I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Chapter 230 When people reach middle age, life is no longer like galloping on a horse, but like climbing a mountain with a heavy load
The aunt was silent for a while: "Then what should I do? Military Advisor, please teach me."

Lin Feng smiled and said: "Although I know you won't change, but since you asked, I will tell you.

Just do what you want to do.

Go square dancing,
Go and fix your hair.

Find something else to do.
Take your eyes off your son.

Stop counting the days.
What the hell, there was no play on Thursday, there was no play on Sunday.

Your son is now an independent adult.

Since you like to manage others so much, you should take care of yourself more in the future.

Why can’t you get a beauty treatment or a hair salon treatment and make an appointment with your bestie.

The most important thing is to go to bed early at night and turn off the lights at 10:00, do you understand?
Which old lady stays up late like you?

How come you are in such good health?

It's almost two o'clock in the morning and I'm still awake, thinking about how to control my son.

You said you are free?"

Auntie: "Okay, I'll reflect on this myself."

Don't reflect on it.

It’s already dawn when I start to reflect on it.

"Go to bed quickly."

"Oh."

. . . . .

On the barrage.

“She can teach me to wash my hair while standing upside down (smile).”

"Since she took the initiative to ask the question, I think she should be somewhat aware of her own problem."

"But I think she only sought out the military advisor to get others to condemn her son together."

"Yes, she asked the question because she wanted to hear the military advisor praise her for doing the right thing. Strong people will not think that there is something wrong with them. She will find excuses for herself in various ways."

"Really? My mom practices yoga every day, but her temper is still as bad as ever. She also doesn't know what meditation is (I give up)."

"Some people feel that they are wrong, but they don't want to let go, so they want to find someone to tell them what they want to hear."

"Is it possible that her son is about to block her and she will have to face up to her mistakes?"

hope so.

. . . . .

After sending his aunt off the mic, Raymond Lam shook his head towards the live studio and said:
“Brothers,

If your parents are also this kind of mother who has a quick temper, is controlling, but loves you very much.

So how can we remain filial and not feel uncomfortable?

Hard!

It's really tough.

Most mothers actually have a strong love for their children that comes from the bottom of their hearts, but this kind of love is actually a form of control.
Because this kind of love makes parents feel strongly that their children must listen to them.

But when your child grows up to be an independent person, you must make an effort to make a cut.
You have to keep telling your parents that I have grown up.

We need to communicate in an adult way now.
If you don't reach a tacit understanding with your parents on this matter, the pain will always be there.

Your parents don't realize that you are an adult now and we need to have more respect for you now.

Then his love will become mutual harm between you two.

At this moment, you cannot be filial and live your own life at the same time.

The only thing you can do is
You must learn to face your parents' disappointment.

Many times, if we don’t follow our parents’ plans, they will think that we are ignorant, disobedient, unfilial, and ungrateful.

Once we become soft-hearted, we return to the mode of being controlled.

Therefore, we must learn to face our parents’ disappointment and understand that our parents’ lives are their own lives and they also need to experience this disappointment in order to grow.

We can make it clear to our parents that we love them very much, but this love must not be based on compromising all of their needs.

Just as we cannot spoil our children, we cannot spoil our parents.

Remember that your original family will influence your life, but don't let it determine your life.

Leave,

independent,

Go back and visit occasionally.

These are the last three suggestions the military advisor gives you.

okay,

Brothers, that’s all for today’s live broadcast.

See you tomorrow!
After exiting the live broadcast room, Lin Feng lay down on the chair and let out a long sigh.

This stuff is too mentally and emotionally draining.

"You've said so much again, drink some water!"

Yu Huanshui handed over a cup of hot tea.

Lin Feng shook his head: "No more drinking, I'm afraid I won't be able to sleep at night."

Yu Huanshui nodded, then looked at Lin Feng and said seriously: "I've decided, I'm willing to be your assistant."

Lin Feng stood up and patted his shoulder with a smile: "Okay, you've worked hard today, go back to sleep, and we'll talk about the rest tomorrow."

"Okay, you go to bed early too."

After watching Yu Huanshui leave, Lin Feng hurriedly washed up and dived into bed.

Then she had a strange dream.
In my dream, I returned to my childhood.
The scene is as clear as a memory.

old road,

Old house,
Old ditch,
The old fields,

There is also a creek.

Occasionally, the sounds of dogs barking and chickens crowing could be heard on the road in the yard.

The cow raised by the old man next door made the bell on my neck ring crisply.

