Learn some wonderful questioning techniques, mind reading techniques, and psychological control tech

Chapter 28 Part [-]
Previous: Questioning skills: how to speak so that others will listen, how to listen so that others will speak
Chapter 6 Interrogation scene 6: The secret that women cannot tell

In the first quarter, retreat is the closest, men's "jiu-jitsu" outsmarts women's hearts
Mini scene house:
When faced with a sudden problem from a girl, how to make the other party express his true intentions through questioning.

Question story session:
Girl: "Just met my parents the other day and I have a question for you, do you really like my family?"

Boy: "Of course, why do you ask that?"

Girl: "Our family has no money, unlike yours, my parents are both farmers."

Boy: "Didn't I tell you that my parents are also from the countryside, maybe it's harder than your parents? When I was a child, I stayed in the countryside for many years and did a lot of work? You didn't?"

Girl: "No."

Boy: "In this case, will you look down on my parents, look down on me, and dislike us?"

Girl: "Of course not."

Boy: "Then my answer is that I won't dislike your parents, and I won't dislike you."

Wonderful question:

Generally speaking, the biggest difference in the way men and women speak is that men are straightforward and women are reserved.Therefore, when a woman uncharacteristically asks a man his opinion on something, especially a person or thing that is closely related to him, the man must carefully figure out the woman's intention, and the answer is often not as simple as it seems on the surface.

This is the case with the girl's problem in the story.She asked the boy a question about her family: "Do you really like my family?" This question implies several meanings: First, the girl wants to see her attitude towards herself through the boy's view of her family.Second, the girl's family may have some conditions that are not acceptable to others. Whether the boy accepts it is the key factor for the girl to judge whether the other party really loves her.Therefore, facing such a complex question, a smart boy will not give a simple answer of "yes" or "no".

The boy’s answer above is to start with his parents’ hard life in the countryside, corresponding to the girl’s parents, and then ask the girl, because my parents have such an experience, will you dislike me and despise them?In this process, the boy used the method of retreating to advance, first lowering the identity of himself and his parents to the same position as the woman's parents, and after reducing the psychological gap of the other party, he raised the original one that was originally given to him by the other party. Throwing the question back to her, he entered the question in a roundabout way.The woman's answer not only unraveled the man's doubts, but also untied her own knot.

During the question and answer between the boy and the girl, the girl's mind has already been figured out by the boy.The reason why she asked that question was to get some kind of affirmation, which was not limited to herself, but also involved her parents and even siblings.It is easy to accept a person, but it is not easy to accept the family relationship behind a person.The boy's rhetorical question is the answer to the girl: "In this case, will you look down on my parents, look down on me, and don't like us?"

Once you ask, you know that the other party will not disagree. When the boy narrated his parents' experience, he deliberately emphasized the similarity with the girl's parents. Since they are all the same, why would I dislike you?

Therefore, when a man and a woman are in a relationship, if there is some gap between the two families, in order to stabilize the relationship and dispel one party's concerns, it is better to deliberately reduce one's own advantages and make the other party feel that she is no different from you.In this way, the two will develop steadily and there will be no conflicts in family background.

(End of this chapter)