I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 211 Cinderella Can't Meet the Prince
On the barrage.

"The 18-year-old boy was enjoying watching it (dog head)."

"The 15-year-old boy finished reading (Sunglasses) seriously."

"The main one is that I can't make it, but I really love watching it (haha)."

"You don't have to do it, I'm fucking doing it right now. I'm hiding in the bathroom at my mother-in-law's house to cram for the exam (crying)."

"There's a picture (laughing to death)."

"Hahahaha you're awesome."

"I'm already there, but my girlfriend's mother is playing mahjong and hasn't come back yet, so she's studying online."

"Hahaha, hurry up and learn it, brother, so as not to make the family feel awkward later."

"I'm going to go too, let's see how to find a topic."

"Learn it now, we must fight a prepared battle."

“The brain says: I remember, go ahead!”

"Mouth: When you get there, hello uncle and aunt, I'm your boyfriend."

"You are the one who knows how to talk (dog head)."

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng glanced at the comments and said, “I see many of my brothers are at this critical juncture and are very nervous.

Don't be nervous, brothers.

This is just meeting the parents, is it that serious?

Moreover,
We are not fighting alone.

Don’t you still have a partner?

At this time, the girlfriend should also play a full role.

Only if you two work together can you make this happen with half the effort.

What should girls do?
Very simple.

First of all, you have to tell your parents in advance about your boyfriend's taste. For example, some boys can't eat spicy food. If the girl's family likes strong taste, do you think will you eat the food that the uncles and aunts serve you or not?

Not eating is a lack of respect.

After eating it, my face turned red from the spiciness and I looked everywhere for water to drink. I had no image at all and I lost face.

Therefore, when a boy goes to a girl's house for the first time, the girl must inform his parents in advance about her boyfriend's taste.

The second thing is to tell your parents, relatives and friends about your husband’s family situation and his personal situation in advance, so that they don’t ask any more questions when the time comes.

The third one is to tell your parents what your boyfriend’s parents or grandparents like so that you can prepare gifts and let him take them back when the time comes.

This is a return gift.

The fourth one is, if your boyfriend is from another place, for example, one is from the south and the other is from the north,

You must translate well beside him.
Because some boys may not understand their hometown dialect, having you by their side will make them feel at ease, and they will be more willing to please your parents for you.

Fifth, if a boy is bullied by his parents, or has questions like whether he has bought a house or a car, or how much savings he has, you must protect him.

Don't make him feel so embarrassed.

After all, it feels strange and nervous when I come to your house for the first time.
If you just want to meet the parents to confirm your relationship status and are not in a hurry to get married, you can discuss this matter slowly later."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"Oh my god, I almost forgot I have a girlfriend!"

"Military Advisor, this is a good point."

"The whole internet is teaching boys how to do it. This is the first time I've seen someone teaching girls. Great!"

"Boy: Honey, what should I pay attention to when I go to your house for the first time?"

"Girl: Just don't agree when I call you daddy."

puff~
Hahahaha.

"Humph, why should I help him cheat? It depends on my own ability. My parents are supposed to check it (slightly)."

"Yes, yes, yes. Although I love my boyfriend very much, I am not sure whether I should marry him, so I want my parents to keep an eye on him. If he learns to cheat, then my parents will not be sure what kind of person he is (grin)."

"Sisters, don't help your parents cheat. Parents can tell what kind of person you are at a glance."

"Haha, I can tell whether a marriage is happy or not just by meeting your parents once. How come your parents are so awesome (laughing to death)."

"I'm dying of laughter. Wasn't this taught by the boy's parents? Why do you ask your girlfriend to help you cheat (ugh~)?"

"So I think you don't have a boyfriend, and your emotional intelligence is so low when you talk online (grin)."

"Attention, guys, when boys go to a girl's house, be careful: I get in the car when my father-in-law opens the door, I don't show courtesy when I open the door at home, I don't drink when my father-in-law toasts me, and I turn the table when my father-in-law serves me food."

"You ask me why? My rules are rules!"

Hahahahaha.

. . . . .

It seemed that a war of words was about to begin.

Lin Feng shook his head in annoyance: "You little fairies, you don't understand the ways of the world.

If you care about him now, he will take better care of you when you go to live with his parents in the future, right?

This stuff is mutual.
If you don't guarantee your boyfriend's dignity, and he gets embarrassed by his parents, do you think your boyfriend will protect you?
But now that we have come to this.

I think it is necessary to give some scientific knowledge to our brothers.

When it comes to meeting the parents, many people subconsciously think that it is the girl's parents examining the boy.

But it is essentially mutual.