At this moment, my father was holding a big broom and sweeping the fallen leaves and dust in the yard.

My mother was busy in the kitchen cooking a particularly delicious meal, and the aroma from the pot drifted in through the window.

My parents had prepared breakfast, and after they finished eating, they picked up their hoes and went to work in the fields.

There was water from the well and ice-cold watermelons in the yard.

Xiao Linfeng woke up from his sleep,
Sleepy eyes,

Run out happily like a little animal and tell them that you had a very long dream.

At that time, he found that his parents still looked the same as when they were young, except for the white hair on their temples. Everything was the same as it was at the beginning.

Then the scene changed.

Xiao Linfeng has grown up a little.

It was the summer vacation of the third grade.
Xiao Linfeng sat at the table doing his summer homework. The courtyard in his dream was still real.
The family dog ​​was sleeping in a corner of the yard.
Little Lin Feng looked out the window through the curtains, imagining the days when he would grow up and no longer have to do homework.

While doing homework, I slurped on a red bean paste popsicle.

The water from the popsicle dripped and wet my homework book.

The mother came in and found him, laughing and scolding her...

Later, when he was in junior high school, his father bought him his first bicycle.

It was an afternoon during middle school. The classmates were playing in the corridor and the sunlight made it difficult for Xiao Linfeng to see clearly.

After school, Xiao Linfeng would ride his bike on the way home from school, playing and playing with his friends in the village.

My parents had already prepared dinner at home.

Someone said in the dream: Ride slower, the world we grow up in is not a happy one. . .

Later, Xiao Linfeng woke up from his desk in the high school classroom.
The desk is piled with various exercise books and mock exam questions.

The wind blew the classroom curtains, the setting sun shone in obliquely, and Jacky Cheung's tape was secretly playing in the Walkman...

Then came college, work, marriage, and having children...

This dream is very long.
There are real memories of the past and the future that we imagined when we were young.

The scenes in the dream kept changing, and the people were changing too.

What hasn’t changed is that my parents are always by my side…

When I opened my eyes again, the sunlight from the window was already shining in.

Lin Feng rubbed his hair and slowly sat up from the bed.

Recalling the scene in his dream, Raymond Lam suddenly thought about the last two microphones connected last night.

Father of a daughter, mother of a son.

Am I being too harsh in what I say?

A mother may be strong, weak, or unreasonable. . .

But no matter how long you have been together, it is normal for him not to understand you.
Because he has lived in his own circle all his life and has never had the chance to see the world you have seen, let alone experience the life you have experienced.

You dislike your mother's nagging, but you don't remember that she was once a girl who put makeup on in front of the mirror.

So while we demand personal independence, can we also be a little more patient with our mothers?

A father may be ordinary, taciturn, or unkind...

That's because when he opened his eyes, he was surrounded by people who depended on him, but there was no one he could depend on.

You hate your father's mediocrity, but you don't know that he was once a young man with dreams.

So when we ask our fathers to be strong, can we also show more concern for them? . After thinking for a while, Raymond Lam felt a little regretful about the last two mics last night, and felt a little guilty.

. . . .

I got up and washed up, it was almost noon.

When we arrived at Yu Huanshui's house, this guy was just coming back from outside.

Lin Feng was stunned: "Get up so early?"

Yu Huanshui smiled and said, "I'm going out to do something."

Lin Feng nodded, "Let's go, let's eat out today, don't cook."

"Row!"

. . . . .

Boom boom boom~
Driving a Porsche, Yu Huanshui also fully experienced the thrill of racing on the streets.

This is what men’s romance is.

note,

I didn't bomb the street.

It’s your heart that’s going to explode!

"Okay, Brother Shui, it's almost time, let's find a place to eat."

"What to eat?"

"I'm fine with either. You decide."

"There's a Sichuan restaurant that serves authentic food, why not try it?"

"can!"

"set off!"

. . . . . .

Twenty minutes later, the two sat down in a private room in the restaurant.

Yu Huanshui: "Boss, try their Kung Pao Chicken, it's their signature dish."

Lin Feng took a bite and found it really good.

"But can you change your address? Calling me boss all the time makes me uncomfortable."

Yu Huanshui shook his head, looking determined.

have to,
Whatever you want.

"But Brother Shui is in a good mood today!"

Yu Huanshui said with a smile: "It's all thanks to the boss that I went to the company at 10 am.
The manager just glared at me, and I threw my resignation letter directly in his face.
Give a loud shout,
I'm done with this!!

