Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 3 In the depths of time, be a plain woman (2)
You know, if you can bear it, it will always be a fake flower.But in real life, there are still many women who don't understand this truth, and always hope to use some crooked tricks to easily become winners in life.Perhaps, they became such people after all their hard work, but this kind of success is destined to not last long, and they often fall into the abyss of bitterness as soon as they taste the sweet taste.Just like in the world of martial arts, those who always try to take shortcuts often end up in a rut, and it is difficult to achieve a positive result.The same is true of the road of life, the convenient road may be a road of no return, so don't take chances and be tied up by the idea of ​​quick success and quick benefit, otherwise you will be greeted with a painful lesson.

She and Xiaoqiao are college classmates, and they are as close as sisters.After graduating from university, they didn't want to be separated, so they entered the same relatively large private company to work. She worked as a clerk in the administration department, and Xiaoqiao worked as an assistant in the personnel department.

She has a quiet, stable, down-to-earth personality, is very serious and responsible for her work, and works very hard. For her, working with peace of mind and living a down-to-earth life is the best life choice.In contrast, Xiaoqiao seems a bit more arrogant. From Xiaoqiao's point of view, she will definitely stand out in the future and live a very wonderful life. Because she is young and beautiful, there is no reason to be an assistant in the company for the rest of her life.

Half a year later, she got a small opportunity for promotion. A deputy director of the administrative department resigned, and the supervisor recommended her to the manager of the administrative department.She cherished this opportunity very much and worked harder.And Xiaoqiao was promoted earlier than her, and her position was much higher than her. Three months before her promotion, Xiaoqiao had been promoted to the deputy manager of the personnel department.

After being promoted, Xiao Qiao changed a lot. She moved out of the hut she shared with her and rented a big house in the city center by herself.After moving, Xiaoqiao invited her to visit her. Seeing the luxurious furnishings in Xiaoqiao's home, she felt a little puzzled. Coupled with some rumors about Xiaoqiao and the general manager that had been circulating in the company before, she felt a little worried.

So she began to ask about Xiaoqiao's relationship with the general manager tactfully, and it turned out that, as the rumors said, Xiaoqiao really had an unusual relationship with the general manager.For this, Xiaoqiao has her own understanding, "Although I rely on this relationship to get my current position, I think it is also a kind of ability. And the current life is exactly what I want. In the company, I It’s my boss, I don’t have to worry about food and clothing in life, I wear the best food and clothes, and I can travel abroad during the holidays, so I think I’m very happy now.”

Xiaoqiao "encourages" her to learn from herself, otherwise she may be at the bottom of the workplace all her life, doing the hardest work and getting the least reward.But she doesn't think so, she feels that her current lifestyle is very good, although it doesn't look as glamorous as Xiaoqiao for the time being, but these are all obtained by her down-to-earth, and she lives very peacefully.At the same time, she also advises Xiaoqiao not to indulge too much in the so-called happiness now. The true meaning of life is not to get something for nothing, but to be down-to-earth.But Xiaoqiao couldn't listen to her persuasion at all, and like this, the relationship between the two gradually began to drift apart.She continued to work hard and live seriously, while Xiaoqiao continued to enjoy her "happiness".Two years later, through her hard work and persistence, she finally stood out and was promoted to the manager of the administrative department.At the same time, she also received calls from many headhunting companies, who all hoped to introduce her to more powerful companies, but she refused them all. She felt that her ability still needs to be improved, and it is not yet the best time to change jobs. .However, Xiaoqiao left the company a year ago, went to the south alone, changed several jobs, and lived a very difficult life.It turned out that just when Xiaoqiao was using the relationship of the general manager to climb up step by step, there was a sudden news that the general manager was dismissed by the board of directors.It turned out that the company's performance in the last year was very unsatisfactory. The board of directors held a meeting and concluded that it was all due to the incompetent leadership of the general manager, so the board of directors decided to remove him from his position and re-elect a capable person.The general manager was dismissed, and Xiao Qiao, who was attached to him, also suffered the same disaster.After the new general manager took office, he began to eliminate the former general manager's "partners". As a result, Xiaoqiao was quickly dismissed, and not long after that, she was fired directly for a small mistake.

