Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 16 The years are quiet, Xu Yi is calm and stable (2)
This can effectively improve your sleep quality. When you get enough sleep, you will find that your mood will improve a lot.

Third, do some exercise properly.How long has it been since you exercised?When you are in a bad mood, run appropriately, ride a bicycle, play badminton, in short, do some aerobic exercises that can sweat, which can relieve your emotions to a large extent.

Fourth, measure your stress.Irritability and bad mood are probably related to the pressure you are under. The greater the pressure, the more unstable your mood will be.Therefore, when you are in a bad mood, you can try to sort out the primary and secondary things in your life or in your life that cause you stress, and then solve them one by one. When you slowly solve these problems, the pressure will be reduced. It will naturally become smaller and the mood will gradually improve.

Fifth, have fun with yourself.When we devote our attention and energy to the things we are interested in, we will probably be in a good mood, so when you feel that you are emotionally unstable, quickly devote yourself to your interests. If you are interested in cooking If you are interested, then go into the kitchen to cook a big meal for your husband and children; if you like singing, don’t hesitate, make an appointment with three or five girlfriends, and go to KTV to have a good time; if you are keen on sports, then go to Ben goes straight to the gym.After doing this, your bad mood may have disappeared without a trace.

Sixth, improve your diet and pay attention to nutrition.We have already talked about this issue above. If we lack certain nutrients, it is likely to cause our mood to deteriorate.Therefore, you can check our current diet, and if you find that there is a lack of any substance that can cause our mood to deteriorate, you must actively supplement it through food.

Seventh, check your health at any time.In life, we all know that people who are sick always lose their temper, perhaps because they are unbearably tortured by the illness, or they may have some bad emotions in their minds.Therefore, when you feel that you are in a bad mood, you should pay special attention to your body and see if there is any abnormality in the recent period. If so, you must seek medical treatment in time.When the physical pain is cured, the emotional impatience will naturally heal.

Whether in life, work or family, a woman's bad temper has no benefit except hurting others and herself.If you don’t want to be abandoned by your lover, disliked by your husband, and bored by your boss because of this, then try to control your bad temper, be gentle with your lover, considerate with your husband, and respect your boss. It turns out more.

3. Don't ask about the wind and moon in the world, don't lament the warmth and coldness of human feelings

Be a quiet woman.Don't ask about the wind and moon in the world, don't sigh about the warmth and coldness of people.Have nothing to do, sit and lie down as you like.I would love my neighbor as myself if given the chance.If not, be happy and quiet.Be a quiet woman from now on, smile is all expressions.

Whether in life or at work, eloquent and eloquent women are mostly popular, and yes, who doesn't want to deal with lively and clever women?In life, their laughter can bring more joy to others, and they become darlings in interpersonal communication; at work, their cheerful and talkative can make bosses and superiors appreciate them more, colleagues and subordinates admire them more, and become darlings at work. Expert, the backbone of the company.However, I am most afraid of going too far in everything. Sometimes, eloquence not only cannot help women improve their popularity, but also brings burdens to women.

As the saying goes: sickness enters through the mouth, misfortune comes out through the mouth.Most of the eloquent women are proud of their eloquence, so they are often eloquent and eloquent in front of people.It can be said that too much is bound to be a loss, and sometimes too much talk, although the tongue is happy, but it is likely to plant the root of disaster.

Li Ji was a concubine favored by Emperor Han Jing very much. She gave birth to the eldest son Liu Rong for Emperor Jing.Li Ji was very dissatisfied with Emperor Jing's sister, Princess Guantao, Liu Xun, because Liu Xun would often secretly send beautiful maids to Emperor Jing's bedroom.Li Ji often thought to herself that she must find an opportunity to take revenge on Liu whoring.

After Liu Rong was established as the crown prince, Princess Guantao came to Li Ji and wanted to marry her daughter Gillian to Liu Rong.As the eldest princess of the current dynasty, Liu Xing, with her power, both the queen mother and the emperor gave her three points of courtesy, and her wealth and glory had already reached the pinnacle.So she did this not to curry favor with Li Ji, but because she had great ambitions, and no amount of power could satisfy her.

Facing Liu Xun who came to propose marriage, Li Ji secretly rejoiced: "One day you will ask me, and see how I humiliate you." So, she coldly rejected Li Ji with the attitude of a mother of the country, and also He uttered wild words and taught Liu whoring a lesson.Li Ji, who was so happy with her tongue, was very proud of herself, thinking that from now on, Liu Xun would not dare to underestimate her, but she would never have thought that it was her thoughtless words that made her feel good for herself, her son, and even the world. It brought disaster to her entire family.

