Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 19 Pursue Freshness.Women can play well but never out of line (1)
Modern young girls are more or less rebellious and restless, always full of curiosity about some new things that appear nowadays, and dare to try.At the same time, they are willing to gain another kind of experience in life and get another kind of life experience.However, we must not think that their rebellion and pursuit of excitement and novelty is a blind impulse.Don't think that they do this as a kind of indulgence, because they know what they can do and what they can't do, they just make their life more exciting in this way in their limited life.

be a fresh badass
There is an article explaining love scientifically, saying: When a person feels love, the human brain will secrete a chemical hormone that stimulates the brain to make people excited.Although it can make the body experience a wonderful feeling, it can't last long.After the human body adapts to this kind of stimulation, it will not feel excited, and it will not experience love.

And in the concept of love between men and women, it can be seen that men like to pursue the chemical changes brought about by this kind of stimulation, but women can replace it with reason after the stimulation disappears, and stick to the position of love, although this is also the practice of many men.But it is undeniable that in the face of passion and stimulation, no one likes inherent old things.

How to make men often feel stimulated and maintain passion?

If what a man pursues is "freshness", then a woman should learn to "keep freshness" and make herself rich in changes, which can often stimulate men's nerves. This is not just to apply expensive cosmetics on the face, but to pay more attention to the heart The cultivation of knowledge, tolerance and talent.Being talented makes a woman more attractive.

Xiao Yu was chatting with her husband's friends.Although she also participated in the topic from time to time, Xiao Yu could see her husband's exhaustion.Since my husband is in charge of a big project, he doesn't even have much time to go home.Soaking in the company all day, even when I got home, I fell on the bed.

But when friends came from other places, her husband took time out of his busy schedule, and Xiao Yu filled her husband with tea while busy chatting.

"The layout of your house is very unique. Especially those potted plants. Where did you buy them?" My friend asked politely while looking at the layout of the house.

Xiao Yu smiled, "I didn't buy it. I'm learning the art of bonsai recently. I made it casually by myself, and it's nothing special."

My husband also followed the topic of his friends, turned around and looked at the newly added potted plants at home, and was immediately surprised, "This is not a random thing, I am engaged in garden design, this is by no means an amateur level!" Husband Thinking in his heart, he looked at Xiao Yu with surprised eyes.

Although my husband also knew that Xiao Yu was smart and capable, he didn't know that she still had such abilities. Back then, he had studied for a whole semester to reach such a level, and he was busy with work for only a few weeks.Xiao Yu can learn to this extent.

After the friend left, the husband couldn't take care of his busy work.He began to question Xiao Yu.

"When did you start learning it? You made it look good!"

"Just last week. Seeing that you are so busy and I have nothing to do when I go home, I enrolled in an interest class to learn!" Xiao Yu said while tidying up.

"You really can't be judged by appearances. You can learn this level in a week. You are simply a genius!" Her husband pulled Xiao Yu who was working over, intending to "examine" her carefully.

"What a genius! There are so many professional books at home, I just read them casually when I have nothing to do, and after a long time, I can understand a little bit, and with the training classes, it will be easy to understand!" Xiao Yu said a little proudly. .

"This little head is quite smart!" My husband said with a smile.I dare not underestimate the woman in front of me.

So the two talked and laughed, and this time, they had another topic of potted plants.

Xiao Yu can always bring surprises to her husband, whether it is the rapid improvement in cooking skills, or the constant promotion and salary increase, and various talents that are highlighted from time to time... Such surprises always make her husband "overwhelmed" ", there was no way to divert attention from Xiao Yu.

A woman should know how to keep fresh in time.However, women's keeping fresh is not as simple as putting food in the refrigerator. "Bad" women have their own "fresh" tips.

1.Has its own characteristics and taste
Although men are changeable, women with their own characteristics and tastes will still attract their attention.This kind of attention is not the kind of looking at girls who pursue trendy dresses and pretty faces for the purpose of pleasing the eyes, but a kind of appreciation.It's like appreciating the chicness of landscape paintings and tasting the mellowness of wine.

2.moderate exercise
You can go to the gym, participate in water fitness training classes, take a comfortable bath, or try yoga, taekwondo, etc. You can also use unarmed exercises such as walking backwards, crawling, walking barefoot, and walking in the rain.For example, walking barefoot can first release the body's static electricity and help you massage the soles of your feet.You should know that the soles of the feet are called the second heart of the human body, often stimulating the soles of the feet can make the circulation of the feet smooth and make the body slimmer and healthier.

3.travel

No matter how busy you are at work or at home, women should take some independent time to go around.The customs and customs in different places are novel, which may greatly stimulate your interest in life that has been lost in life and work.Facing the sea of ​​flowers in the jungle, the sea and the lake, the woman's extremely sensitive interest will be ignited, so she is full of hope for the future.

4.enough mystery

Elegant and slightly mysterious women have a strong ability to "keep fresh".Because she is good at hiding herself, so that men can always find surprising things in her.For a man who likes to reveal, this attraction is fatal!

