Woman: "Brother, he is too nervous, let me do it.

I was still in confinement after giving birth and had only been out of the hospital for a week when her mother told me about someone else's pregnancy. I felt very uncomfortable.
If you really want to tell me, you can wait until I recover. "

Lin Feng was speechless: "Why are you back here again?

Sister-in-law, let me tell you, it is very likely that your mother-in-law has no bad intentions.
She may just be a big talker who speaks without thinking, but she is not necessarily a bad person.

Otherwise, you've been on the microphone for so long, but you haven't said anything?

It simply means that gold is only bought once, and the betrothal gift should be discussed.
I said, if you want to understand a person, you can't look at what he says, you have to look at what he does.

From what I heard, you are the one who does the housework and cooks the meals, so at least you have not been treated unfairly in life.

I didn't yell at you, hit you, or scold you.

So it's just like that. It doesn't make sense to say that the other person had malicious intent.

Just like when a sister-in-law connected with me before, she said that she had a big ulcer on her mouth and couldn't eat.
Her mother-in-law even specially stewed her favorite pork ribs for her on that day. Did I say she did anything wrong?

She said that she knew I had mouth ulcers but still stewed pork ribs for me, but I couldn't eat it.

Do you understand, sister-in-law?

the same.

From your perspective, you would think, this is intentional, can't you see that I have mouth ulcers and can't eat?
In fact, they may have seen that you haven't eaten for a few days, so they specially made your favorite ribs.

She just didn't take your situation into consideration, but she's probably not a bad person.

Otherwise, if you come here to complain, you can only complain about the gold you bought once.

And like I said, buying it once is a favor.

What can you do if some mothers-in-law won’t buy it for you?
So she has not caused you any substantial harm, which also shows that she is really nice to you in life.

You just experienced the pain of losing a child and feel a little disgusted in this regard. If you don't want to hear it next time, just say so.
Next time we learn how to express ourselves, and don’t let the mother-in-law guess. We can say, “Mother-in-law, please stop talking. I just lost my child. I will feel bad if you say this now.”
Then the mother-in-law might realize it and say, "Yes, yes, yes." Then I won't say anything more.
This matter is over.

In fact, it is the same for you. You may just say that you have some resistance, but you haven't said that you have any ill will towards his mother, or that you have any so-called aversion to your husband.

If you really dislike each other and can't get along anymore, since the divorce date has been set, there is no need for you to come and connect with me.

In the end, we all have feelings for each other and think that people are all good.”

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On the barrage

"Change your perspective and everything will become clear (thumbs-up)."

"My big brother is very capable and can talk about anything (laughing and crying)."

"Brother is awesome."

"Master Qingtang (dog head)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

The woman was silent for a moment and then said, "Maybe there's something wrong with me too. Just like what my eldest brother said, I just went through the pain of losing my son.
Also, because of my pregnancy, I changed jobs. Now my salary has been cut in half, and I feel a little disappointed.

Actually, all of this can be overcome. I just feel that in our conflicts, my husband always sides with his parents, so I want to move out."

Lin Feng waved his hand: "Sister-in-law, it's not that your husband always defends his parents, it's that their parents are doing pretty well.
As for your husband, I'm not saying you're wrong. I can probably guess that he wants to mediate the conflict between you and his parents.
But he was like a troublemaker, making things worse.”

man:....

Lin Feng: "Brother, I really have to say something to you. You may have good intentions and want to ease the relationship between her and your parents.

So you try your best to blend in the middle.
But in the eyes of your wife, you are taking care of your parents, and maybe you should occasionally tend to your daughter-in-law a little and provide her with some emotional value.

What does it mean?

I'm not telling you to forget your roots, but you forget your mother after you get married.
That's not the case.

Instead, don’t mention your mother’s good points in front of your wife, but mention your wife’s good points more.

For example, your wife tells you that your mother said the same thing to her again today.

You are right, yes, yes, it is you, my wife, who can really tolerate my mother's bad mouth. I can't even tolerate it myself.

Maybe your wife will feel relieved and she doesn't need you to say good things about your mother. She will say that it's not a big deal and your mother is actually okay.

What about your mother? She said, "Son, when I talk to your wife, she always has a sour face."

Just say that you, my mother, are broad-minded and that my wife's personality is really like that. Mom, you should be more tolerant of her, otherwise you are my mother.

Can you understand?

That's the reason why both sides are fine.

But I guess you, your wife told you, and then you tried hard to reconcile their relationship, is my mother not good to you?
You want to say good things about your mother, just like you have been repeating just now, your mother treats her well,
In fact, you want them to ease the conflict, but when your wife hears it, she will only get angrier.

Similarly, you may praise your daughter-in-law in front of your mother. When your mother hears this, she will ask, "What? Aren't we good to her? We have done all the housework, and you have done nothing."

By then your mother will be angry again.

So you are neither a human nor a human being.

In fact, this is just a matter of skill and you can get through it.

There's not much hatred.
So what your wife needs now is to move out for a while, so you can rent a house and live outside for a while."

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On the barrage

"Big brother is definitely good at managing life (I admire him)."

"In fact, my mother-in-law has another meaning: there will be a child."

"Yeah, this woman's emotional intelligence is worrying." "This mother-in-law's emotional intelligence is not high either (grin)."

"My own mother sometimes pokes me in the heart without even realizing it."

"We are a family and understand each other."

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Man: "Brother is right, because there are many conflicts between them. When she told me about it, I wanted to help them solve such conflicts.

Regarding the issue of induced abortion, my wife has always felt that my parents are hurting her by saying this.
So I organized a family meeting that day.

