I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 210 He who wins the mother-in-law wins the world
On the barrage.

"Hahaha, I conquered my mother-in-law again (dying of laughter)."

"Uncle: Taking my daughter away is not enough, you also want to take my wife away?"

"Father-in-law: Backstab and steal the house?"

OK OK.

"The bride price has doubled, the three golds have become five golds, and the most important thing is that now three bedrooms and one living room are not enough, you have to buy a villa (smile)."

Hahahahaha.

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Raymond Lam: "So I'm telling you, buddy, don't give me a necklace, don't step on this landmine." Remember, don't take this.

Boy: "The key is that my girlfriend chose the necklace."

Lin Feng: "It doesn't matter, buddy, you two don't understand the ways of the world. After you gave the necklace to her, her father gave you a red envelope of 20,000 yuan. Tell me, what is the meaning of this gift?

Pointless,

And they definitely won’t be happy about it, you know? Because it’s like a fucking exchange.”

Boy: "The military advisor is right."

Lin Feng: "Isn't it? This thing of yours can't touch people's hearts, so what's the point of giving it to them?"

Boy: "Actually, when I started giving gifts, I wanted to express my appreciation."

Lin Feng: "No problem, buddy. We are not short of money anyway. I will offer you another plan. Don't return the necklace. Give it to your girlfriend and let her find a suitable time to give it to her father."

The boy's eyes lit up: "So what the military advisor means is that this necklace should be used as a secondary gift and the primary gift should be replaced?"

Raymond Lam: "That's right, the first gift for mom is a set of skin care products, beautiful and pretty."

Boy: "Okay, I'll listen to the military advisor, but I have another question."

Lin Feng: “Speak.”

Boy: "I just want to express my appreciation for her, because we are dating with the intention of getting married."

Lin Feng: "This is simple. Don't say it directly after you meet. Wait until you are at the dinner table and exchange pleasantries with the old couple first. After the greetings, you can raise a glass of wine.

Do you understand this?
When you raise the cup, repeat what you want to say.

After saying that,

Just say "Uncle, I toast to you, don't worry, I will definitely love her well in the future", and then drink the wine, this glass of wine will have an effect."

Boy: "But I'm facing a problem now. The first is that her situation is complicated. Her mother thinks she's 27 or 28 years old..."

Lin Feng: "Stop talking buddy, I understand. Then when you meet the other party's parents next, you must seize this opportunity to tell them about your plans for the future and your plans for the two of you."

Boy: "Yes, she told me that her father wanted to know about me."

Raymond Lam: "Of course he needs to understand, but don't get this wrong, buddy. Her father doesn't want to understand you, but he wants to understand your family. You need to understand this clearly."

what?
The boy was confused again.

Lin Feng smiled and said: "What the hell do you know? Her daughter can't tell us about her work and character herself, and what kind of ability do you have at the age of 27 or 28?

Since the parents want to examine the future son-in-law, they must focus on your family background.

You remember,
I'm really getting married.

He definitely doesn't look at what you are like, he must look at what your family is like,

So buddy,

When you chat, talk more about your family.

We are not short of money, so just tell us about your advantages.

What are the characters of your parents? What do they think of you? Try to describe them in a more beautiful way.

Anyway,

The main topic of the conversation is whether you can help out a little at home after marriage.

This way, the other party’s parents can feel more at ease and at ease.”

Boy: "Oh my god, the military advisor is really amazing. If you hadn't told me this, I wouldn't have realized it."

Lin Feng smiled and said, "You got something, right? Remember to give me a sports car when you go down."

"necessary."

Lin Feng: "Okay, go down if there's no problem."

"Wait a minute, Military Advisor, I just found out that her father is an official. I'm a little nervous."

Lin Feng: "Fuck! Second-generation official, this is a good thing, why are you so nervous?"

Remember bro,
There is a human relationship here.
Let me ask you, what is the most important thing for an official?
The boy thought for a moment and said, "Face."

