Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 8 Accept yourself and show off your vivid beauty (4)
In a faraway country, the king was deeply in love with his beautiful queen.However, the much-loved queen is not happy because she has a pair of pointed canine teeth.Whenever she faces the mirror, she will feel scared in her heart. She feels that she is not the most beautiful person, and she is afraid that the favor she has won will leave her one day.Therefore, although the king loved her very much, she was always worried that the king would dislike her because of her canine teeth.

In order to get rid of this hidden danger, the queen quietly ordered someone to find the best dentist in the country, pulled out her canine teeth, and then inserted two normal teeth.Without the trouble of tiger teeth, the queen looked at herself in the mirror, and finally felt that she had become the most beautiful woman in the world, and the king would definitely be obsessed with and pamper her forever.However, she was wrong.

When she happily went to see the king and wanted to show him her beauty, the king did not praise her as much as she imagined, but acted very cold and strange.Moreover, since then, the king never gave her a smiling face.Half a year later, the queen was thrown into the cold palace, and the king married a young and beautiful queen, and gave her all his love.

Losing the favor of the king, the original queen became heartbroken, but she never knew what was wrong with her, and why the king treated her so unfeelingly.Later, she thought, maybe the new queen is more beautiful than herself.It wasn't until one day that she met the new queen by chance that she realized she was wrong.

That day was the day she was allowed to take a walk in the garden every month.In the garden she saw the king and the new queen from afar.She hurriedly hid behind the flowers, and then secretly looked at the new queen, she thought: I want to see how beautiful this new queen is.But when she saw the new queen, she found that she was not as beautiful as she imagined, even a little ordinary.However, when the new queen showed a smile to the king, she suddenly discovered that the new queen had a pair of small canine teeth!

It turned out that what the king really liked was a woman with canine teeth.It turned out that those two canine teeth were the fundamental reason why he was favored.However, by the time the queen understood this truth, it was too late.In life, many women are like the queen in the story, always troubled by some obvious or inconspicuous defects of their own, so they start to try to cover up and eliminate them.However, when they worked hard to achieve their goals, they found that not only did they not get more affirmation from people after their changes, but they might even make some people who had affirmed them begin to deny them.

Socrates said: "Everyone has the sun, the important thing is how to make it shine." For example, although you look very ordinary, maybe you have a beautiful and kind heart, and the latter is your real charm , the source of true inner strength; or your career is not very successful, but your family is happy; maybe your education is not high and your status is low, but you are humble and motivated.In short, there is no one who is completely useless in the world, and there is no perfect person. Even the greatest people have such and other flaws, so we have no reason to despise ourselves because of a little flaw.What we have to do is to accept the imperfect self and affirm the flawed self, so as to generate self-love and self-confidence, to resolve the contradictions in life, overcome the setbacks in life, break through the obstacles in life, and finally get what we want success and happiness.

She is a particularly sensitive girl with an introverted and shy personality. What bothers her most is that she has always been a little fat since she was a child.Because of being fat, the clothes her mother made for her since she was a child were all fat. Under the wrapping of fat clothes, she looked fatter than she actually was, which made her inferiority complex worse.Because she was afraid of being ridiculed by others, she never played with her friends. After school, she always walked alone and did not participate in all the gatherings of her classmates.She always thought that teachers and classmates disliked her very much.

This inferiority complex has been with her until she grew up.She thought that she might never be able to get married for the rest of her life, because she felt that no one would fall in love with her fat.However, she was wrong. One of her colleagues fell in love with her and married her.

Her husband and his family are very kind to her, which gives her some psychological comfort.However, her inferiority complex has not completely disappeared.Faced with the encouragement of her family, she also tried to change, but most of the time her efforts were in vain. In the end, she would habitually hide in her own world, because she felt that it was the safest place.

Gradually, the husband and family were a little disappointed, because they felt that she might not be able to change.The abandonment of her family made her even more anxious. It turned out that she still occasionally went to some parties, although most of the time she was just a bystander, not a person who really participated in it.But since then, she started avoiding all her friends, let alone going to parties, she stopped even going to the supermarket, and finally even quit her job.

At this time, she has fallen into the lowest ebb of her life, she is closed in her own world, unwilling to communicate with anyone.Sometimes, she even lost hope of living and tried to commit suicide several times.Fortunately, her husband never abandoned her, and he began to try to change her in other ways.He told her situation to his psychiatrist friend Minnie, and Minnie hoped that he could take her to receive psychotherapy.However, she disagreed with anything.So Minnie took another approach to help her.

Mei Ni took the initiative to come to her home to contact her, hoping to use her own experience and life insights to resolve the knot in her heart.

Mei Ni is also a very fat person, and looks very ordinary, there is nothing outstanding in appearance.But Mei Ni's performance is different from hers. Mei Ni is very satisfied with this kind of self. Mei Ni knows that the external image is only a small part of herself, and the inner strength is the greater part of herself.

At first she seemed a little flustered by the arrival of strangers, but when she saw that Minnie was as fat as herself or even fatter than herself, her anxiety gradually stabilized.Minnie began to try to talk to her, and during this process, Minnie always had a confident smile on her face.When Minnie couldn't help laughing when she told an amusing incident from her past, she couldn't help but ask, "What makes you so confident?" Minnie replied, "Because I I always tell myself that no matter how bad things are, I have to believe that I am the best, and what supports this belief is that I am very good at affirming my own strengths while ignoring my so-called shortcomings.”

"Be sure of yourself, be sure of yourself..." She repeated Minnie's words, "Yes, be sure of yourself, believe that you are the best." Minnie looked at her and said firmly.

After talking with Minnie, amazing things happened, she was like a different person, she started to find herself.She tried to study her own personality, discovered her own strengths, and began to learn color science and dress science, and then use these to find the most suitable way of dressing for herself.At the same time, she also took the initiative to make friends, go to some parties, and even joined several small clubs.She was a little unnatural at first, but as she got to know more and more people, her confidence began to accumulate little by little.Half a year later, she was no longer inferior, timid, and introverted, but brave, confident, and happy instead.

Her change begins with accepting her imperfect self.Because she accepted herself, she was accepted by others.So, from this moment on, accept yourself.No matter what kind of defect you have, put it aside temporarily, start trying to find your own advantages, and list them one by one, strengthen them, and then list your shortcomings, and correct them with an optimistic attitude.In this way, you will feel refreshed, enjoy each day, and your life will be brighter!

In short, a woman who knows how to love herself can learn to love others and have the opportunity to get more love from others.

Freud said: "Everyone is born narcissistic." Narcissism includes not only accepting the beautiful, noble, and great self, but also accepting the ordinary, simple and even humble self.

Women who can do this are usually confident enough to appreciate, affirm, and express themselves.They not only love their appearance, but also their abilities, and love everything they own. Naturally, such a woman will always be radiant and charming.

So, women, if you want to love others, please love yourself first!A woman who loves herself will get more love and have real joy and happiness.

(End of this chapter)