There are ways to speak and speak skills

Chapter 1 Preface
Han Feizi once pointed out that to firmly grasp the other party's heart, it is not by profound knowledge, but by accurately grasping the other party's psychology.The general idea of ​​his words is: the difficulty of persuasion lies not in being well-informed or expressing oneself, nor in having the courage to express one's own opinions, but in seeing through the other party's heart and skillfully putting forward one's own views on this basis.

Human psychology is very delicate, even the same sentence will be interpreted differently due to the emotional changes of the other party.Only by understanding the heart of the other party can we control the changes in their emotions.A silent person is a closed door. If you are a little careless in communication, the other party will never open up to you.

For example, how do you get a "reticent" person to open up?You should first enter the other party's inner world to cause him to be psychologically shaken.If you "invade" him beyond a certain level, most people will be shaken psychologically.

You can also make the other person feel that you sympathize with his situation.If the other party keeps silent or talks about him because of setbacks, you may wish to express sympathy, such as telling him that if you were in the same environment and encountered the same thing, you would definitely fail.In this way, the other party will worry that he will be misunderstood by you if he keeps silent, so he will start a conversation with you.

If you ask a friend if you will help you, and the other person asks: "What's the matter?" He is trying to find an excuse to refuse to help, because the next sentence he will say: "I can't help you with this." If you say : "Your business is my business." Yes, it may not help you, he does not know what is the first to agree to you, he may be talking nonsense.

If a lover says: "It's good for each other." It means that it's good for him.

If a man says: "Although you don't love me, I will always protect you." It means goodbye.

If a woman says: "This dress is too expensive, don't buy it for me." It means that if you buy it for me, I will be very touched.

If an ex-lover says, "It's been so many years, a lot of things have changed." It means I'm better off than you are now.

If the husband says: "This number is wrong." It means that this number is for me.

If the wife says: "This dress is only 1000 yuan." Then this dress is worth at least 3000 yuan.

If someone says, "I am right about things and not about people," then he must be right about people and not about things.

It can be seen that the role of psychology in speaking and doing things is still very large.With this knowledge, many subtexts will be understood.

Effectively grasp the psychological changes of the other party, so that each other can change from stranger to familiarity, from familiarity to confidant or close friend; it can save the crisis and open the smooth door to a smooth road.

In ancient times there was mental art, and today there is psychology. Their significance and functions are the same and interlinked. They are related to the success or failure of a person, a team, a company or even a country.In ancient and modern China and abroad, there are many people who lost their lives to psychological tactics or self-psychological diseases: such as Yang Xiu who was beheaded by Cao Cao during the Three Kingdoms period, and Wang Lang who was scolded to death by Kong Ming.There are also many people who have succeeded in psychological warfare all their lives: such as Yan Pingzhong who killed three scholars with two peaches in the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period; Zou Ji who satirized the king of Qi and accepted advice.

In life, everyone desires to be successful. "Psychology in Talking and Doing Things" provides a lot of fresh and practical relevant materials and psychological explanations in ancient China and abroad, so that you can face anyone and any place calmly and freely.Let your wealth increase rapidly, find sweetness in love, closer relationship with relatives and friends, and success in career!

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