Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 16 Love is love, don't hide your emotions in your heart (1)
Modern women compare themselves with traditional women.Know what you want.Because of this, in terms of emotions, their attitudes and performances lack the reserve of a good woman and more of the courage and perseverance of love, but they are rarely influenced by other people's words.Because they know that only they know whether they are happy or not, not what others say.

When you meet true love, you have to be bold and take the initiative
There is a kind of love called wishful thinking, that is, one party loves diligently, but the other party dismisses it, and his heart is as calm as water;Therefore, unrequited love is a hard job, only input but no output, and if it is not done well, it will leave sequelae or something.

When a man encounters love, he will usually directly attack the woman he likes, occasionally pretending to be a lover, playing a sad love song late at night, or pouring out his true feelings on the phone every day, or frequently resorting to touching tricks, regardless of the When the beloved woman encounters any difficulties, she rushes to the scene like a superman, and helps the other party solve the difficulties in the first time.Under such an offensive, a woman who doesn't eat the fireworks of the world can't help but become a man's emotional prisoner.

But women generally don't have such courage. No matter how painful and struggling they are in love, they dare not tell the world about it, because face is important, and if they actively chase men, they always feel ashamed and devalued.So I can only bury my love in my heart, hide in a corner where no one is watching his every move, and imagine that one day I will get his love.

In college, Wen Bin fell in love with a boy in the next class.She felt that he was the Prince Charming she had been looking for.Not only is he handsome, but he is also the main force of the school basketball team. There are many suitors around him, but he has never had a girlfriend.

Although he has admired the boy for a long time, Wen Bin has never appeared beside the boy, and always looks at him from a distance, maybe because of shyness, or maybe because he is afraid of seeing the boy's casual eyes.

Wenbin's friends always encourage her: "You take the initiative. He is not a big star, and he lives in the same school and teaches in the same classroom. There is nothing he can't get close to!" But Wenbin felt that if he took the initiative, it would be too embarrassing And it's too unladylike.So, she still sticks to her position.Wait for the boy to attack.

Soon, Wen Bin found that there were always a few regular girls around the boy, and they gave food again.Another basketball.Very busy.She was a little disturbed, but still didn't take action.After a while, Wen Bin found that the "prince" had found the princess, and the girl was so ordinary.Wen Bin regretted it unceasingly, but from then on he could only watch them silently from a distance.

It can be seen that if you always blindly wait for a man to pursue, you may miss your ideal person and ideal love, so don't worry too much about face in front of true love, and pursue it boldly.

Some "bad" women are never relentless in the face of love. For the true love they want, they will not wait, but take the initiative. Only in this way, love will be in their own hands.No matter what face it is, it has nothing to do with love. If you miss the opportunity and give up your true love, that is the most shameless and heavy loss.

As the lead singer of the band, Lin Feng is very popular with girls.After each performance, a girl always saw Lin Feng holding flowers from a distance, and left the performance venue amidst everyone's praise and some girls' screams.

Although the girl liked Lin Feng very much, she never approached him because of her shyness.

But recently, the girl has become a little uneasy. There are always a few regular girls around Lin Feng, and friends start to encourage: "Look. You don't act. Someone should act. If you don't hurry up, your 'Prince Charming' will be taken by someone else." Snatch it away, it's useless to cry at that time!"

That's right, in a girl's heart, a boy is like a "prince", but now, don't you just watch the "prince" find the princess, and you will always watch them silently from a distance?
Not knowing what kind of force it was, Nuxian decided not to wait any longer.After learning a musical instrument for a while, she came to the band to apply.The girl has always been quiet and quiet, and has never shown any interest in affairs other than books, but she is a talented woman with a good foundation in music.The girl's performance naturally made the band members who had dismissed her open their mouths in surprise, and passed the test smoothly!The girl was so happy that she was about to jump up, but when she saw the boy beside her, the girl kept her original calm.When the boy stretched out his hand to express his congratulations and welcome, the girl's heart was bumping like a "little deer", and she was a little too excited.

