Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 14 Coquettish as a fox.Women are like fog, rain and wind (1)
Most scholars are definitely smart and witty. They know men better, and know that men often have a little bit of thought about women.These women skillfully grasp this weakness of men.Just like a cunning and charming fox, "playing" men in the palm of his hand, making men wonder how to treat them, has a complex and subtle feeling that is hard to explain.

just to keep you guessing

Because good girls pay attention to purity and don't deliberately hide themselves, they are easy to be seen through by men, especially bad men.Once a man sees through, a woman will be in a very passive position, and will be led by him unknowingly. It is so easy to fall into the trap dug by him, and it is inevitable that she will suffer a loss and be fooled.

Even if you don't suffer from being fooled, once a woman becomes transparent in the eyes of others, and her every move can be well known, it will give people a boring feeling.This is like a novel that has been read dozens of times, no one is willing to read or appreciate even the most wonderful story.

And a bit "bad" woman is often not easy for people to guess, and often packs herself into a mysterious look in front of the public.You know, women who can't guess are the most able to attract men's attention.Because they can't figure it out, men will want to guess more and more, want to find the answer, and then move on in frustration.

Jiang Lin's birthday is coming, Qianqian decided to give him a surprise.She used the money she had saved for half a year to organize a party for Jiang Lin on the beach. Qianqian knew that Jiang Lin had many friends and liked to be lively.

Qianqian meticulously prepared every detail of the party, from the festival of performances, to the list of invited friends.When everything was ready, Qianqian imagined Jiang Lin's surprised expression when he saw this scene.

This day finally came. To Qianqian's surprise, Jiang Lin was happy but not surprised.This birthday party seemed to be completely in Jiang Lin's expectation.He didn't feel any surprise at all.

The birthday party was a success, everyone had a great time, except Qianqian was a little unhappy.She had imagined so many surprised expressions that Jiang Lin might show, but she never thought that she was the one who was most surprised.Could it be that someone leaked the secret?

After the party, Qianqian started her investigation.

"Did someone tell you that I helped you organize the birthday party?" Qianqian asked Jiang Lin with a serious expression.

While busy packing up his things, Jiang Lin replied, "No! You've done a good job of keeping secrets!"

"Just tell me, who leaked the secret? I won't tell him!" Qianqian asked stubbornly.

"No one really told me! What's wrong?" The boy stopped what he was doing, looked at Qianqian's solemn expression, and frowned.

"Then why don't you show any surprise at all, as if you knew it a long time ago, someone must have told you!" Shi Qian's voice was a bit wrong, and tears flowed out unconvincingly.

Seeing Qianqian's aggrieved appearance, Jiang Lin was terrified.Because Qianqian has a gentle personality.Rarely lose their temper.Coupled with his cheerful personality, he never shed tears in front of Jiang Lin.The sudden "thunderstorm" made Jiang Lin somewhat unexpected.

"What's the matter? What's the matter?" Jiang Lin quickly comforted Qianqian, "Why am I not surprised? Do you know how happy I am?"

"But your expression is wrong? You should be very surprised!" Qianqian was still very stubborn.

"Surprised? You will never forget my birthday, and you will definitely prepare a birthday surprise for me. I know this, so I am not surprised!" Jiang Lin said with a smile.

"But what you did just now really surprised me. Finally, I saw your panda eyes!"

Qianqian hurriedly looked in the mirror, and seeing her eyes blurred with tears, she couldn't help laughing.

Qianqian carefully prepared a birthday party for Jiang Lin, which he expected, so there were no surprises.The sudden "thunderstorm" made Jiang Lin see another side of Qianqian, which he hadn't guessed, and this scene was deeply imprinted in his heart.

After this unexpected situation, Qianqian accidentally discovered a secret.It turns out that a self that is unexpected by a man can attract his attention even more.then.She began to deliberately create some "different" character sides for him to discover.From then on, Jiang Lin often complained, "Women are so fickle!"

A bit "bad" woman is fickle, like fog, wind and rain, erratic.She only lets others see one side of herself, and leaves the other side to wild guesses.When standing in front of other people, he would secretly think about what such a woman is thinking at this moment, and what she will do next moment; when he is not in front of him, he would guess where this woman is and what she is doing now.

A bit "bad" woman sometimes disappears from the world suddenly, even if others install a GPS, they can't find her signal.Moreover, the mobile phone will also be pre-made into such a ring tone—Hello!The person you are dialing is switched off.Please call again later.

A bit "bad" woman is unique, and often does not play cards according to common sense. Others thought she would play an Ace of Hearts, but she drew a King of Clubs. Others can't help but hold their chins to speculate: This way of playing cards implies What kind of mystery?
A bit "bad" woman will occasionally come and go without a trace.For example, when a friend is in a bad mood.Appeared by his side unexpectedly, and left quietly and quietly at a dinner party attended by many people.