Raymond Lam: "Besides face, what else is there?"

The boy thought about it for a long time but still didn't know.

Lin Feng tapped the blackboard and wrote two big words.

'Tout'

Raymond Lam: "They like to teach others and they like to be flattered. So when you chat with her father, you should mainly ask for advice, listen more, agree, and flatter him."

The boy suddenly realized.

Raymond Lam: "Finally, remember one thing, this is also the most important point. When you first meet the girl's parents, they may not accept you.

That's human nature.

Have you ever seen parents who have raised a daughter for more than 20 years and then she brings a boy home? Will the parents say, "Hey, you're finally here. I've been wanting to get my daughter out for a long time?"

Give, give, give.

If you heard the other person's parents say this, you would be scared to death.

I wonder if there is something wrong with her daughter?
Because everyone knows that good things can’t be given to you casually.

Brother, you taste it.

Is this the truth?

So when you meet their parents for the first time, you need to be mentally prepared.

It is impossible for the girl's parents to treat you as their boss and provide for you as soon as you get there.
People may even be a little indifferent.

But remember, it is already very good if someone can have a meal with you and talk to you.

After all, their precious daughter was taken advantage of by a pig, do you still want them to smile at the pig?"

Uh. .

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"My daughter was fucked by a pig" "Do you still want me to smile at the pig?"

Hahahaha that's so philosophical.

"Really, the first year I went there, my father-in-law was indifferent and gave me a cold shoulder, but the second year he was fine, he greeted me with a smile and gave me a red envelope (laughed to death)."

"Me too. He didn't pick on me the first time we met, but things got better the second time. The third time we met was the day before yesterday, and he stuffed me with a red envelope of 1000 yuan (haha)."

"Haha, so true. The first year I went to my fiancée's house, my father-in-law only said one sentence to me the whole time. We were still a few months away from getting married, but he stuffed me with red envelopes and gave me cigarettes during the Chinese New Year. I was stunned."

"Haha, fathers-in-law all over the world are the same (laughing to death)."

“The first time I went to my girlfriend’s house, her dog was my best friend (poor thing).”

"I specifically asked my girlfriend, and she doesn't have a dog at home (crying to death)."

"Can't you just bring your own dog (sunglasses)?"

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Hahahahaha.

"You're wrong. It's like this after 20 years, but it's not necessarily the same after 30 years (dog head)."

"You're right. My mom gave my boyfriend a big red envelope the first time she saw him (grin)."

"I wish I could get married right here (covering my face and laughing)."

"Brothers, did you hear that? Let's talk about 30 before we go (sunglasses)."

You boy,
Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "Okay buddy, let's go down."

"Yes, thank you, military advisor."

Hang up the mic,
Raymond Lam said to the live studio:
"Brothers, if you are dumb and socially anxious, then when you meet the girl's parents for the first time, you must pay attention to the gifts.

There is no trick to giving gifts to elders.

Just remember three words: waste of money.

What a waste of money?

It's a waste. They feel it's a waste to buy something, but they really want it.

As for what they want most, that depends on your girlfriend.

Let her ask her parents, mainly to get some standard answers, and then come back and tell you quietly.

But don’t be like the girlfriend of my buddy just now, who didn’t ask when she didn’t understand and just guessed on her own.

After thinking it over, before giving the gift away, she told her parents what her boyfriend bought her and how much it cost.

This is pure heartlessness."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I used to scoff at it, but now my boyfriend and I coolly analyze and learn (grin)."

"Really, my boyfriend bought a bunch of medicinal herbs for making wine, and my mom said no, but she was actually thinking about making some kind of wine to make them."

"Haha, that means it's the right gift."

"That made me laugh to death. It reminded me of the first time my brother-in-law came to my house. He brought me two large boxes of snacks and bought gifts for my parents. After my brother-in-law left, my dad asked, "Did he come to see me, or did he come to see your little sister?"