The whole company was dumbfounded.

Ha ha ha ha. .

Oh shit,

It feels so good! "

Lin Feng was stunned.

It turns out that this guy got up early to resign from the company.

I was also amused.

"You won't do this to me in the future, will you?"

Yu Huanshui's smile froze, and he quickly assured, "Impossible, absolutely impossible. Don't worry, boss. I will follow you wholeheartedly from now on."

"I'm just teasing you."

Lin Feng picked up the teacup.

"We have a live broadcast tonight, so let's use tea instead of wine to toast our future revolutionary friendship."

"Okay, let's celebrate our future revolutionary friendship."

Drink a cup of tea.

Yu Huanshui asked curiously: "Boss, why do you want to do a live broadcast?"

Lin Feng took a bite of food and said, "What else can I do? Just to make a living."

Yu Huanshui curled his lips, obviously not believing it.

He has 700 million at the wave of his hand, how can he be short of this little money?
In Yu Huanshui's perspective, Raymond Lam is a person with great feelings and great love.

With his looks and wealth, he could be a playboy who revels every night.

But he does charity and public welfare, and helps people solve their problems through live broadcasts.

This is totally unlike what a rich second-generation should be like.

Raymond Lam: "Stop thinking about me and talk about yourself."

Yu Huanshui: "What did you say about me?"

Lin Feng: "The work problem has been solved, what about the other things?"

Yu Huanshui smiled bitterly: "What else is there? My brothers stabbed me in the back, my wife put a hat on me, and my child is not my own.

My mother, who loved me the most, passed away a few years ago, and the only person who still has a connection with me is my father.

And this old man is always trying to suck my blood."

Having said that, Lin Feng looked up at Lin Feng.

"boss,

I thank you,

Really, from the heart,

It's not because of the 50 you gave me, but because of the live broadcast last night.

You made me understand the pain of my original family.

It makes me realize the root cause of my collapse in many cases.

I have to let go!

From now on, I, Yu Huanshui, will not live for others, but only for myself. "

As he spoke, the pent-up emotions burst out.

Yu Huanshui burst into tears.

why!
Why is it so difficult!
I have tried very hard to do everything well.

In the end, they all turned their backs on me.

Really boss,

I'm not lying to you.

If you hadn't helped me when I was in the most difficult time, I might have been in the hospital morgue now.

I'm thinking,
Will there be even one person who will shed tears for me?

I can’t f*cking figure it out!!”

Lin Feng stood up and patted Yu Huanshui on the shoulder.

“Cry if you want to.

These days, there is no man who doesn’t cry or break down.

What do you think is the happiness index of us men?
to be honest,
It’s just three things: a wife, children and a warm bed.

But if you want to have a wife, children and a warm bed, how many fucking things do you need?

First you need time, then you need a career, and most importantly you need to have fucking money.

In addition, you need to be surrounded by a group of particularly awesome friends.

Then when facing your parents, make sure your parents don’t cause trouble for you or your wife.

When facing your wife, make sure that she does not cause trouble with you or your parents.

When facing children, make sure that they do not cause trouble with the teacher or other classmates.

Also, you should not be too sensitive when facing comparisons and complaints from your mother-in-law and father-in-law.

In addition to these, men also have to deal with their careers and their social relationships.
I also have to think about how I can improve myself.

This society has put too many things on men.

You say there is no such thing as peaceful and quiet years in this world, it's just that time makes people grow old.

You said that when we men open our eyes every day, we are surrounded by people who need to rely on us, but there is no one we can rely on.

We should be filial to our elders and educate our children.
The expenses of the whole family are all supported by the man's income.

After all,
It’s because the people around you have no idea how much firepower they have. They are all making demands on men and asking for things from men.

Everyone only cares about how much he earns, but no one cares whether he is tired.

Do you think we men are really afraid of a hard life?
Are you really afraid of being tired from work?
no!
What are we afraid of?
What I’m afraid of is that after I’ve given everything, there won’t even be anyone who understands me.

so,

If a man is forced to death today, his parents account for 50% and his wife accounts for 30%.

The reality is so cruel.”

Attached

[Military advisor’s comments: Men after middle age often feel lonely.

Because as soon as he opened his eyes, he was surrounded by people who depended on him, but there was no one he could depend on.

But what can be done?

I can only take out my heart when it is late at night and everyone is asleep, mend it myself, and then have a sleep.

Wake up the next day, do what you need to do, and continue to move forward in the midst of collapse. . . 】

(End of this chapter)