Some "bad" women refuse others to visit the whole of their lives, and will not publish every detail of their lives in the form of blogs.Because when too many details of life are glimpsed, the so-called sense of mystery disappears.

In short, a woman who is a bit "bad" is not a gorgeous castle, and she will not show her structure and arrangement unreservedly in front of the world.A "bad" woman is a labyrinth, once she goes in, it is very difficult to find the exit, because she is so changeable that people can't figure it out.

sometimes weak, sometimes strong

Weakness is a characteristic bestowed by God on women, and women's desire to be loved and cared for is the root of their weakness; but women are also strong, and they can use independence and determination to maintain their careers.Sometimes weak, sometimes strong, this is the unique and lovely temperament of a woman, and it is also the charm of a woman.

Just like Shancai in "Meteor Garden", she looks like a weak and weak woman who can't stand the wind and rain, but when her friends suffer, she is bullied, or she sees unfair things, she can burst out amazingly. The energy, this kind of firmness, even a man can't compare it to himself.

"Bad" women will use the combination of rigidity and softness of women in their careers, and use such charm to conquer their opponents or partners in their careers-men.They will calmly combine weakness and strength into one, and perform their splendor in elegance, calmness, calmness and determination.

It is hard to imagine that a man would be wary of a woman who looks weak from the very beginning, but when they find that the strength of a woman cannot be underestimated, it is too late to surpass them, because their energy has exploded and will become more and more intense , so strong that you can't stop.

When meeting Middy for the first time, the client thought she was a weak and melancholy woman.

About to meet at the cafe, Middy arrived early and sat there quietly.Wearing an elegant and generous suit, her eyes were fixed on the pattern on the outside of the coffee cup.The bright sunshine in the afternoon fell on her through the floor-to-ceiling windows, and the scenery was like a plot in a novel.

When the client reacted, Middy had already seen him.After greeting her, the client sat down.Speaking of which, the customer is also very professional, and after a while, he returned to work.Looking at the weak and weak girl in front of him, he thought that he had a sure chance of victory in this little negotiation.

Middy spoke softly and softly, just like her appearance, which made people feel affectionate, and the customer thought: "I really can't bear to do it, but there is no way, business is business, so we must be ruthless to negotiate terms. "

After all, they came to discuss business. After a small chat as the opening remarks, the two began to formally negotiate.

The companies they work for have decided to cooperate on a project, but there are still some minor issues on the terms of the contract, and they have not been able to reach a quick consensus, and this is exactly the content of the negotiation between Middy and the client.

"Our company still insists on the preferential conditions mentioned last time. Your company's design price itself is not lower than other companies', and there is no additional discount. How can we accept this? Your company has been in this industry for two years. In [-], I should have known the situation of other peers, and they have a lot of preferential terms!" The client stated all their requirements at the beginning of the article.

"We have talked about the price many times, and I believe you understand it. If it can be cheaper, we don't need to go to such lengths to negotiate with you. You are introduced by old customers, so the price is still It's a discount, otherwise it will be even higher!" Middy's voice was soft even when negotiating.No aggressiveness and lethality.

When the customer heard Middy's voice, he was embarrassed to raise his voice to compete with her, but he couldn't get nothing: "Then give me some more preferential terms?"

Middy smiled: "What's the difference between that and lowering the price? Our company is engaged in design, and we have to pay designers, not buy one get one free in a hypermarket. Besides, this discount is nothing to the responsible company. It’s just a drop in the bucket, nothing.”

Midldv's voice is still soft, but it seems unshakeable.

The client gradually felt that sending Middy was a ruthless move by the other party, such a weak-looking woman.Who can have a heated negotiation with her "with a lot of noise"?If you don't show a more intense attitude, how can you reflect the effect of the negotiation?Afterwards, the customer's attitude gradually became tougher, comparing with other companies, the tone became tougher, and the speed of speech became much faster.

Middy still had that weak tone, with a charming smile on her face, but her position didn't change at all, and she still refused to give in.

"You asked us to do this design. I believe you have also done your research. Our reputation and quality in this industry are top-notch. Since we can provide the best service, we should be paid accordingly, right?"

"Besides," Middy looked at Shi Fang with a look that seemed to be pleading, "If I can't get such a small discount this time, I'm afraid I won't be able to stay in the company..."

Seeing the girl's pitiful expression, the client had to surrender.Moreover, as Middy said, if they want to get the best design, they have to pay a certain price.

Since then, clients will no longer relax their vigilance against weak women when negotiating.

Since ancient times, people have used "masculinity" to represent men and "feminine" to represent women.In people's consciousness, a boy should be ambitious and make a great career.A woman should behave submissively, charmingly, and quietly.With the development of society, people's ideas are constantly being updated. "Masculinity" can also be soft, and "feminine" can also be strong.Hardness can subdue softness, and softness can overcome rigidity. As long as women make proper use of their own advantages, they can properly handle interpersonal relationships in the workplace and achieve career success in today's male-dominated workplace.