"Are you satisfied then (dog head)?"

"Look at my little sister, hahaha."

"Her dad said he's had his eyes on a Cadillac recently."

"Why, her dad wants to wash his feet."

"Find a connection and ask her father to work as a security guard at a 4S store."

"If you like it, go and see (sunglasses) every day."

Get out!

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "To be honest, brothers, whether the first meeting can be successful depends entirely on whether the gift is in place.

Remember this,

People are real,
Human nature is something that needs to be controlled very carefully.
When your financial situation allows, you can use Maozi as a gift to your father-in-law.
Although when facing their children in person, parents may say: Oh, my children, why do you buy these things at home? It’s a waste of money. Life is not easy for you young people.

But don't worry,

When you leave, they will first run to the tobacco shop to ask,
Ask how much this wine costs.

No matter if he is scanning the code at home or asking relatives and friends outside, he will definitely ask.

If the gift is good, he will think that the boy is very generous, which is good.

Then your success rate will rise by several hundred percent."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Whatever you buy for the first time, you can't lower the quality for the next festival. You can taste it for yourselves."

"What am I appreciating? I just tore up the marriage certificate and took something (a dog's head) from my father-in-law's house."

"If we really get married, his daughter won't even be allowed to buy anything."

"Haha, indeed."

"Brothers, if you earn 8000 yuan a month and are going to meet the other party's parents soon, what should you give them?"

"A big gift bag of Wangzai, Coke, Sprite, and soy milk. Her brother is so happy."

"My brother-in-law is the only one who agrees, right? (Smiles)."

Hahahaha.

"With a monthly salary of 2000 yuan, what kind of wine can I buy to look presentable when meeting my father-in-law?"

"Don't buy any more wine. Get the ultrasound report instead. It should be the kind that is already formed and can't be injected."

"Remember to dye your hair yellow."

"Before leaving, I'll say something cruel (sunglasses)."

What the hell!

You guys are poisonous.

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

Lin Feng: "Can you guys be serious? I'm teaching you how to deal with your future father-in-law and mother-in-law, are you still listening?"

Listen, listen, listen...

The brothers on the public screen immediately became quiet.

Before Lin Feng could continue speaking, Yu Huanshui had already understood what he meant and pulled the large white board behind him closer.

Then he took the pen handed to him and stood in front of the whiteboard to start the class.

"Do you really think I was joking when I told that guy about taking down his mother-in-law?
Do you know what this is called?

Lin Feng wrote in a few large characters:

This is called whoever wins the mother-in-law wins the world!

If you can get your mother-in-law, I tell you, there is no girl you can't get.

So how can you win over your mother-in-law?

It's a gift.

Send to death.

Give her whatever she likes.

Don't spend all your time on unnecessary food and drink.

Remember, what is a mother-in-law first?
It's a woman!

There is no woman in this world who doesn't love beauty and dressing up.

Skin care products, beauty devices, clothes, shoes, bags.

Give it as beautifully as you can.

You can't just give the gift itself.
You have to be more thoughtful and it would be best if you could write a letter and put it inside.

It’s okay if you can’t write this letter.

There are many people who write copy on Taobao. If you transfer 99 yuan to him, he can write a copy for you.

So this is a detail, the emotions must be brought to the right level.

If you feel it is not enough and want to do better.

Then you should not only give gifts to your mother-in-law, but also to her best friend.

If you can win over your mother-in-law's best friend, the situation will be completely different.

If you can figure out this card, I tell you, you will be amazing.

As for how to give gifts to your mother-in-law and best friend?

It's definitely not something you send directly.

You should tell your mother-in-law: Auntie, I bought a little too much. Do you have any sisters or close friends? You can give these to your close friends.

remember,
Use your mother-in-law to give it to her best friend, and your mother-in-law's face will immediately rise to a higher level.