You examine whether I am suitable for your daughter, and I also want to examine whether your family is suitable for me.

Right brothers?

Being together is a matter for both parties.

Why is it based on individual assessment?
Many boys here ignore this point.

How to inspect specifically?

First, look at how the other person’s parents get along.

There are three common modes of getting along in marriage: equal relationship, strong man and weak woman, and strong woman and weak man.

These three modes of getting along will most likely determine your future wife's expectations for your future marriage.

If the woman grew up in a family where the woman is strong and the man is weak,

It is very likely that your daughter-in-law wants to have greater decision-making power and influence in the family.

The second thing is, when looking at the home decoration and various supplies, do you focus more on form or usage?
If you are an economical man, you are a pragmatist, and your wife is someone who cares a lot about this external form,

Then the possibility of conflicts arising in many details of your family in the future will increase.

The third is to look at the details of living habits, such as whether there is a requirement to place the slippers neatly after entering the house, or even with the toes facing outwards.

Many homes may also have sofa covers.

The sofa cover will wrinkle after people sit on it and stand up. You will find that when you leave, your future mother-in-law or your future daughter-in-law will subconsciously straighten the sofa cover.
Let me tell you, if you are not a particularly self-disciplined person, or even a little bit of a germaphobe, then you and your girlfriend will have many conflicts in many life habits in the future.

For example, after getting up in the morning, you must first spread out the quilt to let the smell go, and then you must fold it into a certain shape.

You have to accept it.
Of course, no problem.

But if you think it's unnecessary to spend so much time on these things, let me tell you,

After you get married, conflicts over these details will continue to arise.

For example, after cleaning the kitchen, the rag for wiping the basin and the rag for washing dishes should be placed on different hooks, and the positions should be fixed.

Oh my god,
You have to know that you love each other very much now, so there is no problem.

But in your future marriage you have to think about whether you can abide by the normative requirements of this family.

Don't underestimate it.

You may think these are trivial matters now, but people who have experienced this will tell you that these trivial matters are enough to cause you to quarrel for the rest of your life."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Really, someone who has been through this can tell you that when you first go to your girlfriend's house, you must pay more attention to her mother-in-law, because your wife will behave exactly like her in the future (crying to death)."

"That's true. She and her mother blocked me together (dog head)."

"It's clear at a glance (sunglasses)."

Hahahaha.

"They are not exactly the same. She will use facts to refute that she is different from her mother (smile)."

"She has such a stubborn spirit and is determined to argue about who is right and who is wrong. Look who she resembles (dog head)."

"Her mother: What a coincidence. I also wanted to prove that I was different from your grandma (sunglasses)."

"A stubborn ass (grin)."

Hahahaha.

"If I lose my Maybach keys and 1000 million in bank deposits, can I just sleep on the sofa? (dog head)"

"Sure, I'll marry you her mother too (Sunglasses)."

"My mother-in-law has her hair tied up (slightly)."

Hello, friends from the island country (smile).

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “Also, it depends on the attitude of the parents towards their daughter.

There are two typical types. One is that the girl is the most loved one. No matter what the girl says, the girl's parents will obey.

Then you have to be mentally prepared, because the wife you marry in the future will be like marrying the Princess and the Pea.

If you marry the Princess and the Pea, then you should remember that your mother-in-law and father-in-law will interfere more with your life in the future.
Because they are worried.

There is another situation, which is to observe whether the other parents treat their daughter as an independent person?

What is an independent person? It means having different opinions.

We will communicate with each other honestly.

and then,
You're not doing it right, I'd say.

If I did something wrong, you can tell me and I can accept that.

It’s a great blessing for the family to marry a wife like this!

Alright guys,
After observing these points,
You probably have a judgment in your mind.
First, the behavior pattern of the girl you love deeply will match yours after you get married.

Secondly, you have a basic understanding of how your future family will get along with your father-in-law and mother-in-law’s family and whether the relationship will go smoothly. ”

. . . . .

On the barrage.

"In conclusion: when buying a house, look at the beams; when marrying a wife, look at the mother-in-law."

"We say here that when buying a cow, buy a bull with horns, and when marrying a daughter-in-law, look at the mother-in-law (laughing to death)."

"I understand that if both parents are lazy, it is basically impossible for their children to be diligent."

“Not absolutely, but there is a shadow.”

"It's too late to know (woohoo)."

"When buying pigs, you should also look at the old sows. The old saying is true (dog head)."

You,

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . .

All right,

Next person.

Ding~
"Hello, Military Advisor!"

It's a girl.

Lin Feng: "Hello, tell me about your situation."

"Military Advisor, I discovered that my husband has been with another woman for two years. I only found out recently."

