greatest wisdom book

Chapter 37 Open up your life and be the best social king 5
A wise person who follows the elite with his heart and the public with his mouth

To be a human being should be fickle and decent in words and deeds.When you communicate with scholars, you should show your knowledge in your conversation; when you communicate with saints, your behavior should be noble.Even if you're a grounded person, adjusting yourself to fit in with others is a useful principle of life.Don't cut off contact with others easily, otherwise it will damage your reputation and even make you enemies.Follow the elite with your heart, follow the public with your mouth, you are a wise person.

The ancient Greek philosopher Pythagoras once said: "Live like this: so that your friends will not become enemies, and your enemies will become your friends." Wherever you find a friend, you will be reborn there, and in Where you set up an enemy, you will stumble; a thousand friends are too few, and one enemy is too many; a gentle look and a heartfelt word from a friend can make you endure the many hardships of life, and The resentment from the enemy can make you sit on pins and needles, and the original gorgeous life will be overshadowed by it.

Human feelings are cold and warm, and the world is impermanent. Many people who are your friends will lead to many paths, and many people who are your enemies will form many walls.Human beings seek comfort, value and protection in mutual interaction, and it is this star-studded relationship that keeps people from fighting the world alone.In other words, people survive by helping each other. Even Robinson Robinson, who lives on a deserted island, has a partner named "Friday", not to mention us in a social circle full of fierce competition, noise and disputes. .

People often like to be close to people with similar interests and temperament, and they will also avoid those people who they don't like and do not want to deal with. But many times they have to work with people they don't like very much, and they are good at adjusting A person who can get along with people he doesn't like is a strong person.Everyone has their own strengths. People you don't like don't mean they have no strengths, and their personality doesn't necessarily have problems. Maybe you can learn skills from them to enrich yourself.Learn to put aside your own prejudices, open your mind, and treat others with sincerity.Being able to get along with people you don't like is a skill in life, and it's a kind of wisdom.

After graduating from Yale University, Harmon studied in Freiburg, Germany for three years.After graduating and returning to China, he went to find Hasto, a mine owner in the western United States.Hastor is a stubborn and practical person, and he doesn't trust those polite and theoretical mining engineering technicians.

When Harmon applied for a job with Hasto, Hasto said: "The reason I don't like you is because you did research in Freiburg. I think your mind must be full of a lot of stupid theories. .Therefore, I am not going to hire you."

So Harmon pretended to be timid and said to Hastor, "If you don't tell my father, I will tell you the truth." Hastor said he could keep the promise.Harmon said, "Actually, when I was in Freiburg, I didn't learn any knowledge. I devoted myself to work in order to earn more money and accumulate more practical experience."

Hastor immediately laughed out loud, and quickly said, "Okay! That's great! I just need someone like you, so come to work tomorrow!"

Smart people make small "give and take" when dealing with people they don't like, or when confronted with disagreements.Whenever a dispute arises, they always think: on this point, can some concessions be made without compromising the overall situation?Therefore, no matter when you get along with someone you don't like, the only way to deal with the resentment of others is to make concessions in small areas to ensure victory in big areas.

Adjusting yourself to suit others does not mean that you are an unprincipled person, but it proves your generosity and prudence.Concession does not mean compromise, but to win a bigger victory.In every situation, it is wise to live peacefully with those who do not like or agree with you.The world is so big, who can guarantee that he will not be able to contact those who are not speculators?Once you need these people to help, because you have established a good relationship with them in advance, there is one more way to solve the problem for you.

Those whom we should not offend, some we can use, and some are not to be touched.In front of the latter, if we express too much disgust, it is easy to cause unnecessary trouble for ourselves.There is an old Chinese saying: "It is better to offend a gentleman than to offend a villain." This sentence is not without reason.

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