In real life, many women instinctively choose the easiest and fastest path, hoping to achieve success in the shortest time, but the result often makes them fall all over their bodies.Because it is not only difficult to succeed by taking shortcuts, but it may also lead to fire and get yourself into various troubles.

Indeed, a woman's youth is very short, but this does not mean that a woman's life can only be short-lived.If you are eager for success, most of them will be sweet first and then bitter.Accumulation and thin hair can be bitter first and then sweet.The road to fame is long and long, we should wait for the flowers to bloom.Life requires down-to-earth and long-term hard work. Only a solid foundation is the solid guarantee for success.

There are many meanings in life, but sometimes, people live in a down-to-earth way.We often find that many businessmen who have made a fortune, although they have gained wealth, their success is based on moral decline, and they will definitely bear the infamy of thousands of people.If they had chosen to maintain a noble and upright personality, then today they would not only gain wealth, but also be recognized and praised.Such success is real success, because such success is associated with integrity and nobility.

In the fast-paced life, high efficiency is what people pursue, but there are some things that we cannot overcome.As the saying goes, "you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry." Many times, it is better to be cautious and down-to-earth.

4. Ambiguous, go away
At a certain moment, we thought we had grown up. One day, we finally discovered that the meaning of growing up is not only desire but also courage and strength, as well as some kind of necessary sacrifice.

Women who have read Zhang Ailing's "Love in a Fallen City" probably envy Bai Liusu very much.At the beginning of the story, Bai Liusu met Fan Liuyuan, a tall, handsome and rich playboy.In the beginning, Fan Liuyuan didn't really fall in love with Bai Liusu, he was just flirting with her, just like he said: too busy to fall in love, no time to fall in love at all.He made love to Bai Liusu in front of everyone, but in private, he treated her with respect as a guest, not exceeding etiquette.At first, Bai Liusu couldn't figure out what Fan Liuyuan was thinking, but gradually she understood his intentions. He wanted to use this method to hold her up, so that she had no way out, and then threw herself into his arms automatically, so that he could Don't be responsible for her.

At this point in the story, everyone should have guessed the ending: Bai Liusu saw Fan Liuyuan's true face and left him.But Zhang Ailing did not stop writing here, but used a war to fulfill the couple.As a result, the ambiguous ambiguity of the past turned into a vigorous love under the sun.However, not all women will be as lucky as Bai Liusu, a war fulfilled her love with Fan Liuyuan.Otherwise, she must also become a hurt and abandoned woman.Therefore, although ambiguity may turn into love, the chance of this is very rare, and more often appear in the fictional works of writers.And you are just the most ordinary member among thousands of mortals, you are not the heroine of a certain love story that has been passed down through the ages.

Regarding this issue, Hong Huang once said a meaningful sentence: "The so-called surprise is that the rabbit you have been waiting for has finally arrived, followed by a wolf. Loneliness is unbearable. It often makes people regard ambiguity as love, but Behind this fake love, there may be a trap that you can't get out of."

The reason why many women think that ambiguity will turn into love is because they are afraid of loneliness and cannot bear it.In a person's world, no one walks around to be their flower protectors, which will inevitably make them a little sad.Therefore, in order to comfort this empty emotion, they often panic and take the ambiguity as love to plug the emotional gap, but they don't know that a big hole has been dug in their hearts.Why is this happening?Because men who are willing to flirt with women are unwilling to take responsibility, just like Fan Liuyuan, who first met Bai Liusu, in their view, flirting does not require commitment, and they can let themselves retreat at any time.

Men who are good at playing ambiguously understand women's hearts, and will always show tenderness intentionally or unintentionally when getting along with women.They are very gentle and considerate to women, and tell their hearts to women every day.Therefore, lonely women are always easily moved, so they will look forward to him saying the promise of a lifetime to himself.But wait and wait, just can't wait.The woman still didn't wake up, thinking that he might need time.He does need time, but this time is not for you, but for his real other half.One day, he will very generously take another woman's hand and walk up to you to introduce him, saying that this is his beloved.And the introduction to you may be just a friend, or a "buddy".In this way, he just put aside all the relationship between you with one sentence.And before you had time to shed tears, he had already led her away.

