Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 15 Coquettish as a fox.Women are like fog, rain and wind (2)
However, it should be noted that we are talking about "female sex" rather than "beautiful sex", and we are not teaching you to make a "vase" with an empty head and confuse men with beauty.The sad thing is that some beautiful women are prone to feel superior because of their appearance, and regard beauty as capital to please men.We cannot deny that women's beauty has certain advantages in the workplace, but it is also easy to cause unnecessary troubles for themselves.

Xiaoxian works in a computer company. Because there are many male colleagues in the company, and she is pretty, she has become a golden flower that everyone holds.Who doesn't like the feeling of being praised?Xiaoxian is no exception, and she has a lively personality, loves to talk and laugh, and often jokes with those male colleagues.After a long time, rumors about her abnormal relationship with a certain male colleague began to spread quietly in the company, and she became the center of discussion.

At the beginning, Xiaoxian believed that she was not afraid of the shadow slanting, but her boyfriend who had been with her for three years also entered into a cold war period with her because of some comments, and Xiaoxian fell into extreme pain for this.Later, she had no choice but to resign and left this place of right and wrong.

The good use of "female sex" we are talking about here is to let you make good use of your feminine charm to attract the opposite sex and make the same sex show kindness to you.Although not every woman can have a pretty face, what is certain is that every woman has a natural femininity.So what is the charm of women?Or a gentle temperament, or a sweet smile, or a pleasant voice, or a decent makeup...

Therefore, as a professional woman, you must make good use of your gender advantages and become a dazzling star in the office.Don't think that only beautiful women are attractive, showing "feminine" is also willing to approach.If you don't know how to display your femininity, you might as well learn from "bad" women.

1.Control Your Tears and Earn the Respect of Your Male Colleagues
In life, tears seem to be exclusive to women, but at work, tears must not be shed casually.What work needs is your decisive and capable side, and your tears will make others think that you are weak and incapable of work, and they will despise you because of it.

The workplace should not be too feminine, weak, emotional, passive, indecisive.Of course, gender cannot be changed, and as a woman, you cannot allow yourself to be too masculine.

This requires a degree of control. If you want to cry loudly, you have the right to do so. However, you should pay attention to when, where and in front of whom you should cry loudly.If you can use the "tear bomb" at the right time and in front of the right man, with tears in your eyes and crying in a low voice, you may be able to win more sympathy and achieve your goals!

2.Gentle words to resolve the strong temper of men

Colleagues get along day and night, there will always be conflicts, and for women, the best way to resolve conflicts is a woman's gentleness.For example, when you disagree with the men in the office, don't blush so anxiously, you should keep smiling and resolve the deadlock with gentle words.

Because men want face, even if they admit in their hearts that they have lost, they will not lose face to a woman.They usually take the soft but not the hard. When you put on a gesture of willingness to compromise, he will often be softened by you first, and he will compromise more thoroughly than you.

In addition, women should pay attention to cultivating their sense of humor, because adding moderate humor at the right time can not only resolve the deadlock, but also eliminate the tension and pressure on both sides.Especially in the workplace, men will inevitably talk about "masculine jokes" - jokes related to politics, current affairs, and gender. If a woman can flexibly use jokes to deal with certain embarrassing situations without losing her reserve, it will be a reward for herself. A clever way to score points.

3.Talk about topics that men are interested in, and establish heterosexual friendship

It is definitely good for a woman's work to be appreciated and even liked by her male colleagues.For example, when you encounter difficulties, they will be eager to help you.

So, you have to try to make friends with them, and one of the ways to gain a person's favor is to talk about topics that the other person is interested in and you know something about.Generally speaking, what men are interested in is usually inseparable from various ball games, cars, etc. After understanding the other party's interests, you can talk about the CBN league matches and who will lose in the European Cup football match when chatting with them Now, what are the new cars at the auto show... Occasionally, I will make a little comment, maybe it will resonate more, and maybe it will make him look at you with admiration.

Another way to build friendships with guys is to maintain polite physical contact with them.For example, in a meeting, you can sit next to the person you want to establish a friendship with, and at the right time, occasionally pat him on the shoulder to express support and encouragement.Research shows that physical contact is a great way to bring people closer together.Let him be your friend, even if he can't be your motivation, at least he won't be a hindrance to your promotion.

4.Praise and encouragement at the right time to break through the opponent's psychological defense

For men.100 words of encouragement from the same sex are not as effective as a single compliment from a woman.Some people say that a great spiritual pillar for men to work hard is the worship and appreciation of women.Therefore, women should not be stingy with compliments. When you feel that a certain male colleague has performed outstandingly, generously express your affirmation of him, such as "you are really good", "unbelievable" and other compliments.

This can not only give the other party great encouragement and courage, make them more confident, but also easily break through the other party's defense line and win the other party's friendship.And the higher your evaluation of them, the better they will perform, and they will be willing to provide you with various services, such as driving you for a ride, helping you get materials, etc., so that you will have more motivation in your work.