I called my parents together, and the four of us chatted together. I asked my wife to speak out what was on her mind.
Then let my mother explain why she said that at that time.

But my wife still has these knots in her heart."

Raymond Lam: "Your behavior is correct, but you have to consider one thing, because your wife grew up in a single-parent family.

She had never experienced this kind of family meeting, where both parents were present and expressed their ideas.
Can you understand that she has never experienced it?
So from your daughter-in-law's perspective, she has never seen such a scene before. Even when she was a child, her parents probably didn't talk to her very much.

If you suddenly ask her to sit here so formally, she will think that your family must be helping your family, and they must be talking about me, so she will have such thoughts. "

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the girl over there burst into tears.

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On the barrage

"Growing up in a single-parent family, I have never seen such a scene. My eldest brother really hit the nail on the head (amazing)."

"Big brother understands her better than her husband (laughing and crying)."

"Wrong, Big Brother knows her better than she knows herself (dog head)."

It's true.

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The man seemed to realize his problem, and hurriedly comforted her, then asked: "Brother, what should we do now?"

Lin Feng: "I have already said that now that she has put forward her demands, we just need to meet her needs.
And your wife's demands are not excessive.

The two of you have a combined monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, so you can just move out and rent a house to live in temporarily.

That’s all.”

Man: "But she keeps talking about divorce. She always talks about divorce."

Lin Feng: "Okay, if she really wants to divorce you, she doesn't even bother to ask you for a divorce, she just goes through the process and writes out the divorce agreement.

In fact, she brought up the divorce only because she felt insecure and hoped that you would pay a little more attention to her, so she kept bringing it up.

Because every time I mention it, it may attract your attention or concern.
It’s actually just a request.

Sister-in-law, I have to criticize you a bit. In the future, try to learn to speak softly when speaking harsh words.
This habit you may have developed since childhood has taught you to say harsh and tough words.

But in many cases, a family still needs to be a little gentler. "

Woman: “Yeah, I understand.”

Man: "Actually, my original intention was to make our little family better, and my parents also hope that our little family can be better..."

Lin Feng waved his hand and interrupted, "Alright, stop being stubborn, don't give me any fucking explanations. I see your wife's tone is much softer than yours now, so don't talk about right or wrong anymore. Just change it, but just satisfy your wife's current needs."

The man nodded hurriedly: "Yeah, yeah, I understand. Thank you, big brother."

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On the barrage

"Awesome, big brother, you saved another couple (awesome)."

“Isn’t this better than psychological counseling? (Thumbs up)”

"Brother, if you were in the psychological counseling industry, you could make thousands or even tens of thousands an hour."

"I tried Erickson hypnosis consultation, 2500 per hour, two nights, 1 per hour, but nothing changed (laughing and crying), it's better to listen to the big brother's live broadcast."

"The difference between Big Brother and psychological counseling is that he doesn't charge for anything, it's purely for consultation (sunglasses)."

Loved it.

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Raymond Lam: "Since we are planning to divorce tomorrow, let's just take a day off tomorrow and go to the movies and go shopping together.

You just got married, and because of some minor conflicts, you two may seldom do intimate things.
Then let's just treat tomorrow as a date, and relax for a day, or go out and find a house."

Man, woman: "Okay, thank you, big brother."

Raymond Lam: "Happy wedding, bye."

He sent the two of them down to Mai.

Lin Feng shook his head and sighed, "Damn it, I really did the job of a mediator at the Civil Affairs Bureau.

To be honest, some mediators are paid by the government, and their mediation is completely random.
As soon as the couple came in, the mediator didn't ask what the conflict was about, but just said that they should get a divorce and just don't regret it after the divorce.

How can I break it down and crush it like I did and mediate it for you?

Sometimes I admire myself.”

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On the barrage

"No kidding, when I was getting divorced, the mediator told me to get divorced right away (laughing and crying)."

"The staff only stamps the documents and does not mediate (dog head)."

So true hahahaha.

"Don't tell me, I just saw a 'beaten mediator refuses to accept mediation' (sunglasses)."

"Ask the mediator who was beaten if he needs a mediator to mediate (laughing and crying)."

"He said he would not accept mediation (covering his face)."

Hahahahaha.

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Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette and said to the live broadcast room: "I told you about the comment section, it's not that the boy is right and the girl is wrong, or the girl is wrong and the boy is right.

Damn it, why is there such a gender conflict between the couple?

You can say that you won’t look for someone like this in the future, but you can’t ask them for a divorce.

In the future, you just need to find someone who is emotionally stable, but you have no reason to make demands on someone else's husband or wife.

If they don't want to solve the problem, they won't connect together.

This means that they definitely still have each other in their hearts, and they are just giving each other a way out.

Both of them know that there are some misunderstandings, and they just hope that the other party can be more considerate to them, that's all.

Otherwise, it would be so easy for them to just make an appointment to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau tomorrow and sign the agreement. To be honest, it would only take a dozen minutes for the two of them to sign the agreement.

Templates are available, just ask the printing shop to print one copy.

It's nothing more than two people being concerned about their reputation. Young people are like this, they speak in anger.
In fact, neither of them wanted to go.

It's just a small problem, so don't leave immediately.

How can you persuade people to divorce like this?

To be honest, their salary is pretty good. The two of them make more than 20,000 yuan in total. Once my sister-in-law's health recovers a little, 25,000 yuan will be easy for her.

You can go to Haidilao anytime, order whatever you want from KFC, and your life will be so good.

What’s more, my parents bought two houses and they are the ones who pay the mortgage. They are so happy.

Better than many people's lives.
You still complain that others live a bad life, I also admit it." (End of this chapter)