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Chapter 14 Part [-]
Previous: Questioning skills: how to speak so that others will listen, how to listen so that others will speak
Chapter 3 Interrogation Scene 3: Asking for help, clever questioning and insight into people's hearts
The third section repeatedly presses and asks, and does not give the other party a chance to delay

Mini scene house:
The person you are asking for is not a good talker.

Question story session:
Zhao Pu was a minister of the Song Dynasty. He had been the prime minister of the emperors of Taizu and Taizong. He was a stubborn person.Once Zhao Pu recommended an official to Song Taizu: "Your Majesty, Meng Fei is a rare and virtuous minister. He has been an official for many years. Should you consider his promotion?"

Because Taizu usually didn't like this person, he ignored Zhao Pu's words.Zhao Pu was not discouraged, he felt that he was wholeheartedly serving the public and did nothing wrong.When he went to court the next day, Zhao Pu mentioned the matter to Taizu again and asked Taizu to rule, but Taizu still did not agree.

Zhao Pu still didn't give up, and asked again on the third day: "Your Majesty, what do you think about Meng Fei's matter?"

Zhao Pu repeatedly mentioned it three times in three days, and his colleagues were also surprised.Taizu got angry this time and tore up the memorial on the spot and threw it on the ground.

Surprisingly, Zhao Pu silently picked up the torn pieces of paper one by one, and glued them carefully at home.On the fourth day when he went to court, Zhao Pu raised the pasted memorial over his head and stood still in front of Taizu without saying a word.

Taizu was really helpless: "If I don't agree, what will happen to you this time?"

Zhao Pu didn't change his face: "If you have done something wrong, you must be punished, and if you have done something, you must be rewarded. This is an old saying, and no one can change it. How can the emperor ignore this principle because of his own likes and dislikes?"

After hearing this, Taizu knew that he had no choice but to agree to Zhao Pu's request.

Wonderful question:

It has always been difficult to ask for help, especially when faced with "hard bones".There must be a reason why some people are so hard to move.For example, Song Taizu in the story, the person Zhao Pu recommends to him is exactly what he hates. Facing such a person, how can he easily agree?But Zhao Pu was a very persistent person, and if he refused to agree, he used the trick of repeatedly urging him.

Repeatedly asking is to hold on to a question and keep asking without getting a satisfactory answer.

On the matter of asking Taizu to allow his own memorial request, Zhao Pu questioned him four times.From the first time to the last time, the degree of questioning became deeper and deeper.The reason why he didn't give up was because he knew that he couldn't give Taizu a chance to delay. If he delays, the probability of success will be very small.And one of the essential qualities of a job seeker is to resist pressure, not to be afraid of difficulties, not to be surprised in danger, to be able to control one's emotions, and to be able to control one's emotions without showing emotions.

Of course, Zhao Pu also found out what Taizu was thinking.The reason why Taizu refused to agree to himself was not because Meng Fei was not capable, but because he didn't like Meng Fei.Ruining a talent's future because of personal likes and dislikes is what Zhao Pu doesn't want to see, and this is also the driving force behind his continued questioning.

Zhao Pu's four questioning of the Taizu was completely against the matter and not the person, without the slightest malice. He just wanted to recommend a good minister to the country.Taizu finally agreed to him because he understood his thoughts.

When asking for help in life, it is inevitable to encounter temporary obstacles. At this time, you must not be discouraged. Like Zhao Pu in the story, if you persevere again and again, things will be done one day.

(End of this chapter)