What kind of person is Liu Xun, how can he swallow this bad breath.In order to make her daughter the future queen, and also for Yixue's shame today, Liu Xun began secretly planning to abolish the crown prince. She set her sights on Jiaodong King Liu Che.Liu Xun found Liu Che's biological mother, Wang Zhi, and asked her to marry him, and Wang Zhi immediately agreed.After that, Liu Xun often praised Liu Che in front of Emperor Jing for being sensible and able to become a great weapon, and at the same time he often spoke ill of Li Ji and Liu Rong.The Han Dynasty hated witchcraft the most, so Liu Xun took the opportunity to tell Emperor Jing that Li Ji often used witchcraft to harm other concubines behind his back in order to win favor.Emperor Jing was furious after hearing this, so he became disgusted with Li Ji, but Gu Nian did not abandon her for the time being because of his past friendship.

Later, Emperor Jing's health became worse and worse. He told Li Ji that after his death, he hoped that Li Ji would treat the other concubines and their princes kindly in the harem.Emperor Jing's words undoubtedly made Li Ji an empress to explain her future affairs to her, but the stupid Li Ji didn't know what to do, not only rejected Emperor Jing's entrustment, but also spoke rudely to Emperor Jing, and Emperor Jing disliked her even more.Later, Liu Xun and Wang Yan made a plan to let Li Ji urge Emperor Jing to make herself the queen. This move finally made Emperor Jing couldn't bear it, and he abolished the prince Liu Rong and made Liu Che the prince.Knowing that her son was abolished, instead of reflecting on her mistakes, Li Ji began to curse and blame everyone. This matter reached the ears of Emperor Jing, who was furious and sent her to the cold palace, never to be seen again.Later, Li Ji died in depression.

This period of history must be very familiar to everyone, and the historical allusion of "swift tongue" comes from this.Of course, it cannot be said that Liu Rong was abolished entirely because Li Ji offended Princess Guantao. Every turning point in history has a deep political background.However, if Li Ji had been more tactful in her refusal when Liu Xing came to ask for marriage, and had been more generous when Emperor Jing was about to ask her orphan, then the fate of their mother and child might not have been so tragic.

Of course, most of the time, being quick with your tongue will not bring you a fatal disaster like Li Ji did, but it is likely to bring varying degrees of negative impact on your life, work, and communication.However, women are born to like to gossip and criticize all kinds of people and things. Whether they are white-collar beauties in the workplace or housewives at home who care for their husbands and children, they are all unavoidable.In their view, this is a way of pastime and venting. Anyway, they don't name names, just echo what others say, so what's the big deal.But as the saying goes, the speaker is unintentional, but the listener is intentional. If it is passed on to the parties concerned with embellishments, a dispute must be inevitable.

Especially in the workplace, women's criticism and gossip are even more harmful.There is a saying in the workplace: There is no friendship in the office.The reason is very simple. It means that there is only a relationship of competition or order or obedience among colleagues in the office or between superiors and subordinates. Friendship is just a legend among people in the workplace.Although this statement sounds somewhat uncomfortable, it actually makes sense.Competition in the modern workplace can be seen everywhere, and it is extremely fierce, especially for colleagues at the same level who are in the same office. Abacus: how to please the boss, win favor and approval; how to catch the handle of the colleague so that he can't stand up.Therefore, in such an environment, as a professional, if a woman can't control her mouth and talk nonsense, she is likely to offend others or be caught by someone with a heart, and eventually be framed, or even kicked out.

She entered the public relations department of a joint venture company as an "airborne soldier".A Tao and Xiao Mo in the same office are her work partners, so they usually have a good relationship.When people are depressed, they usually find someone to talk to to resolve it. Therefore, when playing with A Tao and Xiao Mo, she often complains to them, and all kinds of "gossip" are inevitably mixed in.Everyone has the instinct to spy on other people's privacy, especially women, so A Tao and Xiao Mo listened with great interest.

The backer behind her is a manager of the company's human resources department. From this manager, she more or less understood some internal situations of the company, such as the salary of a certain department's employees, and the business commission or year-end bonus of a certain person. How much, and so on.Just when she was showing off her quick tongue, she didn't know that a disaster was quietly hitting her.

One morning, as soon as she arrived at the office, she found everyone whispering.She leaned forward, trying to find out.It turned out that some salesmen in the company's sales department had a dispute with the salary supervisor of the human resources department because of unequal treatment. 0.1% lower.Of course, the salary supervisor would not admit that such a thing happened, but these few salesmen persisted and brought this matter to the company's labor union. In the end, the matter became more and more troublesome, and even affected the president.The president issued an order to immediately set up an investigation team to find out the source of the rumors and punish them severely.