If you call the door crying, he will ask inexplicably: "Who made you sad, tell me, I will help you clean him up." Say the last sentence: "I have always regarded you as my good sister, but you misunderstood." In this way, your love instantly turned into a so-called friendship.Until this time, you will understand that you are just his playmate when he is lonely, and a pastime when he is bored, but it is too late, and what is left to you is a broken heart.

There are also some women who are relatively shrewd. They don't regard ambiguity as love, but also as a pastime when they are lonely.In order to appease the lonely heart, they will also self-control their ambiguity, and establish an emotion with classmates, colleagues or friends that goes beyond ordinary friendship.In this kind of relationship, while they are intimate with each other, they deliberately keep a distance. Sometimes they are sweet and affectionate, and sometimes they are as cold as ice. They know each other deeply, but they keep a certain amount of privacy through a protective veil.It looks like a nice feeling, one that doesn't hurt and that makes one feel a little bit happier.But, is this the truth?
Wandering in ambiguity, women are doomed to be losers forever.Because for men, a self-made ambiguous woman is equal to the advantage of being automatically delivered to the door, and it does not take advantage of it.Therefore, if a woman creates ambiguity, if she is a little careless, she will be mistaken by her cleverness, and lose her wife and lose her army.Not many men are willing to be the confidant of a woman who is unwilling to give herself.You are not his handsome, he will not be your pawn.

Therefore, no matter who first provoked the ambiguity, most of the people who were hurt by the ambiguity were women.A man flirts, drinks and makes fun of, he is a man of temperament, and when the time comes, he can pat his ass and leave in a cool manner.And once a woman is involved, it is difficult to calm down, but because there is no promise and no confidence, she can only look at his leaving back with tears glistening.

There are also some women who play ambiguously, and they are destined to have no results at the beginning. One is to play ambiguously with a married man, and the other is to play ambiguously with other men as a married woman.Playing ambiguously with a married man, in the end you are likely to be reduced to the reviled "little third son", and you will not escape the fate of being abandoned in the end. The man I met is unreliable in itself. If he can betray his ex-wife, he may betray you.As a married woman playing ambiguously, the consequences are even more serious.

She is very beautiful, and there are many people who pursue her, and finally she chooses a person who is rich and loves her.Her husband loves her very much, buys her whatever she wants, and leaves all the money to her.From outsiders' point of view, her life should be very happy, but she is a little dissatisfied. It turns out that although her husband is rich, he loves her very much, but he is a bit ugly and has a clumsy mouth, so he is not very good at speaking sweet words.

Once, she went to a party and met a man named Gao Yang.Gao Yang is tall, handsome, personable, and very good at talking, a few words make her smile like a flower.After the party, Gao Yang exchanged mobile phone numbers with her. Since then, Gao Yang often called her, sent text messages, and often invited her out for dinner and movies.In this way, they quickly developed into lovers.She found the feeling of being in love, and she felt that it was a wrong decision for her to marry an ugly and speechless husband, so she wanted to divorce and be with Gao Yang.But Gao Yang's attitude has always been unclear. He seems to enjoy the relationship with her as a lover, but when it comes to marriage, he is always evasive.One day a few months later, Gao Yang suddenly told her that he was going to the south to work hard.She wanted to go with him, but he said that after he arrived in the south, he would start his career again, so it would be very hard, and his life would be very difficult for the time being, so he couldn't bear to let her suffer with him.He promised her that when he gained a firm foothold there, he would definitely come back to pick her up.

But she didn't want to be separated from Gao Yang for a day, so she filed for divorce from her husband.The husband felt very sudden and tried hard to persuade her to stay, but she said that she had fallen in love with someone else, and in the end, the husband had no choice but to reluctantly agree.After the divorce, she got some property, so she took the money and came to the south with Gao Yang.

(End of this chapter)