Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 4 In the depths of time, be a plain woman (3)
Just when she thought that a happy life was waiting for her not far away, the reality made her fall to the bottom all of a sudden.It turned out that after coming to the South, Gao Yang did not start working hard as he said, but sat around the gambling table all day long. Soon, he lost all the money she brought.She beat him, scolded him, and said he was a liar, but Gao Yang said that she was such a person in the first place, and she didn't see clearly, so she followed him smugly.Only then did she realize how wrong she was.At the same time, she also recalled all the benefits her former husband had done to her, and she regretted it unceasingly.In the end, she left Gao Yang and returned to her hometown, wanting to admit her mistakes to her ex-husband, hoping that he would forgive her, but when she came back, she found that her husband had already married another woman.

When it comes to extramarital affairs, many people will immediately think of a man's cheating.In fact, among the many extramarital affairs that lead to the breakdown of marriages, women are not in the minority.The women outside the besieged city all wanted to enter the city earlier, so some couldn't wait to walk in.But when I walked into the city, I found that the life in the city was not as exciting as I thought.As time went by, the ordinary life made the woman feel a lot of resentment in her heart, so she began to yearn for a life outside the city.However, when she sneaked out of the city and re-interpreted a relationship, she discovered again that life in the city was the happiest and most practical, but when she wanted to turn back, things were already different. .Therefore, if you can't stand loneliness, you may be stabbed by an extramarital affair, and even lose your life's happiness.

In fact, when you are lonely, there are many things you can do.When no one is bothering you, that's when you open up your wisdom.You can read, you can think.Smart women, in the face of loneliness, will be more sure of their feelings and more clear about their needs.Because they know, ambiguous, can not afford to hurt.

Ambiguity is not love, it is just a game played when you are lonely, it has nothing to do with feelings.Isn’t there such a saying: Men, don’t let your girlfriend have a confidante, if you are blue, you will be green; women, don’t let your boyfriend have a confidante, if you are red, you will be yellow up.Smart people, take this as a warning, and refuse to be ambiguous to the end.

5. Never disappoint every moment of your life

When tomorrow becomes today becomes yesterday, and finally becomes a day that is no longer important in memory, we suddenly find that we have been pushed forward by time unknowingly, this is not a stationary train, interlaced with adjacent trains Sometimes, it seems like the illusion that we are advancing, but we are really growing, and we have become another self in this matter.

In "A Chinese Journey to the West", Supreme Treasure, who is about to transform into Monkey King, uttered a classic line: "There was once a sincere love in front of me, but I didn't cherish it. I regretted it when I lost it. The most precious love in the world There is nothing more painful than this. If God can give me a chance to start again, I will definitely say three words to that girl-I love you. If I have to add a deadline to this love, I hope It’s 1 years.” I believe that everyone who has watched this movie will be deeply impressed by this passage, and those who feel the same way will even shed tears.The reason why this passage is passed on and on by people is because it hits a weakness in human nature, that is, people often only know regret and value of cherishing after losing something.With love, we don’t know how to cherish, and we go after bread, and the result is that love is worn out; with youth, we don’t know how to cherish, and we toss life and death, and the result is that youth is fleeting; We can’t go back; we don’t know how to cherish family affection, and leave it to repay later. As a result, the son wants to be filial but the relative is not there... There is no medicine for regret in life. Don’t wait until you regret it to know what regret is, let alone always immerse yourself in the past. in pain.To obtain happiness, we must have a sober and realistic attitude towards life, put aside the past, devote ourselves to today, live in the present, and cherish everything we have now.

She has been in love with her boyfriend for 5 years, and the relationship has always been very good, but when they were about to get married, something unfortunate happened.Her boyfriend passed away in an accidental car accident. Since then, she has closed her emotional world. For a long time after that, she was unable to communicate with others normally.It's like she turned into a robot, living a life like a walking dead.Moreover, she often wears a coat that her boyfriend gave her before his death, and sometimes she doesn't even take it off when she sleeps.

One day, she found that one of the buttons on the coat was missing, so she ran like crazy all over the big and small shops in the city, but she couldn't find the same button.She was very sad, she was reluctant to throw away the dress, but how could she wear it without a button?