5.Ask humbly, let him be happy to help you

Seeking the opinions of male colleagues is also appreciated.Because it means that you value his insights and experiences and make him feel the importance of his existence.Men are very happy to be consulted by others at any time.Men are so strong and like to play the role of taking care of others.When you ask them for their opinion, they feel noticed, needed, and respected, so they are more than willing to offer advice, and their advice often works.

For example, when you want to buy a car, invest in stocks or buy a house, and you know that he has research in this area, you can ask him for advice in a relaxed situation (such as lunch, after get off work), and he will definitely feel that you have vision and are right. You are friendly and will automatically help you in the future.

6.Empathetic, win the trust of men

Emotion is an important link to connect colleagues.As a woman, if you want to gain good popularity, you might as well give full play to your feminine advantages, be considerate, and care about your colleagues.In fact, at any time, a considerate woman is always welcomed by men.

Be empathetic in the company.It will make male colleagues feel how lucky it is to work with you.And your empathy will also make them more willing to help and approach you, such as giving you full support when you encounter difficulties, for example, they are also willing to listen to your opinions when they encounter difficult problems.

7.control your emotions
A woman who loses her temper easily will not be liked by others, and may even be regarded as neurotic by male colleagues, and they should be kept at a respectful distance.At work, women usually feel more pressure than men, especially those who are eager to get ahead.Therefore, when your body and mind are overwhelmed and sadness, anxiety, fear, and even guilt follow, please learn to self-regulate.Free yourself from noisy thoughts and help yourself eliminate worries.At any time, you must keep calm and keep a soft smile, so as to win the respect and approval of men.

Men like to protect the weak, so I pretend to be pitiful

Around our lives, we often encounter such women.When they meet a "handsome guy" or a man they like, they will say: "How can there be someone like me in your eyes!" or say: "Who would invite me to drink coffee or drink a bar with an unremarkable girl like me? "And so on, try to make yourself pitiful, so as to dress up as a soft and soft, weak and weak, sad and sad woman, in order to stimulate men's natural curiosity, sympathy and act as a "flower protector". The vanity of the "messenger", the induction of this aggressive method is often very easy to make men "hooked".

Why is this "bad" woman also moving?Because she overcomes rigidity with softness, which is in line with a woman's "defensive" nature.They throw all the "soft" affection and "weak" form in front of you. If you are a man, you have to behave like a gentleman. If you see "weakness" and don't "support", are you still called a man?
In the eyes of friends, Jonah and Susan are talented and well-matched.Jonah graduated from university three years ago and has a successful career. If Susan is a rare talented woman with both civil and military skills, not only can she cook well, but she is good at housework, and she doesn't make any progress in her work.

Jonah is often surrounded by beauties, but when they learn that Jonah has a girlfriend Susan who is capable of both political integrity and ability, they all quit.Even if someone dares to compete with Susan, they will eventually lose, because in Jonah's eyes, no one is better than Susan.And for this, Susan is not humble, she is indeed the most powerful character in Jonah's mind.

However, what I didn't expect was that such a talented and beautiful couple who were regarded as role models and idols were accidentally separated.What kind of powerful "ruthless" character broke them apart?Friends have guessed.The result was unexpected, it was not some capable woman who took away Susan's boyfriend.On the contrary, the girl who made Jonah break up with Susan without hesitation was a weak woman.

Susan couldn't believe that she would lose at the hands of such a weak woman, and she didn't understand how that girl was better than herself, which made Jonah choose to leave so heartlessly.The day we broke up.Susan is still stubborn. Although she is very sad and feels heartbroken, she still pretends to be strong on the surface.

"Can I know why?" Susan wanted to know why she lost to that girl.

"You are a strong, powerful girl. Of all the men I know, no one can beat you. Because of this, I also believe that you can still live well if I leave you. You don't need others Come and take care of her. She is different, without me, I don't think she will be able to survive!" Jonah's tone was a little apologetic, but very firm.

The "she" that Jonah said was his colleague's ex-girlfriend, whom Susan had met. That day in front of the company, "she" fainted because she couldn't bear the blow of her boyfriend's proposal to break up, and Jonah saw her.Jonah also kindly took "her" home and asked Susan to comfort her.For "her", Susan has no hostility or jealousy, because in her eyes "she" is just a weak woman.However, it was such a weak woman who robbed her impregnable feelings.

Although modern society emphasizes the equality of men and women, there is no need to train yourself to be a heptathlon-like strong woman.A woman who is too strong will hurt a man's self-esteem, while a weak and pitiful woman can arouse a man's desire to protect.That is to say, weak and "poor" women are more likely to make men feel the meaning of existence, let men play their due responsibilities, let men have the opportunity to show their charm, and let men have a sense of accomplishment.

A "bad" woman knows that under the right circumstances, she should give full play to her inner temperament—the soft and watery side, and be an ordinary woman.In this way, good men will not be scared away.

"Bad" women know how to hide their sharpness, so that they can make men look taller and taller around them, and when they give men face, they also give themselves face.