You can only be my blue-faced confidant forever
A woman always has a lot of things she can't tell the man around her, and she can't tell her closest girlfriend, so she wants to find a man who can care about her and love her without causing her pain.A woman can talk to this man about things she can't talk to her husband or other friends about.You can also cry about the grievances your husband has caused you. He will take pity on you, speak for you from your perspective, and give you warm comfort when you are hurt.

Such a man is dubbed a "blue-faced confidant" in modern society.

There are two patron saints in most women's life - father and husband.And smart "bad" women have more patron saints.And her blue-faced confidant.

A blue-faced confidant is a man who truly understands women's psychology and feelings.He will not always worry about every joy, anger, sorrow and joy of a woman, but he will feel sorry for every tear she shed when we meet, and will be happy for every smile she shows.Lan Yanzhi is the first person a woman thinks of when she is hurt and wronged.

so.In a modern society where people are fickle, relationships are complicated, and pressure is enormous, women need a confidant besides love, marriage, family, and career, which is indispensable no matter in fantasy or in reality.

Some people say that the relationship between a man and a woman cannot be completely pure.They are wrong, because, between men and women, there is also a kind of friendship called "confidant".If the measure is well grasped, this "knowledge" friendship is even more precious than love.

Finding a blue-faced confidant is not difficult, but to maintain such a relationship, both men and women must make efforts.When one party's mood and feelings change, the other should be able to remind the other party with absolute calm: "We are friends!"

Hua Yu is a business assistant in the customer service department of a biological drug company. With her petite figure, pretty appearance, and outgoing and lively personality, she soon became an indispensable star in the company.

Due to the serious imbalance in the ratio of male to female in the company, Huayu has become a golden flower that everyone is holding onto.Especially when Hua Yu first joined the company, Liu Bo, the colleague who was in charge of taking care of her, took care of her in every possible way like a brother: whenever Hua Yu didn't understand something about work, just ask Liu Bo .Liu Bo would point it out to her immediately.And at the same time provide her with several ideas for solutions; and in life, when encountering difficulties, as long as Hua Yu speaks, Liu Bo will lend her a helping hand...

Liu Bo's thoughtfulness and help gave Huayu a lot of encouragement when she first entered the workplace.For this, Hua Yu can be said to be extremely grateful, so she pays more attention to maintaining her good relationship with Liu Bo in her usual work.

Liu Bo is indeed a modest gentleman, when getting along with Hua Yu, he always shows a gentleman's demeanor, but he will not be too attentive.When they are together, they can not only talk about work, but also about music, local customs, and even "gossip" scandals.

Hua Yu appreciates Liu Bo's erudition and talent, and with Liu Bo, talking about everything and doing things is very speculative, but Hua Yu knows in her heart that they only have pure friendship, so even if they accidentally have skin-to-skin contact, she is not moved a feeling of.

Afterwards, Hua Yu regarded Liu Bo as her confidant.She will share her feelings with him; he will also tell her the conflicts between himself and his girlfriend, seeking advice.

However, gradually, Liu Bo's feelings changed.Hua Yu found that he would "accidentally" touch her hand from time to time, and would also pick some romantic restaurants to chat, and he often brought the topic to emotion.At first, Hua Yu thought that she and him had really reached the point where they could talk about everything, until one day, Liu Bo told Hua Yu that he had broken up with his girlfriend, and then explained his thoughts to Hua Yu.

"We can't be friends anymore!" Liu Bo expressed his solemn expression, and began to express his love to Hua Yu, but Hua Yu knew that she couldn't accept it, and the one she loved deeply was her boyfriend.

Hua Yu expressed her thoughts resolutely, but Liu Bo still couldn't accept it. In the end, Hua Yu had to reluctantly part with her and ended her friendship with Liu Bo.

Hua Yu knows the bottom line of Lan Yan's confidant, if she knows Liu Bo's feelings for her and lets it go, even if she still regards Liu Bo as a friend, this rare "friendship" will become impure.

A woman who has a blue-faced confidant is happy, but it should be noted that she must always abide by the bottom line of her blue-faced confidant and not let her blue-faced confidant deteriorate.Blue-faced confidants can be said to be brothers or sisters, because the other party does not regard herself as a woman, nor does she treat the other party as a man.Friends can speak their minds and warm each other, but this way of warming is limited to the heart.

"Bad" women understand that the bottom line of a blue-faced confidant must never be touched.A pair of good friends of the opposite sex can maintain a confidant relationship, but this relationship is an extension of friendship, and it must stop abruptly when it touches the bottom of love.

Skillfully balance the relationship with male colleagues

Now is no longer the age of "men and women are incompatible with each other". Women should not put an end to all interactions with the opposite sex. Instead, they should make good use of "female sex", get along peacefully with male colleagues, and create a harmonious working atmosphere around them.And in this atmosphere, relying on their own strength and talent, break out a world.

(End of this chapter)