Economic Wisdom to Apply in Your Twenties

Chapter 82

Chapter 10 Section 5 What kind of friends you make determines what kind of person you are
Two bed-mates who have graduated for a year are having a conversation.One of them was glamorous and well-spoken, while the other was sad and decayed prematurely.

The first girl said with emotion: "The people I know are so strong. They have just graduated for a few years, and they buy houses and cars. I have learned a lot from them. I feel that life is very fulfilling now. There are many dreams that I need to realize.” The second girl said with a wry smile, “I don’t know anyone as good as me, and many of them are our former classmates. Nothing to pursue."

What caused the two sisters who walked out of the same dormitory to have such different outlooks on life?That is, their circle of friends is different, and their friends are different.A girl's friends are all more successful than herself. She learns a lot from her friends and has a lot of positive attitude, so she will work hard towards success.And the other girl is at the same level as her own, or even worse than her own circle of friends. After a long time, she thinks that everyone's living conditions are like this, so she doesn't want to make progress.

An only child born in the 20s, they have no siblings to rely on, so they hope to have more like-minded friends on the road of life.In fact, friends are not only your playmates to relieve loneliness, more often, what your circle of friends is like will determine your character and your ambitions.

Think about it, when you were with your childhood friends, did you only learn how to play the game of "hopscotch"?Are there some study tips you and your middle school buddies learned?Did you and your college friends learn which shopping malls are on sale recently and which games are fun to play?Young people in their twenties are beginning to enter the society. If you know and interact with these friends, would you know which industry has the most development prospects now?Do you know how to invest to make the most money?Will you know what kind of other half you should find to be happy?

Confucius once made a clear distinction between "beneficial friends" and "damaging friends" in "The Analects of Confucius? Ji Shi Pian", "Three friends are beneficial, and three friends are detrimental. Friends who are straight, friends who understand, and friends who learn more are beneficial. Friends will be created , Kindness and gentleness, friendship will be reckless, and it will be detrimental.” The old predecessors told us thousands of years ago that there are good and bad friends, and if we want to make friends, we must make good friends.Statistics have shown that people who have good friends at work are 7 times more enthusiastic about their work than the average person. Because they are in a happy mood, they are less likely to have accidents and are willing to help colleagues, and their careers will become more and more successful.

So, what kind of friends can add luster to our life?How should we choose our friends?Some people may not have achieved much now, but he has considerable potential. When the time is right in the future, he will definitely be able to achieve a career.And more importantly, he is a friend who treats you sincerely and will never abandon you when you are in trouble.Such friends generally have the following three characteristics:
1. He is capable

Some people say that to see who a person is, depends on what kind of person his friends are.Indeed, the quality of the friends we make directly affects our own.Improving your level of making friends will allow you to find your own shortcomings, learn from your friends' strengths, and you can also enter circles that you have never set foot in and enrich your knowledge.Be friends with the strong, after a long time, you will have the thinking of a successful person, and you will use the thinking of a successful person to think.

2. He is a man of integrity

This friend must be upright, have a bright personality, and must not be flattering.Because the personality of a friend can reflect your personality, he can give you courage when you are timid; he can give you a kind of decisiveness when you hesitate, so that you can develop and succeed.

3. He is a tolerant person

When we accidentally make a mistake or cause harm to others, excessive criticism and criticism are not as long-lasting as the power of tolerance.In fact, sometimes what moves us the most is that when a person repents, he doesn't get the resentment of others but gets a little tolerance.Tolerant friends will not make us depraved or more indulgent, but add a kind of self-examination to our hearts, allowing us to find our own shortcomings and shortcomings from the tolerance of others.

Some people say that the twenties are not used to learn how to "play", but to learn how to interact with people.Associating with good friends not only adds a lot of happiness and self-confidence to your life, but also paves a bright road of contacts in the future.It has been said that if you want to see what kind of person a person is, first look at his friends.Therefore, if young people in their twenties want to become a successful person, they must make more "strongman" friends.

Wisdom Pieces: How to Cherish and Treat Your Friends Well
1. Smile
A real smile requires sincerity in the heart.If you can smile pleasingly and look good, then you will definitely win the favor and trust of the people around you.

2. praise
Experimental psychology studies on rewards and punishments also show that the behavior after being praised is more reasonable and effective than the behavior after being reprimanded.

3. Express gratitude
Gratitude is to value what the other party has done and to the other party's personality.Even if someone does a trivial thing for you, don't forget to say "thank you".At the same time, you should be constantly discovering things to be grateful for.

4. Good at communication
Ideal interpersonal relationships are based on the mutual exchange of ideas.Unity of will is impossible without knowledge of the wishes, opinions, and feelings of the other.

5. Learn to listen
The more capable a person is, the more serious and focused he is when listening to others.Listening attentively is a kind of "compliment" that can make the other party most happy, and it is also a respect for the other party.

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