Of course, this is only the first step to take the initiative. After that, girls often get along with boys on the grounds of asking for advice and rehearsing.There are many times alone together.Although this makes the boy's "fans" very annoyed.But there is no way, this is "business".

When it comes to being alone, the girl naturally cannot give up such a good opportunity, and resorts to a series of tricks such as "love bento box" and "thoughtful little gift". It didn't take long for the boy to be moved by the girl's true feelings.The two became a happy and sweet little couple.

In the traditional view of love, women should wait for love to come, waiting for their prince charming to find themselves among all living beings.Therefore, they never take the initiative to pursue love, even if they meet true love, "You want me to do something like strike up a conversation? I won't do it." love.

So, in front of true love.Don't think about the "face" issue, but should pursue it boldly.

Love is always sending out signals in our lives—some consciously, some unknowingly.Some people can feel these signals, while others can't.If you feel it, don't be shy about expressing it, speak your love out loud to the one you love.

Once a "bad" woman falls in love with a man, she will directly express her true thoughts to that man. It is fortunate that the other party accepts her, and it doesn't matter if she is rejected by the other party, just treat her love in vain.Because she knows that falling in love is a job that two people are willing to do, and no matter how one person thinks about it, it is useless.

No matter how much you love, don't pamper him to heaven

There is a little story: A kind man took pity on the beggars on the street, and put a dollar into the beggar's bowl every day, every day.But one day, the beggar found that the person had exchanged 1 yuan coins for 5 cents. The beggar asked why, but the other party spread his hands: because I am married.The beggar asked angrily: How can you use my money to support your wife?

It can be seen that you always try your best to be nice to someone, and as time goes by, you get used to your giving to convenience, and gradually take your giving for granted.Once one day, you reduce the weight of giving, your position in the heart of the other party will immediately plummet.This is also the trouble of many good girls: I have paid 100 points to him, why can't I be against a person who occasionally only gives 10 points?
A woman will take care of a man in every possible way because she loves him, and at the same time hopes to receive equal treatment.But men don't like that.Accustomed to this kind of "goodness" from women, gradually, they forget that kindness is out of love, and take a woman's "goodness" to him for granted.Even if the best is the best, it is a common thing, and there is nothing worth noting and grateful for.

Haiyan is the only child in the family, the "Pearl in the Palm" of her parents.In the first two decades of her life, she hardly knew what housework "looked like".Since meeting her husband, her role has completely changed.

At first, I thought it was fresh, so I cooked a few meals for my husband; in order to show my "virtuous and virtuous", I helped my husband wash some clothes, but I didn't expect that these became her "routine meal".

At the beginning, Haiyan was proud of her husband's "male chauvinism". She felt that a man should look like a man. If he spends all day in pots and pans, how can he be masculine?Therefore, she never let her husband do housework, and spoiled him like a child.After a long time, my husband took Haiyan to do housework for granted and never helped her.

After doing housework for a long time, Haiyan's position began to waver.When she wanted to take a break after eating, she still reluctantly walked into the kitchen to clean up the mess, while her husband was eating melon seeds while pointing fingers at the TV plot. Haiyan could only sigh, helpless, and feel pitiful at the same time.

If it's just washing and cooking, Haiyan can swallow her anger and go on doing it.But the intensified behavior of her spoiled husband made her intolerable.

Once, the electric fan in the house broke down.Haiyan asked her husband to take it for repairs, and her husband said: "I'm too tired after working all day, you can go." So Haiyan had to carry the electric fan to repair it by herself.

Walking on the road, the more Haiyan thought about it, the more angry she became: You are tired from work, do I go out early and return late to play?Also have to go to work during the day.No matter how late you come back at night, you will always look at TV with your legs crossed, and sometimes you will urge me to cook quickly.Thinking about it, Haiyan's heart ignited an unknown fire, and she quit.She threw the electric fan on the side of the road, swaggered home, entered the room without saying a word, locked the door, she wanted to have a good sleep and rest...