5.read

Reading is a lonely but fulfilling hobby. Holding a book exuding the fragrance of ink in your hand, your thoughts will be sublimated with the content of the words.Reading allows women to understand the outside world.Renew one's own thinking; reading allows women to accumulate knowledge, and can naturally exude wisdom and beauty even when they are silent.

6.keep some rebellious

Even a reasonable woman needs to think differently once in a while.Don't be a good girl without thinking, a woman with rich knowledge and keen observation should always have fresh perspectives.Even in the face of the immediate boss, he can politely express different opinions, not succumb to authority, and bravely challenge. This kind of rebellion will make people's eyes shine.

Do everything possible to protect your love, it is better to keep yourself fresh.

There are such women, they don't seek vanity for a season, so they can have long-term happiness in an ordinary way.Of course, there is also a kind of woman, they are like the best blue and white porcelain, they come from ordinary clay, and are made into pottery like thousands of clays, but after cruel changes in the kiln, she stands out from the sisters and is extraordinarily beautiful Exceptionally clear.If this kind of woman's love is cherished well, it will shine brightly for a long time; if it is missed, the result must be "rather the jade is broken".A stupid woman is a woman who tries to use various fresh-keeping techniques to protect her love and marriage. Instead of doing this, she might as well keep herself fresh.

Timely play a little ambiguity of dragonfly and water
Women are more likely to be emotional than men. When they see those colleagues with outstanding abilities or their bosses who are handsome, they will inevitably feel admiration, and ambiguity will also arise.

In the workplace, a little ambiguity is good, and this hazy feeling may bring more convenience.If a female colleague has a good relationship with a male colleague, when a woman is in trouble at work or needs a boost in her career.The male colleague who has an ambiguous relationship with her will do everything he can to help the woman achieve her goal.

Qingqing and Xiaolei studied at the same prestigious university, and happened to work in the same company after graduation, but their career paths were different.

Qingqing and Xiaolei work in a research-oriented company. Most of the employees are men, and most of them have doctoral degrees.In terms of professional ability, they really can't compete with these fierce players.

Qingqing and Xiaolei have different personalities. Although she knows that she is a small person, Qingqing has an optimistic personality. She is always dissatisfied with the boring research work environment in the company.So, between work, she always pours water for her colleagues, and chats by the way to ease the atmosphere.

Every time the company organizes professional exchange activities, Xiaolei always thinks that she is inconspicuous compared with those research masters, and she always feels superior when being with them, so she often finds excuses to refuse to participate in such "boring" meetings; But Qingqing is different. Since it is an exchange meeting organized by the company, it is good to relax and get acquainted with colleagues and establish personal relationships.Therefore, she didn't listen much to the content of each meeting, but she had a lot of fun.

Gradually, Qingqing became more and more familiar with her colleagues, especially she had a good relationship with the department manager, which seemed a bit ambiguous.In normal work, Qingqing always approached him consciously or unconsciously, asking him about work-related matters, and often asked him some questions about his personal life with concern.In a male-dominated company, men get the attention of women.Nature is something to be proud of.Therefore, the manager treats Qingqing differently. Qingqing makes minor mistakes at work and never pursues them. Qingqing occasionally pretends not to know when she is late, and even gives her a perfect attendance award.

Soon, the internal personnel of the department were adjusted, and Qingqing was promoted to the junior supervisor of the management. Obviously, this was inseparable from her long-term "hard work".

When Xiaolei, who joined the company at the same time as Qingqing, was still doing trivial work as a clerk, Qingqing had already started her management career in an orderly manner.And her trick is to give full play to the advantages of women and cleverly use "ambiguity".

In a social and working environment where there are many men, women can often reduce men's wariness and make it easy for them to accept you, get used to you, and like you.This will make the career path of women more smooth and feasible.

A bit "bad" woman knows how to use an ambiguous relationship to get a man to help her, which is a very smart way.What men are most afraid of is not getting it, but ambiguity is such a relationship that combines beauty and not getting it.

The scale of ambiguity is difficult to grasp, once it is not well controlled, it will evolve into a real relationship between men and women.The feeling of ambiguity is always romantic, but the relationship between a man and a woman is realistic. If the two can achieve a positive result, it is naturally a good thing, and it will not have much impact on work and career; When it comes to work, this is undoubtedly an embarrassment in the office.

Lain and her boyfriend are colleagues. Originally, they were just working partners in the same department. Because of frequent contacts, they had a good impression of each other. After a long period of ambiguity, her boyfriend finally summoned up the courage to confess to Lain, and Lain waited. This moment has also been waiting for a long time, so the two naturally became the sweet momentary couple in the office.

The process of falling in love is not only sweet, it is a common thing in the lives of two people to quarrel because of trivial matters, if they are ordinary couples, such small quarrels can be regarded as life adjustments, which can enhance the relationship between the two, but they The special relationship between colleagues—colleague relationship, made such quarrels troublesome.

