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Chapter 36 Open up your life and be the best social king 4
Alchemy of the King of Communication

Some friends need to be close, while others need to be far away.Making friends should not only be for happiness, but also for practicality.Good friends are hard to find, and even harder to find if you don't choose.When making friends, you should look for long-lasting friends, because they will last forever and you can share the beauty of life with them.Life without friends is a wasteland.Friendship doubles the joys and halves the pains; it is the sure cure for adversity, the wine that nourishes the heart.

You don't have to have many friends in your life, but you must have one or several confidants. These old friends who can stand the test of time will reach out your hands when you are frustrated.And some people usually abandon you when you are in trouble, or even add insult to injury, and you will be deeply hurt by it.

A long time ago, there was a righteous man who made friends with heroes all over the world.Before he died, he told his son, don’t look at me wandering in the rivers and lakes since I was a child, and the people I made friends with are like crucian carp crossing the river. In fact, I have made one friend in my life, and the others are not worth mentioning.

The son was puzzled.The father just stuck to his ear and explained to him, and then said to him, you go to meet these friends of mine as I said, and you will naturally understand the meaning of friends.

The son first went to the "friend" identified by his father, and said to him: "I am the son of so-and-so. I am being hunted down by the court. I join you in a hurry. Please rescue me!" , hurriedly called his son, ordered his son to quickly change his clothes, and put them on the unknown "important court criminal" in front of him, but let his son put on the clothes of the "important imperial court criminal".

The son went to the home of several other "friends" of his father.These people usually call their father brothers and sisters, as close as a family, but when they figured out the reason for their son's visit, they all turned pale with fright, and made excuses to slip away.

My son finally understands that a true friend is the one who can lend a helping hand in your most critical moment, and those who make friends with you when you are prosperous will often abandon you in critical moments.In this society, friends are also divided into "three, six, nine". If you treat a hypocritical person as a true friend, you will be hurt one day.What's even more frightening is that if it's just hypocrisy, the fear is that you will make a bad friend by mistake, and the consequences will be even more serious.A real good friend will only come by invitation when you are proud; when you are frustrated, you will come uninvited.

There is a Chinese saying: The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, but the friendship between villains is sweet.Associating with a gentleman, you can experience deep affection in indifference; associating with a villain, you lose yourself in the sweet talk, and you don't know it when you are framed.If you don't have the wisdom to know people, you need to be more cautious in making friends.Everyone has shortcomings and deficiencies. Some shortcomings are forgivable and tolerant, while others are unforgivable. Especially when it comes to the nature of human beings, we should not take it lightly.People with essential problems must not be handed over.

There should be a difference in dealing with people: associate with those who can teach you, associate with heroes, get acquainted with those who have principles, and stay with those who are lucky; People who are stronger than you share secrets, don't become cannon fodder for big shots.

Life itself is an art, and making friends is a subcategory of that art.Making friends is like painting, some paintings are sketches, some paintings are oil paintings, some paintings are realistic, and some paintings are impressionism.Painting methods are different, and making friends should also be different.You don’t have to treat your friends equally, because everyone’s temperament is different, some people can do things for their friends, some people only think about their friends if they don’t harm their own interests, and some people will do it for themselves Benefits stab friends twice.Therefore, you must divide your friends into levels and priorities.

A character known as the king of communication, who can make friends share happiness and sorrow with him, and can fight back with his own ability and the help of friends when his interests are harmed by villains.The mystery of the way of making friends requires people to experience it in a lifetime, and the most important thing is to be flexible and not rigid.

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