Now, it was her husband's turn to be angry and dumbfounded.Facing her husband's angry expression, Haiyan didn't say anything, and went back to her mother's house with a wave of her hands.

A few days later, the husband couldn't bear it anymore and came to beg for mercy.Haiyan agreed to go home, but the condition was: I can do the housework in the future when I am in a good mood, and you will do it when I am in a bad mood.The husband was so happy that he won the grand prize and agreed to all the conditions.

The relationship between a man and a woman is like breathing oxygen. If a woman treats a man well, the man will feel as comfortable as breathing unpolluted oxygen; if a woman is more considerate, he will treat the man better, and the man will feel as comfortable as breathing oxygen.At this time, if a woman's kindness to a man stops abruptly, or if there is a slight interruption, the man will feel a hundred discomforts.

Most men will not appreciate women's kindness to them, they take it for granted, but when a woman makes a slight mistake and makes a man temporarily lose this "goodness", they will think it is the woman's fault.

Since men are never satisfied, women should not give endlessly.In fairy tales, the prince always overcomes many obstacles and creates all kinds of romance in order to win the favor of the princess, but in real life it is always the opposite.It is often women, especially married women, who need to jump over barriers and create romance.Not only that, women also have to be ingenious and do a variety of "good" performances to win men's satisfaction, although this kind of satisfaction is always endless.

Do you still think that obedience and obedience can win a man's heart?

When people "challenge" something, it's because it's not something everyone can do.Or extremely difficult, the fun of conquest can only be enjoyed during the challenge.This may be the reason why mountaineering enthusiasts always regard Mount Everest as the most difficult challenge object.If there is a cable car on Mount Everest, as long as you want to visit the top, press the power button, you can sit in the cable car and watch the snow-capped mountains while advancing to the top of the mountain. There will not be so many people risking their lives to explore the limits of nature. !

In the emotional world, men also like "challenges". For men, this is the limit of human temperament. He wants to fully understand a person. This kind of mystery and stimulation will make his attention highly concentrated.So once he fully understands women, it's like reaching the pinnacle, very excited, but after being excited, he has no goal.

Therefore, as a "bad" woman, she will never be submissive to a man and take good care of her. The "bad" woman has to play the role of the conqueror.

Of course, a "bad" woman is not hard-hearted. She will keep it in mind when she sees the exhaustion of a man's work and the care he takes for her. It's just that she knows that once she is moved and rewarded, the man will get worse. want more!
Even so, it does not mean that "bad" women will continue to be "ruthless" to men.Occasionally, they will also be a little gentle and considerate, which will move the man to tears and snot.However, a "bad" woman will not let such things happen continuously, because she knows that one surprise is a gift, and countless surprises will become a habit, and men are not to be spoiled!
Who says feelings can't be haggled

When dealing with feelings, should we care about them?Many women think that love is everything, and it is natural to pay for love, and they should not calculate who pays more and who pays less.Is it really?No.You know, if you don't care about the relationship when it exists, it won't help if you think about it when the relationship breaks down.

It's like working for a functioning company, no matter how well that company operates.As an employee, you should get paid for what kind of work you do, and you should try your best to fight for your legitimate rights and interests.But if you wait until the company goes bankrupt and then calculate what kind of compensation and position you should get for what you have done, who should you appeal to?Even if you appeal, what will you get?

Zhang Ran has been in love with her boyfriend for three years, and the relationship between the two of them is very good.

On Zhang Ran's birthday, a large bouquet of roses sent by her boyfriend, in front of her friends and colleagues, made her feel more vanity than joy.

Compared with high-end and elegant restaurants, Zhang Ran prefers delicious snacks. As long as she gives an order, her boyfriend will accompany her to crowded alleys to eat enough, even though she is still wearing a high-end suit for meeting customers.

