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Chapter 21 Part [-]
Previous: Questioning skills: how to speak so that others will listen, how to listen so that others will speak
Chapter 4 Interrogation Scene 4: The distance between people's hearts, the measurement of interrogation
The fourth section pays attention to the key points and asks questions repeatedly

Mini scene house:
How do the two parties who meet for the first time understand each other by asking the key points in each other's words.

Question story session:
A depressed lady walked into a psychiatric clinic and said to the psychiatrist before she was fully seated:

"Doctor, please help me, I don't know what to do, I'm going to have a nervous breakdown."

"Ma'am, what's the matter with you, you really don't look good?"

"My husband comes home very late every night, and he ignores me when he gets home. When I ask him what he is doing, he says he is working overtime, but sometimes I smell perfume on him, and he still wears perfume while working overtime? I doubt him. You did something shameful behind my back."

"You said you doubted?"

"Yes, I doubt it. He's like this every day, and I can't take it anymore."

"But are you sure?"

"Doctor, it's a woman's intuition. Do you understand a woman's intuition? And between a man and a woman, only men can have affairs and flirt with women, but women can't."

"You said 'only men'? I seem to hear something else, can you explain?"

"It's easy to understand. What can't men do? In the past, everyone thought it was a good thing for men to find women outside, but it's different now. Men and women are equal."

"You mean women can now have affairs as well as men?"

"I didn't mean that, it might be an angry word. I just wanted to express that my husband made me very angry for doing this kind of thing without telling me, and I can't stand it!"

"You mean if your husband told you about this, you would allow him to do it, right? And in order to express your idea of ​​equality between men and women, you would find another man, right?"

The lady wanted to deny it, but seeing the doctor's firm eyes, she had to reluctantly admit it.

Wonderful question:

The wife and the psychiatrist in the story met for the first time, and the wife went there with a feeling of complaining and venting her dissatisfaction. Unexpectedly, she was finally forced by the doctor to reveal her true intentions which were surprisingly imperceptible.How do doctors do it?Grasp the key points in the other party's words and focus on asking questions, and you can see the clues.

At first, the doctor didn't know what the lady's true intentions were, but when he heard words such as "I suspect" and "only men", he immediately realized that this was a woman with ambitions. "I suspect" reflects that she is relatively subjective and will make assumptions, while "only men" seems to reveal some kind of "jealousy": only men can, why can't I?This sentence was the subtext of that lady. She didn't dare to say it because she had the mentality of asking the doctor to come up with some countermeasures to deal with her husband, and she never thought that something would happen to her.She can deliberately hide her intentions, but she can't be completely flawless and show her feet in the conversation.The doctor took advantage of this, grasped some signs in her words and questioned her, and finally forced out her innermost thoughts: My husband is having an affair, and I want to have an affair too.

Regardless of whether this was an idea when he was angry or a long-planned idea, in the final analysis, he was asked the truth by the doctor.As a result, the woman's mentality has also undergone great changes: the resentment at the beginning, the guilt and anxiety after being wronged and later revealed.Just imagine, if the doctor did not grasp the key points in the other party's words during the whole conversation, but listened to her and asked, would the other party's true intentions still be discovered?The result is likely to be negative.

This gives us a reminder: when two people meet for the first time, no matter what identity and status the other party has, they should pay attention to the key factors in the other party's words, ask a few more times, and maybe they can ask different content, and these content are possible. Take you into each other's heart.

(End of this chapter)