You can just give your mother-in-law the maximum emotional value.

Because after she sends the gift, if everyone in her circle says, "Wow, this guy is really good," then you win, buddy.

That’s why I say that gift giving directly determines the favorability and success rate of the first meeting.

Because there are too many things involved.

A smart person can get it done with just one move.

And you are still foolishly thinking that you can conquer the other party's family with your personal charm.

of course,

If you're really that attractive, just ignore what I said."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"He who wins the mother-in-law wins the world" "Not only win the mother-in-law, but also win her best friend"

I'm kidding!

I really learned something new.

"It's like catching the leader first (laughing to death)."

"Here's a question, what should I do if the mother-in-law falls in love with the son-in-law (smile)."

"You are such a daredevil!"

Hahahaha.

"Why didn't you say this earlier? You didn't see it until I lost it."

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "If you learn this trick, you can basically win over 80% of the families in the country. The other 20% are headed by the father.

This requires us to distinguish who is the king and who is the king in the family.

If the family relationship is centered on the father-in-law.

Then we have to find a way to hold the old guy down first.

How to press?
Or a gift.

Men are much simpler than women, just smoking and drinking.

Don't give fancy gifts at this time, just give Moutai.
Brothers, don't be stingy when it comes to the critical moment.

If you give Wuliangye liquor at this time, you are stingy, you know.
At this time, you must have Moutai. Once Moutai comes in, you will feel completely exhausted.

If it's cigarettes, it must be Huazi.

Don't buy a hard case, buy a soft case directly and get it done in one go.

Not only that, you have to remember several festivals in a year.

Not only do you have to prepare gifts for your girlfriend, but you also have to prepare gifts for your mother-in-law.

I want to give it as a gift on Valentine's Day and Children's Day.

But you can't give the gift to your mother-in-law directly. You have to give it to your father-in-law and let him give it.

Isn't the emotion just right at this point?

You have helped him maintain his relationship and taken care of his wife's emotions.

Then my daughter's emotions must be more appropriate,

Your father-in-law will definitely be relieved and satisfied with you.

Listen to me brothers, I tell you there is no mother-in-law or father-in-law that you can’t conquer.

Do you know what this is called?

This is called fission in service marketing!
How about it brothers.

Is it useful or not?

Awesome or not?
You can also hear it in the military advisor's live broadcast room."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

Helping my father-in-law prepare holiday gifts

I'll be a good boy!
"Is this something a normal person would think of?"

"I don't believe you when you say you haven't dated a hundred or eighty girlfriends."

"I seriously suspect that it was this guy who raised the threshold for a meeting gift (dog head)."

Hahahaha.

"A box of Moutai, two packs of soft drinks, a full set of La Mer skincare products, bird's nest and donkey-hide gelatin, these are all standard. Then buy some things based on your hobbies, remember your preferences, and prescribe the right medicine for the right condition. If you want something substantial, you need it. If you want something that looks good, you need it. There's nothing you can't do. It's just a matter of whether you have enough rice in your wallet."

"A box of Moutai???"

"Brother, are you short of a partner? I'm stuck on gender."

Hahahaha.

. . . . .

"@Military Advisor, besides preparing gifts, what else should I pay attention to when I go to my girlfriend's house for the first time? I'm going there tomorrow, urgent!"

Lin Feng: "No, buddy, didn't your parents teach you this? Why are you running here to ask me in the middle of the night?"

"father!"

okay!

Lin Feng smiled and nodded: "Then I will teach you."

There was laughter on the public screen.

It turns out that there is no man that dad can’t handle.

Military advisors are no exception!

Hahahaha.

Raymond Lam: "It's the first time to go to a girl's house, and for an inexperienced guy, it's easy to overlook a lot of details.

If you haven't thought it through yet and are just going to take it one step at a time, don't go.

Because we may have laid the groundwork for a long time before we met, and I had a very good impression of him.