Their quarrels also embarrass the other co-workers every time they quarrel.The originally happy team atmosphere will become extremely tense.At the beginning, colleagues were able to understand.After all, everyone has experienced such a love process, but more and more embarrassment makes colleagues become impatient, after all, this affects everyone's work efficiency.Their relationship made their boss quite dissatisfied. Originally, the performance and ability of the two had already given them a chance to be promoted, but the boss didn't give them the chance because their relationship often affected their work.

Now, Lain Yin even regretted it, she knew it earlier.It's better for the two of them to maintain an ambiguous relationship. Not only will it not affect their career development, but they can always treat their boyfriend as a guest. Thinking of this, Lingyin remembered her boyfriend's help in her career and care for her...

It can be seen that an office romance will bring a lot of troubles, and even affect each other's career development, and maintaining an ambiguous relationship is the best.If the two people are not colleagues and there is no good feeling, the man may choose to give up simply, but if this relationship happens in the company, in the work environment of the man, it will be like a jack on the head, It will be hard to put it on, but it is not so easy to take it off.

Smart "bad" women will grasp the scale of ambiguity and skillfully use ambiguous relationships.

ladies are crazy too

During the day, everyone is busy with their own activities. At night, fitness exercises become the key repertoire of nightlife for urban men and women.Put on a set of fitness clothes and walk into the well-equipped gym. With the stretching and elegant music rhythm or practicing equipment or doing aerobics, your face is full of sporty brilliance and a healthy atmosphere.Going to the gym can not only achieve the purpose of body shaping and fitness in this relaxed atmosphere, but also connect with friends.When walking into the gym at night, the enthusiasm here, the health here, makes everyone tempted.

Here are the sports that "bad" women consider stylish.

1.Aerobics is a rhythmic exercise
It is characterized by long activity time and moderate intensity, which can effectively control weight and improve the physical fitness of practitioners.It not only strengthens the cardiorespiratory function through continuous exercise for a long time (more than 15 minutes), but also exercises large muscle groups.Low-intensity aerobics is simple, the music speed is slow, and one foot always touches the ground during the exercise; high-intensity aerobics is more difficult, the music is faster, and there are more vacant and jumping movements (both feet can be moved at the same time). ground), so high-intensity aerobic exercise consumes more energy.

2. Body sculpture

Also known as "Shebin", it is a body beautification engineering system that pursues the standard body shape and the best temperament of the human body. It is a new set of scientific methods for body sculpture and image beautification.It not only embodies the elegance of classical ballet, but also incorporates the boldness of modern dance.

3.fitness equipment

It is to use dumbbells, barbells and combined equipment to achieve the purpose of improving physical fitness, improving body shape, and enhancing muscle strength through standardized movements and correct training methods.For women, it can make the body more perfect.The skin is elastic.

4.taekwondo
As an emerging fitness program, Taekwondo makes people's body and mind relax in a fierce confrontation.Taekwondo is a sport that works the hands, feet and every part of the body through intense mental and inner body training.Taekwondo not only focuses on power and technique, but also emphasizes strict discipline, superb technique and strong spiritual education. It is a unique fighting technique that cultivates a sense of justice, fortitude and courage.

5.ballet

The art of dance, which was originally so elegant and out of reach, is "flying into the homes of ordinary people" and integrating into the lives of modern urbanites.The bodybuilding strength of ballet is unmatched by general fitness exercises, and ballet body training makes people have a beautiful body and elegant temperament while exercising.

6.yoga

Yoga originated in India and is one of the oldest physical exercises in the East.It was produced in BC and is the crystallization of human wisdom.Yoga is also the wisdom of the Indian sages to realize life from intuition in the deepest state of tranquility.Yoga is a mental and physical exercise that can be used to improve people's physical, mental and spiritual health.In the West, I don’t know how many people take yoga physical exercise and yoga meditation practice methods as a necessary part of daily life and pursue them unswervingly.

7.Cycling

After getting up in the morning, everyone rides a bicycle to exercise together.In the fresh air, while happily stepping on the pedals, chatting all over the world, and simply laughing when talking about the points of interest, maybe it can also improve lung capacity!If you are with the boy you like and he is sweating from riding, just bravely wipe his sweat for him!If you are really embarrassed, just express it a little bit, and it will be fine if you have that atmosphere.This is an excellent opportunity!
8.Crazy in the playground

If you lack confidence in sports and have slow motor nerves, go to the playground.In the playground, you can play wildly without any worries.Bring your friends, ride the bumper car, play the pirate ship, and experience the novelty, excitement and joy of the game together.

You can go both ways, but you can't flirt everywhere

The party is a good occasion for interpersonal communication. For a professional woman, it is a wise choice to grasp the occasion of the business party, introduce herself in a timely manner, and find and open up ways for herself. For the sake of admiration, bring the emotional color of men and women into it. At the party, showing off sexiness and showing affection to men at will is the most failed way to sell yourself, and it is also the most stupid performance of women.

Nin is the assistant to the general manager of a large company. His performance at work is unquestionable, but only at parties.But she always goes out of line frequently, which makes her boss a headache.

Another business party.

(End of this chapter)