A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 80 3 True or False: Harry Potter is a girl
There is a classic line latent in the recently hit TV series, which says that the guerrilla leader Cuiping went to Tianjin to cooperate with Yu Zecheng to lurk in the Kuomintang, and disguised himself as Mrs. Yu, so he wore a cheongsam and dressed like an official wife.But she is very rural in her bones and has never read any books, so she often makes jokes.

One day, Cuiping asked Yu Zecheng if he was wearing a newly made cheongsam, and Yu Zecheng said, "Yes, it looks good, like Lin Daiyu."

"Who?"

"Lin Daiyu."

"Where did you know the wild woman?" Cuiping's earth-shattering words made the audience in front of the TV laugh, including her "husband" Yu Zecheng.In our eyes, people who have never heard of Lin Daiyu are like Martians, so in the eyes of children, what about the father who has never heard of Harry Potter?
"Dad, I want to buy a copy of "Harry Potter". My classmates have it, and I want to read it too."

"what?"

"Harry Potter."

"Oh, that magical girl."

Pause here, dads, Harry Potter is a girl, right?
I think the child's expression of almost fainting on the spot and the attitude of "I don't want to communicate with you" have already announced the answer.The effect of Dad saying that Harry Potter is a girl is no less than Cuiping saying that Lin Daiyu is a wild woman. In the child's heart, this is simply impossible to communicate.It’s no wonder that the children usually can’t find a topic to talk to their father. If they don’t even have “common sense” like Lin Daiyu and Harry Potter, it will be extremely difficult for the two to communicate.What's the fun of communicating when all the energy is spent explaining common sense?
It's not feasible for dads to know the many jargons of the child's world.Especially now that the Internet language is developed, children's vocabulary is updated too fast.But that doesn't mean dads can't understand their kids, or don't have a chance to learn what Harry Potter is all about.

Why do you say that? "Harry Potter" has several books, most of which have been made into movies, and there are many reports about it, you can see it in any bookstore, and children often hear it this vocabulary.If Dad has never heard of it, it probably means you haven't watched TV or movies, read newspapers, visited bookstores, or talked to your children for a long time.Isn't this "closed" to the child's world?

Therefore, what fathers need to change is their attitude towards their children: don't passively understand their thoughts, or wait until their children have problems before communicating, but proactively communicate with him.

"What good books have you read recently?" "Is there any news to release?" "I heard that your school has an interesting quiz, do you have any ideas?"...Actually, fathers can take the initiative to ask their children to learn about his life , Let the children express their views on the surrounding things to their heart's content in front of their father.Maybe he has always been an unknown child in the class, and no one cares about his psychology, but when he comes home, if his father can take the initiative to ask him, he can become the protagonist and get a kind of psychological compensation in explaining to his father , and will not feel that he is a "no opinion" grassroots.

When Dad took the initiative to ask some very common sense questions, there would be no more jokes about Harry Potter being a magical girl.

Of course, if the father can take the initiative to do some behind-the-scenes work on his own, learn a little about the plot of "Harry Potter", and even read this book with his children, and exchange ideas about who he likes the most and who he wants to be. The relationship between them will be better.You know how many kids yearn for a dad who can talk about Harry Potter.

(End of this chapter)