There are ways to speak and speak skills

Chapter 12 Talking to Your Lover → Strategies of Love (1)
Two people in love are one world.In this wonderful world, especially first-time lovers, they test, guess, and fantasize about each other, and both sides become extremely delicate and sensitive.Every word and every sigh of the other party can cause lovers to ponder carefully.Their speech is full of implicit hints and sudden confessions, full of overtones and undertones that are both real and unreal.

Subtle and euphemistic to convey affection

A girl who has just fallen in love always likes to pretend to be icy, which makes people feel inaccessible. Even if she likes you, she will pretend to be indifferent.If you want to get close to her, you have to melt her indifference, use your tenderness to melt the ice-like indifference in her heart, so that you can win her heart.

Girls have almost no aversion to gentle and trustworthy boys.In life, girls often encounter some annoying and unsatisfactory things.In the complex and overwhelming interpersonal relationship, a girl hopes that others will care about her, and she will be moved by a man's thoughtfulness and tenderness.

At this time, you need to be able to express your love in an appropriate and timely manner.So, how to express your love?Let us first look at the following classic story:
When Marx knew that Paul Lafargue was passionately pursuing his second daughter Laura, he wrote a letter to Lafargue.In this famous letter, Marx expresses a wonderful theory of love: "

"If you want to maintain your relationship with my daughter, you should give up your courtship. ... Even if she is officially engaged to you, you should not forget that it is not appropriate to be too intimate, because When a pair of lovers live in the same city for a long time, there will inevitably be many severe tests and troubles..."

"In my opinion, true love is manifested in the lover's reserved, courteous and even shy attitude towards his idol, and must not be manifested in casual enthusiasm and premature intimacy."

What Marx said to Lafargue is still suitable for contemporary youth.

Yes, "casual enthusiasm" and "premature intimacy" can only mess up the filament of love.Temporary satisfaction and pleasure can only compress your image and lower your position in the heart of your sweetheart. The result is conceivable, let alone accepting your love. What a vasodilated response to your expression.The fault of all this is that you are not good at expressing yourself, and you don't know how to walk into a deep castle.Relying on your own subjective imagination and unilateral consideration can only keep you away from this castle.

Let Marx tell you how to advance smoothly into the depths of the castle:

It was a beautiful afternoon. Marx and Yanni were walking side by side on a long path. The sunset glowed on Max's cheeks, like a drunk Russian man. The sunset glowed on Yanni. Her hair was shining golden, like a beautiful and romantic French blonde.It was in such a poetic and picturesque scene that Marx suddenly stopped discussing a question about Hegel’s philosophy with Yanni, as if remembering something, looked affectionately at Yanni’s beautiful face, and slowly And firmly said to Yanni: "Hey, Miss Yanni, I have good news for you."

"What good news?" Yanni's face was full of surprise and excitement, as if she knew the answer.

"I already have a sweetheart." Max didn't seem to understand the change on her face.At this time, Yan Ni suddenly froze her smile on her pale face.

"What? She, who is she?" Yanni was a little incoherent, because it was beyond her expectation.

"Well, you may know her." Max smiled at Yanni mysteriously, handed Yanni a small delicate box, and said, "This is her photo."

Marx seemed to have handed the small box to Jenny casually. The moment his hands touched, Max felt that Jenny's hand was a bit cold, but Jenny could no longer feel Marx's big warm palm.

Then Max politely made an excuse and separated from Yanni.

Yanni couldn't wait to open the box, she wanted to find out who Max fell in love with.

However, when she just opened the small box, her face immediately turned red.Because there were no photos in that small box, only a small round mirror, in which Jenny's blushing face was reflected.

Yanni smiled, and since then, she has truly embarked on the journey of life with Marx.

Psychological tips:

It can be said that, in a certain sense, the letter mentioned above can also be said to be an experience talk about Marx’s love life, and the wonderful plot of expressing love just mentioned is the reflection of the content of this letter. It is best to comment.Those who know how to convey love messages in a subtle and subtle manner will eventually win the heart of their sweetheart.

Love is not a simple game, it requires you to strengthen it with words, inspire it with actions, express it with your heart, and convey it with your heart.So, expression is your necessary avenue.For the expression of love, as Marx said, "take a reserved, humble and even shy attitude", this kind of love has a tortuous beauty, which is easier to touch the lover's heart, let him (she) be reserved to you I sincerely accept your love in your praise.

Telling the truth and taking the opportunity to express feelings
There is a roundabout way to talk about love, which is to tell the truth and take the opportunity to express your feelings.

In the 19th century, the famous Russian writer Fyodor Dostoevsky found out the heart of the little secretary in this way, and "forced" her to confess.

1866 was a turning point and a year of great significance for Dostoevsky.His wife Maria and his brother died of illness one after another.In order to pay off the debt, he rushed to write the novel "The Gambler" for the publisher, and he hired a stenographer named Anna Grigoryevna, a 20-year-old girl with an unusually kind-hearted, intelligent and lively temperament.