Seeing her heartbroken, her mother was very distressed, so she advised her to put away the clothes, and she would feel better if she didn't see it.But she disagreed. For her, wearing this dress was like her boyfriend was still with her, and she would never put it under the bottom of the suitcase.But what if you lose a button?At this time, a friend gave her an idea, let her take off the remaining four buttons and replace them with five more beautiful buttons, so that she can put it on again.She felt that what her friend said was very reasonable, so she found five buttons that were very unique and matched the dress very well.The coat is even more beautiful with the embellishment of five new buttons.

At this time, she also seemed to understand a truth: throw away a little incompleteness, but it is possible to get back more beauty.She woke up, so she decided to get out of the shadow of pain and look for a new life.

You must know that not all the opportunities in the world are set up for you alone. Life always has gains and losses, successes and failures. The boat of life is always ups and downs between gains and losses.In the face of opportunities, everyone should cherish them, but this does not mean that we can grasp every opportunity, so even if we miss it, don't feel too sorry, because life is like this.

Barbara Angelis once said: "The fragments of life are sometimes endless joy and sometimes deep sorrow. However, what remains the same is that when you put your heart and soul into the moment you are in, that moment One event, one moment, and what you experience is a moment of great significance, never in vain.”

The meaning of life can only be found from the moment.The possession of the moment is the foundation of happiness.But some people hold up the clouds and look up to the future; some people, gloomy and gloomy, look back at the past.Time flies, the present becomes the past, and the future becomes the present.We can't grasp the future, and we can't restore the past. We only cherish what we have now and keep our feet on the ground.

There is no perfect life, everyone will have shortcomings of one kind or another, and everyone will struggle for their own shortcomings all their lives.But many people make a mistake over and over again for this goal, that is, they ignore the present and do not cherish the present possession.

We are born with eyes, we can see the past and future, we are born with ears, we can hear the past and future, we are born with lips, we can explain the past and future, however, our body only exists in the present, it can neither travel through time and space, return to Even if you go to the corridor of history, you can't cross the tunnel of time and fly into the fantasy dream of the future.

Therefore, for this body that exists in the present moment, we must not get entangled in the past, nor dissociate with the things that are yet to come.As the famous Austrian poet Rilke said: "Happy now, happy forever." Only by living in the present and today can we live a wonderful life.

6. Read, travel, leave a little quiet time for yourself

I eat and travel alone, stop and go, and I also read, write, and talk to myself by myself.When traveling alone, you can cry or laugh, you can wander aimlessly, you can think about your image regardless of your image, and you are not afraid of disturbing other people's secrets and other people's dreams.Walking all the way through the most light and comfortable small bridges and flowing water houses, take a handful of fragile beauty and comfort, and put it in the bottom of my heart.

Reading can make the heart quiet; traveling can make the soul free.In addition, for women, reading and traveling add another layer of meaning, that is, they can leave these quiet time to themselves, so that they can grow and mature.

Shakespeare said: "Books are the nourishment of the whole world. Life without books is like having no sunlight; wisdom without books is like birds without wings." The world is very beautiful, but if there are no women, it will lose seven points of color ;Women are very beautiful, but if they stay away from books, they will lose seven points of their inner meaning. "There is poetry and book spirit in the belly", women who read books will be more lovely, because no matter where they go, they are a beautiful scenery. They may look ordinary, but they have elegant temperament, refined conversation, and generous demeanor.

Women who like to read are mostly emotional, delicate, and extraordinarily understanding.The advantage of reading is the empathetic experience. For women, beauty requires not only maintenance, but also experience.However, the rhythm of life in modern society cannot give us too many opportunities to experience, but reading, especially those literary masterpieces that deduce the vicissitudes of life with love, can give us the best experience.

The famous female writer Bi Shumin said: "As the days go by, the book has to be read page by page. The breeze is bright and the moon is dripping and the water is dripping through the stone. Read it for a lifetime. Books are like microwaves, shaking our hearts from the inside out. When the heart is warmed up slowly, the structure of the spiritual molecules will change and mature, and the effectiveness of the book will be highlighted."