Raymond Lam: "How many years have you been married?"

"We've been married for three years."

Married for three years, cheating for two years.

Hey!
Raymond Lam: "How old are you this year?"

"I'm 21 this year."

???

Lin Feng frowned: "You got married at the age of 18?"

"Correct!"

Lin Feng: "Sister, is there anything wrong with your body?"

"No!"

Raymond Lam: "Then what's not good about you? Your family married you off at the age of 18."

The girl was silent for a while and then said, "Maybe it's my fault."

Lin Feng put down the pen in his hand and said irritably: "What's your reason? Tell me, I'm really curious."

Girl: "Because my family is not very good. My dad was imprisoned when I was very young. So I didn't have any love from my father or mother during my childhood."

Lin Feng: "Did you grow up in the village?"

"Yes."

Lin Feng shook his head, knowing this was the case.

The girl continued: "So I always wanted to escape from this family, and then I thought this person was pretty good."

Lin Feng said angrily: "Sister, it's fine if you want to escape from your original family, but you can't put all your hopes on another person, you have to be independent first!
Not just you,

And all the family members in the room, listen carefully.

Children who come from bad families, especially girls.

Because women are indeed weaker than men in both strength and self-protection ability.

Therefore, girls who come from bad families must understand one thing.

Even your parents who gave birth to you can stop loving you.
How can you expect a stranger who has no blood relationship with you to love you for the rest of your life?
Do you know how long a lifetime is?

People’s hearts will change!

So remember, in this world, there is no one you can rely on except yourself.

The military advisor is not going to teach you to be indifferent today.

Instead, it allows you to become independent first, so that at least when others hurt us, you will not be left with no way out.

To put it bluntly, you got married at the age of 17.

What is your dream?

Do you understand what marriage is?
Do you understand responsibility and family?"

The girl was silent.

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Neither your parents love you" "Can you expect a stranger who is not related to you by blood to love you forever?"

Oh my god,

I woke up all of a sudden.

"It's too late to know."

"I chose to get married just to get away from my original family. Now I am living in extreme pain every day."

"But I didn't think it through four years ago, and no one told me this. My level of knowledge was limited, and I made the wrong choice (crying to death)."

"It's true. If I had heard this 10 years ago, I wouldn't have suffered so much these years (sigh)."

"It's really blood and tears. You must listen to the military advisor and save your life!"

"The military advisor broke the rigidity of my thinking."

That is nice.

. . . . .

Lin Feng: "Brothers, remember, if your family of origin is not good, your parents don't love you,
The first thing you need to do is to find a quiet environment and take care of yourself again.

If you want to escape the suffering of your original family through marriage or another person, you will most likely end up falling into another suffering.

Because your current weak state will only attract some injured male animals.

Don't fantasize about Cinderella meeting the prince.

Do you think the prince is stupid? He would choose you instead of looking for a noble lady who is well-matched with him.

Why?
Are you beautiful?

Or do you have a good personality?
First of all, your family background is not good, and your living circle and environment are most likely also at the bottom.

Who do you want to meet at the bottom?
It must be someone with similar energy as you.

Remember, when two equally weak people are together, they are definitely not huddling together for warmth.

But they demand from each other.

This is human nature.

Don't argue!

I am right too!
When you are weak, the best thing to do is to grow up.

But many young girls are willing to choose to marry a boy and choose to escape through marriage.

why?
Is it true love?

No.

Just because of this shortcut.

Because growing up is painful.

So they would rather choose to rely on others and take a shortcut.

But what you don’t know is that this road, which seems to be a shortcut, is often full of thorns.

Some of you may ask, if you become independent, will you not have a bad marriage?
meeting!
Still will!
But what is the only difference?
It is the latter who has the ability to save himself!

I have the ability to work and live independently, so even if I encounter a bad marriage, I can get out of it safely.

But you don’t have the ability to be independent. You have been sucked weak by your parents and have never really lived a life on your own. So you are very passive, do you know that?

The military advisor is not exaggerating.

This sister got married at the age of 17.

I can make a bold guess now.
You must have children.

And after marriage, she is a full-time stay-at-home parent.

You don't have your own job.

I don’t have my own circle of friends either.

younger sister,

Just tell me if I am right or not."

Girl: “...Yes!”

Lin Feng threw the pen in anger: "Why do I know this, brothers? It's not because I can count, it's because this is too damn classic.

Married for three years,

Two years of being out of the house.

Would the man dare to be so rampant if he hadn't eaten her to death?
If she hadn’t been unemployed and had no independent thinking ability, how could she not have discovered her husband’s affair for two years?!”

(End of this chapter)