Anna admired Dostoevsky very much, and she was serious and meticulous in her work.After the manuscript "The Gambler" was completed, the writer had fallen in love with his stenographer, but he didn't know whether Anna would be his wife, so he invited Anna to his studio and said to Anna: "I'm conceiving another book. A novel." "Is it an interesting novel?" she asked.

"Yes. It's just that the end of the novel has not been arranged yet. I can't grasp the psychological activities of a young girl. Now I can only turn to you." Seeing that Anna was listening, he continued, "The protagonist of the novel is an artist. I'm not young anymore..." The protagonist's experience is the writer himself, Anna heard it, and she couldn't help interrupting him: "Why are you torturing your protagonist?" "It seems that you are sympathizing with him?" the writer asked Anna .

"I sympathize with this protagonist very much. He has a kind heart and a heart full of love. He suffers from misfortune, but still yearns for love and earnestly hopes to obtain happiness." Anna was a little excited.Dostoevsky went on to say, "In the words of the author, the girl the protagonist meets is gentle, intelligent, kind, and understanding. She is not a beauty, but she is quite good. I like her very much."

"But it is difficult to combine because of the disparity in personality and age between the two. Will a young girl fall in love with an artist? Is this a psychological distortion? I ask for your help and listen to your opinion." The writer asked Anna for her opinion. "How can it be impossible! If two people are in love with each other, why can't she love the artist? Isn't it only worth loving for appearance and wealth? As long as she really loves him, she is a happy person, and she will never regret it."

"Do you really think this way, really believe that she will love him? And love him forever?" The writer was a little excited, but also a little hesitant, with a trembling voice, which seemed very painful.

Seeing the writer's expression, Anna was stunned, but then finally realized that they were not just talking about literature, but also conceiving a prelude to a swan song of love.Miss Anna's true psychology is just as she said, she is very sympathetic to the protagonist, the writer Dostoevsky, and loves this great writer from the bottom of her heart.To answer a writer ambiguously would be a terrible blow to his self-esteem and pride.So Anna excitedly told the writer: "I will answer, I love you, and I will love you forever."

In the end, Dostoevsky and Anna became husband and wife.With Anna's help, the writer paid off all his debts and wrote many great works in the happy second half of his life.

Psychological tips:

To be honest, the "love detour" that takes the opportunity to express emotions is certainly not a "trap".Dostoevsky's ingenious plan to court Anna has always been regarded as a love story by the world and widely praised.

We can not only take advantage of the other party's heart in this way, but also skillfully avoid some embarrassing situations.Such a subtle and euphemistic expression of love will make it easier for your sweetheart to accept your courtship.

insinuating
Both parties in love share a mysterious world that is not "open" to outsiders.In this world, insinuating words have their special expressive effect.The message of love is stronger in indirect remarks than in loud words.This point can only be deeply felt by lovers in love.When both parties are intoxicated in the world of love, when there is a little misunderstanding or a little disagreement, if you whisper a few words next to his (her) ear, the other party will feel infinitely happy, and the misunderstanding and opinion will also be resolved. Suddenly disappeared.

In Egypt, it is considered immoral to openly pursue a girl.Fahmi fell in love with Maria, the daughter of neighbor Muhammad Redwan, but he dared not express his feelings publicly.

One day, Fahmi was teaching his younger brother to recognize new characters on the balcony. He was very happy to see Maria drying clothes on the balcony, but he didn't know how to express his love.At this time, the younger brother saw that something was wrong with his elder brother, and asked loudly: "I have already written the new characters you want me to recognize. Why don't you let me write silently?" Taking it into consideration, he thought of a wonderful method that could not only express his feelings, but also test Maria's attitude towards him.

He picked up the book and deliberately said loudly to his younger brother: "Heart..." As the younger brother read and wrote, Fahmi looked for the reaction on the girl's face.Then he said loudly again: "Love..."

"I haven't learned this word yet." The younger brother hastily retorted. "I've taught you this word several times, but you just can't remember it!" Fahmi said with a smile.Just when his younger brother was wondering, Fahmi raised his voice again: "Marriage..." At this moment, Fahmi saw the shy red cloud on the girl's face.Fahmi finally passed on the fiery love in his heart to Maria, and he felt extremely happy and relaxed in his heart.At this time, Maria walked towards the wall step by step. Seeing that his sweetheart was getting closer and closer to him, Fahmi thought: I must tell my parents quickly, I must tell my mother quickly, and ask her to go to Maria's house to help him. Proposal……

Psychological tips:

Some people say that insinuation is a "secret channel" for communication between the two parties. This is true. Open this channel to allow love to communicate, and you can become the happiest person in the world.

Women have a psychological defensive instinct, often use words to cover up their original intentions, and don't like others to tell the truth.If a man pretends to be smart and speaks directly about a woman's thoughts, it will often arouse women's resentment.Therefore, when pursuing women, you must know the art of speaking, observe words and expressions, make insinuations, and master the measure.

outspoken candor
In the process of a relationship between a man and a woman, it is difficult to know when they are no longer friends, but have the first conversation as lovers.After the two young people experienced a long friendship, with the increase of time and feelings, the friendship took a "leap" and love was born.We regard young people's confession of love to his (her) loved one as the first conversation with lovers.

(End of this chapter)