When her boyfriend came back from a business trip, the gift was Zhang Ran's favorite Korean watch suit, and she was overjoyed.

For her boyfriend, Zhang Ran also gave all his love.

For her boyfriend, Zhang Ran gave up her inherent life and came to a completely unfamiliar city with him to work hard. Her boyfriend was running around for work. Although she had to endure frequent separations, because it was his favorite career, she also silently supported it. .

In the past few years, Zhang Ran has missed all the gatherings with her high school classmates, just because there is her first love boyfriend among them, and she is afraid that her current boyfriend will be "jealous".

When the boyfriend's female friend is broken in love, Zhang Ran will let him go generously: "That is your friend for many years. You should go to comfort her at this time.

Seeing that Zhang Ran is so tolerant and generous with all of herself tied to her boyfriend, her friend advised her: Don't put all your time and energy on men, otherwise you will suffer.Zhang Ran disagrees: "In the world of love, there should be no calculations or calculations. No matter who pays more, it is a matter of course."

Regarding all these sacrifices, Zhang Ran thought that he had not suffered a loss, and there was no need to care about anything.Because everything she does is based on the power of love.Did Zhang Ran suffer?
A few years later, a couple of brides and grooms were saluting in the church. A boy took the bride's hand and put on a shining diamond ring.The boy is Zhang Ran's boyfriend, but the bride is not Zhang Ran, but another girl.

Holding the wedding invitation from his ex-boyfriend, Zhang Ran looked at him who had promised to be friends for the rest of his life.Laughing unnaturally...

When her boyfriend went to comfort her female friend, Zhang Ran didn't care about it; her boyfriend worked day and night and couldn't accompany her, Zhang Ran didn't care about it; everything he sacrificed for his boyfriend.Zhang Ran took it for granted and didn't care about it.

However, Zhang Ran didn't know that their feelings faded and disappeared when she ignored them again and again.

Most of the good girls are like Zhang Ran, they are understanding, tolerant and generous, and they don't care about how much they give and how much they get in the emotional world.Until one day, the feelings disappeared in indifference.The person you love has moved on, and you don't know what the problem is.

A bit "bad" woman is not so generous, she will keep haggling over every ounce for her own interests.In the unmeasurable emotional world, she has her own way of measuring: she not only wants a salary increase, but also a promotion, and it is best that the power of the entire company is firmly in the hands of her alone.

A bit "bad" woman is extremely possessive, both for people and things.Especially feelings, sharing with others is absolutely impossible!Whether it's a good friend of the opposite sex, or a childhood playmate of a childhood sweetheart.Stand aside.Lending her boyfriend out to comfort other women is absolutely impossible in her life.

A bit "bad" woman never does a losing business.If I want to pay, I have to give me back. If I spare a few hours to watch movies with my boyfriend, I have to promise that he will love me more. Otherwise, I would rather lie at home and watch soap operas for these few hours.

In short, a "bad" woman must care about her feelings!
For such a "bad" woman, even if a man knows that she will calculate, he may suffer a disadvantage.But she won't "stay away from it", the more she cares about it, the more he wants to get closer, the more he wants to fight for three hundred rounds to decide the winner.

speak your love out loud
Someone said: "Meeting the right person at the right time is a lifetime of happiness; meeting the wrong person at the right time is a heartbreak; meeting the right person at the wrong time is a sigh; It is absurd to meet the wrong person at the wrong time." God's will tricks people, fate arises and fate dies, why the most genuine people can't always meet the truest heart?Thinking of it makes me want to cry.Maybe love is such a "cunning" thing. Sometimes it hides in the dark, and sometimes it passes you by with a smile. When you haven't found love, you look around but can't see it. When you meet love, you always look forward and backward. Answering shyly, believing in the dogma of "reservedness", or waiting for him to speak first, the result is in a trance, it is already a sea of ​​​​changing fields, and when I look back, my heart is still far away, leaving a cavity in my heart!
(End of this chapter)