Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 29 The pure whiteness of life, keep the pure land of the soul (3)
Most proud women will have a certain sense of superiority to varying degrees, such as the superiority in appearance. Of course, a beautiful woman will feel good in front of an ordinary woman; for example, the superiority in freelance work. Of course, it will feel good in front of a woman who only takes a few thousand dollars a month; for another example, a female doctor will certainly feel good in front of a female master.

So why do people feel superior?There are many reasons, having a certain advantage, a certain ability, a certain creation, a certain achievement, all of which will lead to a feeling of superiority and surpassing others.

In fact, this is originally a normal psychological need of people, and there is nothing wrong with it.After all, there is only one life, so why not ask yourself to be better than others?However, too much is too much, that is to say, if this feeling of self-superiority is inflated, it will make people arrogant and rude, and then they will start to become arrogant, defiant, and refuse to listen to other people's opinions.Over time, you will lose your balance, lose your direction, and even lead to life tragedy. This is by no means alarmist.

Shakespeare said a classic saying in "A Midsummer Night's Dream": "Woman, gorgeous gold diamonds and shining pearls have won you a vain imagination like a queen. Little do you know that there are only snobby women around you. Poisonous, arrogant fragrance, provocative and murderous fragrance. Woman, when you pay tribute to wealth again, cheer for fame and fortune, and raise your arms to power, please don't ask the thrush that once sang, she no longer knows where she is flying. Because Her voice has been dry and hoarse, for truth, honor and clean soul perish.” Shakespeare is telling all women in the world, no matter how rich or noble you are, but if you infinitely magnify your sense of superiority, you will eventually Captured by arrogance, then it will eventually fail.

The inflated sense of superiority is a very frivolous self-awareness. It will make others respect you, make you gradually lose friends, and make you an isolated person in the crowd. Only when you consciously restrain your arrogance and innocence Only then can we find the commonality with others to the greatest extent, so that we can find peace and peace in our hearts.

French philosopher Rossi Fagou said: "If you want to have enemies, make yourself superior to your friends; if you want to have friends, make your friends be superior to you."

She is the executive director of a foreign company. Because she is very hardworking and has outstanding abilities, she was sent to the branch as a deputy manager after research and decision by the company's senior management.

In the first few months of her tenure, she was very proud of her opportunities and talents.As a result, her sense of superiority arose spontaneously, and it accumulated more and more. She always put on an air of superiority and arrogance in front of her friends and colleagues.She often brags about her achievements at work in front of her friends. At first, her friends are happy for her success, but as time goes by, they become impatient and even start avoiding her, which makes her a little puzzled.Later, no friends, colleagues, or leaders wanted to talk to her anymore. She felt that her life was empty and lonely, and she sat in the office and moaned every day.

Later, a friend pointed her to the maze, and she realized where her crux was.From then on, she seldom talked about herself and listened more to her friends, because they also had a lot of success to say and a lot of superiority to express, which was far more exciting to them than listening to others bragging.Later, whenever she had time to chat with her friends, she always asked the other party to show off their joy and share it with her, and only modestly talked about her achievements when the other party asked her. Gradually her popularity improved again.

When our friends behave superior to us, they have a sense of respect, but when we behave superior to them, they will have a sense of inferiority, resulting in envy and envy us .Smart women have already realized this, so they never enjoy the glory alone, nor share the glory with their friends, but give their superiority to others.

In real life, we often meet such women. They are quick-witted and emotional, but when they speak, they make people feel very arrogant, so it is difficult for them to be welcomed by others, and it is difficult for others to agree with her views and suggestions.Most of these women are because they love to express themselves too much. They always want others to know that they are capable. Lose prestige among friends.Therefore, don't be an arrogant and rude woman, otherwise you will not only be unable to gain the approval and respect of others, but it will also be an invisible burden on your own heart, preventing you from obtaining peace and peace.

6. The background color of life is simplicity

Happiness in life does not lie in abundance, but in contentment.Some people are always looking, and whatever they get is not what they want; some people never seek, and what they get is what they want.Letting go of greed and pursuing a plain and simple life is the easiest way to obtain happiness.

Nowadays, when you turn on the TV, computer, newspapers, and magazines, you can see advertisements for beautiful women looking for marriage everywhere. In the advertisements, women often list the conditions of houses, cars, tickets, etc. in the same way.This impetuous desire seems to have become a common social emotion, widely permeating our daily life and work.Desire makes many women lose their accurate positioning of themselves, making them follow the crowd and act blindly.