In fact, different pay for equal work is a common phenomenon in the workplace, but generally speaking, only department managers, salary managers, or company financial personnel know about these differences, and ordinary employees are unlikely to know.If they don't know each other, they will naturally live in peace. Once leaked, it is likely to cause dissatisfaction among some employees and have a very bad impact on the company.Therefore, many companies, especially large companies, have strict salary confidentiality systems, and any violations will be severely punished.

Everyone is discussing, where did this news leak from?She began to panic, because she vaguely remembered that when she went to a bar with A Tao and Xiao Mo for a drink, she complained a few times because she was not satisfied with her salary. The words inevitably revealed some salary standards of other people in the company, but Whether it mentioned the salaries of the sales staff, she could not remember.Just when she was worried and thinking wildly, the manager of the public relations department called her to the office.

Sure enough, the manager asked her if she had spread the news. She knew the consequences of admitting it, so she strongly denied it.However, the manager had obviously done relevant investigations beforehand and provided some testimonies from her colleagues, so she was speechless.A few days later, she sadly resigned.The reasons given by the company for her resignation were: she was not suitable for working in the public relations department, did not abide by the company's rules and regulations, and did not abide by professional ethics.

In the workplace, it is your colleagues who spend the longest time with you every day, so dealing with and talking to colleagues is nothing more than normal.However, in a conversation with colleagues, you must be clear about what to say, how to say it, what to say and what not to say.In a complicated workplace, if you can't do this, it's easy to provoke right and wrong, and it's inevitable that misfortune will come from your mouth.

As in the workplace, so in life.Some redology researchers once put forward such a statement, saying that Qingwen was originally Jia's mother's internal appointment of Baoyu's aunt.Let's not prove whether this statement is correct or not, just from the surface, Qingwen is beautiful, smart, eloquent, good at needlework, and also very affectionate to Baoyu, so she is loved by Jia Mu Reasonable.But Jiamu's love and Baoyu's pampering also hurt Qingwen. She was originally arrogant and hated herself as "a lady's body, a girl's life". , often quarreled with Baoyu's nanny Li Nanny, because of jealousy, he often sneered at Xiren, and even taught the little girls under him casually.As a result, her vitriol finally brought disaster on herself.Mrs. Wang once saw her scolding the little girl under her own eyes, thinking that she was too arrogant and charming, so she "must not stay with Baoyu".In the end, Qingwen was expelled from the Grand View Garden by Mrs. Wang with an excuse, and finally died of depression. This situation is worthy of our warning.

Therefore, smart women must remember that no matter whether you are facing an enemy in life, a strong enemy in the workplace, or a friend or colleague who seems to be living in peace on the surface, you must not speak casually.Criticism and gossip, these quick-talking actions are undoubtedly drinking poison to quench thirst. There are many lessons learned from ancient and modern times, and we must learn from them.

4. Not sad or angry, the beauty of a mature atmosphere
Those who are hated have no pain, but those who hate others will eventually be bruised and bruised. Therefore, never hate others.

In life, women are always more angry than men. Whether it is in a relationship, after marriage, or in the workplace or other social activities, women are often angry.

For a woman, being in love should be the happiest and happiest time in her life. There is no burden, no need to worry about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and no need to worry about children.But in this sweet time, you can often see women angry: the boyfriend is a few minutes late for a date, the woman will be angry; A woman will be angry if she wears a shirt she doesn't like; a woman will be angry if her boyfriend says a wrong sentence... In short, no matter what the reason is, a woman can always find out the fault of her boyfriend, and then frown and pout Bitter, even turned away.At this time, most of the men will explain and apologize, and have to coax them with sweet words. In this way, the woman will calm down, forgive the man, and continue the sweet date.

In fact, women do not intentionally embarrass their boyfriends by doing this, but they are good at using this method to manage their feelings.Most women lack a sense of security. Even in a passionate relationship, they are not completely sure how sincere their boyfriend is, and often worry that his boyfriend may change his heart at any time.Therefore, they always intentionally or unintentionally set some small obstacles for their boyfriends, such as not being late for a date, having to remember her favorite food, remembering her birthday, and hoping to get surprises on certain festivals, etc. The purpose of doing this is to test the boyfriend, and then to judge whether the boyfriend loves me or not, and how deeply he loves him.

When a man cannot be as perfect as a woman requires, a woman will express her dissatisfaction with anger.However, if things go on like this, it will make men feel very tired.Sometimes, he doesn’t mean to be late on purpose, nor does he ignore women, maybe it’s because of traffic jams, or maybe it’s because of a temporary emergency at work; on your birthday, he didn’t give you the flowers or gifts you wanted, and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have you in his heart. I don't care about you, maybe he has better arrangements... No man wants to always face a face that is always angry, even though he loves you very much, there is no guarantee that he will not get bored one day.

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