The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 10 Deciphering the truth hidden behind men (3)
Generally speaking, when a woman hears a man keep saying "what is a woman", she will think that the other party looks down on women very much, so there will be such a misunderstanding in her heart: "If you live with such a man, After marriage, he will definitely oppress me!" Actually, this kind of concern is completely unnecessary.Men who open and shut their mouths are "what are women?", if you look into their hearts, you can find that they have infinite affection for women.Such people often lack the experience of interacting with women. Although from their hearts, they hope that they can be favored by women, but they also know that if they are not careful, they will be despised or abandoned by women.Because of this psychological contradiction, he said "duplicity".

There is a story in the fable about the fox saying that the grapes are sour because he can't eat the grapes.Those men who always talk about belittling women are actually harboring a "sour grapes" mentality.This kind of psychological performance is called "defense mechanism" in psychology.

For example, chess players who have a strong desire to win in their hearts often say modest words such as "I am not good at chess, I hope my players will show mercy" before playing chess, and do a good job of psychological defense in case of failure.A man in love will also show this mentality if he is not sure about the success of the relationship.

Conversely, men with this "sour grapes" mentality, once they can win the favor of women, they will treat them wholeheartedly.Because their desire to be close to women in the past has been liberated under long-term suppression, the psychological buffer caused is quite large.

Why Men Don't Say "I Love You" Easily

Every woman hopes to hear the words "I love you" from the man she loves, but it is a pity that there are very few opportunities for men to say it. Say these three words.There is no other reason, because many people think these three words are a burden and a promise.Moreover, once it is rejected, it will be very uncomfortable in face.

Under normal circumstances, there are three places for a man to say "I love you":

(1) When proposing or getting married.This statement is just part of the ritual, only 50% true, some men do love you, and some don't.

(2) Before going to bed with you.This sentence is used to urge you to make up your mind. Only 20% of men say it, and it is true.

(3) When you are in trouble, such as sickness, when you hear this sentence, it is 100% from the bottom of your heart.

Therefore, the three words "I love you" have very different meanings when spoken out of a man's mouth. It depends on the specific situation and must be combined with his behavior for confirmation.A man who is willing to get up at 4:00 in the morning to register you at the hospital, a man who says you like something when you don’t mean it, and brings it to you on your birthday, a man who is willing to spend a lot of time listening to you A man, no matter whether he said these three words or not, he loves you.

There are also some special words, if you don't understand it correctly, then it is likely that you will miss a lot of interesting things.

For example, a man suddenly says to you: "So-and-so (the name of a female star or a beautiful girl) is so pretty." He definitely has no empathy, he just wants you to dress up in a similar style.If you get jealous and say, "Then you go after her," that's completely beside the point.

If a guy says, "There's an AC Milan game on Saturday night," he's not telling you a TV show, he's telling you that he wants to watch football at that time and might stay up late, and it's best to combine other activities with that time. stagger.

If a man says: "There is a friend's party the day after tomorrow and I want to take you there." Then congratulations, he is going to make your relationship public to everyone, try not to miss this opportunity.

If you have established a romantic relationship and this man starts to discuss sexual issues with you (even if it is in a movie, or other people’s affairs), then he hopes that you will be more open and don’t start with "Why do you have such an idea?" , "It's really perverted" and other words to deny him, listen to him carefully, and finally tell him clearly what you can accept and what you can't accept.

A man who picks on a woman is not necessarily denying a woman

A woman wrote an article, saying that her boyfriend always picks on her, like finding bones in an egg or looking for flowers in a stone. She felt very boring, because she hurt her self-esteem and lost face, so she chose to leave over him.She concluded at the end: I am so lucky to leave this kind of man in time, and leave this "no-fault man" in time.

In fact, what she is thankful for may be her stupidity; what she escapes from may be her fertile soil and paradise.Why do you say that?Because there is a type of man, they are exactly this type of picky man, but they have no malicious intentions, they just want to make you better, they are urging you to grow and improve, but you don’t learn anything, don’t change anything, and blame him It's your fault to be too critical of you.