Love of reading can make a woman love home more, be stronger and more romantic.Because, they often read life as a book, the breeze is bright, the water drips through the stone, and they read it year after year. The joys and sorrows, joys and sorrows, joys and sorrows, joys and sorrows, all vent and dissolve in the book.Although women who love to read have to do laundry and cook every day, as long as they pick up a good book, they will quickly get out of the mediocre and boring situation.Although women who love to read sometimes have trouble with work and feel uncomfortable, as long as they lie on the bed and open a book they like, they will forget their troubles, sorrows and illnesses, and immerse themselves in the beautiful artistic conception of the book.Women who love to read, no matter they are beautiful or ugly, old or young, are beautiful myths in this world.From Yang Jiang, who is nearly 80 years old, to Bi Shumin, who is called "the angel of literature in white" by Wang Meng, to Zhang Yueran, a female writer of the new generation born in the [-]s, in them, we can see women's self-reliance, self-improvement, and self-love The beauty of beauty, the love for ordinary and trivial life, the grasp and concern for life and destiny, and the positive and enterprising temperament for career.

The beauty of a woman who loves to read lies in her temperament, bearing and thought; the beauty of a woman who loves to read lies in her grandeur, calmness and indifference;Therefore, women who love themselves should often read to nourish their souls, enhance their temperament, and maintain their charm forever.

Women who love to read mostly yearn for freedom in their hearts, so if they have the opportunity to take a solo trip, they will definitely be happy to go.Traveling alone to feel the freshness of nature and the different styles of different places and regions will purify and cleanse their bodies and minds.Time flies, and inadvertently we will find that we have missed a lot of things in life, and it is irreparable: we have grown up before we can enjoy the fun of childhood, we have grown old before we can enjoy the youth brought by a beautiful face, and we have already grown old before we have time With a vigorous love, we have already entered into marriage, and we have reached the end of life before we have time to realize the happiness of life...Among the many delays, there may be one that makes us regret, that It was when we were young, full of energy, and full of yearning for the map, but we never took a trip for one reason or another, and when we finally made up our minds to pack our bags and prepare to go Time, but there is no chance.Therefore, although there are many things that are too late in life that we cannot control, such as growing up day by day, getting old day by day, but some things that are too late we can turn them into time, for example, find a place that you want most, and go to it without hesitation. Take a solo trip.

Lock your thoughts in the drawer, keep the unknown to yourself, and set off with your backpack on your back.No matter where you go, who you meet, just be alone.Traveling alone is a kind of self-awakening and a kind of relaxation with joy. It doesn’t matter where you go, the important thing is to stay away from the noisy crowd, so that you can be freed from the trivialities of life and return to relaxation and simplicity. , Personality Girls' Generation, no goals, no responsibilities, and no complicated emotions.

Take care of yourself, start with travel.Traveling alone may complete one of your own legends, maybe a love affair, or an adventure; traveling alone can satisfy a woman's curiosity to the greatest extent; Earn enough topics to chat with people in the future; traveling alone can let women learn a lot; traveling alone can let women enjoy life and return to nature; traveling alone can let women borrow The opportunity to bid farewell to the original unsatisfactory life, so as to let oneself move on to a new life path.

Beautiful women have different feelings of beauty at every stage; smart women not only know how to take care of others, but also know how to take care of themselves.A woman who loves herself is both beautiful and smart. Traveling alone is romantic for her and can nourish her dreams; traveling alone is also fashionable for them, which can make them more delicate, It is more beautiful and richer in thought; traveling alone is profound for them, allowing the body and mind to completely settle in the natural scenery between heaven and earth, and enjoy the fun; traveling alone is a It is amazing that it can make the mind give up thinking, and make sexy and rough, innocent and vain, elegant and vulgar, all of them are ready to come out.

If one day, when you start to yearn for that distant place because of a song, a movie, a piece of text or even a picture, don't hesitate anymore, take out the map, find that place, and tell me loudly For yourself, you must go there to find your dreams, then pack up your mood, pack your bags, feel with your body, touch with your heart, and appreciate with your life.

Give yourself a vacation when the time is right, get out of the house and go for a hike.Then relax completely, let the intoxicating sunshine freely permeate every corner of your body, from your body to your mood, and then the tiredness and exhaustion accumulated in your body for a long time will be completely removed.

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