Among all the desires of women, the desire to shop is the one with the highest incidence rate.The desire to shop seems to be an instinct for most women, and there is no special reason for it, just like cats like fish.It's just that some women's desire to shop slowly develops into a pathological condition, reaching the point where it is difficult to control, and they become "shopaholics" as a result.Women who have become "shopaholics" have a morbid possessive desire for goods. When faced with a dazzling array of goods, they will not hesitate to spend a lot of money, even if they are useless to themselves or repeated purchases. Will do whatever it takes.Of course, the consequences of doing so will not only empty their wallets, but also pile them up in debt.

The movie "Shopaholic" focuses on showing several different types of shopaholics.Fang Fang, a kindergarten teacher at an international school, took a group of students to the shopping mall for activity teaching. Unexpectedly, she accidentally saw her favorite brand-name clothes. Come.As a result, the students scattered, and Fangfang could not escape the fate of being fired, and was even sued by the parents in court.However, despite being entangled in lawsuits, Fangfang still did not forget to go shopping—buying new clothes for her court appearance.Because she lost her job and didn't have much savings, Fangfang was in debt not long after.

The judge found that Fangfang was a shopaholic, so he invited psychiatrist Xiaofeng to conduct a psychological assessment for her. The results showed that Fangfang, who had no parents and was raised by nuns in an orphanage, was a born happy shopaholic. Disease, everything is caused by genes.Xiaofeng introduced a psychiatrist for her, hoping that she would go for treatment.Later, with the help of a psychiatrist, Fangfang gradually got rid of her crazy shopping habits.

Soon, Fangfang met He Qiongfu, a man who liked to grab things from others while shopping, but would regret it after he got them. Fangfang believed that the rich and the poor also had symptoms of shopaholics, and suggested that the rich and the poor should see a doctor, but the rich and the poor are born with the same symptoms of shopaholics. I'm stingy, I think it's expensive to see a doctor.Fangfang thinks that the rich and the poor are in debt just like herself, and she sympathizes with the rich and the poor, so she acts as a doctor to teach the rich and the poor how to save money on shopaholics.Unexpectedly, the rich and poor turned out to be the big boss of a listed company in the city, with a net worth of over tens of billions. He used the money-saving methods taught by Fangfang in his business, making the company a fortune.And under Fangfang's teaching, he gradually controlled his crazy shopping desire.

In fact, there is another hallowed shopaholic in the movie, that is the psychiatrist Xiaofeng.

She buys so much that she needs a warehouse to store it.Fortunately, the last few shopaholics got rid of their bad habits and found their lovers.

Fangfang in the movie was lucky, because in the end she met a man who was rich and loved her, who not only helped her get rid of her illness but also paid off her debts.But this is just a movie, you are not the heroine in the movie, you are just an ordinary white-collar worker, or even more ordinary working girl, you have no capital to "shopping to the end" in the mall.If you become a "shopaholic", there is nothing waiting for you except high debts.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed that the lighter the color of most flowers, the stronger the fragrance, while the more colorful the flowers are, the less fragrant they are. In fact, people’s temperament is the same as flowers. .However, in real life, many women have begun to become more and more impetuous.

The impetuousness and desire in a woman's heart are like dust. Once the wind blows, it will float up, making the mind cloudy, difficult to settle down, difficult to produce clear wisdom, and difficult to accumulate the foundation of life.Once a woman is swayed by these impetuous mentalities, she will become distracted, bewildered, follow the trend without assertiveness and lose a clear choice.In doing things, he is like a blind well digger, digging wells everywhere, but it is difficult to dig out water.

Impetuousness is an epidemic in modern society. Almost all impetuous people have a common characteristic, that is, they often have greed in their hearts, and they always want to reach the sky in one step. It is precisely because of this greed that they only see See fame and fortune, but give up the down-to-earth homework.Therefore, impetuousness will hurt people's hearts, making people unable to mature and achieve greater success.

Su Hei once said: "Only when you learn to leave the negative desires you are attached to can you truly mature. Otherwise, it will be difficult for women to fulfill many social roles, and they will not be able to get rid of the demons that are controlled."

There is no end to emptiness, and endless desires.Women who are obsessed with foreign things, if they have a luxury house, they want a luxury car, and if they have a BMW, they also want a famous brand.With one thought of greed, a million barriers are opened.In order to satisfy their own desires and change the status quo, they began to get lost in Vanity Fair.For the sake of pleasure, for vanity, for the sake of face, he even sold himself out, and finally ruined his reputation.In reality, such examples abound.For their own desires, they completely forget what self-worth is and what it means to cherish themselves.

Mencius said: "Cultivating the heart is not good at few desires." Therefore, as a woman, you must maintain a normal heart, avoid greedy thoughts, and be indifferent to fame and fortune, so that you can cherish yourself.

(End of this chapter)