I heard a very oolong story recently. A girl, in college, has two buddies who have a good relationship with her, but one always praises her, even if she has shortcomings, even if she is nothing special, he will The other boy is just the opposite. He always picks on this child, saying that she is fat, that she has no supple skin, it seems that she has not read for several months, and only cares about playing... This girl was She prefers the boy who picks on her, but she finally chooses the boy who praises her.Three years later, she and this boy are still boyfriend and girlfriend, but at this time, she no longer has any special charm.Because that boy always felt that everything was fine with her, she relaxed her demands on herself, so she didn't work out, didn't study much, and as a result, her face was yellow and her flesh was loose, like a middle-aged woman who had been married for several years.Just at this time, the boy disliked her and found another new love.But at this moment, the boy who picked on her appeared again. He got along with her, constantly urging her and picking on her. She took a gamble and corrected all his picky "faults". The one who was critical was actually right. It turned out that he was really for her own good when he was critical of her, but the person who always let her relax his demands ended up despising her.

For a man, picking on a woman does not mean that he really wants to deny this woman, because if he wants to deny, he doesn't have to choose you. He just hopes that you will be better and that you will improve on this basis. , or to whom.Forgive men for making mistakes on this point, because they want to have an intuitive impression of you so much, so they directly compare you to someone.Of course, men may sometimes use words that are not subtle enough, which needs to be improved, but you must also understand that picking on you is actually urging you, urging you to become better and more attractive.

The type of woman a man likes 'varies over time'

Generally speaking, in terms of appearance, oval face, big eyes, especially smiling eyes, and straight long hair are the favorites of many men.Among the personality types that men like, gentleness is still the first essential element of a good woman.Specifically, however, the type of woman a man likes "varies over time."

1.25. A youthful boy around [-] years old

This type of man is in its infancy in every way, and even their mentality has not yet completely escaped from childishness.Men at this age often like a "sister", and girls of the same age often have this mentality, and they just need to be loved and cared for.Therefore, the love affairs of those young girls and boys around me are always tormenting and making people miserable.It is because each other is not mature enough.Men in this age group love the most friendly and mature women.It's like a child always loves to play with older children, because he is full of curiosity and longing for the unknown world.

2. An unmarried mature man in his late thirties
This type of man often has a small success in his career, and generally has a house and a car if the conditions are good.Although it is not considered a luxury house or a famous car, a woman can basically live a comfortable life without wandering by following him.Usually, men who say "don't be too rich or too poor" in women's mouths refer to them.However, what women don't know is that this type of man is actually the most picky man.Because they're unmarried, because they're young, and because they have upward potential.Don't think that only women know the value of "potential stocks", men are not fools, they are also smart, and know that "potential stocks" are their greatest capital.

This type of man loves women who are beautiful, temperamental, and feminine at the same time.Simple and cute little sister, don't please them, because they will have the idea of ​​getting married.A man who wants to get married needs a mature partner.At the same time, they have strict requirements on women in all aspects. If you are only a little bit beautiful, it is best not to provoke them, because they like women who are good in all aspects.

3. Mature men from the age of thirties to the age of forties
More than [-]% of men in this age group are married.At this time, men always feel a little stuffy and suffocating in their marriage.Usually at this time, the children are still young, and the wives will focus more on the children, and the seven-year itch will come one after another, and they will feel that marriage is like chewing wax.At the same time, the workplace is in a period of steady growth, and the pressure is enormous.Men at this stage love to say "no one understands me, no one understands me". At this time, men need a confidante most, who can listen to him and listen to his complaints.They will turn to their first love or crush.It is not only to show off their current career achievements to them to satisfy their little vanity, but also to find a partner who can satisfy the passion of life, can reminisce and look forward to it.But when a woman associates with this kind of man, it is mostly a dewy marriage, which cannot last long.

4. The old man after the age of [-]

Forty without confusion.Men after the age of [-] are often the men with the highest cheating rate.If you add that this man wants money and a career, besides his wife, there must be other women around him.Because even if I don't take the initiative, there are women who will take the initiative.At this time, men love little girls the most.The so-called old cow loves tender grass, although it is a bit powerless, but it is precisely because of the age crisis that makes them more eager to let their youth stop, and the only way to let their youth stop, in their eyes, is to find a "tender grass" and let him absorb it. her youth.At this time, it is easy for men to spoil their little wives, even treating them like daughters.Those little girls who love their fathers and are too lazy to fight on their own love them the most. It's just that men of this age are unlikely to get divorced, because the cost of divorce is unaffordable for them.So, young girls, if it's not just for money, you'd better stay away from them, because it's as difficult as heaven to ask them to marry you.

(End of this chapter)