"Bad" women also know how to use their tears, because she knows that when a woman cries, she gets the whole world, and pretending to be pitiful can arouse a man's desire to protect.When a woman looks "poor", a man has an impulse to protect her, and naturally he can easily deceive a good man.In short, no matter how delicate the mind is, even if the talent is extraordinary, as long as they meet a good man, the "bad" woman will put away her shrewdness without hesitation, and immediately transform into a cute, petite and charming "good girl". Let's talk about a good man "cheat"!
You can serve coffee, feed the coffee please come yourself

After successfully passing layers of interviews, you have finally won a satisfactory job.Full of joy, ready to show your talents in this world.But not long after going to work, your joy suddenly disappeared.It was replaced by extreme anxiety, even pain.Indeed, no matter how much you love your job, if you can't get along with your boss and work happily, then not only will your dream not come true, it may even turn into a nightmare.

Women in the workplace often encounter various entanglements with male bosses. If they are not handled properly, it will directly affect their "performance" at work, and even get a bad reputation.

Barian is a project supervisor of a foreign company. He performed very well at work and was appreciated by his superiors.

There was an important industry promotion meeting held in other places, and Barian accompanied his boss to attend. After the meeting, the two attended the banquet held by the sponsor.The boss drank a lot of wine at the reception. Under the influence of alcohol, the boss' behavior became irregular.From time to time he leaned closer to Barian and whispered.He often puts his hand on Barian's shoulder intentionally or unintentionally.

It seems that the boss is not the kind of modest gentleman, Barian understands that he is in trouble.But on such an occasion, even if Barian disliked his boss's behavior, he couldn't do anything too outrageous. Barian had no choice but to deliberately keep a distance from her boss. When the boss asked her to drink, she flatly refused.

After the banquet, the crowd dispersed and each returned to their rooms.At this time, the boss kindly wants to send Barian back to his room. Barian politely refused again and again, but still did not stop the pace of the boss to follow.

When she arrived at the door, Barian thanked her politely. At this time, she was not in a hurry to open the door, but waited for her boss to leave.But the boss didn't intend to leave at all. Looking at Barian, he suddenly put his arms around her waist, wanting to hug her. Seeing no one around, Barian immediately used the "women's self-defense" he had learned on weekdays on his boss.The boss was unprepared and fell to the ground all of a sudden.Taking advantage of the time when his boss fell to the ground, Barian quickly returned to his room.Locked the door tightly.

When he returned to the company after work, Barian was ready to be blamed by his boss, and even ready to leave the company.Although Barian's violent behavior was due to her boss's indiscretions, it was not her fault, but she was a subordinate after all.

But what I didn't expect was that on the second day after returning to the company, the boss said in shame when he saw Barian: "I'm sorry, I drank a little too much last night. I apologize for my reckless behavior, please forgive me."

This surprised Barian.Not only did the boss not blame her.He also sincerely apologized to her. Instead of dwelling on his boss' mistakes, Barian embraced Taoism and smiled in return.

Since then, this matter has come to an end, and it has become a secret that everyone knows, the boss knows, and Barian knows, but no third person knows.

Soon after, Barian was promoted due to her outstanding performance, and Barian also had a new nickname "Cold Beauty", which of course was only limited to her boss and her.

Subordinates and superiors are connected by the link of work. Therefore, all work matters should be done by subordinates, but the superior cannot use the position to ask subordinates to do things that have nothing to do with work.

"Bad" women understand this deeply, so they can make and serve coffee for their bosses at any time, but she is determined not to serve coffee.Once you bring coffee to your boss's mouth, an invisible bottom line is violated.In the end, the only one who gets hurt is the woman herself.

"Bad" women know how to keep a distance when getting along with their bosses, and reject their boss's unreasonable ideas.

A "bad" woman respects her boss, supports her boss's correct opinions, and tries her best to complete the boss's reasonable work arrangements, but she never shows her thoughtfulness easily, and she will never show too much concern and enthusiasm for her boss's personal life .Because she knows that if you are too considerate of your boss's personal life and health, it will easily lead to misunderstanding, attract gossip, and make your boss mistakenly think that you have other ideas. Level of emotion, the result put both parties in an awkward situation.

"Bad" women are lively, cheerful, enthusiastic and active, but they never make jokes or do some inappropriate actions in front of their bosses. "Bad" women know that, although there is nothing wrong with young people, if they are too lively and behave too loosely, they will give people the impression that their behavior is not good enough, even bordering on frivolity.That is undoubtedly encouraging the other party to cross the gap unconsciously, and only oneself will be injured at that time, and it can also be said that it is asking for trouble.

A person who knows how to respect himself can truly respect his work, so don't think that if you can't meet the needs of your boss, you will face the danger of resignation.In fact, when "bad" women use appropriate methods to reject the boss's unreasonable ideas, the "cold beauty" temperament they show can win the respect and importance of the boss.

(End of this chapter)