Then the interview might fail because you didn't pay attention to or overlooked many details during the first meeting.

Remember, if the interview is not a plus point, it is better not to meet.

So how can you get extra points?
It's actually not difficult.

I will only say it once. Brothers who need it can record the screen and save it. It is recommended to watch it repeatedly.

All right,

Let’s get to the point.

What details should you pay attention to when you go to your girlfriend's house for the first time?

I summarized ten points.

It goes without saying that you should dress appropriately and remember to bring gifts.

Now comes the key point.
First, put away all the exaggerated jewelry on your body and don't wear it. When you enter the house, you must give the gift to your parents with both hands.

If the gifts are too many and too heavy, you should help carry them to the appropriate place in the house.

Second, you should ask your elders if they need to change shoes. If they say no, you should also say, "I'm afraid it's too tiring for them to mop the floor."

These are all details.

Some of you may not think it’s a big deal, but this is a plus.

1 point + 1 point, quantitative change leads to qualitative change, it is really not as simple as you think.

Third, if the elders do not smoke or do not take out cigarettes first, you should not smoke.
Because not every family likes this thing, the main consideration is the mother-in-law's feelings.

Fourth, when the other person’s parents are cooking, don’t keep playing with your phone. You can go into the kitchen and ask if there is anything you need help with.

But the other parent will most likely say no, and at this time we will come out and clean up the table for dinner.

Fifth, when you sit down to eat, you should wait for the elders to take their seats before you sit down. You should also wait for the elders to pick up their chopsticks before you pick up your chopsticks.

Sit and stand properly, and never shake your legs.

It will give people a feeling of instability.

Sixth, when toasting with elders, you should hold the cup with both hands, with the rim of the cup slightly lower than theirs. Pay attention to your alcohol tolerance, no matter how much you drink, don't drink too much and don't lose your composure, because you will need to perform later.

Seventh, during the meal, you must serve more food to your girlfriend and tell her that this is her favorite dish. Be considerate. Even if you don’t usually do this, you have to pretend.
Many people may ignore this problem. You think it’s nothing, but the other person’s parents are always observing you and will say that you are inconsiderate.

Eighth, don’t talk too much when chatting after dinner, don’t act intimately with your girlfriend, or exaggerate yourself with slick words in order to make her look up to you.
Many people have this idea, but there is no need to do so.

Be sincere.

Because he is what he is, and lies will be exposed one day.

It will be very troublesome then.

And it will cause the woman's demands to increase.

In short, don't put yourself too high.

Ninth, when elders speak, you should listen patiently and think before expressing your own ideas.
If the other person says something you don't want to hear or don't like, don't rush to refute.

You must remember that if you perform well this time, you will have plenty of opportunities in the future.

The last point is the most important. When you mention marriage to the girl's parents, you must not say it directly. You should slowly lay the groundwork and tell the elders that you have been together for a while and your relationship is very stable. Then praise your girlfriend's advantages and express your love for her.

Then I had plans to get married, and we discussed it together.

Then express your intention to get married and tell me about your family situation and family affairs.
If someone says that you haven't thought it through and are just going to take it one step at a time, don't say that and don't meet with them.

If you talk to your elders about something you have never thought about, you can say, "I haven't thought about it yet and I need to think about it seriously."

Remember, marriage is not a matter between two people, it is two families forming a third family, so you must consider it comprehensively.

If you don't answer well, people will feel insecure and think you are unreliable. Who would dare to entrust their daughter to an unreliable person?"

After hearing these things, many brothers may not take it seriously, thinking that since they have a good relationship with their girlfriends, there is no need to make so much trouble.

But I want to tell you that these are not troubles, but a person's basic etiquette, and most importantly, it is a manifestation of his love for your girlfriend.

Because you love her very much, you want to behave well in front of her parents.

It's not to make her parents praise you, but after you leave, they will say to your girlfriend, daughter, you have good taste.

(End of this chapter)